Breaking the Silence

Raynea Wallace
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Welcome to Breaking the Silence—honest conversations about grief, faith, healing, and becoming whole again. I’m Raynea Wallace, joined by my cohost Kelli. This podcast is for women navigating the quiet after loss—finding their footing, identity, and voice again. We talk about motherhood in hard seasons, midlife shifts, relationships, unanswered prayers, and learning to live again. Real stories, deep conversations, and grace—because healing doesn’t happen alone. You’re not alone. Welcome to our community.

  1. 5d ago

    Why Do Avoidants Go Cold After Being So Loving? | Understanding Avoidant Attachment & Deactivation

    Have you ever felt like someone went from loving and connected to distant and cold almost overnight? In this episode, Raynea and Kelli explore why avoidant attachment can create this painful shift, what deactivation actually is, and why so many people feel blindsided when an avoidant partner suddenly pulls away. Together, they discuss the nervous system, fear of intimacy, emotional withdrawal, the anxious-avoidant cycle, and the important difference between understanding someone's wounds and abandoning yourself in the process. If you've ever found yourself asking, "What happened?" or "Was any of it real?" this conversation is for you.

    32 min

  2. May 20

    Why Your Body Reacts Before Your Mind Understands (Especially in Love)

    What if your body reacts before your mind even understands what’s happening? You meet someone you care about… and suddenly you feel anxious, overwhelmed, emotionally shut down, or like you need to pull away. Nothing looks wrong on the outside. But inside, your nervous system is sounding alarms. In this episode, Raynea and Kelli talk about why your body responds so quickly in relationships, how attachment wounds and past pain shape your nervous system, and why you’re not “crazy” or overreacting. Your body is trying to protect you. We discuss: • why your nervous system asks “am I safe?” before anything else • how past abandonment, inconsistency, grief, and relationship pain affect the body • why some people cling tighter while others pull away • practical ways to regulate your nervous system when triggered • how to slow down and respond instead of react • bringing God into the healing process • simple ways to create emotional safety in your body This episode is filled with practical, gentle tools to help you feel more grounded, connected, and aware of what’s happening inside of you. And if you need a place to start, Raynea also shares her guided practice, 10 Minutes to Feel Held, linked in the show notes. If this episode encouraged you, make sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs this reminder today. We send you off with so much love. 10 Minutes to Feel Held

    34 min

  3. May 13

    Why You Don’t Feel Safe — Even When Nothing Is Wrong

    Do you love God and still struggle with anxiety, emotional triggers, or feeling unsafe in relationships? You’re not broken. And your faith isn’t weak. Sometimes your spirit trusts God… while your nervous system is still responding to grief, trauma, abandonment, or relationship wounds. In this episode, Raynea and Kelli talk about why your body may not feel safe even when there’s no immediate danger, how attachment wounds impact your nervous system, and what scripture says about healing, rest, and emotional safety. We discuss: • why survival responses show up in relationships • what fight, flight, freeze, and fawn can look like • why faith should never be used to bypass healing • scriptures to return to when anxiety rises • practical ways to regulate your nervous system with God If you’ve ever wondered why you still feel triggered even though you pray, trust God, and want peace… this episode is for you. FREE RESOURCE: 10 Minutes to Feel Held A guided audio + prayer resource to help you feel grounded when anxiety, grief, or overwhelm rises.CLICK HERE Connect with us on Instagram: Raynea: https://www.instagram.com/rayneawallace Kelli: https://www.instagram.com/alohagray Resource mentioned in this episode: He Calls Me Daughter Listen to Breaking the Silence: Spotify: CLICK HERE Apple Podcasts: CLICK HERE YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@breakingthesilencewithraynea

    34 min

  4. May 11 ·  Bonus

    Not All Avoidants Leave for the Same Reason

    Why do some people shut down and walk away… while others leave, come back, and repeat the same cycle? If you’ve ever felt confused by avoidant behavior in relationships, this episode will help you make sense of what’s actually happening underneath. Not all avoidant attachment patterns are the same. In this bonus episode, Raynea breaks down the difference between dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment so you can better understand relationship patterns, emotional triggers, and nervous system responses in love. You’ll learn why one pattern tends to detach and avoid connection, while the other moves through a push-pull cycle of wanting closeness and then feeling overwhelmed by it. This episode also connects to our May focus on nervous system healing and trauma-informed faith, helping you see how your body responds to emotional safety, vulnerability, and connection. Inside this episode: • the difference between dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment • why dismissive avoidants shut down, withdraw, or avoid emotional intimacy • why fearful avoidants leave and then question their decision • what the push-pull dynamic looks like in relationships • how attachment styles are connected to nervous system responses • small, practical steps each style can take toward emotional safety and healing • how to stop making decisions from emotional overwhelm If you’ve ever wondered: Why do they pull away when things feel close? Why do they come back after leaving? Why does love feel confusing or inconsistent? This episode will give you clarity, language, and practical insight you can start using right away. You are not too much. You are not asking for too much. And you are not broken. Your nervous system learned how to protect you. And it can learn how to feel safe again. — Listen to more episodes of Breaking the Silence on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Connect with Raynea on Instagram: @RayneaWallace Connect with Kelli on Instagram: @alohagray If this episode helped you, share it with someone who needs clarity in their relationships or is trying to understand attachment styles and emotional triggers. We send you off with so much love.

    15 min

  5. May 6

    Why You’re Not Overreacting… You’re Dysregulated

    If you’ve ever asked yourself… “Why do I overthink everything in relationships?” “Why do I panic when someone pulls away?” “Why do I shut down when things feel too close?” “Why do I feel triggered by things that seem small?” This episode is for you. In this week’s episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli are unpacking the connection between attachment styles and nervous system regulation and why you may not be overreacting at all… you may be dysregulated. They break down how this shows up in anxious attachment, fearful avoidant attachment, and dismissive avoidant attachment and explain why your body can respond to relationship triggers as if danger is happening right now. Raynea shares how the nervous system can feel like a bear is chasing you, even when there’s no actual threat, and how old wounds, grief, trauma, abandonment, and past relationship pain can keep your body stuck in survival mode. They also talk about: • nervous system dysregulation in relationships • trauma responses and emotional triggers • healing anxious attachment • healing avoidant attachment • fearful avoidant attachment patterns • how trauma is stored in the body • faith and emotional healing • how God created your nervous system • how God meets you in moments of anxiety, fear, and emotional activation • practical tools to regulate your nervous system and move toward secure attachment Healing is about teaching your body that you are safe now. And most importantly… remembering that God meets you right in the middle of your healing journey. If this episode resonated with you and you’re looking for a simple way to begin feeling grounded and supported, download my free resource, 10 Minutes to Feel Held, a guided prayer and grounding experience created to help you regulate your nervous system and reconnect with God in moments of overwhelm. I’ll share the link below. 10 Minutes to Feel Held And if you’d like to connect further, you can find me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/RayneaWallace We’re so grateful you’re here. We send you off with so much love.

    1 hr

  6. Apr 22

    The Guilt Mothers Carry (That No One Talks About)

    Motherhood comes with a kind of guilt that most women never say out loud. The quiet kind. The guilt when you feel overwhelmed.The guilt when you need space.The guilt when your kids are struggling.The guilt when you want something for yourself. In this episode, Raynea and Kelli talk honestly about why so many mothers feel responsible for everyone’s emotional world. They walk through: • How attachment shapes this pattern• How guilt shows up in real, everyday moments• The added weight of grief and blended families• How faith helps you release what was never yours to carry This is a conversation that will help you slow down and notice where guilt has been running the show… and begin to loosen its grip. You were never meant to carry it all. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stretched thin, Raynea also shares “10 Minutes to Feel Held” inside the episode. A simple way to ground yourself, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with God. We send you off with so much love. Click here to be Held

    36 min

  7. Apr 15

    Who Am I Outside of Who Everyone Needs Me to Be?

    Who are you… outside of everything and everyone that depends on you? In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation about what happens when your identity slowly becomes wrapped up in caring for everyone else. If you’ve spent years showing up as the one who holds it all together, you may find yourself wondering when you stopped asking what you need… or who you even are anymore. We talk about how this shift happens so quietly in motherhood, relationships, and caregiving. How you become the one who remembers everything, manages everyone’s emotions, and keeps life moving… while slowly losing connection with yourself. We also open up about how grief can deepen this experience. When loss forces you into survival mode, there often isn’t space to process your own needs or desires. You just keep going. But this episode isn’t just about what’s been lost. It’s about beginning again. We talk about: • How identity gets shaped through caregiving and survival • The guilt many women feel when they want something for themselves • Why reconnecting with yourself is not selfish • Small, gentle ways to start rediscovering who you are You’ll be reminded that God didn’t create you to only exist for others. You are allowed to be a mother, a caregiver, and a whole person with your own desires, dreams, and identity. If you’ve been feeling like a version of yourself got left behind somewhere along the way… this conversation is for you. And if you need a place to start, Raynea shares a simple resource, “10 Minutes to Feel Held,” to help you slow down, breathe, and reconnect with God in the middle of it all. You’re not lost. You’re still in there. We send you off with so much love.

    33 min

  8. Apr 8

    Attachment in Blended Families: When Love Isn’t Instant

    What if love… doesn’t come instantly? In blended families, we’re often told everything should just “fall into place.” But what happens when it doesn’t? In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli have an honest conversation about the reality of blending families — when connection is slow, emotions are layered, and attachment takes time. Raynea shares from her experience fostering for 8 years and adopting 5 children, while Kelli opens up about blending her family — bringing her son into a marriage where her husband had two children of his own. Together, they unpack why attachment can feel complicated, how children process change and loss, and the quiet pressure mothers carry to make everything work. If it feels harder than you expected… you’re not alone. And you’re not doing it wrong. 💛 Plus, a gentle invitation into 10 Minutes to Feel Held — a free guided prayer and reflection to help you rest and reconnect when you’re carrying so much. 10 Minutes to Feel Held

    49 min
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Welcome to Breaking the Silence—honest conversations about grief, faith, healing, and becoming whole again. I’m Raynea Wallace, joined by my cohost Kelli. This podcast is for women navigating the quiet after loss—finding their footing, identity, and voice again. We talk about motherhood in hard seasons, midlife shifts, relationships, unanswered prayers, and learning to live again. Real stories, deep conversations, and grace—because healing doesn’t happen alone. You’re not alone. Welcome to our community.

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  • Creator
    Raynea Wallace
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    74
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Raynea Wallace
  • Show Website
    Breaking the Silence

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