Echoes & Edges

Patria Rector
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Echoes and Edges: The Broken and Beautiful Podcast is a storytelling and healing podcast hosted by Patria Rector — coach, mentor, and founder of The Broken and Beautiful. Through trauma-informed storywork, the Enneagram, and real-life relationship insights, Patria explores what it means to grow, grieve, and live with authenticity. Listeners will hear personal narratives, practical tools for emotional health, and gentle practices for self-awareness. Each episode invites you to discover beauty in the middle of life’s messiness — and to embrace your story with kindness. Perfect for anyone interested in emotional healing, self-discovery, relationships, or the Enneagram, Echoes and Edges is your companion for the journey toward hope and wholeness. You are not too much. You are not too late. You’re right on time — and you’re welcome here.

  1. 5D AGO

    What Actually Heals Shame with Daniel Herron

    Awareness is powerful—but it doesn’t heal shame on its own. In Part 2, Patria Rector and Daniel Herron explore what actually begins to loosen shame’s grip and create real transformation. This conversation moves from insight → integration. Inside this episode: Why naming shame isn’t enoughWhat keeps shame narratives protectedHow to move from self-rejection to self-acceptanceWhy “white-knuckling” never works long-termThe connection between identity, safety, and healingWhat it means to become “uncontrolled by the system”Daniel shares a powerful framework for healing: Delight. Honor. Repair. And together, they explore: Reparenting yourself with what you never receivedReclaiming parts of you that were hidden for survivalWhy self-acceptance is the doorway to changeThis episode is about moving from: Survival → Integration Shame → Truth Performance → Freedom Connect With Daniel:  https://www.musathewild.com/ If this episode resonates with you, follow or subscribe to Echoes and Edges on your favorite podcast platform, leave a five-star review, and share with a friend who might need a gentle invitation to self-understanding. Connect With Patria Facebook Instagram The Broken & Beautiful Website Credits: Echoes and Edges is Produced and Edited by: Stephen R. Sanders Music Promoted by Envato Echoes and Edges is a part of VividLivid Podcast Network - Where bruises speak and healing finds its voice.

    36 min

  2. APR 2

    The Story Beneath Our Shame with Daniel Herron

    What if the way you see yourself… isn’t actually yours? In this conversation, Patria Rector sits down with inner healing coach Daniel Herron to explore the hidden narratives that quietly shape our identity—often without our awareness. Together, they unpack how shame forms, why it attaches to who we are (not just what we do), and how it becomes a powerful—yet invisible—survival strategy. This episode explores:Why shame feels like “something is wrong with me”The difference between guilt and shame—and why it mattersHow childhood environments shape identity and belongingThe role of secrecy in keeping shame aliveWhy behaviors aren’t the root problem—they’re the symptomHow narratives become embedded in families and systemsYou’ll hear honest reflections on:Being labeled “too much” or “not enough”The cost of belonging inside unhealthy systemsHow survival strategies become identityThis is Part 1 of a two-part conversation. In Part 2, we explore what actually helps shame begin to loosen—and how healing becomes possible. Connect With Daniel:  https://www.musathewild.com/ If this episode resonates with you, follow or subscribe to Echoes and Edges on your favorite podcast platform, leave a five-star review, and share with a friend who might need a gentle invitation to self-understanding. Connect With Patria Facebook Instagram The Broken & Beautiful Website Credits: Echoes and Edges is Produced and Edited by: Stephen R. Sanders Music Promoted by Envato Echoes and Edges is a part of VividLivid Podcast Network - Where bruises speak and healing finds its voice.

    41 min

  3. MAR 27

    When Your Nervous System Is Running Your Relationships with Laurie Proctor

    Why do the same patterns keep showing up in your relationships—no matter how self-aware you are? In this episode, we unpack how dysregulation quietly shapes the way we connect, react, withdraw, and pursue. What looks like “overreacting,” shutting down, or conflict spirals is often your nervous system trying to protect you—not sabotage you. We talk about:How emotional triggers are formed (and why they feel so fast and overwhelming)The difference between reaction and responseWhy awareness alone doesn’t break the cycleWhat it actually takes to interrupt patterns in real timeHow regulation changes the way we experience love, conflict, and connectionThis conversation isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about understanding what’s been running underneath—and learning how to work with it instead of against it. About the Guest: Laurie Proctor is a professionally certified coach, Internal Family Systems practitioner, Human Design coach, and certified Enneagram instructor who partners with individuals, teams, and organizations seeking healing and transformation. She is the founder of SOWThat (Self Others World), where her work centers on the belief that healing begins within and ripples outward to others and the world. Laurie holds multiple certificates in narrative-focused trauma care from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and is passionate about helping people discover the treasures within that can change their lives—and the world. Learn more about her work at sowthat.com.  If this episode resonates with you, follow or subscribe to Echoes and Edges on your favorite podcast platform, leave a five-star review, and share with a friend who might need a gentle invitation to self-understanding. Connect With Patria Facebook Instagram The Broken & Beautiful Website Credits: Echoes and Edges is Produced and Edited by: Stephen R. Sanders Music Promoted by Envato Echoes and Edges is a part of VividLivid Podcast Network - Where bruises speak and healing finds its voice.

    38 min

  4. MAR 19

    The Healing Power of Creativity: Reclaiming Imagination After Trauma with Sher Nyquist

    What if healing didn’t have to be forced… or figured out… or even put into words? In this episode of Echoes and Edges, Patria sits down with trauma-informed coach and Processing Trauma Out Loud host, Sher Nyquist, to explore how creativity—yes, even the simplest forms—can gently unlock healing. This conversation reframes art, imagination, and play as powerful tools for processing trauma, regulating the nervous system, and reconnecting with parts of ourselves that may have been silenced by shame, judgment, or survival. No artistic skill required—just curiosity. What You’ll Hear in This Episode Why healing isn’t something you “fix”—it’s something you approach slowlyHow creativity helps access what words can’t reachThe surprising link between trauma responses and creativityWhy you don’t have to be “an artist” to benefit from creative expressionHow simple practices (like stick figures or color swirling) can unlock deeper memory and emotionThe role of the nervous system—and how art can help regulate itHow shame shuts down creativity (and how to gently move toward it instead)Why imagination is one of the most accessible and powerful healing tools we haveThe concept of “lavish tenderness” and why simplicity matters in healingKey Takeaways Creativity is not about performance—it’s about expressionTrauma often compresses our sense of self; creativity helps expand itHealing happens in slowness, safety, and small, consistent momentsImagination is free, always available, and neurologically impactfulYou can “turn toward” difficult emotions instead of pushing them awayPlay, wonder, and curiosity are not extras—they are essential to healingA Gentle Practice Take a moment and notice: What stayed with you from this conversation?If that feeling had a color, what would it be?Where do you sense it in your body?No need to analyze. No need to fix. Just notice. About Our Guest Sher Nyquist Sher Nyquist is a trauma-informed story coach who integrates Narrative-Focused Trauma Care, somatic awareness, and simple creative practices to help people reconnect with their stories and themselves. She specializes in creating safe, compassionate spaces where healing unfolds through curiosity, imagination, and gentle exploration.  🎙 Host of: Processing Trauma Out Loud One-on-one story coachingIntegration of creative practices + somatic awarenessEFT tapping (for those interested)📧 Email: shernyquist@gmail.com If this episode resonates with you, follow or subscribe to Echoes and Edges on your favorite podcast platform, leave a five-star review, and share with a friend who might need a gentle invitation to self-understanding. Connect With Patria Facebook Instagram The Broken & Beautiful Website Credits: Echoes and Edges is Produced and Edited by: Stephen R. Sanders Music Promoted by Envato Echoes and Edges is a part of VividLivid Podcast Network - Where bruises speak and healing finds its voice.

    59 min

  5. MAR 12

    When Dysregulation Shapes the Way We Love with Laurie Proctor

    In this episode, host Patria Rector continues the conversation with coach, Internal Family Systems practitioner, and Enneagram instructor Laurie Proctor about the powerful role our nervous systems and internal parts play in shaping relationships. When we become dysregulated, connection often gives way to survival. Fight, flight, freeze, and collapse are responses that helped us endure difficult moments in our stories—but they were never designed to sustain healthy relationships. Patria and Laurie explore how unintegrated parts within us can create rupture in our relationships and how learning to regulate before responding allows love, empathy, and curiosity to lead instead of fear. Through personal stories, Enneagram insights, and reflections from Internal Family Systems work, they discuss how different people experience dysregulation in different ways—from outward reactivity to internal collapse—and how awareness can open the door to greater compassion for ourselves and others. The episode also widens the lens beyond individual relationships, exploring how the same patterns of survival and dysregulation can shape communities and even the cultural moment we find ourselves living in. In this episode, we explore:How dysregulation leads to rupture in relationshipsThe difference between survival responses and relational connectionWhy regulation matters before responding in moments of conflictHow Enneagram patterns influence our stress responsesInternal Family Systems and responding from “Self” rather than reactive partsThe role of empathy in restoring connectionHow personal dysregulation can mirror collective tension in the world around usReflection: What happens in your body when you feel threatened, misunderstood, or angry? Do you move toward conflict, withdraw from it, or collapse inward? Learning to notice these responses is often the first step toward responding from a more grounded and compassionate place. About the Guest: Laurie Proctor is a professionally certified coach, Internal Family Systems practitioner, Human Design coach, and certified Enneagram instructor who partners with individuals, teams, and organizations seeking healing and transformation. She is the founder of SOWThat (Self Others World), where her work centers on the belief that healing begins within and ripples outward to others and the world. Laurie holds multiple certificates in narrative-focused trauma care from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and is passionate about helping people discover the treasures within that can change their lives—and the world. Learn more about her work at sowthat.com.  If this episode resonates with you, follow or subscribe to Echoes and Edges on your favorite podcast platform, leave a five-star review, and share with a friend who might need a gentle invitation to self-understanding. Connect With Patria Facebook Instagram The Broken & Beautiful Website Credits: Echoes and Edges is Produced and Edited by: Stephen R. Sanders Music Promoted by Envato Echoes and Edges is a part of VividLivid Podcast Network - Where bruises speak and healing finds its voice.

    24 min

  6. MAR 5

    How Inner Work Changes the Way We Love with Laurie Proctor

    In this episode, host Patria Rector welcomes coach, Internal Family Systems practitioner, and Enneagram instructor Laurie Proctor for a thoughtful conversation about how inner work reshapes the way we love. Love is often spoken about as a feeling or an ideal, but in real life it is shaped by the stories we carry, the wounds we’ve experienced, and the patterns we developed to survive them. When those patterns remain unexamined, love can easily become reactive—expressed through control, withdrawal, defensiveness, or over-functioning. Drawing from Internal Family Systems, the Enneagram, and their own lived experiences, Patria and Laurie explore the idea that true transformation begins within. As we become more aware of the different “parts” of ourselves and the survival strategies they carry, we can begin to move toward what IFS calls Self-energy—a grounded, compassionate presence that allows us to respond with curiosity rather than fear. Instead of trying to fix or eliminate the parts of ourselves shaped by pain, the invitation is to meet them with understanding and integration. As this inner work unfolds, our relationships begin to change as well. Love becomes less about reaction and more about presence, empathy, and connection.  In this episode, we explore How our personal stories shape the way we loveThe difference between reacting from wounded parts and responding from Self-energyInternal Family Systems and the language of “parts”How trauma and survival strategies influence relationshipsWhy integration—not perfection—is the path toward deeper connectionThe role of compassion and curiosity in personal healing About the Guest Laurie Proctor is a professionally certified coach, Internal Family Systems practitioner, Human Design coach, and certified Enneagram instructor who partners with individuals, teams, and organizations seeking healing and transformation. She is the founder of SOWThat (Self Others World), where her work centers on the belief that healing begins within and ripples outward to others and the world. Laurie holds multiple certificates in narrative-focused trauma care from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and is passionate about helping people discover the treasures within that can change their lives—and the world. Learn more about her work at sowthat.com.  If this episode resonates with you, follow or subscribe to Echoes and Edges on your favorite podcast platform, leave a five-star review, and share with a friend who might need a gentle invitation to self-understanding. Connect With Patria Facebook Instagram The Broken & Beautiful Website Credits: Echoes and Edges is Produced and Edited by: Stephen R. Sanders Music Promoted by Envato Echoes and Edges is a part of VividLivid Podcast Network - Where bruises speak and healing finds its voice.

    31 min

  7. FEB 26

    The Arc of Integration (Part 2 of 2) with Adam Young

    This is Part 2 of a 2-part conversation with Adam Young — and it goes deeper into the places most of us were taught to avoid. In this episode, Patria and Adam turn toward sexuality, shame, anger, kindness, and integration — not as abstract ideas, but as lived, embodied experiences shaped by story, attachment, and the nervous system. If Part 1 laid the foundation, Part 2 enters the terrain.🔎 This Episode Is For You If: You want to understand your sexual story without shameYou’ve felt violated without being touched and didn’t know whyYou struggle with anger, sadness, or shame and don’t know where to startYou want healing that includes the body, not just insightYou’re ready for kindness that tells the truth📚 Resources Mentioned The Wounded Heart by Dan AllenderAllender CenterAdam Young CounselingThe Place We Find Ourselves – Adam Young's PodcastMake Sense of Your Story – Adam Young's BookIf this episode stirred something tender, that’s not an accident. Stay with it. Healing doesn’t rush — it integrates. If you haven’t listened to Part 1 yet, start there. And if this conversation mattered to you, share it with someone who needs a safe invitation into their story. If this episode resonates with you, follow or subscribe to Echoes and Edges on your favorite podcast platform, leave a five-star review, and share with a friend who might need a gentle invitation to self-understanding. Connect With Patria Facebook Instagram The Broken & Beautiful Website Credits: Echoes and Edges is Produced and Edited by: Stephen R. Sanders Music Promoted by Envato Echoes and Edges is a part of VividLivid Podcast Network - Where bruises speak and healing finds its voice.

    28 min

  8. FEB 19

    The Arc of Integration (Part 1 of 2) with Adam Young

    In this episode, Patria sits down with Adam Young — licensed clinical social worker, teacher at the Allender Center, host of The Place We Find Ourselves, and author of Make Sense of Your Story — to unpack the beginning of what Patria calls "The Arc of Integration." This is Part 1 of a 2-part conversation exploring what it really takes to move from brokenheartedness to integration. This first conversation lays the foundation: Why we avoid our wounds.Why honesty feels terrifying.And why healing cannot happen alone.Part 2 will move further into attachment, relational repair, and what freedom actually looks like in lived experience. 🧠 In Part 1, We Explore: ✦ Brokenheartedness & Captivity When something shatters inside us, we build ways of living that promise we’ll never feel that pain again. Those strategies protect us. They also enslave us. “Far more than repentance, we need the healing of the broken heart.” ✦ The Mystery of Honesty Why do some people pursue truth about their past… and others double down on denial? Quoting Eric Hoffer: “Far more crucial than what we know or do not know is what we do not want to know.” The question beneath everything: What do you want? How free do you actually want to be? ✦ Why You Can’t Heal Alone Trying to make sense of your childhood by yourself doesn’t work — even if you’re intelligent, self-aware, and spiritually committed. What was “normal” to you may not have been normal at all. Healing requires reflection. Questions. Story shared in relationship. ✦ “I Never Knew You.” A deeper look at Matthew 7 reframes spiritual disconnection. The issue isn’t religious performance. It’s relational exposure. If we never bring our deep desires and disappointments into relationship — with God or others — we remain unknown. And you cannot heal what you won’t reveal. 🔎 This Episode Is For You If: You’ve done years of faith-based work but still feel disconnected from your heartYou’re beginning to suspect your coping strategies are also your captivityYou’re curious about story work but unsure where to startYou sense there’s more to your story than you’ve let yourself see📚 Resources Mentioned The Place We Find Ourselves - The Theory of Healing (Parts 1-3)Episode 24Episode 25Episode 26Make Sense of Your Story – Adam Young's BookAllender CenterAdam Young CounselingIf Part 1 resonates, sit with it. Don’t rush past it. Part 2 goes deeper. Follow or subscribe to Echoes and Edges so you don’t miss what comes next. If this episode resonates with you, follow or subscribe to Echoes and Edges on your favorite podcast platform, leave a five-star review, and share with a friend who might need a gentle invitation to self-understanding. Connect With Patria Facebook Instagram The Broken & Beautiful Website Credits: Echoes and Edges is Produced and Edited by: Stephen R. Sanders Music Promoted by Envato Echoes and Edges is a part of VividLivid Podcast Network - Where bruises speak and healing finds its voice.

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Echoes and Edges: The Broken and Beautiful Podcast is a storytelling and healing podcast hosted by Patria Rector — coach, mentor, and founder of The Broken and Beautiful. Through trauma-informed storywork, the Enneagram, and real-life relationship insights, Patria explores what it means to grow, grieve, and live with authenticity. Listeners will hear personal narratives, practical tools for emotional health, and gentle practices for self-awareness. Each episode invites you to discover beauty in the middle of life’s messiness — and to embrace your story with kindness. Perfect for anyone interested in emotional healing, self-discovery, relationships, or the Enneagram, Echoes and Edges is your companion for the journey toward hope and wholeness. You are not too much. You are not too late. You’re right on time — and you’re welcome here.

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  • Creator
    Patria Rector
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    40
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Patria Rector/Stephen R Sanders
  • Show Website
    Echoes & Edges

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