Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy

This is such a helpful series for me. Has helped me better understand and relate to my lower desire partner and be more patient with her as we navigate our marriage.

This podcast is alright. I hate how the hosts like to say other people are being close minded towards sex, but then only see how they view sex as “the right way.” Not everyone is as into sex as say the host Lori. That’s their right. Not every one wants and/or is happy to compromise themselves, for the pleasure of their partner. Like this oral sex episode. Not everyone likes oral sex! They may examine why and get deeper and still wind up.. not liking it. No one is wrong or right in a situation like that. Feels like shaming the way they frame these issues sometimes. That kinda grinds my gears about this show, but I enjoy it for the most part.

I’m pursuing the medical field profession and i absolutely love listening to this podcast while i work. I love all the information so far. I’m still trying to catch up. Back on 2018 episodes haha. I’ll get there.

This podcast diminishes the pain and reality of low desire partners. A groundbreaking study by Dr Cami Hurst which included 1300 participants revealed that low-desire can often be the result of many years of concentual-yet-unwanted (yes that is a thing) ‘duty sex’ by women in an effort to avoid negative reactionary responses by their partners, ie: sulking, coercion…basically anything that happens after the ‘NO’ After many years of this unhealthy dynamic, women not only experience PTSD symptoms, but a full-blown sexual aversion to their husbands, along with a complete shutdown of their sexuality. Then they are labeled with the blanket term: ‘Hypo-sexual desire disorder’ and are told to check their hormones or engage in sensate focus exercises with their husbands, further re-enforcing the trauma patterns. Ask me how I know. If this sounds like you, you are not alone. While I truly, truly empathize with the husbands who are on the receiving end of this dynamic, they too need to recognize their part. Please do your research on this and perhaps do a podcast episode on the topic and/or the study. A lot of your messaging is great, but to omit this very real and IMO extremely common dynamic is harmful and doing your listeners a disservice.