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From her TikTok and Instagram, @findingmrheight, dating coach Ali Jackson is joined by friend & stand up comedian Erica Spera (@spericaa) to bring you their positive and practical dating approach in podcast form. Their straightforward attitudes, often with some humor on the side, will help you tackle modern dating issues while building confidence and staying authentic to your true self. Follow along @findingmrheight for even more content!

Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast Ali & Erica

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.6 • 428 Ratings

From her TikTok and Instagram, @findingmrheight, dating coach Ali Jackson is joined by friend & stand up comedian Erica Spera (@spericaa) to bring you their positive and practical dating approach in podcast form. Their straightforward attitudes, often with some humor on the side, will help you tackle modern dating issues while building confidence and staying authentic to your true self. Follow along @findingmrheight for even more content!

    169. The Deeper Questions One

    169. The Deeper Questions One

    Erica & Ali are getting deep this week, going through all sorts of questions you can use to connect on first dates, in early dating, or even when already in a relationship. We’re answering our favorite ones plus listing a few you probably shouldn’t ask. Let’s start having some more interesting conversations!

    In Updates, Erica meets a new man (or is it an automated text system?) and Ali makes a decision about one of her second dates this week.

    Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 39.

    NYC Live show on Wed May 15th!! Buy tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

    Take our Podcast Survey to help us improve the pod: https://tinyurl.com/fmhsurvey24

    If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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    • 1 hr 19 min
    168. The A Little Nudge One ft. Erika Ettin

    168. The A Little Nudge One ft. Erika Ettin

    Erica & Ali are diving into the apps with dating coach & app expert Erika Ettin of @alittlenudge. We talk about whether it really matters what opener you send (hint: YES), how to deal with dating app burnout, and why Erika recommends dating NATO (not attached to outcome).

    But first, Erica is back from a rejuvenating Bachelorette weekend while Ali had quite the week of first dates (with 2 new nicknames!).

    Where to find Erika: On Instagram @alittlenudge, on TikTok @alittlenudge, at www.alittlenudge.com.

    Timestamps: Erika joins us at around minute 22.

    NYC Live show on Wed May 15th!! Buy tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

    Take our Podcast Survey to help us improve the pod: https://tinyurl.com/fmhsurvey24

    If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    Have a scam to report? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 about your potential scam and we will weigh in!

    Thanks to this week’s partners:
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    Prose: Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 50% off your first subscription order today! Go to prose.com/fmh.
    Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
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    • 1 hr 1 min
    167. The Roundup One

    167. The Roundup One

    Erica & Ali are bouncing around in a roundup episode this week, chatting about recent dating-related news items. First, we have some updates from last week’s ep! Then, we dive into the risks of buying a house with someone you’re not married to (Tom & Ariana, anyone?) and discuss why dating apps have been on a downswing.

    Erica has a “friendly” update from her recent speed dating event, while Ali is setting up two first dates for this week.

    Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 38.

    NYC Live show on Wed May 15th!! Buy tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

    Take our Podcast Survey to help us improve the pod: https://tinyurl.com/fmhsurvey24

    If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    Have a scam to report? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 about your potential scam and we will weigh in!

    Thanks to this week’s partners:
    Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com and use code FMH20.
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    Recess: Get 15% off Recess Mocktails now at takearecess.com/FMH so you can enjoy your favorite cocktails without the consequences.


    Our Sponsors:
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    • 1 hr 8 min
    166. The Female Friendships One ft. Danielle Bayard Jackson

    166. The Female Friendships One ft. Danielle Bayard Jackson

    Ali & Erica are back for another episode about friendship, featuring incredible friendship coach, Danielle Bayard Jackson! Danielle’s upcoming book, Fighting for Our Friendships, is all about the science behind women’s relationships and she brings us SO much knowledge: from deepening your bond with an acquaintance, to the influence our friends have on our romantic relationships, to how we should romance our friends, too.
    In Updates, Ali sees Montana Boy at an event while Erica attends a speed dating event and expresses her continued frustrating at the state of dating on the apps.
    Where to find Danielle: On Instagram @daniellebayardjackson, on TikTok @thefriendshipexpert, at www.betterfemalefriendships.com.

    Preorder Danielle's Book, Fighting for Our Friendships: The Science and Art of Conflict and Connection in Women's Relationships.

    Timestamps: Danielle joins us at around minute 32.
    If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast
    Have a scam to report? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 about your potential scam and we will weigh in!
    Thanks to this week’s partners:
    Prose: Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 50% off your first subscription order today! Go to prose.com/fmh.
    Recess: Get 15% off Recess Mocktails now at takearecess.com/FMH so you can enjoy your favorite cocktails without the consequences.
    Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth for optimal hormone levels and use our code FMH for 15% off on your entire first order.


    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Recess and use my code FMH for a great deal: www.takearecess.com


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    • 1 hr 20 min
    165. The First Date One

    165. The First Date One

    Ali & Erica have a first date guide for you this week! We’re breaking down everything you need to know: getting from dating app convo to date, pre-date texting guidelines, first date arrival logistics, conversation tips to avoid and awkwardness, and so much more.

    In Updates, Erica finds out why people call LA “Flake City” as she prepares for multiple first dates. Meanwhile, Ali is back from Costa Rica and reflects on her communication with Mr. Worldwide.

    Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25.

    If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast
    Thanks to this week’s partners:
    Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com and use code FMH20.
    Prose: Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 50% off your first subscription order today! Go to prose.com/fmh.
    Recess: Get 15% off Recess Mocktails now at takearecess.com/FMH so you can enjoy your favorite cocktails without the consequences.
    Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth for optimal hormone levels and use our code FMH for 15% off on your entire first order


    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Recess and use my code FMH for a great deal: www.takearecess.com


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    • 1 hr 31 min
    164. The Ick One

    164. The Ick One

    Have you ever gotten the ick from a match or a date? Ali & Erica have rounded up all sorts of icks from the listeners and we’re debating them on this week’s episode. It’s a fun and silly one this week!

    In Updates, Ali goes on a thoughtful fourth date with Mr. Worldwide. Meanwhile, Erica is excited to be back in LA for a while, making swiping easier. And, she is still taking submissions to be setup with her DC friends at fmhsetups@gmail.com.

    Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.

    If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    Thanks to this week’s partners:
    Last Bottle Wines: Sign up at www.lastbottlewines.com and 10% off your first order with code FMH.
    Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com and use code FMH20.
    Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.
    Recess: Get 15% off Recess Mocktails now at takearecess.com/FMH so you can enjoy your favorite cocktails without the consequences.
    Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth for optimal hormone levels and use our code FMH for 15% off on your entire first order.


    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com
    * Check out Recess and use my code FMH for a great deal: www.takearecess.com


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    • 1 hr 12 min

Customer Reviews

4.6 out of 5
428 Ratings

428 Ratings

Thisappistheowrstappever ,

fye

the fye age minimum reference had me rolling 😂

CrayBoo ,

Mid

The podcast has definitely been hit or miss lately. Erica and Ali’s chemistry is definitely off. The dynamic was better with Roark because Roark kept Ali in check and Ali helped make Roark softer. As a listener, I’ve found myself being annoyed by Ali being what feels somewhat dishonest and “know-it-all” like and you can hear that come through with Erica too in recent episodes.

Qwerrtythebest ,

Love the pod!

I love listening to this pod. I know some people sense tension, but I see Ali and Erica as two friends with very different personalities who are so comfortable with each other that they aren’t afraid to just be themselves- even if that puts them on different sides. I like the two different perspectives they bring! ❤️

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