Dr. Boundaries

Hosted By Dr. Rebecca Gras
  • 5.0 (10)
  • Mental Health
  • Updated Weekly

Holders and Healers, Is the way you show up in your relationships slowly draining your life force? The constant pull to give, the heavy guilt that follows a “no,” and the exhaustion that lingers even after you rest… It’s not random. It’s a signal. This podcast is for the helpers, healers, caretakers, and emotional holders of the world: therapists, physicians, clergy, teachers, coaches, caregivers, and deeply empathic people who support others while often feeling unsupported themselves. For those who have come to experience giving as an identity. For the generous feelers who carry responsibility for others’ emotional worlds as a way of being. You give your energy as if it were unlimited, offering your empathic heart as though it does not need protection. You may be heading towards Holder Burnout, remaining resourced for others while slowly depleting yourself. There is another way. A way of relating that does not require you to disappear. A way of caring that includes you. Join Dr. Rebecca Gras, Psychologist, Supervisor, Business Growth Consultant, and Boundary Bender in Recovery, as she explores relational boundaries, self-abandonment, over-functioning, and the patterns that lead to Holder Burnout. Each episode blends clinical insight, relational frameworks, reflective conversations, and practical tools to help you act from a grounded, self-connected place rather than a reactive one. Learn to soften the pull to overgive, stay connected to yourself while connecting to others, and build relationships that do not require self-sacrifice. This is where self-abandonment ends and self-sacredness begins. 🪶 Subscribe for weekly conversations on boundaries, self-expansion, emotional sustainability, and healthier ways of relating. 🔗 https://www.drboundaries.com

Episodes

  1. There’s No Place Like Here: Helping Your Nervous System Return to the Present

    2d ago

    There’s No Place Like Here: Helping Your Nervous System Return to the Present

    Are you actually living in the present, or are you living in a loop of the past? When we operate from a place of self-survival, the brain often defaults to old pathways, replaying past experiences, recycling old stories, and keeping us anchored to versions of life that have already happened. But life only happens in the present. In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Gras explores how to interrupt the loop and create new neural wiring that allows for new experiences: of yourself, of others, and of the life that is actually in front of you. Drawing from a mindfulness-based framework, Dr. Rebecca introduces the practice of the nonjudgmental observing self as a gentle but powerful tool for returning to the present moment and expanding beyond the stories your nervous system has been telling. New experiences become possible when you stop living inside old emotional wiring. This is where self-abandonment ends, and Self-Sacredness begins. 🪶 Subscribe for weekly conversations on boundaries, self-expansion, emotional sustainability, and healthier ways of relating. 🔗 https://www.drboundaries.com

    39 min
  2. The Golden Rage: Working With Anger in Your Boundary Practice

    May 13

    The Golden Rage: Working With Anger in Your Boundary Practice

    What role does anger play in our Relational Boundary Systems? In this episode, Dr. Boundaries explores anger as a protector of self-value and an expression of self-love when boundaries feel crossed or the self feels dismissed, unseen, or unprotected. Together, we consider the importance of allowing ourselves to feel anger without becoming stuck inside of it. Rather than living from anger as an ongoing defense of worth, this episode invites listeners to recognize anger as a signal that can help reconnect us to our needs, limits, value, and truth. As the intensity of anger subsides, Dr. Boundaries explores the shift toward self-compassion as a more sustainable way of caring for and protecting the self. This is where self-abandonment ends and Self-Sacredness begins.

    17 min
  3. Be Kind When You Rewind: Learn to Hold All Versions of Yourself Before Holding Others

    Apr 22

    Be Kind When You Rewind: Learn to Hold All Versions of Yourself Before Holding Others

    Are you a holder in need of holding? Your present self is shaped by every version of you that came before. But what happens when those earlier selves are met with criticism, judgment, or shame? In this episode, Dr. Boundaries explores how your relationship with your past self directly impacts your capacity to learn, play, and grow in the present. This is where self abandonment ends, and Self-Sacredness begins.

    15 min
  4. Wired to Give: When Self-Worth Becomes Self-Abandonment

    Apr 7

    Wired to Give: When Self-Worth Becomes Self-Abandonment

    Did you learn in childhood that your worth lived in how much you could give, carry, and hold for others? The lessons began long before you knew you were receiving them. That being needed meant being valued. That taking responsibility for how others felt and functioned was part of love. That staying attuned to the moods and emotions of those around you was how you kept yourself safe. That making yourself endlessly available was how you earned connection. That programming did not disappear when you grew up. It followed you into your adult relationships. In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Gras explores how early childhood conditioning shapes the values many holders, healers, and caregivers carry into adulthood, quietly setting the stage for relationships that are not reciprocal. When we enter relationships believing our energy is infinite, our worth is measured by how much we can give, carry, and hold for others, and we are responsible for the emotional wellbeing of those around us, we begin to disappear. We give from reserves that are already depleted. We redirect energy away from ourselves and the people closest to us. We slowly lose connection with our own needs, limits, and humanity. But there is another way. One that begins with choosing new values. Values that include you. Values that make room for relationships that are mutual, nourishing, and sustainable. This is where self-abandonment ends, and Self-Sacredness begins. 🪶 Subscribe for weekly conversations on boundaries, self-expansion, emotional sustainability, and healthier ways of relating. 🔗 https://www.drboundaries.com

    14 min
  5. Over-Giver, Under-Receiver: When Being Needed Feels Safer Than Being Vulnerable

    Mar 25

    Over-Giver, Under-Receiver: When Being Needed Feels Safer Than Being Vulnerable

    Therapists, healers, and holders live in spaces of vulnerability. But are you truly practicing vulnerability in your own relationships, or are you unconsciously protecting yourself from the very intimacy you crave? What happens when being known feels more threatening than being needed? In this episode, Dr. Boundaries explores what a true Vulnerability Practice looks like and how to create the kind of relational safety that allows love, intimacy, and connection to deepen. This is where self-abandonment ends, and Self-Sacredness begins.

    14 min
  6. Don’t Worry, Grow Happy: The Internal Work of Self-Expansion

    Mar 19

    Don’t Worry, Grow Happy: The Internal Work of Self-Expansion

    Are you invested in your own growth and expansion? Growth is not only shaped by what you do, but by the internal patterns that either support or resist your becoming. What happens when fear, self-protection, or old relational dynamics quietly interfere with your ability to expand? In this episode, Dr. Boundaries explores the psychological and relational blockers that can keep you stuck and offers guidance for working with them differently. This is where self-abandonment ends, and Self-Sacredness begins.

    19 min
  7. The Resentment Creep: When Self-Abandonment Has Had Enough

    Mar 19

    The Resentment Creep: When Self-Abandonment Has Had Enough

    Resentment does not arrive all at once. It builds in the places where you keep overriding yourself. The parts of you that feel dishonored by others? Those are actually the parts of you that feel dishonored by you. In this episode, Dr. Boundaries explores resentment as a breaking point of self-abandonment. Not something to manage, but something that reveals where you have been overextended, under-heard, or leaving yourself in the name of connection. When resentment appears, it is not the problem. It is information. A signal that something in you is asking to be included again. Learn to recognize resentment earlier, understand what it is pointing to, and begin responding to it in a way that brings you back into alignment with yourself. This is where self-abandonment ends, and Self-Sacredness begins.

    15 min
  8. Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself: The Practice of Energy Accountability

    Mar 19

    Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself: The Practice of Energy Accountability

    Are you taking responsibility for where your energy is going? Living a purpose-driven life requires more than good intentions. It requires awareness of what is draining you, where your energy is being given away, and whether your choices are aligned with your values. What happens when your energy is being spent in places that do not support your growth, peace, or expansion? In this episode, Dr. Boundaries explores the practice of Energy Accountability and how learning to protect your energy creates greater clarity, presence, and intentional living. This is where self-abandonment ends, and Self-Sacredness begins.

    10 min
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Holders and Healers, Is the way you show up in your relationships slowly draining your life force? The constant pull to give, the heavy guilt that follows a “no,” and the exhaustion that lingers even after you rest… It’s not random. It’s a signal. This podcast is for the helpers, healers, caretakers, and emotional holders of the world: therapists, physicians, clergy, teachers, coaches, caregivers, and deeply empathic people who support others while often feeling unsupported themselves. For those who have come to experience giving as an identity. For the generous feelers who carry responsibility for others’ emotional worlds as a way of being. You give your energy as if it were unlimited, offering your empathic heart as though it does not need protection. You may be heading towards Holder Burnout, remaining resourced for others while slowly depleting yourself. There is another way. A way of relating that does not require you to disappear. A way of caring that includes you. Join Dr. Rebecca Gras, Psychologist, Supervisor, Business Growth Consultant, and Boundary Bender in Recovery, as she explores relational boundaries, self-abandonment, over-functioning, and the patterns that lead to Holder Burnout. Each episode blends clinical insight, relational frameworks, reflective conversations, and practical tools to help you act from a grounded, self-connected place rather than a reactive one. Learn to soften the pull to overgive, stay connected to yourself while connecting to others, and build relationships that do not require self-sacrifice. This is where self-abandonment ends and self-sacredness begins. 🪶 Subscribe for weekly conversations on boundaries, self-expansion, emotional sustainability, and healthier ways of relating. 🔗 https://www.drboundaries.com

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    Hosted By Dr. Rebecca Gras
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  • Episodes
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