Patterns of Power with Craig Perra (habits, mindfulness, high-performance, self-leadership)

Craig Perra, JD, Executive Coach & Trainer (addictions & bad habits)
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Patterns of Power is the essential playbook for MEN: high performers, executives, and leaders ready to dismantle the reactive habits that limit their potential and step fully into their POWER. Hosted by Craig Perra, world-renowned coach and creator of The Mindful Habit® System, this show utilizes a framework that evolved from treating the most severe addictions into a comprehensive leadership model. We recognize that for a leader, a distraction is not just a bad habit—it represents a massive cost to your focus, your influence, and your legacy. We move beyond the limited "addiction model" to a Leadership Model. We view every distraction—whether it is imposter syndrome, anger, gambling, shopping, procrastination, shutting down, doomscrolling, porn, alcohol, or overwork—as a failure of self-leadership, and an immediate opportunity to reclaim your power. From Chaos to Command: Craig’s methodology is forged in fire. Once a top corporate executive fired by billion-dollar companies while battling addictions to heroin, stimulants, sex, and work, Craig hit rock bottom. Diagnosed with PTSD and bipolar II, he realized traditional therapy and 12-step programs weren't enough. He rebuilt his life by engineering a new framework: The Mindful Habit® System. His expertise and transformation have been featured on The Steve Harvey Show, The Katie Couric Show, A&E's Digital Addiction, Good Morning Sacramento, and the BBC. Who This Is For This system has helped thousands of leaders in over 30 countries—including CEOs of global corporations, Olympians, professional athletes, and 7, 8, and 9-figure entrepreneurs —move from reactivity to radical self-ownership. Craig holds space for leaders at the highest levels, teaching them that any place where you are reactive is a place where you must lead. "The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." Blending neuroscience, mindfulness, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and habit formation, this podcast delivers a science-based alternative to the "recovery" mindset, focusing instead on strategic self-governance. In each episode, you will learn to: Stop Coping, Start Leading: Transform reactive behaviors (getting defensive, checking out, acting out) into conscious, executive decisions. Command Your Physiology: Master the biology of stress and anxiety to maintain composure under pressure. Weaponize Your Story: Turn your deepest shame and worst patterns into your greatest assets for leadership. Establish Sovereignty: Build habits that align with your purpose, relationships, and performance, rather than your impulses.What started as a way to treat sex and porn addiction has evolved into a self-leadership model that helps men quickly step into and stay in their power. If you are a leader ready to stop hiding, start leading, and turn your chaos into clarity—Welcome to Patterns of Power. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com to learn about hiring Craig to help change your life quickly and sustainably.

  1. The Emotional Reason Money Controls Your Life

    FEB 7

    The Emotional Reason Money Controls Your Life

    Money isn’t just numbers. It’s memory. Emotion. Identity. Survival. In this episode, Craig sits down with Hannah Chapman to explore why money feels so charged — and how our earliest experiences quietly shape the way we earn, spend, save, and stress. Hannah breaks down how emotional safety, childhood conditioning, and nervous system patterns influence our financial decisions, often without us realizing it.  This conversation dives into: Why money triggers anxiety, avoidance, or controlHow early experiences create lifelong financial habitsWhy earning more doesn’t heal emotional scarcityWhat real financial freedom actually looks likeThis isn’t about budgets or hustle culture. It’s about healing your relationship with money at the root. If you’ve ever felt stressed about finances, avoided looking at your numbers, or repeated the same patterns despite your best efforts — this episode will help you understand why. About Our Guest: Hannah Chapman is a Certified Financial Planner (CFP®) with over 20 years of experience helping entrepreneurs navigate the emotional and practical complexities of money. As the founder of X-Squared Wealth Planning and Expansive CEO, she supports visionary business owners in creating financial clarity, long-term security, and a healthier relationship with wealth. Hannah uniquely integrates traditional financial planning and investment strategy with Human Design, Gene Keys, and money psychology — bringing both the intellect and the heart into the wealth-building process so prosperity becomes something you live, not something you chase. Connect with Hannah and explore her work: https://hannahrchapman.com

    48 min
  2. Why I Changed The Name from Sex Afflictions to Patters of Power

    JAN 25

    Why I Changed The Name from Sex Afflictions to Patters of Power

    There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones collapsing internally. They’re hiding, performing, people pleasing, and losing themselves one tiny lie at a time. In this episode, I’m explaining a major shift: my podcast is no longer called Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions. It’s now called Patterns of Power. And I didn’t change the name because it sounded better. I changed it because over 14 years of doing this work, I realized something I couldn’t ignore anymore: If the framework keeps men stuck in shame, fear, and identity collapse… it might get their attention, but it won’t build the life they want. In this episode, I break down: Why “addiction language” helps some men early on… but can hold others back long-termHow the real issue is often patterns, not pornWhy sex isn’t the root problem… it’s the relief valveThe shift from running away from a problem → to building a system that makes you unstoppableHow power, integrity, self-leadership, and capacity are the real transformationBecause shame keeps people quiet. Power builds movements. If you’re a leader, founder, executive, or high performer who knows something is “off” internally… this podcast is for you. Ready to interrupt the patterns and step into your power? Visit: mindfulhabitmastery.com If you’re struggling with sex and porn addiction and need direct support: Visit: mindfulhabithelp.com

    23 min
  3. Why Successful Men Feel Empty (With Aaron Velky)

    JAN 12

    Why Successful Men Feel Empty (With Aaron Velky)

    There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones quietly collapsing inside. They’re driven, disciplined, respected — and deeply disconnected. Hiding behind busyness. Chasing validation. Terrified of stillness. Losing themselves one “successful” decision at a time. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now! In this episode of Patterns Of Power, Craig Perra sits down with Aaron Velke, founder of Get Out of Your Own Way and creator of the Living Vision Program, to expose the hidden patterns that keep high-performing men stuck — even when everything looks good on the outside. Aaron works with seven-, eight-, and nine-figure leaders who have already “made it,” yet feel restless, unfulfilled, and quietly trapped by compulsive achievement. Together, Craig and Aaron unpack why success doesn’t heal insecurity — it often amplifies it — and why the real work begins when the noise finally stops. In this conversation, they explore: • The masks high-achieving men wear to avoid feeling “not enough” • Why validation, busyness, and adrenaline become addictive • How adventure and challenge can unlock breakthroughs when discipline fails • Why community heals what isolation quietly destroys • The role of stillness in finding real vision, clarity, and direction Aaron brings a powerful blend of depth, honesty, and lived experience — challenging the belief that more success is the answer, and offering a different path forward: one rooted in presence, purpose, and embodied leadership. Connect with Aaron Velke Follow Aaron on all platforms: @AaronVelke Listen to The Living Vision Show on all major podcast platforms. Aaron also leads powerful, immersive experiences for high-performing leaders: • Living Vision Retreat — January 2026 • 90-Day Living Vision Accelerator — January / February 2026 To learn more about Aaron’s work, upcoming retreats, and programs, visit: https://www.living.vision If you’ve built a life that looks impressive but feels empty… this episode will hit close to home.

    42 min
  4. The Identity Shift That Ends Porn, Distraction, and Self-Sabotage with Niko Arapkiles of Vision Expresso

    12/22/2025

    The Identity Shift That Ends Porn, Distraction, and Self-Sabotage with Niko Arapkiles of Vision Expresso

    Most men aren’t stuck because they lack discipline. They’re stuck because they’re fighting the wrong battle. In this episode of Patterns Of Power, I sit down with Niko Arapkiles, founder of Vision Expresso, to expose the real reason change doesn’t last for most men: they try to fix behaviors without changing identity. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now! We break down why willpower eventually fails, how distraction quietly destroys focus and purpose, and why you’ll always lose in a fight against yourself if your identity hasn’t changed. This conversation goes beyond addiction. It’s about becoming the man you were meant to be. In this episode, we talk about: Why identity change matters more than habits, rules, or disciplineHow distraction, porn, and constant stimulation rewire the brain against youWhy most men stay stuck even after therapy, retreats, or big breakthroughsHow to operationalize identity so change actually sticksWhat it looks like to live from your future self instead of chasing motivationIf you’re tired of starting over, white-knuckling sobriety, or feeling like you “should be further by now,” this episode will change how you see recovery, growth, and yourself. Learn more about Niko and Vision Expresso: https://visionespresso.co Find him on social media here: @nikoarapkiles

    25 min
  5. Why “Nice Guy” Syndrome Is Destroying Men’s Lives (Interview with Dr. Robert Glover)

    12/15/2025

    Why “Nice Guy” Syndrome Is Destroying Men’s Lives (Interview with Dr. Robert Glover)

    There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones collapsing internally. They’re hiding, performing, people pleasing, and losing themselves one tiny lie at a time. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com for powerful help now! In this episode of Patterns of Power, I sit down with Dr. Robert Glover — therapist, coach, and author of the bestselling book No More Mr. Nice Guy. His work has changed millions of lives, including my clients, and this conversation goes straight to the heart of why men struggle… and what actually creates lasting change. We dig deep into Nice Guy Syndrome — why it starts in childhood, how it destroys relationships, and why people pleasing is actually manipulation. We talk about lying (even “harmless” lies), boundaries, masculine integrity, and how men can finally step into honesty, power, and purpose. In this episode, we cover:  • Why Nice Guy Syndrome forms early in life  • How being “the good guy” kills intimacy  • Why people pleasing becomes manipulation • Why lying — even tiny lies — keeps you powerless • How Nice Guys and jerks are two sides of the same survival pattern • Why boundaries are an act of love • How honesty creates REAL connection • How men can stop seeking approval and start living with clarity • Why community is essential for recovery If you’re tired of pretending… tired of shrinking… tired of living small — this episode is your wake-up call.  Connect With Dr. Robert Glover Website & programs: https://drglover.com Integration Nation (Men’s Community): https://integrationnation.net

    45 min
  6. People Pleasing Is Lying: The Truth About Energetic Abuse, Boundaries & Your Voice w/ Melanie Singer

    12/03/2025

    People Pleasing Is Lying: The Truth About Energetic Abuse, Boundaries & Your Voice w/ Melanie Singer

    Most people look successful but feel dead inside. They’ve lost their spark, their purpose, and their voice — and they’re stuck people pleasing, hiding the truth, and calling it “love.” In this episode of Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions, I sit down with Melanie Spring — brand muse, international keynote speaker, and creator of Speak With Confidence — to talk about what authenticity really means, why lying is abuse (yes, even “little” lies), and how people pleasing is actually manipulation that keeps everyone stuck. If you’re a man struggling with sex or porn addiction — or a partner exhausted from carrying the weight of his secrets — this conversation is for you. We talk about: • What a brand muse actually does and why finding your voice is soul work • How we lose our creative spark and identity as adults • Why so many “successful” people are secretly miserable • The impact of addiction on partners: energetic abuse, gaslighting, lost intuition • Why lying is abuse even when he “doesn’t mean to hurt you” • Boundaries as love and why love must be boundaried • How Melanie set a hard boundary with her husband — and held it • Why women need conscious community, not gossip circles • How childhood betrayal loops repeat until we finally close them • Why people pleasing is lying and manipulation • What radical honesty and radical responsibility look like • Personal style as an expression of your authentic self If you’re tired of pretending and ready to stand fully in your truth, this episode will hit you in the best way. We don’t promote other programs very often — but this one aligns perfectly with what we teach at The Mindful Habit. Melanie Spring is incredible at helping people find and express their authentic voice, and I know some of you have been wanting to step into bigger stages, deeper truth, and more confident communication. If that’s you, you’ll get real value from this. Here are the details: Melanie’s SPEAK With Confidence program is on Black Friday sale right now — up to $1500 off through Tuesday at 8pm ET. Use code PERRA for an extra 10% off + it gives me 10% of what you pay. Program info: melaniespring.com/swc Swipe copy for emails, texts, or social posts if you want to share it too: melaniespring.com/swc/affiliates Code: PERRA If you’ve been feeling called to speak more powerfully in 2025, this might be the perfect next step. Connect with Melanie Spring 🔸 Website & retreats: https://www.melaniespring.com 🔸 Learn more about her Speak With Confidence program and upcoming women’s retreats on her site.

    45 min
  7. The Christian Case for IFS: Healing Porn, Compulsivity with Jenna Riemersma ("Altogether You")

    12/03/2025

    The Christian Case for IFS: Healing Porn, Compulsivity with Jenna Riemersma ("Altogether You")

    Most men are taught to hate the part of them that struggles. What if that part isn’t your enemy at all… but your protector? Buy The Book Altogether You: https://amzn.to/4rvtnex In this groundbreaking conversation, Coach Craig sits down with trauma therapist and bestselling author Jenna Riemersma, whose book Altogether You bridges Internal Family Systems (IFS) with Christian faith in a way that is nothing short of revolutionary. Together, they expose why the traditional addiction model keeps men trapped in shame and powerlessness—and how IFS offers a radically different path to healing, integrity, and self-leadership. You’ll hear:     •    Why identifying as an “addict” feels empowering at first—but eventually becomes a cage.     •    Why the part of you that acts out isn’t sinful, broken, or demonic… it’s protective.     •    How Christian theology and modern psychology actually reinforce each other when it comes to understanding your parts.     •    Why partners get stuck in reactive boundary cycles—and how to break them.     •    Why relationship, compassion, and self-leadership heal what shame and control never will. Craig and Jenna unpack the Core Self from two directions—psychology and Christianity—and reveal a way of operationalizing faith that most churches completely miss. If you or your spouse is struggling with pornography, unwanted sexual behavior, or betrayal trauma, this episode will fundamentally shift how you see the struggle, yourself, and each other. This is the conversation every Christian man—and every church—needs to hear. Resources and Links Mentioned Buy The Book Altogether You: https://amzn.to/4rvtnex Jenna’s website https://movetoward.com Altogether You On Demand Workshop https://movetoward.com Use code AY15 for 15% off Free IFS guided meditations and resources Available at https://movetoward.com Book referenced in the episode Altogether You by Jenna Riemersma

    50 min
  8. Why Your Relationship Is Falling Apart (And How to Fix It) with Melissa Nanavati, Relationship Coach

    11/25/2025

    Why Your Relationship Is Falling Apart (And How to Fix It) with Melissa Nanavati, Relationship Coach

    You can’t build a powerful life on a foundation of chaos at home. And most men don’t struggle because they don’t love their partner — they struggle because no one ever taught them how to talk about hard things without it blowing up. Download The BRAVE Framework here: https://www.melissananavati.com/BRAVEscripts In this powerful episode, you will learn: 🔥 Why love is not enough without structure 🔥 How to talk about hard topics without triggering defensiveness 🔥 Why creating safety must happen before chemistry 🔥 How physical touch regulates the nervous system during conflict 🔥 Why “I’m sorry” means nothing without action 🔥 And how to co-create solutions that actually stick If you’ve broken trust, kept secrets, or feel disconnected from your partner, this episode will give you a system to repair, rebuild, and lead your relationship with courage. Download The BRAVE Framework here: https://www.melissananavati.com/BRAVEscripts Melissa Nanavati is a speaker, author, and Relationship Architect who helps high performers rebuild trust, reignite chemistry, and create systems for love that last. She blends neuroscience, biology, and lived experience to teach the art of relational courage. Despite early success as a Fortune 100 consultant and bestselling textbook author, Melissa spent years struggling with an anxiety disorder, battling alcohol abuse, and enduring over 100 first dates in her search for a partner. When she finally met her husband, their relationship was forged under extraordinary pressure, including raising $1.1 million for his world-record expedition and spending 4 months apart while running two businesses. Through that journey, Melissa developed frameworks and tools to help high achievers build peaceful, powerful relationships. She is a trusted relationship coach for executives, founders, and driven individuals seeking actionable, science-backed tools to navigate love.  Melissa reveals her BRAVE Framework, a neuroscience-backed, action-driven structure that transforms the way couples communicate. This isn’t fluffy advice — it’s tactical, practical, and built for real life. Download The BRAVE Framework here: https://www.melissananavati.com/BRAVEscripts She offers powerful one-on-one coaching, so reach out and apply here: Apply for Coaching: https://www.melissananavati.com/coaching Learn more at: www.MelissaNanavati.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/MelissaNanavati YouTube: www.youtube.com/@PeakPerformanceLove LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/MelissaNanavati Remember: Your relationship won’t fix itself. Courage will.

    41 min
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Patterns of Power is the essential playbook for MEN: high performers, executives, and leaders ready to dismantle the reactive habits that limit their potential and step fully into their POWER. Hosted by Craig Perra, world-renowned coach and creator of The Mindful Habit® System, this show utilizes a framework that evolved from treating the most severe addictions into a comprehensive leadership model. We recognize that for a leader, a distraction is not just a bad habit—it represents a massive cost to your focus, your influence, and your legacy. We move beyond the limited "addiction model" to a Leadership Model. We view every distraction—whether it is imposter syndrome, anger, gambling, shopping, procrastination, shutting down, doomscrolling, porn, alcohol, or overwork—as a failure of self-leadership, and an immediate opportunity to reclaim your power. From Chaos to Command: Craig’s methodology is forged in fire. Once a top corporate executive fired by billion-dollar companies while battling addictions to heroin, stimulants, sex, and work, Craig hit rock bottom. Diagnosed with PTSD and bipolar II, he realized traditional therapy and 12-step programs weren't enough. He rebuilt his life by engineering a new framework: The Mindful Habit® System. His expertise and transformation have been featured on The Steve Harvey Show, The Katie Couric Show, A&E's Digital Addiction, Good Morning Sacramento, and the BBC. Who This Is For This system has helped thousands of leaders in over 30 countries—including CEOs of global corporations, Olympians, professional athletes, and 7, 8, and 9-figure entrepreneurs —move from reactivity to radical self-ownership. Craig holds space for leaders at the highest levels, teaching them that any place where you are reactive is a place where you must lead. "The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." Blending neuroscience, mindfulness, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and habit formation, this podcast delivers a science-based alternative to the "recovery" mindset, focusing instead on strategic self-governance. In each episode, you will learn to: Stop Coping, Start Leading: Transform reactive behaviors (getting defensive, checking out, acting out) into conscious, executive decisions. Command Your Physiology: Master the biology of stress and anxiety to maintain composure under pressure. Weaponize Your Story: Turn your deepest shame and worst patterns into your greatest assets for leadership. Establish Sovereignty: Build habits that align with your purpose, relationships, and performance, rather than your impulses.What started as a way to treat sex and porn addiction has evolved into a self-leadership model that helps men quickly step into and stay in their power. If you are a leader ready to stop hiding, start leading, and turn your chaos into clarity—Welcome to Patterns of Power. Visit www.mindfulhabitmastery.com to learn about hiring Craig to help change your life quickly and sustainably.

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