No More 'Good Girl'

Amanda Clark
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You weren't made to carry the entire emotional load of your home. To raise your kids… and your husband. To shrink yourself just to keep the peace. But if you grew up walking on eggshells, staying small probably feels normal. Those childhood patterns don't disappear when you become an adult. They follow you into marriage. You become the one who manages everything. The house. The kids. Everyone's emotions. And before you know it, it feels like you're raising a grown man instead of being in a partnership. No More "Good Girl" is a podcast for moms who are done over-functioning in marriage and mom life. Amanda helps women understand the childhood patterns that keep them stuck in the "good girl" role — and how to step out of it so their relationship finally starts to shift. Inside the podcast we talk about: • breaking the good-girl conditioning that keeps you silent • boundaries in marriage that actually change the dynamic • what to do when marriage feels like raising another kid • regulating your nervous system so speaking up feels safer • shifting relationship patterns so partnership becomes possible This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about changing how you show up so the entire relationship has something different to respond to. If you're done feeling like you're raising a grown man and ready for real partnership… You're in the right place.

  1. 2D AGO

    When I Stopped Over-Functioning, My Marriage Had to Change.

    Ever notice how you keep doing the most in your relationship... not because you want to — but because it's just easier than dealing with the fallout? You finish the dinner. You fix the logistics. You smooth things over. And for a long time, it feels like you're just being a good partner. Until one day... the rose-colored glasses come off and you realize something deeper is happening. In this episode, I share a moment from my marriage that revealed a powerful pattern I could no longer ignore. What started as a simple dinner plan turned into a profound wake-up call about emotional labor, codependency, and what real partnership actually looks like. This conversation isn't about blaming your partner. It's about reclaiming your voice, your boundaries, and your power in your relationship. Because the truth is: When you stop picking everything up... your relationship finally has the opportunity to change. Imagine if you could speak up without blowing up your relationship. Imagine feeling safe to ask for the partnership you actually want. Inside this episode you'll learn: ✔️ How to recognize the hidden pattern of "picking things up" for your partner ✔️ Why women often carry emotional and logistical labor without realizing it ✔️ The powerful mindset shift that helped me stop rescuing ✔️ How to communicate needs without triggering defensiveness ✔️ Why letting your partner feel the impact of their behavior can strengthen your relationship If you've ever wondered whether you're asking too much in your relationship... this episode might change the way you see everything. Because wanting real partnership isn't asking too much. And when you shift how you show up... your entire relationship has the opportunity to transform. Find Me Here ✨ Free Empower YOU Breathwork: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork ✨ Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark ✨ The Supported Woman Collective: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership ✨ Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women

    30 min

  2. MAR 23

    Becoming the Supported Woman (What You Actually Want — and Why You're Allowed to Want It)

    Have you ever looked around your life and thought... How did I become the one responsible for everything? The schedules. The meals. The kids' needs. The house. The emotional temperature of the relationship. And somehow... your partner just shows up to the life you built and participates when it's convenient. If you're the strong, capable woman who seems to carry the mental load of the entire family, this episode is for you. Because here's the truth, most women don't realize: You didn't become the "responsible one" in your relationship by accident. You were conditioned for it long before the relationship started. Imagine feeling like you actually have a teammate at home. Imagine asking for support without your heart racing. Imagine not feeling resentful every time you look around the house. In this episode, we talk about: ✔️ Why strong, capable women often end up carrying the entire mental load ✔️ How childhood roles quietly shape adult relationships ✔️ The hidden ways you might be rescuing your partner without realizing it ✔️ Why resentment builds when you keep filling every gap ✔️ What actually shifts the dynamic when you stop managing everything You'll learn why this pattern isn't about blaming men — it's about understanding the dynamic that keeps capable women unsupported. And most importantly... how to begin shifting it. Because you were never meant to carry a relationship alone.   ✨ Free Empower YOU Breathwork https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork ✨ Boundary Babe Academy https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/boundary-mastery ✨ The Supported Woman Collective https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership

    33 min

  3. MAR 16

    Repair Isn't Talking It Out — Here's What Actually Changes a Relationship

    You've had the conversation. You explained yourself clearly. You tried to stay calm. You cried, you softened your tone, you tried again. And yet... you're still having the same fight. If talking things out actually fixed relationships, you wouldn't be stuck in the same exhausting cycle. And the truth is, most women I work with don't avoid hard conversations — they've had plenty of them. So why does nothing change? In this episode, we're talking about the missing piece in relationship repair — the part no one teaches women who were raised to keep the peace, manage everyone else's emotions, and abandon themselves to avoid conflict. Because real repair isn't about saying the right words. It's about becoming the woman who no longer disappears in the relationship. Imagine if you could: ● Speak up without feeling like you're about to destroy your relationship ● Stop chasing, over-explaining, or managing your partner's emotions ● Create a relationship dynamic where support, respect, and partnership actually exist This episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface — and why the change you want starts with how you show up. In This Episode You'll Learn: ✔️ Why "talking it out" often doesn't create real change in relationships ✔️ The nervous system pattern that keeps couples stuck in the same fights ✔️ How to stop abandoning yourself just to keep the peace ✔️ Why making your partner a little uncomfortable can actually improve your relationship ✔️ The identity shift that changes your relationship dynamic — even if your partner never goes to therapy This conversation is especially powerful if you grew up in a home where you had to stay small, keep the peace, or manage other people's emotions to feel safe. Because healing your relationship isn't about fixing every argument. It's about becoming a woman who trusts her voice again. Links Mentioned in This Episode ✨ Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women ✨ The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership

    15 min

  4. MAR 9

    Why the same fights keep happening (and talking doesn't fix it)

    You walk away from another fight thinking… "Did we seriously just do that again?" Same argument. Same tone. Same shutdown. Same tears. And you're left wondering why nothing is changing. Maybe you've tried explaining it better. Waiting for the right moment. Crying so he understands how serious it feels. Or worse… lowering the bar and telling yourself maybe you're just asking for too much. But what if you're not fighting about dishes, sex, money, or the kids? What if you're stuck in a nervous system loop? In this episode, we're breaking down the pursue–withdraw cycle, abandonment wounds, emotional shutdown, and why you cannot solve a regulation problem with better wording. Because when one nervous system escalates and the other shuts down… logic is gone. And repair doesn't start with agreement. It starts with regulation. Imagine being able to: ✔️ Recognize when you're activated (before the explosion) ✔️ Stop chasing or shutting down in the heat of the moment ✔️ Take a clean, powerful break without making it worse ✔️ Bring something up without opening the door to defensiveness ✔️ Interrupt the loop instead of replaying it You are not bad at communication. You are trying to solve a nervous system problem with words. And once you see that? Everything shifts. Find Me Here: ✨ Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women ✨ The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership

    20 min

  5. MAR 2

    Why We Choose the partners we do

    You keep thinking, "If I could just explain it better… maybe he'd finally understand." You replay the fight in your head. You wonder if you chose the wrong partner. You question yourself. Again. But what if this isn't a communication problem? What if you're not broken? What if you're simply outgrowing survival strategies that once kept you safe? In this episode, we're diving into adaptive child behaviors — the nervous system patterns you developed as a little girl that are still quietly running your marriage today. Because here's the truth: You didn't choose your partner from logic. You chose from familiarity. And when you understand that? Everything softens. We're talking about why the "clingy vs. avoidant" dance happens… why the same fight keeps replaying… and how to shift out of over-functioning, shutting down, sweeping things under the rug — without blowing up your relationship. Imagine being able to bring something up without triggering defensiveness. Imagine responding instead of reacting. Imagine feeling steady in your body instead of spiraling in a fight. This episode will help you: ✔️ Understand how your childhood conditioning still shows up in your marriage ✔️ Identify your adaptive child patterns (and your partner's) ✔️ Learn why this is NOT just a communication issue ✔️ Shift from reactive survival mode into your "wise adult" ✔️ Start repairing in a way that actually creates change You are not failing at relationships. You are outgrowing old survival strategies. And that changes everything. Find Me Here: ✨ Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women ✨ The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/supported-woman-membership

    15 min

  6. FEB 23

    The Silent Treatment: Why It Works — and Why You Stop Responding

    Silence can hurt more than yelling. If your stomach drops when your partner shuts down... If the quiet makes you spiral, overthink, apologize, or chase... If you've ever softened your truth just to keep the peace... This episode is for you. Because the silent treatment? It's not self-regulation. It's not space. And it's definitely not healthy communication. It's emotional withdrawal — often used to create leverage, not connection. And for women who grew up managing emotions to stay safe, silence doesn't feel neutral. It feels like danger. In this episode, I unpack: ✔️ Why the silent treatment triggers old wounds and codependent patterns ✔️ The difference between healthy space vs. emotional control ✔️ How over-apologizing, softening, or over-explaining reinforces the cycle ✔️ What to do when silence shows up — without becoming reactive or cold ✔️ How to stop chasing and start self-honoring without blowing up your relationship You'll learn how to stop rewarding withdrawal with pursuit... and how to step out of the pattern with clarity, calm, and truth. This isn't about fixing your partner. It's about choosing yourself without guilt, fear, or collapse. LINKS: ● Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women ● Free Empower YOU Breathwork: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork ● Boundary Babe Academy: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/boundary-mastery ● Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/ ● The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: http://amandaclark.biz/supported-woman-group-coaching

    14 min

  7. FEB 16

    Enmeshment: When Other People's Feelings Quietly Become Your Job

    You grew up learning how to read a room before you learned how to read a book. You learned to stay quiet. To manage emotions that weren't yours. To keep the peace so you'd stay safe. And now you're wondering why your relationships feel heavy, why boundaries feel terrifying, and why you tolerate more than you ever should. Imagine understanding why you feel responsible for everyone else's emotions. Imagine finally putting down the invisible backpack you've been carrying your whole life. Imagine choosing yourself without drowning in guilt. In this episode, we're diving deep into enmeshment, codependency, and emotionally immature family systems — and how these childhood dynamics follow us straight into adulthood, romantic relationships, and even motherhood. This conversation will crack things open if you've ever felt like: The truth teller in your family The "good girl" who kept everything together The one who gets blamed for rocking the boat In this episode, you'll learn how to: ✔️ Identify enmeshment vs. codependency — and how each one shows up in your body and behavior ✔️ Understand hero child vs. scapegoat child roles and how they shape adult relationships ✔️ Stop managing emotions that were never yours to carry ✔️ Recognize why chronic defensiveness erodes connection over time ✔️ Set boundaries without shrinking yourself or over-explaining You're not broken. You adapted to survive. And now you get to choose something healthier.   LINKS: Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women Free Empower YOU Breathwork: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork   Boundary Babe Academy: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/boundary-mastery  Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/ The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: http://amandaclark.biz/supported-woman-group-coaching

    24 min

  8. FEB 9

    Emotionally Closed-Off Partners: What's Really Going On

    Show Notes: Have you ever felt lonely inside your relationship? Like you're doing all the emotional heavy lifting—asking, explaining, softening, fixing—while your partner stays distant, quiet, or shut down? Imagine if you could stop chasing connection… and still feel close. Imagine setting boundaries without blowing up your relationship. Imagine finally understanding that you're not "too much"—you're just asking for what every human needs: safety, connection, and truth. In this episode, we're talking about emotionally shut down (or emotionally avoidant) partners—where it comes from, why it hurts so much, and how to stop abandoning yourself in the process of trying to keep the peace. This conversation is especially for the women who learned to be "the good girl," the fixer, the one who doesn't need much—but secretly feels exhausted, resentful, and alone. Inside this episode, you'll learn: ✔️ Why emotionally shut down partners aren't cold or heartless—they're protecting themselves ✔️ How childhood roles (hero child, fixer, self-sufficient one) shape adult relationships ✔️ The difference between attunement and codependency—and why monitoring your partner's emotions is costing you ✔️ What doesn't work with emotionally avoidant partners (and why chasing creates more distance) ✔️ How asserting yourself clearly actually creates more safety, not less ✔️ Why boundaries are required for real intimacy—and how to stop seeing them as "mean" If you've been editing yourself, lowering your needs, or telling yourself you're asking for too much… this episode will meet you right there—and help you shift the pattern without losing yourself. LINKS: Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women Free Empower YOU Breathwork: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork   Boundary Babe Academy: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/boundary-mastery  Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/ The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: http://amandaclark.biz/supported-woman-group-coaching

    23 min
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You weren't made to carry the entire emotional load of your home. To raise your kids… and your husband. To shrink yourself just to keep the peace. But if you grew up walking on eggshells, staying small probably feels normal. Those childhood patterns don't disappear when you become an adult. They follow you into marriage. You become the one who manages everything. The house. The kids. Everyone's emotions. And before you know it, it feels like you're raising a grown man instead of being in a partnership. No More "Good Girl" is a podcast for moms who are done over-functioning in marriage and mom life. Amanda helps women understand the childhood patterns that keep them stuck in the "good girl" role — and how to step out of it so their relationship finally starts to shift. Inside the podcast we talk about: • breaking the good-girl conditioning that keeps you silent • boundaries in marriage that actually change the dynamic • what to do when marriage feels like raising another kid • regulating your nervous system so speaking up feels safer • shifting relationship patterns so partnership becomes possible This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about changing how you show up so the entire relationship has something different to respond to. If you're done feeling like you're raising a grown man and ready for real partnership… You're in the right place.

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  • Creator
    Amanda Clark
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    441
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    ©2025
  • Show Website
    No More 'Good Girl'