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Addiction Counselor Chico West and his wife Shannon lend their years of experience to listeners from all walks of life offering a unique perspective from both the filter (Shannon) and the no filter (Chico). Welcome to Filter Optional.

  1. 17 小時前

    Happy Birthday America: What the World Cup Taught Us About Hospitality, Gratitude & Connection | #34

    In this episode of Filter Optional, Chico and Shannon West reflect on an unexpected gift of the FIFA World Cup: seeing America through the eyes of first-time visitors. As fans from around the world share their experiences online, one theme keeps emerging: Americans are friendlier, more generous, and more welcoming than many expected. From free chips and salsa and Buc-ee's to genuine hospitality and everyday kindness, Chico and Shannon explore what these outside perspectives reveal about our culture, and why it's so easy to overlook the blessings we experience every day.  More than a conversation about America, this episode is an invitation to step away from constant negativity, embrace curiosity, celebrate what brings us together, and remember that meaningful connection begins when we see one another as people, not opinions. Key Points How the FIFA World Cup is changing international perceptions of America  Why hospitality and generosity remain defining parts of American culture The value of seeing familiar things through fresh eyes How assumptions and media narratives shape the way we view one another Why gratitude helps us appreciate what we've stopped noticing The importance of civil conversations over cultural division How curiosity and shared experiences build connection across cultures Takeaway Sometimes it takes an outsider's perspective to remind us what we've been taking for granted. When we choose gratitude over criticism and curiosity over assumptions, we create more opportunities for connection, understanding, and hope, both within our communities and across cultures.

    35 分鐘

  2. 6月30日

    The Messy Middle: How to Have Hard Conversations Without Avoiding or Controlling | #33

    In this episode of Filter Optional, Chico and Shannon West take a deep dive into one of the foundational concepts behind the podcast: the messy middle. Why do so many of us avoid difficult conversations? And when we finally have them, why do we often swing between saying nothing at all or trying to control the outcome? Drawing from real-life coaching experiences, addiction recovery, psychology, and faith, Chico introduces a practical framework for navigating conflict with greater courage, curiosity, and emotional health. Together, he and Shannon explore why true growth happens when we stop avoiding discomfort and learn to hold space for honest, vulnerable conversations . Whether you're navigating conflict with a spouse, adult child, friend, coworker, or family member, this episode offers practical tools to help you communicate with clarity, compassion, and confidence. Key Points What the "messy middle" is and why growth happens there  The two common ways we avoid hard conversations: passivity and impulsivity How curiosity creates connection while defensiveness creates distance Understanding the three masks that keep us stuck: The Performer, The Defender, and The Fearful Gardener Why codependency often shows up as fixing, rescuing, or avoiding conflict How to speak the truth with love without trying to control the outcome Practical questions that foster understanding instead of defensiveness Why vulnerability, transparency, and listening are essential for healthy relationships Takeaway The goal isn't to avoid conflict or control it. It's to enter the messy middle with curiosity, honesty, and compassion. When you stop performing, defending, or acting from fear, you create space for the conversations that strengthen relationships and produce lasting growth

    51 分鐘

  3. 6月23日

    Stepping Into Vulnerability | #32

    In this solo episode of Filter Optional, Chico West gets deeply personal about fear, insecurity, ego, recovery, and the human need for approval. Inspired by a reflection from spiritual writer Henri Nouwen, Chico explores a question many of us wrestle with but rarely admit: Why do we seek validation from other people when we're already loved and accepted by God? Drawing from nearly 37 years of sobriety, recovery principles, and his own recent experiences, Chico vulnerably shares how quickly fear, comparison, and the desire for recognition can pull him away from peace. Whether it's social media, professional recognition, relationships, or feeling overlooked, he explains how the search for external affirmation often leaves us empty, anxious, and disconnected . This episode is a powerful reminder that true security isn't found in what others think of us. It's found in reconnecting with something greater than ourselves. Key Points The difference between horizontal relationships and a vertical relationship with God Why fear and insecurity often drive the need for approval and validation How ego can become "Edging God Out" and pull us away from peace  What nearly four decades of sobriety have taught Chico about fear, surrender, and spiritual growth Why vulnerability is at the heart of stepping into the messy middle The connection between recovery, faith, and emotional wellness How comparison and social media can trigger feelings of inadequacy and exclusion Takeaway The approval we chase from others will never fully satisfy us. Lasting peace comes when we stop looking horizontally for affirmation and reconnect vertically with our faith, purpose, and identity. When fear and insecurity show up, they can become invitations to return to what truly grounds us.

    41 分鐘

  4. 6月16日

    Blind Spots: The Things Everyone Else Can See (But You Can’t) | #31

    In this episode of Filter Optional, Chico and Shannon West tackle a topic that affects every relationship, every family, and every stage of personal growth: blind spots. What if the thing holding you back isn't what you know about yourself... but what you don't know? Using humor, marriage stories, parenting examples, and real-life coaching experiences, Chico and Shannon explore how blind spots show up in everyday life. From defensiveness and assumptions to overhelping, impulsivity, and stubborn certainty, they unpack why we're often quick to spot blind spots in others while remaining unaware of our own . The conversation highlights an important truth: blind spots aren't character flaws. They're simply gaps in how we perceive ourselves and the world around us. The key isn't eliminating them. It's becoming curious enough to uncover them. Key Points What blind spots are and why everyone has them The difference between intentions and impact in relationshipsWhy defensiveness is often a clue that a blind spot existsUnderstanding the bias blind spot: seeing others' biases while missing your own How blind spots show up in parenting, marriage, friendships, and personal growthThe role of feedback, self-awareness, and trusted relationships in uncovering blind spotsWhy curiosity creates growth while certainty often creates stagnationTakeaway You can't grow from what you refuse to see. Blind spots are part of being human, but self-awareness begins when we're willing to ask hard questions, listen to feedback, and get curious about the things we may be missing. Growth doesn't happen when we're right. It happens when we're willing to learn.

    45 分鐘

  5. 6月9日

    Lonely vs. Alone: Why They’re Not the Same Thing | #30

    In this solo episode of Filter Optional, Shannon West explores a question that surfaced after her youngest son graduated from college: What’s the difference between being lonely and being alone? Reflecting on her own experience, Shannon shares why she warned both of her sons that their early twenties might be some of the loneliest years of their lives, even when surrounded by friends, roommates, coworkers, and constant activity . But as she unpacks her own journey, Shannon realizes something surprising: she isn’t lonely. What she’s actually craving is aloneness. From never having lived alone to navigating marriage, motherhood, friendships, codependency, and personal growth, Shannon explores the difference between isolation and solitude, and why intentional time alone can be a powerful pathway to peace, clarity, and spiritual connection. Key Points Why your early twenties can feel lonely, even when you're surrounded by peopleThe important difference between loneliness and solitudeHow codependency and people-pleasing can make it difficult to know what you truly wantWhy many adults struggle to ask for time alone without guilt or explanationThe role of faith, spirituality, and a higher power in combating lonelinessHow solitude can help you reconnect with yourself and your purposeWhy being alone isn't necessarily a problem to solve, but a gift to embrace Takeaway: Loneliness and aloneness are not the same thing. Loneliness is a longing for connection. Aloneness can be an opportunity for it. When we intentionally create space for quiet, reflection, and connection with something greater than ourselves, solitude becomes less about isolation and more about restoration.

    29 分鐘

  6. 5月26日

    Proud vs. Grateful: Rethinking Parenting, Achievement & the Language We Use | #29

    In this episode of Filter Optional, Chico and Shannon West unpack a conversation that challenges one of the most common phrases in parenting culture: “You must be so proud.” After celebrating their son’s graduation from the University of Texas, Chico and Shannon explore the deeper meaning behind the word proud—and why they’ve intentionally chosen different language like grateful, delighted, and encouraged instead . This episode dives into how pride, achievement, identity, parenting, and ego can quietly become intertwined—and how shifting the focus away from ourselves creates healthier relationships and deeper emotional connection. Key Points Why the phrase “I’m proud of you” can unintentionally center the parent instead of the child  The difference between pride, gratitude, delight, and encouragement How parenting culture often ties a child’s success to parental identity Understanding “basking in reflected glory” and achievement-based validation Why healthy parenting means supporting both successes and failures The connection between pride, ego, self-awareness, and emotional health How gratitude creates deeper joy and connection than pride alone  Takeaway There’s nothing wrong with celebrating the people you love. But shifting from pride to gratitude changes the focus from “look what this says about me” to “look at the person they’re becoming.” That subtle shift creates more humility, deeper connection, and healthier relationships.

    40 分鐘

  7. 5月19日

    Self-Awareness, High Maintenance & Emotional Capacity: Understanding How You’re Wired | #28

    In this episode of Filter Optional, Chico and Shannon West unpack one of the most important — and misunderstood — aspects of emotional health: self-awareness. What does it actually mean to be self-aware? And why do so many people think they are… while still repeating the same unhealthy patterns? Using humor, real-life marriage moments, and practical examples, Chico and Shannon explore the difference between self-awareness, self-absorption, defensiveness, emotional capacity, and understanding how you’re uniquely wired . They also introduce a practical framework around being: High or low maintenance High or low energy High or low productivity …and explain why none of these are inherently “good” or “bad.” The key is learning how to recognize your patterns, regulate your responses, and stop judging yourself (or others) through shame-based labels. Key Points Why most people overestimate their level of self-awareness The difference between self-awareness and self-absorption Why defensiveness is the enemy of growth Understanding internal vs. external self-awareness How high/low maintenance, energy, and productivity affect relationships Why emotional capacity and mental load matter in marriage and family dynamics The importance of introspection, accountability, and noticing patterns over time How self-awareness helps reduce blind spots and improve communication  Takeaway Self-awareness isn’t about perfection. It’s about being willing to honestly examine your patterns, own your impact, and understand how you’re wired without shame. The more self-aware you become, the less defensive you need to be — and the healthier your relationships become.

    45 分鐘

  8. 5月12日

    Trauma & Psychedelics: Can the Brain Really Heal? What Is Ibogaine? | #27

    In this episode of Filter Optional, Chico and Shannon West step into a nuanced and vulnerable conversation about ibogaine therapy, psychedelics, trauma recovery, PTSD, addiction, and mental health healing. As psychedelics gain national attention—and states like Texas begin expanding research into ibogaine treatment—Chico and Shannon unpack the difference between hype, fear, and legitimate therapeutic potential . Drawing from addiction recovery work, trauma-informed care, and personal reflection, they explore how ibogaine may help “rewire” the brain for people struggling with PTSD, traumatic brain injuries, severe depression, and opioid addiction. They also discuss the growing cultural conversation around ayahuasca, ketamine, kratom, and medication-assisted treatment—and why discernment matters. This isn’t a conversation about escapism or recreational drug use. It’s about curiosity, healing, and asking difficult questions about how trauma impacts the brain and what true recovery can look like. What ibogaine is and how it differs from ayahuasca, ketamine, and other psychedelics Why ibogaine is gaining attention for PTSD, traumatic brain injury, and opioid addiction recoveryThe connection between trauma, inflammation, and brain healthHow unresolved memories and emotional pain can stay buried in the nervous systemWhy preparation, medical supervision, and intentionality matter in psychedelic-assisted therapyThe difference between healing tools and addictive escape behaviorsHow perspectives on mental health treatment can evolve over timeHealing sometimes requires looking honestly at what’s been buried. Whether through therapy, recovery work, spiritual practices, or emerging treatments like ibogaine, growth begins when we become willing to investigate the deeper roots of pain instead of only managing the symptoms. Key PointsTakeaway

    36 分鐘
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Addiction Counselor Chico West and his wife Shannon lend their years of experience to listeners from all walks of life offering a unique perspective from both the filter (Shannon) and the no filter (Chico). Welcome to Filter Optional.

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    2018年 - 2026年
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