Patterns of Power with Craig Perra (habits, mindfulness, high-performance, self-leadership)

Craig Perra, JD, Executive Coach & Trainer (addictions & bad habits)
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Patterns of Power is the essential playbook for MEN: high performers, executives, and leaders ready to dismantle the reactive habits that limit their potential and step fully into their POWER. Hosted by Craig Perra, world-renowned coach and creator of The Mindful Habit® System, this show utilizes a framework that evolved from treating the most severe addictions into a comprehensive leadership model. We recognize that for a leader, a distraction is not just a bad habit—it represents a massive cost to your focus, your influence, and your legacy. We move beyond the limited "addiction model" to a Leadership Model. We view every distraction—whether it is imposter syndrome, anger, gambling, shopping, procrastination, shutting down, doomscrolling, porn, alcohol, or overwork—as a failure of self-leadership, and an immediate opportunity to reclaim your power. From Chaos to Command: Craig’s methodology is forged in fire. Once a top corporate executive fired by billion-dollar companies while battling addictions to heroin, stimulants, sex, and work, Craig hit rock bottom. Diagnosed with PTSD and bipolar II, he realized traditional therapy and 12-step programs weren't enough. He rebuilt his life by engineering a new framework: The Mindful Habit® System. His expertise and transformation have been featured on The Steve Harvey Show, The Katie Couric Show, A&E's Digital Addiction, Good Morning Sacramento, and the BBC. Who This Is For This system has helped thousands of leaders in over 30 countries—including CEOs of global corporations, Olympians, professional athletes, and 7, 8, and 9-figure entrepreneurs —move from reactivity to radical self-ownership. Craig holds space for leaders at the highest levels, teaching them that any place where you are reactive is a place where you must lead. "The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." Blending neuroscience, mindfulness, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and habit formation, this podcast delivers a science-based alternative to the "recovery" mindset, focusing instead on strategic self-governance. In each episode, you will learn to: Stop Coping, Start Leading: Transform reactive behaviors (getting defensive, checking out, acting out) into conscious, executive decisions. Command Your Physiology: Master the biology of stress and anxiety to maintain composure under pressure. Weaponize Your Story: Turn your deepest shame and worst patterns into your greatest assets for leadership. Establish Sovereignty: Build habits that align with your purpose, relationships, and performance, rather than your impulses.What started as a way to treat sex and porn addiction has evolved into a self-leadership model that helps men quickly step into and stay in their power. If you are a leader ready to stop hiding, start leading, and turn your chaos into clarity—Welcome to Patterns of Power. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com to learn about hiring Craig to help change your life quickly and sustainably.

  1. Your Phone Is Destroying Your Brain...

    FEB 27

    Your Phone Is Destroying Your Brain...

    You think distraction is a productivity problem. It’s not. It’s a health crisis. In this episode, Craig Perra breaks down 6 shocking, research-backed facts about distraction that will completely change the way you think about your phone, your focus, and your one life. From the 25-minute recovery tax your brain pays every time you get interrupted, to the neuroscience showing that — for the first time in 100 years — the current generation is less intelligent than their parents, this episode pulls no punches. But here’s where it gets really personal. Not all distractions are created equal. There’s a multiplier effect when the distraction is secret — and if you’re living with one, your nervous system is paying a price that no productivity hack can fix. This isn’t about willpower. This isn’t about being lazy. This is a war for your mind, your body, and your years — and the data shows the distractions are winning. If any of this lands, reach out. The link is in the show notes. For coaching, programs, and deeper support, visit: 👉 www.mindfulhabitmastery.com

    9 min
  2. Why I'm Obsessed With Self-Leadership and Why You Should Be Too

    FEB 25

    Why I'm Obsessed With Self-Leadership and Why You Should Be Too

    What if the key to breaking destructive habits, leading at your highest level, and creating a great life wasn’t more discipline… but learning to lead yourself? In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra explains why self-leadership is the missing foundation behind real transformation. Drawing from thousands of years of faith traditions, modern psychology, leadership science, and neuroscience, Craig reveals the one principle they all point toward: there is a center inside you that can lead your life. Most people are not living from that center. They’re being run by a committee of reactive parts—shame, fear, anger, addiction, criticism—each fighting for control. But when you learn to access your Self, everything changes. In this episode, Craig breaks down: Why self-leadership is the true through-line behind recovery, high performance, and personal transformationHow faith traditions across the world describe the same inner center (Christ within, Atman, Buddha nature, the divine spark)What modern psychology and neuroscience say about the observing self and executive controlWhy your critic, shame, and even addictive impulses may actually be trying to help youHow accessing your Self energy shifts you from reactive survival to powerful leadershipThis episode lays the foundation for the entire Patterns of Power philosophy. Because the truth is simple: You don’t eliminate the chaos of life. You learn to lead yourself in the middle of it. If you’ve ever felt like different parts of you are fighting for control… this episode will change the way you understand your mind—and your power. Next Episode: Craig begins breaking down the parts that orbit the Self—like the addict part, the critic, resentment, and procrastination—and how to lead them instead of fighting them. If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to remember: There is a center inside you that can lead your life. Learn more at: www.mindfulhabitmastery.com

    22 min
  3. The Emotional Reason Money Controls Your Life

    FEB 7

    The Emotional Reason Money Controls Your Life

    Money isn’t just numbers. It’s memory. Emotion. Identity. Survival. In this episode, Craig sits down with Hannah Chapman to explore why money feels so charged — and how our earliest experiences quietly shape the way we earn, spend, save, and stress. Hannah breaks down how emotional safety, childhood conditioning, and nervous system patterns influence our financial decisions, often without us realizing it.  This conversation dives into: Why money triggers anxiety, avoidance, or controlHow early experiences create lifelong financial habitsWhy earning more doesn’t heal emotional scarcityWhat real financial freedom actually looks likeThis isn’t about budgets or hustle culture. It’s about healing your relationship with money at the root. If you’ve ever felt stressed about finances, avoided looking at your numbers, or repeated the same patterns despite your best efforts — this episode will help you understand why. About Our Guest: Hannah Chapman is a Certified Financial Planner (CFP®) with over 20 years of experience helping entrepreneurs navigate the emotional and practical complexities of money. As the founder of X-Squared Wealth Planning and Expansive CEO, she supports visionary business owners in creating financial clarity, long-term security, and a healthier relationship with wealth. Hannah uniquely integrates traditional financial planning and investment strategy with Human Design, Gene Keys, and money psychology — bringing both the intellect and the heart into the wealth-building process so prosperity becomes something you live, not something you chase. Connect with Hannah and explore her work: https://hannahrchapman.com

    48 min
  4. Why I Changed The Name from Sex Afflictions to Patters of Power

    JAN 25

    Why I Changed The Name from Sex Afflictions to Patters of Power

    There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones collapsing internally. They’re hiding, performing, people pleasing, and losing themselves one tiny lie at a time. In this episode, I’m explaining a major shift: my podcast is no longer called Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions. It’s now called Patterns of Power. And I didn’t change the name because it sounded better. I changed it because over 14 years of doing this work, I realized something I couldn’t ignore anymore: If the framework keeps men stuck in shame, fear, and identity collapse… it might get their attention, but it won’t build the life they want. In this episode, I break down: Why “addiction language” helps some men early on… but can hold others back long-termHow the real issue is often patterns, not pornWhy sex isn’t the root problem… it’s the relief valveThe shift from running away from a problem → to building a system that makes you unstoppableHow power, integrity, self-leadership, and capacity are the real transformationBecause shame keeps people quiet. Power builds movements. If you’re a leader, founder, executive, or high performer who knows something is “off” internally… this podcast is for you. Ready to interrupt the patterns and step into your power? Visit: mindfulhabitmastery.com If you’re struggling with sex and porn addiction and need direct support: Visit: mindfulhabithelp.com

    23 min
  5. Why Successful Men Feel Empty (With Aaron Velky)

    JAN 12

    Why Successful Men Feel Empty (With Aaron Velky)

    There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones quietly collapsing inside. They’re driven, disciplined, respected — and deeply disconnected. Hiding behind busyness. Chasing validation. Terrified of stillness. Losing themselves one “successful” decision at a time. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now! In this episode of Patterns Of Power, Craig Perra sits down with Aaron Velke, founder of Get Out of Your Own Way and creator of the Living Vision Program, to expose the hidden patterns that keep high-performing men stuck — even when everything looks good on the outside. Aaron works with seven-, eight-, and nine-figure leaders who have already “made it,” yet feel restless, unfulfilled, and quietly trapped by compulsive achievement. Together, Craig and Aaron unpack why success doesn’t heal insecurity — it often amplifies it — and why the real work begins when the noise finally stops. In this conversation, they explore: • The masks high-achieving men wear to avoid feeling “not enough” • Why validation, busyness, and adrenaline become addictive • How adventure and challenge can unlock breakthroughs when discipline fails • Why community heals what isolation quietly destroys • The role of stillness in finding real vision, clarity, and direction Aaron brings a powerful blend of depth, honesty, and lived experience — challenging the belief that more success is the answer, and offering a different path forward: one rooted in presence, purpose, and embodied leadership. Connect with Aaron Velke Follow Aaron on all platforms: @AaronVelke Listen to The Living Vision Show on all major podcast platforms. Aaron also leads powerful, immersive experiences for high-performing leaders: • Living Vision Retreat — January 2026 • 90-Day Living Vision Accelerator — January / February 2026 To learn more about Aaron’s work, upcoming retreats, and programs, visit: https://www.living.vision If you’ve built a life that looks impressive but feels empty… this episode will hit close to home.

    42 min
  6. The Identity Shift That Ends Porn, Distraction, and Self-Sabotage with Niko Arapkiles of Vision Expresso

    12/22/2025

    The Identity Shift That Ends Porn, Distraction, and Self-Sabotage with Niko Arapkiles of Vision Expresso

    Most men aren’t stuck because they lack discipline. They’re stuck because they’re fighting the wrong battle. In this episode of Patterns Of Power, I sit down with Niko Arapkiles, founder of Vision Expresso, to expose the real reason change doesn’t last for most men: they try to fix behaviors without changing identity. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now! We break down why willpower eventually fails, how distraction quietly destroys focus and purpose, and why you’ll always lose in a fight against yourself if your identity hasn’t changed. This conversation goes beyond addiction. It’s about becoming the man you were meant to be. In this episode, we talk about: Why identity change matters more than habits, rules, or disciplineHow distraction, porn, and constant stimulation rewire the brain against youWhy most men stay stuck even after therapy, retreats, or big breakthroughsHow to operationalize identity so change actually sticksWhat it looks like to live from your future self instead of chasing motivationIf you’re tired of starting over, white-knuckling sobriety, or feeling like you “should be further by now,” this episode will change how you see recovery, growth, and yourself. Learn more about Niko and Vision Expresso: https://visionespresso.co Find him on social media here: @nikoarapkiles

    25 min
  7. Why “Nice Guy” Syndrome Is Destroying Men’s Lives (Interview with Dr. Robert Glover)

    12/15/2025

    Why “Nice Guy” Syndrome Is Destroying Men’s Lives (Interview with Dr. Robert Glover)

    There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones collapsing internally. They’re hiding, performing, people pleasing, and losing themselves one tiny lie at a time. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now! In this episode of Patterns of Power, I sit down with Dr. Robert Glover — therapist, coach, and author of the bestselling book No More Mr. Nice Guy. His work has changed millions of lives, including my clients, and this conversation goes straight to the heart of why men struggle… and what actually creates lasting change. We dig deep into Nice Guy Syndrome — why it starts in childhood, how it destroys relationships, and why people pleasing is actually manipulation. We talk about lying (even “harmless” lies), boundaries, masculine integrity, and how men can finally step into honesty, power, and purpose. In this episode, we cover:  • Why Nice Guy Syndrome forms early in life  • How being “the good guy” kills intimacy  • Why people pleasing becomes manipulation • Why lying — even tiny lies — keeps you powerless • How Nice Guys and jerks are two sides of the same survival pattern • Why boundaries are an act of love • How honesty creates REAL connection • How men can stop seeking approval and start living with clarity • Why community is essential for recovery If you’re tired of pretending… tired of shrinking… tired of living small — this episode is your wake-up call.  Connect With Dr. Robert Glover Website & programs: https://drglover.com Integration Nation (Men’s Community): https://integrationnation.net

    45 min
  8. People Pleasing Is Lying: The Truth About Energetic Abuse, Boundaries & Your Voice w/ Melanie Singer

    12/03/2025

    People Pleasing Is Lying: The Truth About Energetic Abuse, Boundaries & Your Voice w/ Melanie Singer

    Most people look successful but feel dead inside. They’ve lost their spark, their purpose, and their voice — and they’re stuck people pleasing, hiding the truth, and calling it “love.” In this episode of Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions, I sit down with Melanie Spring — brand muse, international keynote speaker, and creator of Speak With Confidence — to talk about what authenticity really means, why lying is abuse (yes, even “little” lies), and how people pleasing is actually manipulation that keeps everyone stuck. If you’re a man struggling with sex or porn addiction — or a partner exhausted from carrying the weight of his secrets — this conversation is for you. We talk about: • What a brand muse actually does and why finding your voice is soul work • How we lose our creative spark and identity as adults • Why so many “successful” people are secretly miserable • The impact of addiction on partners: energetic abuse, gaslighting, lost intuition • Why lying is abuse even when he “doesn’t mean to hurt you” • Boundaries as love and why love must be boundaried • How Melanie set a hard boundary with her husband — and held it • Why women need conscious community, not gossip circles • How childhood betrayal loops repeat until we finally close them • Why people pleasing is lying and manipulation • What radical honesty and radical responsibility look like • Personal style as an expression of your authentic self If you’re tired of pretending and ready to stand fully in your truth, this episode will hit you in the best way. We don’t promote other programs very often — but this one aligns perfectly with what we teach at The Mindful Habit. Melanie Spring is incredible at helping people find and express their authentic voice, and I know some of you have been wanting to step into bigger stages, deeper truth, and more confident communication. If that’s you, you’ll get real value from this. Here are the details: Melanie’s SPEAK With Confidence program is on Black Friday sale right now — up to $1500 off through Tuesday at 8pm ET. Use code PERRA for an extra 10% off + it gives me 10% of what you pay. Program info: melaniespring.com/swc Swipe copy for emails, texts, or social posts if you want to share it too: melaniespring.com/swc/affiliates Code: PERRA If you’ve been feeling called to speak more powerfully in 2025, this might be the perfect next step. Connect with Melanie Spring 🔸 Website & retreats: https://www.melaniespring.com 🔸 Learn more about her Speak With Confidence program and upcoming women’s retreats on her site.

    45 min
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Patterns of Power is the essential playbook for MEN: high performers, executives, and leaders ready to dismantle the reactive habits that limit their potential and step fully into their POWER. Hosted by Craig Perra, world-renowned coach and creator of The Mindful Habit® System, this show utilizes a framework that evolved from treating the most severe addictions into a comprehensive leadership model. We recognize that for a leader, a distraction is not just a bad habit—it represents a massive cost to your focus, your influence, and your legacy. We move beyond the limited "addiction model" to a Leadership Model. We view every distraction—whether it is imposter syndrome, anger, gambling, shopping, procrastination, shutting down, doomscrolling, porn, alcohol, or overwork—as a failure of self-leadership, and an immediate opportunity to reclaim your power. From Chaos to Command: Craig’s methodology is forged in fire. Once a top corporate executive fired by billion-dollar companies while battling addictions to heroin, stimulants, sex, and work, Craig hit rock bottom. Diagnosed with PTSD and bipolar II, he realized traditional therapy and 12-step programs weren't enough. He rebuilt his life by engineering a new framework: The Mindful Habit® System. His expertise and transformation have been featured on The Steve Harvey Show, The Katie Couric Show, A&E's Digital Addiction, Good Morning Sacramento, and the BBC. Who This Is For This system has helped thousands of leaders in over 30 countries—including CEOs of global corporations, Olympians, professional athletes, and 7, 8, and 9-figure entrepreneurs —move from reactivity to radical self-ownership. Craig holds space for leaders at the highest levels, teaching them that any place where you are reactive is a place where you must lead. "The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." Blending neuroscience, mindfulness, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and habit formation, this podcast delivers a science-based alternative to the "recovery" mindset, focusing instead on strategic self-governance. In each episode, you will learn to: Stop Coping, Start Leading: Transform reactive behaviors (getting defensive, checking out, acting out) into conscious, executive decisions. Command Your Physiology: Master the biology of stress and anxiety to maintain composure under pressure. Weaponize Your Story: Turn your deepest shame and worst patterns into your greatest assets for leadership. Establish Sovereignty: Build habits that align with your purpose, relationships, and performance, rather than your impulses.What started as a way to treat sex and porn addiction has evolved into a self-leadership model that helps men quickly step into and stay in their power. If you are a leader ready to stop hiding, start leading, and turn your chaos into clarity—Welcome to Patterns of Power. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com to learn about hiring Craig to help change your life quickly and sustainably.

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