Are You Being Present?

The Presence Projects
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The purpose of this podcast is to provide awareness and encouragement about the concept of being present. You have a choice. Choose to be present!

  1. Episode 105 - Seeking External Validation Is a Tool of the Ego

    5D AGO

    Episode 105 - Seeking External Validation Is a Tool of the Ego

    External validation feels good. But what happens when it runs out? This episode explores one of the ego's most powerful and pervasive traps: the endless pursuit of external validation. From the praise of parents and teachers in childhood to the approval of employers, spouses, and peers in adulthood, most of us have been deeply conditioned to measure our worth through the eyes of others. And the ego knows exactly how to exploit that. External validation can never be a sustainable source of confidence, because by its very nature, it isn't limitless. When the praise stops, the anxiety begins. When the confirmation disappears, the ego moves in with doubt, fear, and internal chaos. This episode takes an honest look at how this ego program shows up in everyday life, from professional settings and personal relationships to the extreme highs and lows of fame. It also examines why even well-intentioned advice-seeking can become a subtle form of outsourcing your own agency. The antidote? Internal validation, the practice of affirming, assuring, and praising yourself from within, especially when the ego is loudest. In this episode you'll explore: Why the ego creates doubt to manufacture a need for external approval How the "vacuum effect" of external validation fuels anxiety and depression What internal validation actually looks and feels like in practice How to endure difficult present moments with objectivity and grace Why self-affirmation has a lasting power that external praise never will You already know more than you think you do. This episode is an invitation to trust it. Remember, you have a choice. Choose to be Present!

    16 min
  2. Episode 104 - Identifying Ego Programs in the Present Moment

    FEB 22

    Episode 104 - Identifying Ego Programs in the Present Moment

    Ego programs run like computer viruses in the background of your mind, silently sabotaging your present moment and creating self-inflicted suffering. Drawing from 15 years of clinical observation across 103 podcast episodes, this deep dive reveals what ego programs are, how to identify them in real time, and why they keep you trapped in patterns that have nothing to do with reality as it actually is. "I am sick." "I'm not enough." "I don't have enough." These aren't truths - they're programs installed during trauma and hardship that your ego weaponizes against you relentlessly. Learn to recognize the difference between what's actually happening in front of you and the distorted lens your ego forces you to see through. Discover why being the objective observer - watching thoughts without judgment, criticism, or attachment - is your primary defense against these insidious patterns. Explore practical presence tools including meditation, journaling, affirmations, and binaural beats to create the crucial gap between you and your ego programs. This isn't about fighting your ego or winning battles - it's about building a different relationship with the programs that dominate your inner reality and mirror themselves in your outer world. Start with one or two dominant programs. Be patient. Be graceful with yourself. The effort matters more than the results, and presence gives you the clarity to finally see what's been running you your entire life. Remember, you have a choice. Choose to be Present!

    14 min
  3. Episode 103 - "I Am Sick" Is a Program of the Ego

    FEB 19

    Episode 103 - "I Am Sick" Is a Program of the Ego

    "I am sick" isn't a statement of fact - it's an ego program that makes you become the very illness you claim. This episode examines how the powerful declaration "I am" followed by "sick" creates ownership of disease rather than acknowledging temporary imbalance. Drawing from 15 years of clinical observation and personal experience, we explore how this pervasive ego tool keeps you trapped in fear, stress, and perpetual scanning for problems. Your mind obsesses over every ache, convincing you something is fundamentally wrong when you're simply having a human experience in a body that naturally fluctuates. Learn to distinguish between not feeling well and declaring yourself sick, between experiencing symptoms and becoming identified with disease. This isn't about denying legitimate health challenges or trivializing suffering - it's about uprooting the mental virus that amplifies discomfort into identity and spreads to everyone around you.  Discover how to reframe your language, reclaim your health, and remove this deeply ingrained program from your vocabulary. The present moment offers you clarity to see this ego tool for what it truly is: a presence obstruction keeping you from living freely. Remember, you have a choice. Choose to be Present!

    13 min
  4. Episode 102 - Stop Catastrophizing, Be Present!

    FEB 19

    Episode 102 - Stop Catastrophizing, Be Present!

    What if most of your suffering is self-inflicted? Catastrophizing robs you of the present moment by spinning worst-case scenarios that never materialize. Your mind creates entire disasters from nothing, projecting distorted memories onto an imagined future while reality unfolds peacefully right in front of you. This episode cuts through the madness. Drawing from thousands of clinical observations and hard-won personal insight, we expose catastrophizing as a relentless ego program designed solely to eject you from presence. You've done this countless times, yet how often has the catastrophe actually happened? Learn why your mind insists on this protective behavior despite its complete ineffectiveness, and discover practical presence tools to create distance between you and your spiraling thoughts. The work requires dedication, but through consistent practice you can reclaim your present moments and end unnecessary suffering. This is your opportunity to stop the madness and see clearly: all is well, and all is unfolding exactly as it should, right here, right now. Remember, you have a choice. Choose to be Present!

    13 min
  5. Episode 101 - Embracing Change in the Present Moment

    FEB 16

    Episode 101 - Embracing Change in the Present Moment

    Change is inevitable, but our resistance to it creates suffering. In this episode, we explore why we struggle with change, how safety and comfort keep us trapped in familiar patterns, and what it means to embrace change with presence instead of fear. Drawing from personal experiences with injury, observations from clinic work with aging patients and career transitions, and practical presence tools, this conversation offers a path toward seeing change not as something happening TO you, but FOR you. Whether you're navigating a career shift, physical limitations, or unexpected life transitions, this episode provides grounded wisdom on moving through change with less resistance and more clarity. Remember, you have a choice. Choose to be Present!

    13 min
  6. Episode 100 -Experiencing the Life Reset Button With Presence

    FEB 13

    Episode 100 -Experiencing the Life Reset Button With Presence

    What happens when everything you've built disappears overnight? This episode explores the profound experience of having your life reset button pushed - when natural disasters, loss, business failure, or sudden upheaval rips the floor out from under you. Speaking from direct experience of total loss and what I call "super survival mode," we examine how presence becomes both the most important and most difficult practice during extreme crisis. This isn't spiritual bypassing or toxic positivity... it's an honest look at grief, resistance, endurance, and the slow work of accepting what you never wanted. For anyone navigating their own reset right now, this episode offers empathy, practical tools, and the reminder that though it feels endless, this moment will not last forever.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ Remember, you have a choice... Choose to be present!

    16 min
  7. Episode 99 - "If, That, Then" Is a Game of the Ego

    05/14/2023

    Episode 99 - "If, That, Then" Is a Game of the Ego

    The Presence Projects presents episode 99 of the "Are You Being Present?" podcast series.  Join Paul for a podcast that focuses on a game/program the ego plays in a variety of different scenarios that creates a significant amount self-inflicted suffering. The title and topic of this episode is "If, That, Then Is a Game of the Ego".  In this podcast Paul shares his personal, and clinical, experiences where he has observed, identified and exposed an ego program that is woven deeply within the constructs of the matrix being proliferated by societal conditioning that prevents Presence.  This ego program acts as a Presence obstruction as it's used to eject you from the Present moment by creating conditions that need to be met so you can get to a future moment that will be better, or easier, than the one you're existing within.  It is imperative that this ego game be observed, addressed and removed with the use of Presence Tools.  Until this is accomplished the ego will use it repeatedly causing strife, angst, frustration and a variety of other negative states of being where the ego thrives.  Because of how frequently, and effectively, the ego uses this specific program it may take some time and dedication to identify and stop it from running.  Persistence and Presence will provide you with ample opportunity to uproot this insidious ego tool allowing for more neutrality, peace and prosperity. As always, it is advisable to listen to earlier podcasts that discuss other Presence topics and Presence Tools that can be implemented to help shift into the Present Moment.  Please check out the rest of the "Are You Being Present?" podcasts series on our website, iTunes and YouTube!   Remember you have a choice.  Choose to be present! https://www.areyoubeingpresent.com

    15 min
  8. Episode 98 - Obligation Is a Tool of the Ego

    05/08/2023

    Episode 98 - Obligation Is a Tool of the Ego

    The Presence Projects presents episode 98 of the "Are You Being Present?" podcast series.  Join Paul for a podcast that addresses obligation, what it is, how it's used, the effect it has on the Present Moment and how we can reframe it.  The title and topic of this episode is "Obligation Is a Tool of the Ego".  In this podcast Paul dives into a subject that has created a lot of self-inflicted suffering at the hands of the ego.  Everyone on Earth goes through life with a certain number of obligations which is why this podcast is so relevant and relatable. Being obligated to do something usually entails having to complete a task, action or responsibility that we do not want to do but must do.  When we feel forced to do something the ego thrives and establishes a state of resistance and resentment, both are tremendous Presence obstructions.  By being Present and remaining the observer of our thoughts, feelings and emotions there is an opportunity to shift into a more neutral state of being by simply accepting the task at hand.  You can then willfully choose to do it because it needs to be done regardless of how you feel, or think, about it. As always, it is advisable to listen to earlier podcasts that discuss other Presence topics and Presence Tools that can be implemented to help shift into the Present Moment.  Please check out the rest of the "Are You Being Present?" podcasts series on our website, iTunes and YouTube!   Remember you have a choice.  Choose to be present! https://www.areyoubeingpresent.com

    11 min
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