FuggaBRAT

Shelbi Fox

"Where I am is where it's at," says Shelbi Fox, and she’s here to prove it with her refreshingly unfiltered take on life. The FuggaBRAT podcast dives into the messy, hilarious, and all-too-relatable moments that make us human. From laugh-out-loud stories to thought-provoking ideas, she explores the “why” behind it all. ----- NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programmer) Master Practitioner Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Coach

  1. MAY 13

    Trust Your Gut | How Listening to Your Instincts Can Save Your Life

    Your gut instinct is more powerful than you think. Ignoring it can cost you everything. Have you ever ignored your gut feeling… and later realized you shouldn’t have? This episode of FuggaBRAT is a real, raw story about why your instincts matter more than you think. Shelbi Fox shares a life-threatening experience where listening to her gut led her to get a second opinion, a decision that ultimately saved her life. What started as feeling “off” turned into something much more serious. Despite being told everything was fine, something didn’t sit right. That inner signal pushed her to take action, leading to a critical diagnosis and emergency treatment just in time. This episode breaks down the difference between logic and instinct, why we tend to override our internal signals, and how your body often knows something is wrong before your mind can explain it. ⏱ Timestamps [00:00] Ignoring your gut feeling and setting up the story [00:30] Why this is a life or death situation [01:05] Symptoms begin and misinterpreting the signs [02:10] Extreme fatigue, breathlessness, and headaches [03:30] First doctor visit and being told everything is fine [04:30] Why that response didn’t sit right [05:15] Taking control and ordering lab tests [06:15] Severe test results and urgent warning signs [07:10] Emergency room visit and immediate escalation [08:15] Realizing how serious the condition is [09:10] Blood transfusion and critical intervention [10:15] How close it actually was [11:10] Why getting a second opinion matters [12:00] Gut instinct as a survival mechanism [12:50] Final takeaway and trusting your gut Sometimes it’s not about having all the answers. It’s about paying attention to what you feel. Unlock your potential with your personal Cognitive Performance Index assessment: NeuroCPI - app.shelbifox.com Website: ShelbiFox.com Instagram: instagram.com/shelbifox_official YouTube: YouTube.com/@shelbifox TikTok: TikTok.com/@shelbi_fox X: x.com/@fuggabrat

    13 min
  2. MAY 6

    How to Stop Overthinking Fast | The DO IT Directive for Decision Making

    Overthinking is keeping you stuck. Learn how to stop the cycle and take action instantly. Have you ever talked yourself out of something you actually wanted to do? Overthinking isn’t helping you make better decisions. It’s slowing you down, creating doubt, and keeping you stuck in your own head. In this episode of FuggaBRAT, Shelbi Fox breaks down exactly how overthinking works and introduces a simple, powerful tool to interrupt it immediately. The DO IT Directive is a mental reset strategy designed to help you stop spiraling, trust yourself, and take action without getting trapped in analysis. Through relatable stories, real-life examples, and practical application, this episode shows how small decisions become overwhelming and how to take back control of your thinking patterns. If you’ve ever hesitated, delayed, or second-guessed yourself into doing nothing, this episode will shift how you approach decisions starting today. Timestamps [00:00] Overthinking and decision paralysis explained[00:42] Why overthinking is a time thief[01:18] Relatable example of overthinking simple decisions[02:05] The 30-day “say yes” experiment story[03:15] Realizing overthinking was the real problem[04:05] What happened after saying yes to everything[05:00] Introducing the DO IT Directive framework[05:28] Decide to interrupt overthinking[05:50] Observe your thoughts without reacting[06:10] Take ownership of the first step[06:30] Take action immediately[07:00] Why the DO IT Directive works[07:45] Stopping perfectionism and building trust[08:20] Real-life examples: emails, conversations, gym[09:20] Applying the rule to everyday decisions[10:00] Recap: action over overthinking[10:35] Final takeaway and call to action Unlock your potential with your personal Cognitive Performance Index assessment: NeuroCPI - app.shelbifox.com Connect with ShelbiWebsite: ShelbiFox.com Instagram: instagram.com/shelbifox_official YouTube: YouTube.com/@shelbifox TikTok: TikTok.com/@shelbi_fox X: x.com/@fuggabrat

    11 min
  3. APR 29

    High Conflict People Explained | Behavior Patterns, Boundaries & Protecting Your Energy

    High conflict people follow predictable patterns. Learn how to spot them and protect your energy. You ever walk away from a conversation thinking… how did that turn into that? One minute everything is fine, and the next you’re defending yourself, explaining yourself, or completely drained. This episode breaks down high conflict people (HCPs), the patterns behind their behavior, and why every interaction seems to follow the same exhausting cycle. This isn’t about someone having a bad day. This is about a repeatable behavioral pattern that can impact your relationships, your work, and your mental energy if you don’t recognize it. We’re getting into: The 4 core traits of high conflict peopleWhy their reactions feel intense and confusingThe patterns and phrases they useHow to recognize it earlyWhy you can’t change themHow to protect your energy without getting pulled in Because once you see the pattern… you stop taking it personally and start responding differently. ⏱ Timestamps 00:00 When conversations suddenly turn into conflict01:05 What are high conflict people (HCPs)?02:10 The 4 traits explained03:40 All or nothing thinking06:00 Unmanaged emotions and emotional reasoning08:20 Extreme behaviors and escalation10:30 Blaming others and avoiding responsibility12:20 Why you can’t unsee the pattern13:45 Self test for high conflict tendencies16:00 Why high conflict people act this way18:30 Where this shows up in real life20:45 Warning signs and common phrases23:30 Why you cannot change them24:45 How to respond without escalating26:00 The BIFF method explained28:00 Stop JADE (don’t justify, argue, defend, explain)29:30 Protecting your energy and boundaries31:00 Breaking the cycle and taking your power back 🚀 Key Takeaways High conflict behavior follows predictable patternsIt’s not about one moment, it’s about repeated cyclesYou cannot change someone who lacks self-awarenessEmotional engagement fuels escalationBoundaries only work when enforcedAwareness gives you control over your response 📲 Call To Action Unlock your potential with your personal Cognitive Performance Index assessment: NeuroCPI👉 app.shelbifox.com 🌐 Connect with ShelbiWebsite: ShelbiFox.comInstagram: instagram.com/shelbifox_officialYouTube: YouTube.com/@shelbifoxTikTok: TikTok.com/@shelbi_foxX: x.com/@fuggabrat

    40 min
  4. APR 22

    Can You Hack Happiness? | Emotional Contagion, Nervous System & Human Behavior

    🎙Can your brain feel happier just by watching others? Emotional contagion, nervous system, and behavior explained. 🧠 Have you ever been fully committed to being annoyed… then suddenly a random video shifts your mood? This episode dives into the psychology of emotional contagion, how your nervous system reads other people, and why happiness can spread without you trying. Your brain is constantly scanning for cues of safety, emotion, and connection. When you watch someone experiencing genuine joy, your brain briefly mirrors it, creating a subtle internal shift. Sometimes it lifts you. Sometimes it irritates you. So which is it? Both. In this episode, we break down: Why happiness can feel contagiousWhy it sometimes makes you feel worseHow your nervous system processes emotional inputThe science behind mirroring and social regulationSimple ways to shift your state without forcing it This is not about pretending to feel good. It is about understanding how your brain already works and using it. Because sometimes the win is just feeling a little less stuck than you did five minutes ago. ⏱ Timestamps 00:00 That moment your mood shifts from a random video00:45 Can your brain be influenced by other people’s happiness?01:30 Why sometimes it feels good and sometimes it doesn’t02:15 How your brain mirrors emotion automatically03:10 Emotional contagion and social wiring explained04:10 How energy spreads in groups and changes your state05:15 Why positive emotions can feel irritating when you’re overwhelmed06:30 Capacity vs emotion what your nervous system is actually doing07:30 How to intentionally borrow better emotional input08:40 Using your body to reinforce emotional shifts09:40 Why small moments matter more than big changes10:30 One simple way to reset your state in real time 🚀 Key Takeaways Your brain is constantly reading emotional signals from othersHappiness can create a real internal shift, even if it is smallYour capacity determines whether it feels good or overwhelmingYou do not need to force a mood shift, just allow a small oneTiny moments of relief or lightness still count and build over time 📲Unlock your potential with your personal Cognitive Performance Index assessment: NeuroCPI 👉 app.shelbifox.com 🌐 Connect with Shelbi Website: ShelbiFox.com Instagram: instagram.com/shelbifox_official YouTube: YouTube.com/@shelbifox TikTok: TikTok.com/@shelbi_fox X: x.com/@fuggabrat

    14 min
  5. APR 15

    Why You’re More Productive at Night (11:47 PM Energy)

    Ever notice how your brain suddenly comes alive right before bed? Late-night productivity isn’t random. It’s your nervous system finally feeling safe enough to focus, think clearly, and actually engage. In this episode, Shelbi Fox breaks down the real reason behind nighttime motivation and why it has nothing to do with laziness, procrastination, or lack of discipline. You’ll learn how pressure, expectations, and constant daytime stimulation block your ability to focus and how your brain shifts when those demands disappear. This is about understanding your patterns, not trying to fix yourself. Nighttime productivity is driven by reduced pressure, not increased discipline Your brain focuses better when it feels unobserved and not evaluated Fewer options at night create clearer decision-making Productivity increases when tasks feel like a choice, not a demand Your nervous system plays a major role in when you can actually engage You don’t need to change who you are, you need to understand what conditions help you function best Reduce unnecessary pressure during the day Create small windows of uninterrupted focus Build intentional decompression time into your routine Pay attention to when your brain naturally engages Unlock your potential with your personal Cognitive Performance Index assessment: NeuroCPI👉 https://app.shelbifox.com Website: https://ShelbiFox.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/shelbifox_officialYouTube: https://YouTube.com/@shelbifoxTikTok: https://TikTok.com/@shelbi_foxX: https://x.com/@fuggabrat Your brain isn’t suddenly becoming “better” at night.It’s finally getting the conditions it needed all day. 🎙 Why You Get Productive at Night | Brain Patterns, Nervous System & Focus ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 Why you suddenly feel productive at night 00:45 This is not about procrastination or discipline 01:35 What actually changes at night 02:40 Daytime pressure and constant expectations 03:50 Nervous system relief and mental quiet 05:00 Why fewer options create more focus 06:00 Control, choice, and self-directed time 07:10 Brain shifts and creativity at night 08:10 Delayed “me time” and emotional safety 09:10 Stop judging your productivity patterns 10:00 How to work with your brain during the day 10:40 Final thoughts and closing

    11 min
  6. APR 8

    The Power of Presence | How You Influence People Without Trying (Psychology of Human Behavior)

    How your presence, energy, and behavior influence people without you even realizing it.🧠 You don’t have to try to be impactful. You already are. In this episode of FuggaBRAT, Shelbi Fox breaks down the psychology of presence, human behavior, and the subtle ways we influence people every single day without saying a word. This episode starts with a real, unplanned moment. A quiet morning, a beach, a stranger watching… and a powerful realization that impact doesn’t come from trying harder, performing better, or being seen. It comes from alignment, authenticity, and simply being in the moment. We get into how attention shapes your reality, why your brain is wired to notice what feels alive, and how nonverbal communication, emotional contagion, and mirror neurons silently affect the people around you. This is about real-life psychology. The kind that shows up in everyday moments you don’t even think matter… but do. If you’ve ever wondered why some people feel magnetic without trying, or why certain moments stick with you longer than they should, this episode explains what’s actually happening underneath it all. And more importantly… how to live in a way that creates that naturally. ⏱ Timestamps [00:00] Presence and the unseen impact of everyday moments[01:30] A real story about unintentional influence and human behavior[02:34] How attention shapes perception and experience[03:27] Why movement, emotion, and rhythm capture attention[04:31] Nonverbal communication and authenticity in connection[05:24] Emotional contagion and how feelings transfer silently[06:21] What presence actually looks like in real life[08:48] Why alignment creates natural influence[09:51] Why we remember feelings over planned moments[11:53] Living in the moment vs documenting everything[13:13] The psychology of slowing down and letting moments land[14:39] Mirror neurons, emotional contagion, and pattern recognition[15:40] Everyday examples of how you influence people[16:30] 5 practical ways to be more present naturally[18:30] Why impact happens when you stop trying so hard[19:40] Thank you to Gail and the power of shared perspective 🧩 Key Takeaways You are influencing people constantly, even when you don’t realize itAttention determines your experience more than reality doesPeople feel your internal state before they hear your wordsEmotional states transfer automatically through human interactionPresence stands out because most people are distractedThe moments that stay with people are rarely planned 📲 NeuroCPI AssessmentUnlock your potential with your personal Cognitive Performance Index assessment:app.shelbifox.com 🔗 Connect with Shelbi Fox Website: ShelbiFox.comInstagram: instagram.com/shelbifox_officialYouTube: YouTube.com/@shelbifoxTikTok: TikTok.com/@shelbi_foxX: x.com/@fuggabrat

    21 min

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"Where I am is where it's at," says Shelbi Fox, and she’s here to prove it with her refreshingly unfiltered take on life. The FuggaBRAT podcast dives into the messy, hilarious, and all-too-relatable moments that make us human. From laugh-out-loud stories to thought-provoking ideas, she explores the “why” behind it all. ----- NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programmer) Master Practitioner Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Coach