BECOMING UNTRIGGERED

Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown | Trauma-informed Psychodynamic Coaches
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Tired of reacting instead of responding with your partner or kids? Becoming Untriggered is the podcast for parents and partners ready to break generational trauma, heal their past, and build conscious relationships. Every month, we share practical tools, honest conversations, and strategies to help you become the calm, connected, and conscious version of yourself. Hosted by trauma-informed coaches Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown, who bring over 17 years of lived experience and decades supporting both moms and dads, this show explores how childhood wounds show up in adult life.

  1. 12/12/2025

    Healing After Betrayal: How to Stop Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns

    Why do I keep ending up with the same type of partner? Why does betrayal hurt this much? Healing after betrayal isn’t just about letting go of what happened, it’s about understanding why the same patterns keep repeating. In this episode, we break down the deeper emotional and psychological layers behind betrayal, including attachment wounds, trauma bonds, and the unconscious beliefs that shape who we choose and why we stay. We explore why betrayal hurts so deeply, how childhood experiences influence our adult relationships, and why ignoring red flags becomes a familiar pattern. You’ll learn how to recognise the root of your pain, where your anger and resentment come from, and how to finally take back your emotional power without blaming yourself. Whether you’re healing from deception, infidelity, emotional neglect, or the collapse of trust, this episode guides you toward the inner work needed to break the cycle! 00:00 – What Betrayal Really Means & Why It Hurts 04:00 – Types of Betrayal: Lies, Secrets, Addictions & Broken Values 06:42 – Why We Ignore Red Flags & Repeat the Same Patterns 13:12 – Childhood Wounds and Attachment Trauma 17:24 – Attracting Dysfunctional People & Repeating Cycles 19:48 – Healing Betrayal Inside a Relationship vs. Walking Away 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

    29 min

  2. 11/14/2025

    The Path to Becoming Untriggered with Jane Hardwicke Collings

    How do rites of passage shape women’s lives? In this episode, midwife, teacher, and feminine wisdom keeper Jane Hardwicke Collings joins Lavinia Brown to explore how menstrual shame, birth trauma, and menopause have shaped women’s identities for generations, and how we can reclaim these rites of passage as sources of power, not pain. Learn what really happens when we don’t honor our transitions — from menarche (first period) to motherhood and menopause — and how these experiences silently teach us what our culture believes about women’s worth. Jane shares her life’s work guiding women to heal the wounded feminine, reclaim birth as ceremony, and restore connection to the body’s cycles as a pathway to freedom, wholeness, and intergenerational healing. 00:00 – Intro 02:00 – Why Rites of Passage Matter for Women and Men 06:00 – Menstrual Shame & Supporting Our Daughters 12:30 – Birth as Rite of Passage and Emotional Teacher 25:00 – The Wounded Sisterhood and How Patriarchy Divides Women 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Jane:  www.janehardwickecollings.com www.schoolofshamanicwomancraft.com Instagram - @janehardwickecollings Facebook - ‘Jane Hardwicke Collings’ Spinning Wheels App (iPhone): https://apps.apple.com/us/app/spinning-wheels/id1540698472?platform=iphone Spinning Wheels App (Android): https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=au.com.cocreations.moonsong&hl=en 'Dear Dad' blog: https://janehardwickecollings.com/dear-dad-an-open-letter-to-men-with-a-daughter-approaching-her-menarche-first-period/ 📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

    39 min

  3. 10/17/2025

    Healing Toxic Shame: The Real Reason You Feel Not Enough

    No matter how much you achieve, there’s a quiet voice saying you’re not enough. In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew unpack the hidden roots of toxic shame, what it is, how it forms in childhood, and practical steps to begin healing today. You’ll learn how toxic shame forms in childhood through criticism, emotional neglect, or the belief that love must be earned, and how it turns into patterns of self-judgment, people-pleasing, or burnout. This episode gives you practical tools to start healing toxic shame, reconnecting with your inner child, and building genuine self-compassion so you can finally feel enough, as you are. 00:00 – Intro: What Is Toxic Shame and Why It’s So Hard to Spot 01:20 – How Shame Becomes Part of Your Identity 02:45 – Childhood Roots: Where Shame Really Comes From 10:45 – The Two Faces of Shame: Anger vs Self-Destruction 13:40 – People Pleasing and Activism as Shame in Disguise 16:40 – How to Heal: From Shame to Self-Compassion 22:20 – How Subtle Shaming Shows Up in Parenting 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

    28 min

  4. 09/19/2025

    Are You Dealing with a Narcissist? Spot the Signs & Protect Yourself

    Are you dealing with a narcissist? In this episode, we break down the key traits of narcissism, explain the difference between selfishness and narcissism, and answer whether children can truly be labeled as narcissists. Discover how to recognize narcissistic behavior without second-guessing yourself, heal the wounds of having a narcissistic parent or partner, set strong boundaries and stop draining cycles, and build secure attachment and reclaim your self-love. 01:00 – Narcissistic Traits 05:25 – Manipulation, Illness & Gaslighting Explained 15:30 – Can You Become a Narcissist? 20:00 – Why You Attract Narcissists 22:15 – Can Children Be Narcissists? 25:30 – How to Deal with a Narcissist Parent or Partner 30:00 – Protect Your Inner Child Whether you’ve asked “Is my partner a narcissist?” or worried “Am I a narcissist myself?”, this episode gives clarity and tools to finally stop the cycle. 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer  https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    34 min

  5. 09/05/2025

    How Repressed Emotions Cause Violence in Relationships (Generational Trauma)

    What causes violence in relationships? In this episode, we explore the connection between repressed childhood emotions, generational trauma, and violence in relationships. We’ll unpack how repressed anger from childhood shows up as rage in adult relationships, the difference between your own stuck emotions vs. “carried emotions” from parents, why trauma bonds make it so hard to leave unhealthy dynamics, and how to help your children express anger safely without passing on your own trauma. 00:00 – Violence and Anger in Relationships 02:00 – Repressed Anger From Childhood 04:00 – Repressed Emotion and Carried Emotion 12:00 – Trauma Bonds in Relationships 18:20 – Inner Child Work 22:00 – Helping Kids Express Emotions Safely Whether you’re struggling with your own anger, in a relationship with someone who is violent, or simply want to break free from generational patterns, we give you practical tools to heal. 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer  https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    26 min

  6. 08/22/2025

    Coping with Sibling Estrangement | Healing, Boundaries & Growth

    Have you and your siblings grown apart? Do you wonder how you can repair that relationship without losing yourself? This episode unpacks the emotional complexity of sibling estrangement, including how unresolved childhood dynamics, parental favoritism, and generational trauma can shape fractured family bonds. You'll learn practical strategies to help you process anger, grief, and confusion without needing your sibling to be “on the same page”. We talk about reconciliation, holding boundaries, and seeking emotional peace. 01:30 - Why Siblings Grow Apart 03:20 - Childhood Perception and Parental Favoritism 05:10 - Why Siblings Have Different Childhoods 07:00 - Generational Trauma & Family Roles 11:00 - How Inner Work Triggers Family Conflict 16:00 - Sibling Jealousy and Injustice 21:00 - Why Estranged Siblings Often Misplace Anger 26:00 - Boundaries as a Tool for Emotional Safety This episode is for anyone navigating the pain of sibling fallout, whether you’ve been cut off, ghosted, or just feel emotionally distant. 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer  https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    29 min

  7. 06/20/2025

    Why is It So Hard to Meditate? How to Start When It Feels Impossible

    You sit down to meditate, and instead of peace, you feel panic. Your mind races, your body buzzes, and every part of you wants to get up and do something else. If that’s you, you’re not failing at meditation—you’re likely trying to use it before your nervous system is ready. If you've ever thought “I can’t meditate,” this episode is exactly where you should start. In this episode, we talk about why meditation often feels impossible. We unpack the real reasons you can’t “just sit still”, from trauma response and nervous system dysregulation to inner child wounds and coping mechanisms that once kept you safe. You’ll learn how to start gently, how to use sensory tools to anchor when you’re overwhelmed, and how to stop comparing your practice to someone else’s highlight reel. Whether you’ve tried to meditate and given up, or you’re curious why it triggers you instead of calming you. You will learn how to build safety in your body first… so meditation can finally work for you, not against you. – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer  https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    26 min

  8. 06/06/2025

    Are You Emasculating Your Man Without Realizing It?

    Do you find yourself taking on the mental load of parenting and home life, and unintentionally treating your partner like a co-parenting assistant? In this episode, we unpack how emotional labor, gender roles, and break down the subtle—and not-so-subtle—ways women may be emasculating their partners while trying to manage the mental load of parenting and modern life. We explore what it really means to emasculate your partner, what is toxic masculinity vs healthy masculinity, what women want in a man today, how childhood trauma and generational patterns influence modern relationships, and why many men feel disempowered or unseen in their role. You’ll also learn how the pressure to “do it all” as a mother can create imbalance in your dynamic, and how to ask for help from your husband without making him feel emasculated. If you want to stop feeling like you're doing everything and start building a healthy, connected relationship, this conversation is a must-listen! – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer  https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    27 min
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Tired of reacting instead of responding with your partner or kids? Becoming Untriggered is the podcast for parents and partners ready to break generational trauma, heal their past, and build conscious relationships. Every month, we share practical tools, honest conversations, and strategies to help you become the calm, connected, and conscious version of yourself. Hosted by trauma-informed coaches Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown, who bring over 17 years of lived experience and decades supporting both moms and dads, this show explores how childhood wounds show up in adult life.

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  • Creator
    Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown | Trauma-informed Psychodynamic Coaches
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    33
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown | Trauma-informed Psychodynamic Coaches
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