46 episodes
Birth Moms Real Talk D. Yvonne Rivers
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4.6 • 23 Ratings
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Birth mothers telling their stories of placement.
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58: Lori P – “I Felt Alone and Abandoned”
Lori spoke about her experience of becoming a mother as lonely and afraid. Lori talked about her uniqueness of being Jewish and the perspective of the guilt and shame placed on her. Lori experienced many traumas in her life that brought many challenges of “coping in life “.
She spoke about the “voices” in her ear that determined her own voice of asking herself “ if she was worthy. Lori traveled the road of many birth/first mothers of building the courage to “ Speak “ and share her story. She has found her “ Voice “. -
57: Nicole – "We are Told to Move On "
Nicole -We are Told to Move On … Not Easy
Nicole exhibited strength beyond belief as many birth mothers. Nicole experienced many losses from the age of 5, she persisted.
Nicole’ resilience grew stronger with each trauma. She has built a relationship with her son in her open adoption.
Now, she is in the midst of one of her Biggest traumas. Listen as she shares her journe -
55: Marisa – “My Love was Overwhelming”
Marisa describes her childhood as being a “tough life” living with her single mom. There were many “ life transitions she experienced at an early age without the comfort and love to deal with her traumas. Marisa lived life on the streets and managed to stay focused towards a better life.
A Friday night invitation for pizza changed her perspective on life. Marisa “Found the Ones” who were meant to be in her life. Marisa shared “words of wisdom” from her life experience and her chosen profession. -
54: Maddy – “The Best Two Days of My Life “
Maddy grew up with both parents and at an early age lived with both parents in separate homes. She received support as a young teenager from both parents. When Maddy discovered she was pregnant with her boyfriend, she was at a difficult place and decision. She faced the voices of others regarding "what she should do", She faced the same stigma that most birth mothers faced as an 18-year-old unmarried mother.
Maddy is a strong and determined young lady who makes up her mind and gets it accomplished. Maddy wants all birth mothers to know that " they have a voice" and they are free to use it. Open adoption is Hard and may 'Shift" from the original agreement. Maddy talks about her devastation and pain when the rules changed about her seeing her daughter. Maddy shares about how she is progressing and experiencing some 'good news' about her life. -
53: Yvonne – “The Journey of Reunion “
Yvonne started her reunion with her son by finding him on social media in 2015, connected to him and meeting for the first time after 45 years in 2018 and now 2023, still progressing on a path of Grace and Healing. Yvonne started BMRT Podcast in June 2021 as a “ Place of providing a safe place for birth and natural mothers to share their “truth’ of disenfranchised grief for so many years. Our moms range from 14 years old to over 40 years, from the 1950s to now, who share their adoption stories.
We are all Mothers and our stories are different. This episode covers Yvonne sharing her steps, her thoughts, her journey in reunion. Reunion is Great AND Hard at the same time. This reality of facing nature versus nurture, facing the discovery of each other and growing to love her son and allowing him the space to process, accept and grow to love her. It is indeed a roller coaster journey . It is “ All about Love”. We are All in This Together. Listen to Episode 00 , where Yvonne shares her full journey with Damon Davis of “ Who Am I Really Podcast “ -
52: Shanae – “ Believe Your Truth – You Belong Here “
Shanae remembers the age of 9 and 1/2 so vividly. This time in her life was very challenging and brought forth many traumas that disrupted her life. This life-changing moment gave way to her ‘gift’ of writing her feelings in a journal. This was her “ coping” method. Shanae faced doubts of her ‘ truth’ by the adults in her circle.
As an expectant mother, she faced challenges and vulnerabilities in her life. She faced the flop - flop of support from family. Many perceptions of adoption were from what she watched on “ TV’. She is focused on healing herself and her son. Shanae’s message to birthmothers is “ You Belong Here”
Customer Reviews
Hope Thou In God
We are adoptive parents. We adopted our daughter when she was five days old. At three years old we told her she was adopted. Shared stories of people, friends she knew who were also adopted. Then, we did not know much about her birth mother. Only she was in her early 20’s, not in a place to care for herself or her baby. And that she loved her baby. Just could not take care of her. We have always spoken about her (birth mom) with the upmost respect. Our daughter was a healthy new born. And that, we always told our daughter, “was evidence she loved you so much. She placed you for adoption because she loved you so much.” You see, in our home, our daughter’s birth mother has always been revered as, “ a great woman.” She gave us that one piece of love we needed to be family. Our baby girl.
We are in the process of trying to locate our daughter’s birth mother. We are hopeful there will be a reunion some day. Sooner rather than later. Our daughter is 17 years old. And truthfully, she has struggled with the “unknown” all of her life. It has not been easy. She told me, “mom, every day I look at myself I wonder where did I get this nose, my hands, was my birth father musical, which one is artistic…” Her gifts and talents are off the chart. We created an environment where she can learn, explore and foster those gifts and talent.
We commit to helping her as this reunion will also help us as a family. She needs to know everything her birth mother is willing to share. And we have a lot to share as well!
So, this podcast here, is moving us in the right direction with more comfort and ease as we work carefully and respectfully to discover, as a family, our daughter’s birth mother. We were told the birth father is unknown.
Thank you, D. Evonne, thank you birth mothers.
Extended Grace
As an adoptee, these stories help me understand how traumatic and painful it is to place your baby. Thank you for giving us some perspective to support the healing of the triad.
Helpful for the adoptee, too
Listening to these stories has been extremely beneficial in helping to understand the situations that women, my mother one of them, found themselves in and what led to their babies being adopted. Learning from these stories has helped me process my own adoption. It has helped me ask better questions when talking with my mother. Thank you to all of the mothers who are telling their stories. You are helping us, too.