In this episode of Cake for Dinner, we sit down with Ryan Soave, trauma expert, therapist, speaker, and friend, for a powerful conversation about trauma, addiction, parenting, relationships, emotional discomfort, and the nervous system. Ryan opens up about how his own years of pain, alcoholism, drug addiction, treatment, and recovery led him into trauma work. He explains that trauma is not always about one major life event. Sometimes it is about the way we were shaped, the environments we grew up in, and the survival patterns we carried into adulthood. This conversation explores the difference between big T and little T trauma, why labeling everything as trauma can sometimes move people into a victim state, and how healing begins when we understand the ways our past still drives our present. Ryan also breaks down how unresolved trauma can keep the body in a heightened stress response, why so many people hold stress in their shoulders, jaw, neck, sleep, and nervous system, and why living in survival mode over time can take a toll on the body. Ryan also shares one of the core ideas behind his work: as human beings, we often confuse discomfort with threat, and we react to emotional discomfort as if we are in actual danger. From there, the conversation moves into addiction, relief-seeking, parenting from fear, social media anxiety, marriage, rupture and repair, men’s emotional vulnerability, purpose, and his upcoming book concept around learning how to feel bad. This episode is honest, deep, funny, emotional, and incredibly useful for anyone interested in trauma healing, recovery, parenting, relationships, nervous system regulation, or understanding why we react the way we do. Learn more about Keesha: https://keeshascott.com/ Book Pre Order CAKE FOR DINNER: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0H5CW77FP?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creativeASIN=B0H5CW77FP&linkCode=xm2&tag=simonsayscom&dplnkId=ca66e48c-1d99-4095-a35e-8d40794ffd1d&nodl=1 Follow Ryan Soave: https://www.instagram.com/ryan.soave