Conversations for Couples

Conversations for Couples
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Married for 37 years and parents of four daughters (two adopted, two biological), David, a divorce lawyer, and Julie, a family therapist, have both been witness to families struggling with life’s most difficult challenges and at the same time, they have weathered their own struggles at home.  Authors of two award winning books, the Bulitts delve into the conversations they have had, those they should have had and those that every couple needs to have in order to find success, happiness and fulfillment.      

  1. 5d ago

    Change - Love it or Leave It

    Change is hard, even when it's good for you. In this episode of Conversations for Couples, family therapist Julie Bulitt and divorce attorney David Bulitt turn the microphone on their own marriage to unpack why some people crave change while others dread it, and how that mismatch plays out in everyday decisions big and small. The conversation starts with something small (getting a second dog) and opens into something bigger: how couples navigate change when one partner wants it and the other doesn't. Julie admits she is change averse and prefers predictability, while David describes himself as more adaptable. They trace how that difference showed up when David fell for a rescue puppy named Archie (originally named Crusher), how Julie eventually came around, and what that process revealed about compromise in a long marriage. Julie and David widen the lens to talk about change that gets imposed on a relationship, like a shift in finances that forces a couple to cut back, and why that kind of forced change can hit even harder than change someone chooses for themselves. They also talk about why so many people stay stuck in unhappy situations simply because the unknown feels scarier than the familiar. What You'll Learn: Why some people are naturally more resistant to change than others How unspoken assumptions about stability and comfort can create friction in a relationship The difference between change you choose and change that gets imposed on you Why acknowledging what's triggering about a change matters more than trying to "meet in the middle" How Julie and David worked through a real disagreement over adopting their puppy, Archie. Learn more about the Bulitts and their work at thebulitts.com, or connect with them on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, TikTok, and LinkedIn @TheBulitts. Julie Bulitt is a licensed clinical social worker and family therapist. David Bulitt is a divorce and family lawyer. Julie is not your therapist and David is not your lawyer. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

  2. Jul 30

    Empty Nesting Together

    In this episode of Conversations for Couples, Julie and David Bulitt sit down with Amy and Neil Thompson, also known as "Better With Age Together" on Instagram. This inspiring couple shares how they’ve embraced life as empty nesters by building healthier lifestyles and strengthening their marriage. Amy and Neil talk about their journey with Faster Way to Fat Loss, why they focus on God’s food, the power of connection through shared goals, and how couples can navigate this new chapter with confidence. From balancing work, fitness, and personal time to overcoming challenges, their tips are practical, uplifting, and relatable for any couple. 🔗 Connect with Amy & Neil Thompson:https://www.fasterwaycoach.com/#Neilandamyamythompsonlifestyle@gmail.comIG @betterwithage.together Follow Conversations for Couples: Instagram: @TheBulittsFacebook: The BulittsWebsite: www.thebulitts.com🎙️ Hosted by Julie & David Bulitt: Licensed Clinical Social Worker & Divorce and Family Lawyer💬 Have questions or comments? Share them below and subscribe for more meaningful conversations!

  3. Jul 16

    Raising Resilient Kids

    Julie and David Bulitt sit down with Jeff Nelligan, author of "The Four Lessons from My Three Sons," former congressional staffer, presidential appointee, Army veteran, and Georgetown Law graduate, for a refreshing, no-nonsense conversation about raising resilient kids. Jeff shares the strategies he used to build independence in his three boys (all of whom became military officers), from the famous "$5 in the mall" challenge to turning everyday errands into teaching moments. Together they dig into the dangers of helicopter and snowplow parenting, why kids need to fail while the stakes are still small, and how letting children struggle actually builds the confidence and ambition they'll carry into adulthood. Julie offers a therapist's perspective on kids facing real adversity, and David presses Jeff on how two parents get on the same page about a firmer parenting style. Whether you're raising toddlers or launching a teenager toward college, this episode is full of hidden gems on courtesy, confidence, resilience, and ambition — the four components of a "good kid." Find Jeff and his book:Website: https://www.nelliganbooks.comInstagram: @Nelligan_booksX (Twitter): Resilient SonsFacebook: Jeff Nelligan Books Connect with The Bulitts:Website: https://thebulitts.com/Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, and YouTube — @TheBulitts everywhere you look. Julie Bulitt is a licensed clinical social worker and family therapist. David Bulitt is a divorce and family lawyer. This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

  4. Jul 2

    Money Talks: Follow the Same Path

    Money fights are one of the most common breaking points for couples, but they do not have to be. In this episode of Conversations for Couples, Julie and David Bulitt sit down with Dee Zimmerman, a financial relationship coach and money communication expert who blends Gottman informed communication tools with practical financial strategies to help couples manage money together, and manage it peacefully. Dee walks through why money is so hard to talk about in the first place (hint: it starts with the different families we grew up in), how the Four Horsemen of criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling show up in money conversations, and how her Wealth Partnership Pathway helps couples build emotional safety before they ever look at a spreadsheet. Julie and David also open up about their own early struggles with debt and how working through it together made their marriage stronger. What You'll Learn: Why couples so often have completely different "money wiring" and what to do about it How the Gottman Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) show up specifically in financial conversations What the Wealth Partnership Pathway looks like and why emotional safety has to come before numbers and systems How to reignite honest conversations about money dreams without judgment Julie and David's personal story of digging out of debt together early in their marriage Dee's top two takeaways for couples who want to change how they talk about money About Dee Zimmerman: Dee Zimmerman is a Financial Relationship Coach and Money Communication Expert, and the founder of Freedom Lab, where she helps couples lower the tension around money and build wealth as a team. Website: https://www.dzimmermanfinance.com Money Talks Quiz: https://www.dzimmermanfinance.com/quiz 7 Financial Blind Spots Guide: https://www.dzimmermanfinance.com/blind-spots Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dzimmermanfinance/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dzimmermanfinance LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dzimmermanfinance/ Email: dee@dzimmermanfinance.comAbout Your Hosts: Julie Bulitt is a licensed clinical social worker and family therapist. David Bulitt is a divorce and family lawyer. Together they host Conversations for Couples, the podcast. Website: https://thebulitts.com/ Follow The Bulitts: @TheBulitts on all major social media platforms Julie is not your therapist and David is not your lawyer. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

  5. Jun 18

    Finding the Lives They Deserve

    In this episode, Julie and David interview Brad Weaber and Mitchell Plave, a couple who both came out later in life after years of marriage. Brad and Mitchell share their journeys of self-discovery, navigating divorce, co-parenting, and building an authentic life together. They discuss how they use business principles like goal-setting and performance reviews in their relationship, managing different parenting styles, upcoming grandparenthood, and planning for the next chapter of their lives. A candid and inspiring conversation about finding true authenticity and building a thriving partnership.Hosts: Julie Bulitt (Licensed Clinical Social Worker & Family Therapist) and David Bulitt (Divorce & Family Attorney)Guests: Brad Weaber and Mitchell PlaveWebsite: thebulitts.comSocial: @TheBulitts (all platforms)YouTube: Conversations for Couples

  6. Jun 4

    THE RAS: What is it? Why do you need to know?

    Your brain is constantly filtering what you notice - and that filter might be sabotaging your relationship. Julie and David Bulitt explore the Reticular Activating System (RAS), a neuroscience concept that explains why you might only see the negative in your partner when you're disconnected, how it blinds you to red flags when you're newly in love, and most importantly, how to retrain your brain to notice the positive. They discuss the 5:1 ratio, the danger of affairs and disconnection, and practical tools like gratitude journaling and assuming good intentions to shift your RAS into positive territory. If you've ever wondered why your perception of your partner can change so dramatically, this episode has the answers. Learn more at thebulitts.com Subscribe on YouTube: @TheBulitts Julie is not your therapist and David is not your lawyer. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

  7. May 21

    Marriage and Money with Rachel Cruze

    Money is one of the biggest sources of conflict in marriage — but it doesn't have to be. In this episode, Julie and David sit down with Rachel Cruze, two-time #1 national bestselling author, financial expert, and host of The Rachel Cruze Show, for an honest and insightful conversation about how money habits, money personalities, and money histories shape our most intimate relationships. Rachel shares how growing up as Dave Ramsey's daughter — born just months before her parents filed bankruptcy — shaped her life's mission of helping people win with money before they hit rock bottom. Together, Julie, David, and Rachel dig into the real reasons couples fight about money, and what to do about it. In this episode: The two most common money conflicts couples face — and how to navigate them Spenders vs. savers: how opposites can actually make each other stronger Why your "money story" from childhood may be running your finances today The shame and guilt cycle around money — and how to break it Why combining finances in marriage isn't about control, it's about intimacy The debt snowball method and zero-based budgeting explained Why both spouses need a seat at the financial table How tackling hard money conversations can actually deepen your relationship Julie and David's own debt story — and how Dave Ramsey's work changed their marriage Rachel's husband Winston, and how a spender married a saver (and made it work) Raising kids with a healthy money mindset in the age of Amazon and Apple Pay Whether you're just starting out, merging finances later in life, or trying to get on the same page after years of conflict — this episode is packed with practical wisdom and real talk. Connect with Rachel Cruze: Instagram: @rachelcruze Facebook: @rachelramseycruze The Rachel Cruze Show on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-rachel-cruze-show/id1447308241 Visit us at thebulitts.comJulie is not your therapist and David is not your lawyer. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

  8. May 7

    Two Docs Find Each Other - Twice!

    What happens when two doctors fall in love, get married, go through medical school and residency together, survive a pandemic on the front lines and then get divorced? And then get married again? Julie and David sit down with trauma surgeon Dr. Brittany Bankhead and emergency physician Dr. Brian Kendall to unpack one of the most remarkable relationship stories they've ever heard.Brittany and Brian met in college in a medical communications class, dated long distance while Brian was in the Peace Corps in Albania, got engaged after their first kiss on the beach, and married seven months later. Thirteen years, two kids, multiple cities, and the chaos of COVID later, their marriage crumbled. But the way they divorced was just as intentional as the way they came back together.In this episode, Julie and David explore:✔️ How Brittany and Brian navigated a whirlwind romance and early marriage shaped by cultural and religious expectations✔️ The emotional weight of training together in medical school, long-distance residencies, and COVID on the front lines✔️ Why Brittany was the one who said "enough" and how post-COVID PTSD and suicidal ideation led her to transform her own life✔️ How they co-parented from houses in the same neighborhood (with a pool in between and a golf cart to get around)✔️ The moment at the pool, two and a half years after the divorce, when they looked at each other and thought: wait✔️ Their "rant or remedy" communication tool for supporting each other without trying to fix everything✔️ How intentional scheduling, coffee walks, pickleball, and date days booked by their family virtual assistant keeps their relationship strong✔️ Dr. Brittany Bankhead's passion project, Modern Mom Lab, pairing high-achieving moms with family virtual assistants to help both sides thriveDr. Brittany Bankhead, Trauma Surgeon, Associate Professor of Surgery at the Medical University of South Carolina, and Founder of Modern Mom Lab🌐 https://www.modernmomlab.com📱 TikTok & Instagram: @BBankheadMDDr. Brian Kendall, Emergency Medicine Physician and Medical Communicator📱 TikTok: @BKendallMD | Instagram: @BriankendallMDFamily Virtual Assistant: Jessica Geist | 785-564-3997 | jessicageist.bbkt@gmail.comFind Julie & David at https://thebulitts.com and on all social media platforms @TheBulitts

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Married for 37 years and parents of four daughters (two adopted, two biological), David, a divorce lawyer, and Julie, a family therapist, have both been witness to families struggling with life’s most difficult challenges and at the same time, they have weathered their own struggles at home.  Authors of two award winning books, the Bulitts delve into the conversations they have had, those they should have had and those that every couple needs to have in order to find success, happiness and fulfillment.      

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