No More 'Good Girl'

Amanda Clark
  • 4.8 (22)
  • RELATIONSHIPS
  • UPDATED WEEKLY

You weren't made to carry the entire emotional load of your home. To raise your kids… and your husband. To shrink yourself just to keep the peace. But if you grew up walking on eggshells, staying small probably feels normal. Those childhood patterns don't disappear when you become an adult. They follow you into marriage. You become the one who manages everything. The house. The kids. Everyone's emotions. And before you know it, it feels like you're raising a grown man instead of being in a partnership. No More "Good Girl" is a podcast for moms who are done over-functioning in marriage and mom life. Amanda helps women understand the childhood patterns that keep them stuck in the "good girl" role — and how to step out of it so their relationship finally starts to shift. Inside the podcast we talk about: • breaking the good-girl conditioning that keeps you silent • boundaries in marriage that actually change the dynamic • what to do when marriage feels like raising another kid • regulating your nervous system so speaking up feels safer • shifting relationship patterns so partnership becomes possible This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about changing how you show up so the entire relationship has something different to respond to. If you're done feeling like you're raising a grown man and ready for real partnership… You're in the right place.

  1. 3D AGO

    Why the same fights keep happening (and talking doesn't fix it)

    You walk away from another fight thinking… "Did we seriously just do that again?" Same argument. Same tone. Same shutdown. Same tears. And you're left wondering why nothing is changing. Maybe you've tried explaining it better. Waiting for the right moment. Crying so he understands how serious it feels. Or worse… lowering the bar and telling yourself maybe you're just asking for too much. But what if you're not fighting about dishes, sex, money, or the kids? What if you're stuck in a nervous system loop? In this episode, we're breaking down the pursue–withdraw cycle, abandonment wounds, emotional shutdown, and why you cannot solve a regulation problem with better wording. Because when one nervous system escalates and the other shuts down… logic is gone. And repair doesn't start with agreement. It starts with regulation. Imagine being able to: ✔️ Recognize when you're activated (before the explosion) ✔️ Stop chasing or shutting down in the heat of the moment ✔️ Take a clean, powerful break without making it worse ✔️ Bring something up without opening the door to defensiveness ✔️ Interrupt the loop instead of replaying it You are not bad at communication. You are trying to solve a nervous system problem with words. And once you see that? Everything shifts. Find Me Here: ✨ Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women ✨ The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership

    20 min

  2. MAR 2

    Why We Choose the partners we do

    You keep thinking, "If I could just explain it better… maybe he'd finally understand." You replay the fight in your head. You wonder if you chose the wrong partner. You question yourself. Again. But what if this isn't a communication problem? What if you're not broken? What if you're simply outgrowing survival strategies that once kept you safe? In this episode, we're diving into adaptive child behaviors — the nervous system patterns you developed as a little girl that are still quietly running your marriage today. Because here's the truth: You didn't choose your partner from logic. You chose from familiarity. And when you understand that? Everything softens. We're talking about why the "clingy vs. avoidant" dance happens… why the same fight keeps replaying… and how to shift out of over-functioning, shutting down, sweeping things under the rug — without blowing up your relationship. Imagine being able to bring something up without triggering defensiveness. Imagine responding instead of reacting. Imagine feeling steady in your body instead of spiraling in a fight. This episode will help you: ✔️ Understand how your childhood conditioning still shows up in your marriage ✔️ Identify your adaptive child patterns (and your partner's) ✔️ Learn why this is NOT just a communication issue ✔️ Shift from reactive survival mode into your "wise adult" ✔️ Start repairing in a way that actually creates change You are not failing at relationships. You are outgrowing old survival strategies. And that changes everything. Find Me Here: ✨ Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women ✨ The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership

    15 min

  3. FEB 23

    The Silent Treatment: Why It Works — and Why You Stop Responding

    Silence can hurt more than yelling. If your stomach drops when your partner shuts down... If the quiet makes you spiral, overthink, apologize, or chase... If you've ever softened your truth just to keep the peace... This episode is for you. Because the silent treatment? It's not self-regulation. It's not space. And it's definitely not healthy communication. It's emotional withdrawal — often used to create leverage, not connection. And for women who grew up managing emotions to stay safe, silence doesn't feel neutral. It feels like danger. In this episode, I unpack: ✔️ Why the silent treatment triggers old wounds and codependent patterns ✔️ The difference between healthy space vs. emotional control ✔️ How over-apologizing, softening, or over-explaining reinforces the cycle ✔️ What to do when silence shows up — without becoming reactive or cold ✔️ How to stop chasing and start self-honoring without blowing up your relationship You'll learn how to stop rewarding withdrawal with pursuit... and how to step out of the pattern with clarity, calm, and truth. This isn't about fixing your partner. It's about choosing yourself without guilt, fear, or collapse. LINKS: ● Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women ● Free Empower YOU Breathwork: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork ● Boundary Babe Academy: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/boundary-mastery ● Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/ ● The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: http://amandaclark.biz/supported-woman-group-coaching

    14 min

  4. FEB 16

    Enmeshment: When Other People's Feelings Quietly Become Your Job

    You grew up learning how to read a room before you learned how to read a book. You learned to stay quiet. To manage emotions that weren't yours. To keep the peace so you'd stay safe. And now you're wondering why your relationships feel heavy, why boundaries feel terrifying, and why you tolerate more than you ever should. Imagine understanding why you feel responsible for everyone else's emotions. Imagine finally putting down the invisible backpack you've been carrying your whole life. Imagine choosing yourself without drowning in guilt. In this episode, we're diving deep into enmeshment, codependency, and emotionally immature family systems — and how these childhood dynamics follow us straight into adulthood, romantic relationships, and even motherhood. This conversation will crack things open if you've ever felt like: The truth teller in your family The "good girl" who kept everything together The one who gets blamed for rocking the boat In this episode, you'll learn how to: ✔️ Identify enmeshment vs. codependency — and how each one shows up in your body and behavior ✔️ Understand hero child vs. scapegoat child roles and how they shape adult relationships ✔️ Stop managing emotions that were never yours to carry ✔️ Recognize why chronic defensiveness erodes connection over time ✔️ Set boundaries without shrinking yourself or over-explaining You're not broken. You adapted to survive. And now you get to choose something healthier.   LINKS: Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women Free Empower YOU Breathwork: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork   Boundary Babe Academy: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/boundary-mastery  Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/ The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: http://amandaclark.biz/supported-woman-group-coaching

    24 min

  5. FEB 9

    Emotionally Closed-Off Partners: What's Really Going On

    Show Notes: Have you ever felt lonely inside your relationship? Like you're doing all the emotional heavy lifting—asking, explaining, softening, fixing—while your partner stays distant, quiet, or shut down? Imagine if you could stop chasing connection… and still feel close. Imagine setting boundaries without blowing up your relationship. Imagine finally understanding that you're not "too much"—you're just asking for what every human needs: safety, connection, and truth. In this episode, we're talking about emotionally shut down (or emotionally avoidant) partners—where it comes from, why it hurts so much, and how to stop abandoning yourself in the process of trying to keep the peace. This conversation is especially for the women who learned to be "the good girl," the fixer, the one who doesn't need much—but secretly feels exhausted, resentful, and alone. Inside this episode, you'll learn: ✔️ Why emotionally shut down partners aren't cold or heartless—they're protecting themselves ✔️ How childhood roles (hero child, fixer, self-sufficient one) shape adult relationships ✔️ The difference between attunement and codependency—and why monitoring your partner's emotions is costing you ✔️ What doesn't work with emotionally avoidant partners (and why chasing creates more distance) ✔️ How asserting yourself clearly actually creates more safety, not less ✔️ Why boundaries are required for real intimacy—and how to stop seeing them as "mean" If you've been editing yourself, lowering your needs, or telling yourself you're asking for too much… this episode will meet you right there—and help you shift the pattern without losing yourself. LINKS: Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women Free Empower YOU Breathwork: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork   Boundary Babe Academy: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/boundary-mastery  Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/ The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: http://amandaclark.biz/supported-woman-group-coaching

    23 min

  6. FEB 2

    The Good Girl Role: How It Starts & Why It Follows You Into Marriage

    You've been the "good girl" your whole life. The one who keeps the peace. The one who smooths things over, explains herself, and carries everyone else's emotions so no one gets upset. And now you're exhausted, resentful, and quietly disconnected from yourself. Imagine if you could speak your truth without blowing up your relationship. Imagine setting boundaries without guilt. Imagine no longer abandoning yourself just to be liked, chosen, or kept safe. In this episode of No More Good Girl, I'm breaking down why being "nice" was never the same as being kind — and how the good girl survival strategies that kept you safe as a child are now costing you your voice, your passion in your relationship, and your peace. This conversation is for the woman who knows she's meant for more… but keeps shrinking to avoid conflict. Inside this episode, you'll learn how to: ✔️ Recognize how people-pleasing and over-explaining are trauma responses — not personality traits ✔️ Stop managing your partner's emotions and take your power back ✔️ Understand why staying silent to "keep the peace" actually destroys relationships ✔️ Set boundaries with clarity and kindness (without becoming someone you're not) ✔️ Assert yourself early so resentment doesn't build later You don't need to be nicer. You don't need to explain better. You don't need to try harder. You need to stop abandoning yourself. LINKS: ✨ Free Empower YOU Breathwork: Snag it here ✨ Boundary Babe Academy: Join Here ✨ Follow My Journey: Instagram ✨ The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: http://amandaclark.biz/supported-woman-group-coaching Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women

    19 min

  7. JAN 26

    How to Speak Your Truth

    Have you ever known exactly what you wanted to say— but your throat tightened, your chest got heavy, and you stayed silent anyway? Or noticed that no matter how much mindset work you do, you keep repeating the same relationship patterns, burnout cycles, or self-doubt? This episode is about the real reason. Not because you lack confidence. Not because you need better boundaries. But because your nervous system learned—very early—that telling the truth wasn't safe. In this conversation, we go beyond insight and into integration. You'll learn why childhood survival patterns still run your relationships, business, and boundaries—and how lasting change happens in the body, not just the mind. This is the missing link between knowing what you want… and actually living it. In this episode, you'll learn how to: ✔️ Identify the somatic root of people-pleasing, self-silencing, and fear ✔️ Understand why your body reacts before your logic does ✔️ Stop letting outdated survival patterns run your adult life ✔️ Create internal safety so boundaries feel grounded—not threatening ✔️ Step back into leadership over your life with clarity and confidence Your highest self isn't something you need to "become." She's already here—waiting for you to feel safe enough to let her 'drive the car.'   Find me here: Join The Aligned Woman: http://amandaclark.biz/aligned-woman-group-coaching Join The Aligned-Life Membership: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/the-mom-life-collective Free Empower YOU Breathwork: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork

    17 min

  8. JAN 19

    Choosing Truth Over Comfort in 2026

    Have you ever felt lonely in a house full of people? Like you're doing everything… carrying the mental load, keeping the peace, making it "easy" for everyone else—while quietly abandoning yourself? Imagine what could shift if you stopped choosing comfort and started choosing truth. Imagine speaking your needs without guilt. Imagine no longer feeling like you're raising another child in your marriage. Imagine being known—for who you really are. In this episode, we're diving into why so many women silence themselves in relationships, how childhood conditioning wires us to choose belonging over authenticity, and what actually happens when you finally speak your truth—even when it feels uncomfortable. This conversation is for the woman who knows deep down that this can't be it… and is ready to choose herself without burning everything to the ground.   ✨ In this episode, you'll learn how to: ✔️ Spot the invisible emotional contracts running your relationship ✔️ Speak clearly and calmly without guilt or over-explaining ✔️ Reclaim your role as a partner — not a peacekeeper or parent ✔️ Stop accepting "what's left of him" and start asking for more ✔️ Choose truth in small, doable ways that ripple through your life   You don't need to leave your life to change it. But you do need to stop abandoning yourself to keep others comfortable. 🎧 Press play if you're ready to choose truth over comfort—and create relationships that actually feel good.   Find me here: Join The Aligned Woman: http://amandaclark.biz/aligned-woman-group-coaching Join The Aligned-Life Membership: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/the-mom-life-collective Free Empower YOU Breathwork: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork

    22 min
See All (438)

4.8
out of 5
22 Ratings

About

You weren't made to carry the entire emotional load of your home. To raise your kids… and your husband. To shrink yourself just to keep the peace. But if you grew up walking on eggshells, staying small probably feels normal. Those childhood patterns don't disappear when you become an adult. They follow you into marriage. You become the one who manages everything. The house. The kids. Everyone's emotions. And before you know it, it feels like you're raising a grown man instead of being in a partnership. No More "Good Girl" is a podcast for moms who are done over-functioning in marriage and mom life. Amanda helps women understand the childhood patterns that keep them stuck in the "good girl" role — and how to step out of it so their relationship finally starts to shift. Inside the podcast we talk about: • breaking the good-girl conditioning that keeps you silent • boundaries in marriage that actually change the dynamic • what to do when marriage feels like raising another kid • regulating your nervous system so speaking up feels safer • shifting relationship patterns so partnership becomes possible This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about changing how you show up so the entire relationship has something different to respond to. If you're done feeling like you're raising a grown man and ready for real partnership… You're in the right place.

Information

  • Creator
    Amanda Clark
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    438
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    ©2025
  • Show Website
    No More 'Good Girl'