Divorce Coaches Academy

Tracy Callahan and Debra Doak
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Divorce Coaches Academy podcast hosts Tracy Callahan and Debra Doak are on a mission to revolutionize the way families navigate divorce. We discuss topics to help professional divorce coaches succeed with clients and meet their business goals and we advocate (loudly sometimes) for the critical role certified divorce coaches play in the alternative dispute resolution process. Our goal is to create a community of divorce coaching professionals committed to reducing the financial and emotional impact of divorce on families.

  1. 5D AGO

    5 Ways Clients Unintentionally Make Divorce Conflict Worse (And How to Shift It)

    Struggling with communication during divorce? You're not alone and it's not just about what’s being said. In this episode of the Divorce Coaches Academy podcast, Debra Doak explains why communication breaks down during divorce conflict and what’s really happening beneath the surface when conversations escalate. From emotional flooding and mismatched conflict styles to defensive listening and unspoken expectations, this episode breaks down the five key reasons communication fails—and how to fix it. Whether you're a divorce coach, mediator, or navigating divorce yourself, you’ll gain practical tools to improve communication, reduce conflict, and make better decisions during one of life’s most challenging transitions. In this episode, you’ll learn: How emotional triggers impact communication in divorceWhy conflict styles (pursuer vs. avoider) create tensionThe importance of active listening in high-conflict conversationsHow assumptions and expectations fuel misunderstandingsStrategies divorce coaches use to help clients communicate effectivelyIf you're looking to reduce conflict, improve co-parenting communication, or support clients through divorce, this episode is a must-listen. Keywords: divorce communication, conflict resolution in divorce, divorce coaching, co-parenting communication, high conflict divorce, emotional flooding, communication breakdown, divorce support, divorce coach training, managing conflict in relationships

    16 min

  2. APR 8

    Curiosity as a Conflict Intervention in Divorce

    In this episode of the Divorce Coaches Academy Podcast, Tracy Callahan is joined by Jacinta Gallant to explore how curiosity can be used as a conflict intervention in divorce. Together, they discuss why certainty, blame, and defensiveness often escalate conflict, and how targeted curiosity can help individuals make better decisions, communicate more effectively, and move through divorce with greater self-awareness. This conversation is especially valuable for divorce coaches, mediators, family law professionals, and anyone navigating divorce conflict. If you want a deeper understanding of conflict resolution in divorce, divorce coaching, and curiosity in mediation, this episode offers practical insight into a more thoughtful and effective approach. Key Takeaways Curiosity can interrupt defensiveness and reduce conflict escalation.Certainty about being right or fair often blocks productive communication.Divorce is not just a legal process. It is a conflict process.Many traditional divorce and mediation models overlook the relational dynamics driving conflict.Divorce coaches play an important role in helping clients build self-awareness and engage more effectively in difficult conversations. Chapters 00:00 The Role of Curiosity in Conflict Resolution06:32 Insight Approach to Conflict19:17 Limits of Professional Roles in Developing Curiosity28:26 Development of Resources for Self-Discovery and Conflict Engagement

    41 min

  3. APR 2

    Supporting Parents in Divorce: Acknowledging Children’s Experience and Why It Matters

    This episode of the Divorce Coaches Academy® Podcast explores one of the most overlooked dimensions of divorce: a child’s lived experience inside the conflict process. While parents navigate legal decisions, emotional strain, and uncertainty, there is often a well-intended instinct to protect children by minimizing what they see or feel. But what happens when that protection becomes silence—and a child’s experience goes unacknowledged? Tracy is joined by Carolyn Jacobs—certified divorce and co-parenting coach, parenting plan mediator, and DCA® Certified ADR Divorce Coach—to examine the critical distinction between shielding children from conflict and unintentionally disconnecting from their reality. Together, they unpack how children process what they sense versus what they’re told, the risks of “holding it together,” and how parents can model emotional honesty without placing emotional weight on the child. Grounded in DCA®’s framing of divorce as a conflict and communication process, this conversation highlights how parent-child communication during divorce shapes a child’s long-term ability to navigate relationships, conflict, and self-expression. The episode also offers practical insight for professionals supporting parents who may be unintentionally minimizing their child’s experience—and how to begin repairing that dynamic. The conversation extends into a broader lens on civil discourse, exploring how what happens inside the home directly influences a child’s ability to engage with difference and disagreement outside of it. Carolyn also shares more about her upcoming Conversations that Contribute Series event: Fostering Civil Discourse Among Youth: A Conversation with Dr. Michael Saini. This 60-minute virtual event will take place on Wednesday, April 15, 2026 at 4 PM ET (1 PM PT / 3 PM CT), with tickets available for $10. Hosted by Ally in Divorce, the conversation supports Kids Managing Conflict, a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening peer mediation programs in schools. Register Here This is a nuanced and highly relevant conversation for divorce professionals, parents, and anyone invested in how the next generation learns to navigate conflict—with clarity, empathy, and integrity. Learn more about DCA® or  any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below: Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com Instagram: www.divorcecoachesacademy/divorcecoachesacademy LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

    38 min

  4. MAR 26

    Power, Agency, and the Courage to Let Clients Lead

    The moment a divorcing client looks at us and says, “Just tell me what to do,” it can feel almost cruel not to step in with the answer. But that impulse is exactly where ethics, skill, and real transformation live. We sit down with Andrea Hips, LBSW and certified divorce coach, to talk about power, agency, and why “being the expert” can quietly become the fastest way to take power away from the person we’re trying to help. We get specific about the difference between power and control, and why divorce makes people chase certainty like it’s oxygen. When a client clings to one outcome, we unpack what they’re really reaching for: safety, stability, and relief from overwhelm. From there we move into practical coaching tools for conflict-informed divorce coaching and alternative dispute resolution minded support, including how to slow down decisions under legal pressure, how to build distress tolerance, and how to help clients act wisely while uncertainty stays right beside them. We also name the subtle ways coaches can unintentionally influence choices through tone, affirmations, and question framing. Andrea shares a simple North Star: there are many right answers, and hindsight isn’t something you can buy today. Protecting client agency is not a “nice to have” in divorce coaching, it’s the standard that builds capacity, reduces escalation, and helps clients leave coaching stronger than they arrived. If you care about ethical divorce coaching, client autonomy, and decision making in high-conflict divorce, listen through and take notes. Subscribe, share this with a coach or friend going through divorce, and leave a review with the biggest shift you’re taking from the conversation. Learn more about DCA® or  any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below: Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

    29 min

  5. MAR 25

    Why Divorce Coaches Cannot Want the Outcome More Than the Client

    The conversation delves into the foundational principles of dispute resolution, emphasizing the importance of self-actualization and the role of divorce coaches in supporting growth and development. It highlights the value of presence and process, the need to tolerate slower progress for alignment, and the challenge of recognizing and managing personal discomfort in the process. Takeaways Self-actualization is essential in dispute resolutionThe value of presence and process in supporting growth and development Chapters 00:00 Foundational Principles of Dispute Resolution06:09 Recognizing the Need for Self-Actualization12:11 Value of Presence and Process17:52 Recognizing and Managing Personal Discomfort

    23 min

  6. MAR 11

    Behind the Decision: Power, Control, and Clarity in Divorce Conversations

    Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We dig beneath “the house,” “the money,” and “Wednesday” to reveal the real drivers of divorce conflict: power, fear, identity, and control. With Allison McFadden, we map skills that shift clients from positional fights to values-based choices they can live with. • why surface conflict hides deeper fears and identity needs • moving from positions to interests for better options • invisible power dynamics in process, timing, and voice • building perceived psychological power and steady presence • fear, defensiveness, and how they close doors • designing protocols and parenting tools to prevent repeat fights • choosing language that de-escalates and humanizes • avoiding professional missteps that entrench conflict • redefining success as durable, client-owned agreements If you're feeling that poll, whether you're an attorney, mediator, therapist, financial professional, or someone exploring the path to becoming a divorce coach, we have an upcoming certification beginning soon. So we've got a New Zealand cohort beginning in March, and we have both the United States and Canada cohorts beginning in April. These programs are intentionally designed not just to teach you the knowledge required to be a divorce coach within the dispute resolution field, but to give you the experiential hands-on training through mentorship and the practice required actually to be able to do the work because it's one thing to learn about it, it's another thing to do it. And information builds awareness, practice builds competence, and mentorship builds confidence. Our certification programs are grounded inside that ADR framework. And if you are a practicing divorce coach but trained somewhere else and you want to deepen your skill set or operate at a different level within the ADR community, our Elevate program was designed specifically for that purpose. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below: Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

    37 min

  7. MAR 4

    Communicating with Clarity: Why Divorce Coaches Must Educate the Market Before the Market Understands Them

    Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We dig into how clear, consistent messaging helps divorce coaches cut through noise, educate the market, and build real authority without slipping into self‑promotion. Jason Harper joins us to share a practical playbook for clarity of purpose, audience fit, and sustainable cadence. • messaging as a professional competency, not an optional add‑on • clarity of purpose across layers: educate, validate, and seed ideas • defining your audience and where they actually listen • choosing platforms that match your strengths and voice • building a breadcrumb trail that validates credibility • service‑first content vs personal narrative as the lead • practical examples that show outcomes, not hype • consistency, cadence, and durability over vanity metrics • differentiating divorce coaching for the wider public • ethics, boundaries, and professionalization of the field If this conversation resonated with you, please share it with a colleague or continue these discussions within your professional community Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below: Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

    33 min

  8. FEB 25

    Escalation Loops in Conflict: Understanding and Interrupting the Cycle in Divorce

    Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply) We break down escalation loops in co‑parenting, why they entrench, and how divorce coaches can interrupt them with practical, evidence‑informed tools. We share the pause protocol, BIF writing, nervous‑system resets, and real‑time awareness checks that end reactive volleys and protect the long game. • definition of escalation loops and why they persist in divorce • reactive communication and negative reciprocity mechanics • amygdala hijack and dysregulation as baseline conditions • pattern entrenchment and confirmation bias reinforcing the story • the pause protocol as an active strategy • choosing structured channels and using BIF for concise replies • loop awareness questions to stop mid‑exchange • regulate first, respond second using body‑based tools • reframing the real goal from winning arguments to stable co‑parenting • the coach’s role as steady, strategic partner If today’s episode was useful to you, please share it with a colleague, leave a review wherever you listen to your podcast, or come find me at the DCA community. And if you would like to learn more about the training we provide to support the professional practice of divorce coaches, please check us out at divorcecoachesacademy.com Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below: Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

    26 min
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Divorce Coaches Academy podcast hosts Tracy Callahan and Debra Doak are on a mission to revolutionize the way families navigate divorce. We discuss topics to help professional divorce coaches succeed with clients and meet their business goals and we advocate (loudly sometimes) for the critical role certified divorce coaches play in the alternative dispute resolution process. Our goal is to create a community of divorce coaching professionals committed to reducing the financial and emotional impact of divorce on families.

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  • Creator
    Tracy Callahan and Debra Doak
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    208
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Tracy Callahan and Debra Doak
  • Show Website
    Divorce Coaches Academy

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