Complete the Heartbreak in 63 Days. Start Here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about Inside the She Rises community: -A 63-day program to go from wrecked to regulated -Live coaching calls with me every week -A team of IFS practitioners -Private workshops and masterclasses with therapists and scientists -1-on-1 sessions -A room full of women doing this beside you First 7 days free. Join here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about — Btw, I'm Cody. I run Mind, Brain, Body Lab. I help women complete heartbreak with neuroscience, so the next one; is different. Bottom line, I'm not guessing at this. I’ve got a degree in cognitive neuroscience, I’m a certified IFS practitioner, and have thousands of hours of client work with hundreds of women under my belt. I’ve been featured on CNBC, the New York Post, and HuffPost. And I’ve got over a million followers and more than a billion views! But the credentials aren't why I do this. I spent years attracting the wrong people: a first girlfriend who made love feel conditional, a college partner who cheated, a three-year abusive relationship, and then a breakup with the person I thought was The One that blindsided me. I did the work alone, piecing it together from books, podcasts, and therapy with no clear path forward. Here's what I learned getting out of it: you don't need to fix yourself to find love. You need to remember how worthy you've always been, and retrain your nervous system to actually believe it. That's not manifestation or toxic positivity. It's neuroscience, trauma therapy, and reps. Most dating problems aren't dating problems. They're unfinished heartbreak problems. If you’re ready to complete heartbreak so the next one is different, subscribe and stick around. You're loved, you're enough, and I believe in ya. Video Summary ⤵️ -There’s a question about his last relationship that has almost nothing to do with his ex. It sorts men faster than anything else I know, and it’s first for a reason. -Ask him what he does when he’s stressed. If the answer routes entirely through a person, you just found out what your job is going to be. -“He’s just not a big friends guy.” I hear that one a lot. Usually about eight months before the rest of the story shows up. -One of these five you’ve definitely heard from me before. I’m running it again, last, because I think most women are reading the answer completely wrong. -The questions were never the hard part. What you do in the four seconds after he answers is. Supporting Research Nisbett, R. E., & Wilson, T. D. (1977). Telling more than we can know: Verbal reports on mental processes. Psychological Review, 84(3), 231–259. Clark, M. S., & Mills, J. (1979). Interpersonal attraction in exchange and communal relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 37(1), 12–24. Clark, M. S., & Mills, J. (1993). The difference between communal and exchange relationships: What it is and is not. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 19(6), 684–691. All-inclusive citations list in full blog: https://blog.mindbrainbodylab.com/p/5-questions-id-ask-on-a-first-date Disclaimer: This video is educational in nature and not a substitute for therapy. If attachment wounds or relational trauma are impacting your wellbeing, working with a trauma therapist can help your nervous system relearn safety in connection.
