Be A Better You

Allison K. Dagney
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The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney.  As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.  I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before. The views and opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect my personal views, opinions, or professional positions.

  1. 1d ago

    Ep 230: Breaking Down 4 Narcissistic Myths to Help You Recover

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond In this transformative episode of "The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast," host Allison Dagney dives deep into the intricate world of narcissistic myths, aiming to guide listeners on their path to healing from emotional abuse. The exploration begins with the debunking of the pervasive myth that all narcissists cheat. Allison introduces a nuanced perspective, emphasizing that cheating in narcissistic relationships can manifest in diverse, non-traditional forms, challenging conventional definitions. The journey continues with an examination of the myth surrounding the potential for change in narcissistic individuals. Allison artfully distinguishes between superficial behavioral adjustments and authentic personality transformation, cautioning against misinterpretations that may lead to vulnerable positions in relationships. Delving into the misconception that narcissists are oblivious to their actions, the podcast sheds light on the calculated nature of their behaviors and manipulative tactics. Allison encourages listeners to recognize the intentionality behind narcissistic actions, fostering a deeper understanding of the dynamics at play. The episode concludes by addressing the myth that narcissists can love. Allison explores the intricate layers of distorted love in these relationships, prompting listeners to reassess their understanding of love and its impact on their healing journey. The critical thinking section challenges preconceived notions, offering introspective questions that guide reflection, empowering listeners to navigate their recovery journey with resilience and newfound insights. The episode serves as a compass for those seeking solace, encouraging them to question everything they thought they knew about narcissism and themselves, ultimately fostering a community of support and healing. Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  2. Aug 11

    Ep 229: Healing Blind Spots No One Talks About

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond Have you ever felt like you're doing everything "right" to heal, but somehow you still feel stuck? Maybe you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, gone to therapy, or spent countless hours trying to understand what happened in your relationship. Yet you keep finding yourself replaying conversations, questioning your decisions, or wondering why moving forward feels so difficult. What if the problem isn't what you think it is? In this episode of the Be a Better You Podcast, we're exploring the hidden blind spots that often keep survivors of emotional abuse stuck long after the relationship has ended. These aren't mistakes or flaws—they're the subconscious beliefs and survival strategies that once protected you but may now be preventing you from experiencing the freedom you're looking for. We'll explore why you may be solving the wrong problem, why wanting "closure" isn't always what it seems, how the need to be chosen can become confused with self-worth, and why healing isn't about becoming someone new—it's about seeing yourself more clearly. If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating patterns, struggle to trust yourself, or feel like you've made progress but still aren't where you want to be, this conversation will help you look beneath the surface and discover what might really be keeping you stuck. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the biggest obstacle to healing is often something you can't yet see.The difference between symptoms and the real problem.Common subconscious beliefs that develop after emotional abuse.Why insight alone doesn't create lasting change.That curiosity leads to deeper healing.If this episode resonates with you, please consider following the podcast, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who may need this message today. REFLECTION QUESTIONS FROM THIS EPISODE: "What problem have I been trying to solve for years?" "What if that isn't the real problem?" "What belief would have to exist for this struggle to make perfect sense?" "What have I accepted as true... that I've never actually questioned?" "If someone watched my life... what belief would they think I have?" Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  3. Aug 6

    Bonus EP: Finding Safe Friendships After a Toxic Relationship (with Dr. K)

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond Leaving a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship often means leaving behind more than just one person. It can leave you questioning your judgment, feeling isolated, and wondering if you'll ever be able to trust people again. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. K, founder of Girlfriendism, to explore one of the most overlooked parts of healing: rebuilding healthy female friendships. Together, we discuss why making and maintaining friendships can feel so difficult after emotional abuse, how trauma changes the way we connect with others, and what emotionally safe friendships actually look like. We also talk about: Why survivors often feel disconnected or alone after leaving a toxic relationship.The green flags of healthy, supportive female friendships.How to recognize when a friendship feels safe versus familiar.Why healing doesn't have to happen in isolation.Practical ways to begin building a community of women who genuinely support your growth.If you've ever felt like you don't know who to trust anymore, or you've struggled to let people in since your relationship ended, this conversation will remind you that healthy connection is possible—and that the right friendships can become an important part of your healing journey. Connect with Dr. K: Learn more about Dr. K and the Girlfriendism community at Girlfriendism, a global movement dedicated to helping women build meaningful friendships and supportive communities.  Links to Connect ⬇️ www.girlfriendism.com Girlfriendism Global on Mighty Networks App YouTube, FaceBook, Instagram,  LinkedIn: @Girlfriendism Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  4. Aug 4

    Ep 228: A Troll Tried to Silence Me & Why This Matters for You

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond What do you do when someone publicly criticizes you, questions your mission, or tries to shame you into staying quiet? In this episode, I'm sharing a recent experience with an online troll who challenged not only my work but my decision to continue talking about emotional abuse and using paid ads to reach more women. While the comments themselves weren't the real story, what happened inside of me was. Years ago, criticism like this would have left me questioning myself. Instead, I found myself standing firmly in my values, recognizing how much healing had taken place, and realizing that confidence isn't about avoiding negative opinions. It's about knowing who you are and refusing to let someone else's beliefs determine your direction. We'll explore how emotional abuse conditions us to seek approval, why recovering from abuse means learning to trust yourself again, and how your subconscious beliefs influence whether criticism feels like a threat or simply another perspective. I'll also explain why I have no intention of stopping my work, why I'll continue speaking openly about emotional abuse, and why I believe using advertising to connect survivors with support is something to be proud of—not ashamed of. If you've ever been afraid of being judged, criticized, misunderstood, or seen, this episode will help you shift your perspective, strengthen your confidence, and remember that your purpose doesn't require everyone else's permission. In this episode, you'll learn: • How subconscious beliefs determine your response to negative comments. • What real confidence looks like after emotional abuse. And... • How to stop letting other people's opinions dictate your decisions. • Why your message matters, even when not everyone agrees with it. Whether you're recovering from emotional abuse, healing after a toxic relationship, rebuilding your self-worth, or learning to trust yourself again, this conversation will remind you that healing isn't measured by the absence of criticism. It's measured by your ability to keep moving forward in alignment with who you are. Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  5. Jul 28

    Ep 227: The Skill Nobody Ever Taught You: Disappointing People

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond Have you spent your life trying to keep everyone happy? Do you feel guilty setting boundaries, saying no, or making decisions that someone else might not like? In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, Allison explores why disappointing people feels so terrifying after emotional abuse, toxic relationships, people-pleasing, and chronic self-abandonment. You'll learn why someone else's disappointment doesn't mean you've done something wrong, how emotional abuse trains your nervous system to fear conflict, and why reclaiming your own authority is one of the most important steps in healing. Through a personal story about setting boundaries in a long-term friendship and business relationship, Allison shares how choosing herself ultimately led to freedom, even though it meant disappointing someone she cared about. She also explains the difference between hurting someone and disappointing someone, why living in alignment with your values matters more than meeting everyone else's expectations, and how saying "no" can help you discover your purpose and build healthier relationships. If you've ever struggled with guilt, people-pleasing, codependency, boundary setting, or the fear of letting others down, this episode will help you see disappointment in a completely new way. In this episode, you'll learn: Why disappointing people feels unsafe after emotional abuseThe difference between rebelling against someone and disappointing someoneHow to stop people-pleasing without feeling guiltyWhy healthy boundaries often disappoint othersHow to reclaim your own authority and live more authenticallyWhy someone else's expectations are not your responsibilityIf you're ready to stop living for everyone else and start trusting yourself, this episode is for you. Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  6. Jul 23

    Bonus EP: Designing the Life You Love with Lyndsey Kampen

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond Today's episode features guest Lyndsey Kampen. Lyndsey shares her personal story with us about her experience with toxic relationships and how she overcame them to design the life she loves. She is a designer by trade and experience so designing her own life on her own terms was key to her happiness. Join us in the powerful discussion where two survivors collaborate to help other survivors thrive! Connect with Lyndsey: Website: https://designthelifeyoulovelynz.com/ Podcast: https://designthelifeyoulovelynz.com/podcast-1 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DESIGNTHELIFEYOULOVEWITHLYNZ/videos Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lyndsey_lynz_kampen/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556978291081 Substack: https://substack.com/@lyndseylynzkampen?r=17eu48&utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-page Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  7. Jul 21

    Ep 226: The One Thing You're Avoiding That's Keeping You Stuck

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond Have you ever felt like you're doing everything you possibly can to move forward... but somehow you still feel stuck? Maybe you've convinced yourself you just need to work harder, learn more, or push through a little longer. But what if the very thing you've been avoiding is the reason you can't seem to find the clarity you've been searching for? In this episode, Allison shares a deeply personal story from one of the hardest seasons of her life and reveals the surprising shift that changed the way she approached healing, decision-making, and even her business. If you've been overwhelmed, mentally exhausted, constantly thinking, or wondering why you can't seem to hear yourself think anymore, this conversation may be exactly what your brain needs. This episode might challenge everything you've been taught about what it takes to heal. 🎧 Listen now and discover the one thing you may be overlooking that's quietly keeping you stuck. ✨ Download your FREE Healing Bundle, including the 5-Day Guided Mentor Audio Series, Deconditioning Workbook, and introductory My Sound Mind audios. Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  8. Jul 14

    Ep 225: Are You Growing From Adversity...Or Staying Stuck

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond Have you ever wondered why you've been through so much, yet still feel stuck in the same emotional patterns? In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, Allison explores a powerful distinction that completely changed her healing journey after spending 20 years in an emotionally abusive marriage: the difference between conflict and adversity. Many survivors of emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, and toxic relationships assume that because life has been difficult, they must be growing. But what if years of emotional pain weren't creating growth at all? What if you were surviving inside chronic conflict instead of allowing adversity to transform you? In this episode, you'll learn: The surprising difference between conflict and adversityWhy staying in survival mode can keep you emotionally stuckWhy healing requires adaptation, not just enduranceThe hidden cost of waiting for someone else to rescue youHow resilience, self-trust, and emotional freedom are built through not just facing life's hardest moments - but action out of them.Practical mindset shifts to help you move from surviving to truly healingIf you struggle with overthinking, rumination, self-doubt, trauma bonding, or constantly replaying the past after a toxic relationship, this episode will challenge the way you think about healing and help you see your next chapter with greater clarity. 🎧 If you're ready to stop living in emotional conflict and finally move forward, apply for your FREE Root Cause Assessment & Action Plan through the link in the show notes. Keywords: emotional abuse recovery, narcissistic abuse recovery, toxic relationships, healing after emotional abuse, trauma bonds, rumination, overthinking after a breakup, self-trust, personal growth, emotional healing, conflict vs adversity, resilience, rebuilding after abuse, mindset, mental health, emotional resilience. Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop overthinking your past relationship and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://www.radiatenrise.com/application-form 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

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The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney.  As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.  I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before. The views and opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect my personal views, opinions, or professional positions.

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  • Creator
    Allison K. Dagney
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    236
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Be A Better You
  • Show Website
    Be A Better You

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