34 episodes
Confidence Confidence Chris
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4.7 • 46 Ratings
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Welcome to ‘Confidence,’ a podcast where I get deep in my feelings, offering an authentic glimpse into my life through stories filled with raw honesty and explicit details.
This show is dedicated to helping you overcome any dating and mindset obstacles featuring questions and situations provided by the listeners, although please note I do not give a single f**k about how you perceive me or confirming to traditional standards of professionalism.
Hosted by, @confidencechris. I work closely with high-value individuals who strive for elevated self-confidence and genuine relationships. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confidence-chris/support
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Love Me Not
In this episode, we discuss striking a careful balance between having to know where you stand with your relationship and just going with the flow. To help you make a first impression and establish the foundation for a deep relationship, I share helpful first-date advice. Have you ever been perplexed by someone whose behaviour contradicts their claimed need for a relationship? We'll uncover the signs and discuss how to interpret these conflicting messages with assurance and clarity.
Chapters
17:53 Go With the Flow, or Do You Need to Know?
34:58 Dealing With Someone Who Says They Want a Relationship but Doesn't Act Like It
47:43 First Date Tips
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Grown Apart
Let's explore the psychology behind why our feelings change once we get what we thought we wanted and the self-reflection that comes with it. Why do we lose interest once we finally have the person we desire? Is it about them, or is it more about us? I’ll also talk about how exhausting it can be to constantly show up for people who don’t show up for you in return. It's draining, but necessary to make tough choices. We'll discuss the courage it takes to walk away from relationships that no longer serve us and how to handle the emotional aftermath.
Chapters
34:41 Why Do I want Someone but Once I have Them I Don’t Want Them Anymore
51:12 Distancing Yourself From People You Care About but Don’t Align with Anymore
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Humble Yourself
I don't think you understand how deep the ego goes. You think you're dating and showing up with pure intentions, but if we take a look a little deeper, you might find some dark truths about your behavior. I explore the power of non-attachment and practicing non-judgment. I then confront you on the real reasons you are not dating right now. I field a question regarding casual relationships: can you have a casual relationship that is also emotional? I then react to a heartfelt situation about getting over someone who is already over you.
Chapters
00:00 Non-Attachment & Non-Judgment
11:40 My Ex Got Married
15:15 Celibacy Era
31:03 Casual Emotional Dating
41:52 Sad About a Boy
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Be Judgmental
This is the week you actually start being judgemental! I plead for you to trust your instincts and live for your own expectations. I talk about how many of us grew up with emotionally dismissive parents and how it can lead to your people pleasing and high standards, but before I hit you with the hard stuff, I absolutely trauma dump my inner battle with jealousy and envy. Isn't it funny that sometimes you can do all the right things and still end up wrong.
Chapters:
00:00 Trauma Dump
28:03 Dating With Fewer Expectations
41:32 The Only Time You're Allowed to Be Judgemental
54:04 Emotionally Dismissive Parents
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Diary of an Avoidant
When is enough enough? This week, I get deep into feelings about why it is hard for men to settle for the ones they "love." I then tackle how to combat the love bomber and the importance of controlling your access. Someone asked me what does "setting a bound even mean? I provide some guidance and examples to give you a better understanding. This then ties into a question I received about playing hard to get. Inside is the roadmap for more success with men.
Chapters:
00:00 Diary of an Avoidant
35:34 How to Handle a Love Bomber
50:19 What Does Holding Your Boundaries Mean?
59:48 Playing Hard to Get
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Why They Won't Commit
This week, I come out swinging! I'm done listing to the online boss babes and hype women, and I am here to deliver the hard truth of why they haven't committed yet. I then move into why your fear of wasting your time is hurting your dating life and where your anxious attachment can kill your spark in communication. I end the podcast with some vulnerability about the dog days of being really fucking single. Strap in for some brutal honesty.
Chapters:
00:00 Boss Babes, False Hype Women, and Commitment
16:36 Fear of Time Being Wasted
38:13 How to Handle Their Distant Communication
51:27 The Dog Days of Being Single
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Customer Reviews
Deleted texts episode
While I was listening to the deleted texts episode I feel like I’m finally seeing Chris grow and become the man he’s supposed to be
Oh new perspective on dudes 😏
I look forward to hearing a new episode from Chris! He’s absolutely hilarious, real, and has great dating/life wisdom! This podcast has helped me understand and love myself more, and given me great insight on the dude psych !( it’s hard out here for a real one )! Definitely a highlight of my week. I hope you come out with a book soon!! Thank you! 😂💕
Needs improvement
Chris…. I liked your episode about “Inside the Mind of an Avoidant.” But please do more self-work before claiming to be a “relationship coach” or hosting a podcast named “confidence”. I recognize you said in one of your episodes that your own attachment style might be a mix between “dismissive” and “anxious”. But, please hear me out: some of what you say in your episodes are disturbing. You flip-flop between referring to your long distance thing as a “situation”, but I’ve also heard you call it a “relationship.” Multiple times an episode, you flip/flop on this. I hear you say a lot about how much you like her…. But literally a minute later, you tell us you’re “operating as if you’re single, because it’s long distance.” You’ve also claimed to not be a sex addict. That’s fair; I don’t know you Chris. But I am listening to an episode where you say “this relationship isn’t real because I cannot touch her, etc.” In a different episode, I hear you tell us that you’re struggling not to have sex with anyone for two months. Two months? Also the part where you tell us where, on at least one occasion, you’re worried that when your “situationship/ long distance girl” doesn’t answer her phone, you start to think she’s cheating on you. But in the same story, you admit to hanging out with another woman, alone, at your house, under the influence of mind-altering substances. It honestly sounds like something a textbook, insecure cheater would say to appease the woman he’s cheating on. Long story short: I hope more naive, perhaps younger men do not take your advice. I hope your “long distance girl” (who genuinely sounds like a good person), considers that she might be dating a narcissist.