No More 'Good Girl'

Amanda Clark
  • 4.8 (23)
  • Relationships
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You weren't made to carry the entire emotional load of your home. To raise your kids… and your husband. To shrink yourself just to keep the peace. But if you grew up walking on eggshells, staying small probably feels normal. Those childhood patterns don't disappear when you become an adult. They follow you into marriage. You become the one who manages everything. The house. The kids. Everyone's emotions. And before you know it, it feels like you're raising a grown man instead of being in a partnership. No More "Good Girl" is a podcast for moms who are done over-functioning in marriage and mom life. Amanda helps women understand the childhood patterns that keep them stuck in the "good girl" role — and how to step out of it so their relationship finally starts to shift. Inside the podcast we talk about: • breaking the good-girl conditioning that keeps you silent • boundaries in marriage that actually change the dynamic • what to do when marriage feels like raising another kid • regulating your nervous system so speaking up feels safer • shifting relationship patterns so partnership becomes possible This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about changing how you show up so the entire relationship has something different to respond to. If you're done feeling like you're raising a grown man and ready for real partnership… You're in the right place.

  1. 1d ago

    How to Stop Fighting the Same Fight and Finally Repair

    Ever find yourself in the middle of a conversation that starts small and somehow turns into a full-blown emotional explosion?  This episode is for you babe!  I break down why the real issue in conflict usually isn't communication, it's who's driving the car.  When your inner child is running the show, you're more likely to chase, defend, criticize, or try to explain your way back to safety. But when your wise adult comes back online, repair becomes waaayy more possible. Inside this episode, you'll learn a simple four-step repair process that helps you: stick to the facts name the story you made up share what you felt make a clear request I also talk about why repair should happen before you're fully flooded with emotion, why low-stakes moments are the best place to practice, and how tiny "paper cuts" can quietly kill your relationship.  If you've ever wondered whether you're with the wrong person, or felt stuck in the loop of trying to say the right thing at the wrong time, this one will meet you right where you are. Links mentioned in this episode: ✨ Free Live Relationship Masterclass ✨ Join the Deeply Loved Woman Collective ✨ Grab the Relationship Repair Guide

  2. Aug 17

    Why you Become Someone You Don't Recognize During Conflict

    Ever walked away from an argument and thought, what the hell was that?  You love your partner. You know how you want to show up. But you find yourself defending, shutting down, chasing, criticizing, or saying things you don't mean at times. That's your inner 9-year-old grabbing the wheel. In this episode, I'm breaking down why this happens, how your old survival patterns show up in your marriage, and the one question that will help you catch yourself before the pattern takes over. ✔ Why your reaction can feel bigger than the moment ✔ How your adaptive child learned to keep you safe ✔ The difference between your adaptive child and your wise adult ✔ The question to ask when you feel yourself getting activated ✔ Why knowing your patterns isn't the same as knowing how to change them The goal isn't to get rid of the part of you that learned how to survive. It's to love her enough to let your wise adult take the wheel. LINKS ✨ FREE Live Relationship Masterclass: https://momlifemastery.as.me/relationship-masterclass ✨ Join the Deeply Loved Woman Collective: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership ✨ Grab the Relationship Repair Guide: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women ✨ Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/

  3. Aug 10

    Repair is Like the Steering Wheel in a Car

    Healthy relationships don't stay connected because they never drift. They stay connected because they know how to find their way back. In this episode, I'm sharing the steering wheel metaphor that completely changed how I think about repair. You'll learn why resentment isn't created by one big fight, but by the small moments that never get repaired—and how tiny shifts can completely change the direction of your relationship. ✔ Why healthy relationships are built on small, everyday repairs ✔ How resentment grows from tiny moments that are left unresolved ✔ The difference between fixing a problem and coming back to connection ✔ Why repair creates emotional safety in your relationship ✔ Two simple practices you can start using today to strengthen your connection You don't need grand gestures to build a healthy relationship. Small moments of repair and appreciation, repeated over time, change everything. LINKS ✨ FREE Live Relationship Masterclass: https://momlifemastery.as.me/relationship-masterclass ✨ Join the Deeply Loved Woman Collective: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership ✨ Grab the Relationship Repair Guide: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women ✨ Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/

  4. Aug 3

    Healthy Couples Don't Avoid Conflict — They Repair Faster

    So many of us have been taught that healthy relationships should feel easy, peaceful, and conflict-free all the time. But that's not actually how real relationships work. In this episode, I share: - why fighting doesn't automatically mean something is wrong - why healthy couples still hurt, misunderstand, and disappoint each other - why repair matters more than perfection - how resentment builds when ruptures go unaddressed - why it's not your job to carry both sides of the relationship - how to stay in your wise adult self, even when conflict feels uncomfortable The truth is, healthy relationships aren't free of conflict; they know how to repair. If you've ever wondered whether the presence of fighting means you chose the wrong person, this episode will give you a different lens: one that centers skill, safety, and connection instead of perfection. Your relationship isn't failing because conflict shows up. What matters is what happens after. Pick your path: ✨ FREE Live Relationship Masterclass: https://momlifemastery.as.me/relationship-masterclass    ✨ Join the Deeply Loved Woman Collective: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership     ✨ Grab the Relationship Repair Guide: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women

  5. Jul 27

    Why high-functioning women still struggle to hold boundaries

    A boundary isn't really a boundary if it disappears the second things get uncomfortable. A lot of women know what a boundary is. They just don't know how to hold it when their partner pushes back. And that's where so many of us get stuck — not in knowing the boundary, but in taking it back when our old wiring kicks in and we want to keep the peace. In this episode, I'm talking about what it actually looks like to hold a line, why "I'll try" is not the same thing as real accountability, and how small moments of self-abandonment end up shaping the whole relationship over time. Because every time you back down, you teach people how to treat you. And every time you stay with yourself, even when it feels uncomfortable, you build trust. That's the real work. Not knowing the boundary. Holding it. If this landed for you, save it for the next time you're tempted to go back on that boundary!  SHOW NOTE LINKS: ✨ FREE Live Relationship Masterclass: https://momlifemastery.as.me/relationship-masterclass    ✨ Join the Deeply Loved Woman Collective: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership    s Use the Code: 'DEEPLYLOVEDPODCAST' for 50% off until July 31st ✨ Grab the Relationship Repair Guide: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women

  6. Jul 20

    Why Knowing Better Doesn't Mean Doing Better

    You already know what to do. The hard part isn't knowing. It's staying true to yourself when someone else's reaction makes you want to take it all back. Most women don't need another communication tip. They need more capacity to hold a boundary when it feels uncomfortable. In this episode, I'm sharing why awareness alone doesn't create change, the hidden fears that keep women stuck in self-abandonment, and how real self-trust gets built — one uncomfy choice at a time. ✔ Why knowing your patterns doesn't automatically change them ✔ The three fears that keep women from speaking up ✔ What self-abandonment actually looks like in everyday life ✔ Why relationships often feel messier before they feel healthier ✔ How to build self-trust by staying with yourself instead of keeping the peace Your life changes when you stop choosing short-term comfort over long-term connection...with yourself first. If this hit, save it for the next time you're tempted to take it back. SHOW NOTES LINKS: ✨ FREE Live Relationship Masterclass: https://momlifemastery.as.me/relationship-masterclass    ✨ Join the Deeply Loved Woman Collective: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership     ✨ Grab the Relationship Repair Guide: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women

  7. Jul 13

    Help Isn't Support: Why So Many Women Still Carry the Mental Load

    A lot of women are being "helped" in their homes while still carrying the full weight of the relationship. And in this episode, I'm talking about the difference between help and support, because those are not the same thing. If you feel like your partner does things when you ask, but you're still the one tracking, reminding, organizing, and following up, this episode is going to make a lot of things click. Because help can lighten the load for a moment. Support changes how the relationship works altogether. We talk about why help can still leave you carrying the mental load, how over-functioning keeps so many women stuck in resentment, why "just make him a list" isn't the same as real partnership, and what it actually looks like when support is off your plate and out of your head. You don't need more help. You need real support. And the kind of partner who takes responsibility, not just handles assigned tasks. This episode talks about how to make that happen.  SHOW NOTES LINKS: ✨ FREE Live Relationship Masterclass: https://momlifemastery.as.me/relationship-masterclass     ✨ Join the Deeply Loved Woman Collective: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership     ✨ Grab the Relationship Repair Guide: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women

  8. Jul 6

    You Don't Have a Communication Problem — You Have a Pattern with Monique Gomez

    You don't heal by becoming someone else. You heal by finally understanding why you became who you are. If you've ever wondered why you keep people-pleasing, overthinking, avoiding conflict, or feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions... This episode is for you. I sat down with trauma coach and integrative somatic practitioner Monique Gomez to talk about the patterns so many of us carry from childhood into our marriages, friendships, and everyday lives—and why those patterns aren't your personality. They're survival. Imagine if you stopped asking, "What's wrong with me?" And started asking, "What happened to me—and what do I want to choose now?" In this conversation, we talk about what healing actually looks like when you stop blaming yourself and start understanding your nervous system. ✔ Why your childhood survival patterns still show up in your relationships today ✔ The difference between reacting automatically and choosing a new response ✔ Why labeling people keeps you stuck—and what creates real change instead ✔ How boundaries, repair, and nervous system regulation work together ✔ The simple question that helps you step out of control and back into yourself Healing isn't becoming perfect. It's becoming aware enough to choose differently. LINKS ✨ FREE Live Relationship Masterclass: https://momlifemastery.as.me/relationship-masterclass ✨ Join the Deeply Loved Woman Collective: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership ✨ Grab the Relationship Repair Guide: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women Connect with Monique Gomez ✨ Website: https://dtheal.org/ ✨ Free Belief Exercise: https://dtheal.org/beliefs/belief_start  ✨ Eventbrite: https://www.eventbrite.com/o/monique-dare-to-heal-47342140343 ✨ Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMNVVWWS?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420

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You weren't made to carry the entire emotional load of your home. To raise your kids… and your husband. To shrink yourself just to keep the peace. But if you grew up walking on eggshells, staying small probably feels normal. Those childhood patterns don't disappear when you become an adult. They follow you into marriage. You become the one who manages everything. The house. The kids. Everyone's emotions. And before you know it, it feels like you're raising a grown man instead of being in a partnership. No More "Good Girl" is a podcast for moms who are done over-functioning in marriage and mom life. Amanda helps women understand the childhood patterns that keep them stuck in the "good girl" role — and how to step out of it so their relationship finally starts to shift. Inside the podcast we talk about: • breaking the good-girl conditioning that keeps you silent • boundaries in marriage that actually change the dynamic • what to do when marriage feels like raising another kid • regulating your nervous system so speaking up feels safer • shifting relationship patterns so partnership becomes possible This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about changing how you show up so the entire relationship has something different to respond to. If you're done feeling like you're raising a grown man and ready for real partnership… You're in the right place.

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  • Creator
    Amanda Clark
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    461
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    ©2025
  • Show Website
    No More 'Good Girl'

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