Going Deep Podcast

Kate Kali

The Going Deep Podcast dives unapologetically into self-development, sex, relationships, and the raw truths of human behavior. No surface-level fluff—just real, explicit, and transformative conversations that cut through the noise. If you’re ready to challenge your beliefs, break toxic patterns, and embrace deeper connections, this is where it all begins.

  1. 11/06/2025

    Do Looks Matter to Women? The Psychology of Attraction

    Do Looks Matter? The Psychology of Attraction Are Looks Important? The Truth About Attraction and What Really Matters to Women (Whether They Realize it or Not) In this episode, I dive deep into the often oversimplified topic of physical appearance and its importance in romantic attraction. Uncover the hidden dynamics and underlying psychological factors that influence behaviors and self-confidence. Explore the significance of authenticity and embracing one's true self in enhancing attractiveness. Real-life examples and actionable strategies are provided for men to improve their inner and outer selves effectively. Learn how to align your actions with your true desires and achieve meaningful, authentic connections with women. 00:00 Are Looks and Appearances Important to Women? 00:34 The Root Causes Behind Appearance Issues 03:30 Personal Story: Embracing Authenticity 06:44 Radical Acceptance and Self-Love 15:38 The Power of Authenticity 20:44 Join the Community for Personalized Guidance JOIN 🌹CHOSEN 👇 Be the first to get on the waitlist here: https://katekali.activehosted.com/f/25   NEXT STEPS + EXTRA SUPPORT   🎯 FREE INTRO CLASS — UNLEASH YOUR MASCULINITY: 👉 https://katekali.com/unleash-your-masculinity-opt-in/   👑 MASTERY FOR MEN: Shadow Work & Self-Development for Men To Uplevel Your Life: 👉 https://shop.katekali.com/products/mastery-for-men/   🐅 REWILD YOUR RELEASE: Learn How to Release ALL Trauma From Your Body & Re-Write Your Life Script: 👉 https://shop.katekali.com/products/rewild-your-release/   💻 BOOK A SINGLE SESSION WITH ME: 👉 https://katekali.com/book-single-session   ⭐️ APPLY TO WORK LONG-TERM WITH ME: 👉 https://katekali.com/consultation-intake-form

    25 min
  2. 10/25/2025

    Navigating Boundaries & Anger to Create Healthy Relationships

    In this video, clinical hypnotherapist and men's coach Kate Kali addresses common misconceptions about boundaries, stating they are not about rejecting something but are about self-definition. She explains that true boundaries come with neutrality and explores the intricate relationship between boundaries, anger, and the nervous system. Kali provides insights into how anger is often misunderstood and its role in highlighting threats to our sense of self. She discusses the physiological and emotional processes behind anger, likening them to survival responses seen in animals. Kali emphasizes the importance of processing anger to uncover the deeper self-definition and encourages viewers to use triggers as opportunities for growth and self-love. She concludes by advocating for healthy relational dynamics achieved through self-awareness and proper boundary-setting. One of the biggest misunderstandings in emotional health is what boundaries actually are. Most people think boundaries are about saying NO… 
But a real boundary is self-definition — knowing who you are and bringing that into a relationship. In this video, she breaks down: 
✨ What healthy boundaries actually look like 🔥 Why anger isn’t bad — it’s communication from your nervous system 💔 How codependency + hyper-independence are boundary violations 🧠 The subconscious roots of emotional triggers 🦓 A zebra + tiger analogy that will finally make anger MAKE SENSE ❤️ How to set boundaries with neutrality, self-respect + clean energy   If you’ve ever found yourself: • People-pleasing to avoid conflict
 • Feeling “disrespected” and reacting with anger
 • Losing yourself in relationships
 • Struggling to heal from an avoidant partner
 • Wondering why therapy isn’t fixing the patterns… …this video will help you understand the REAL work that leads to emotional freedom.   MENTIONED VIDEOS: This 4-Step Method Rewires Triggers—Faster Than Therapy 👉 https://youtu.be/ycRmC1e-9kc Trauma Release Exposed: 👉 https://youtu.be/14VF0SwKqW0   NEXT STEPS: 📗 FREE E-Book: Download Your Copy of Kate’s Book, The Self-Sabotage Solution 🔗 https://katekali.com/the-self-sabotage-solution-1/   🔥 FREE Men's Masterclass – Break through your limiting beliefs and access unwavering confidence and deep authenticity 🔗 https://katekali.com/unleash-your-masculinity-opt-in/   🐅 REWILD YOUR RELEASE - Release All Trauma + Deep Emotional Alchemy Work 
👉 https://shop.katekali.com/products/rewild-your-release/   ❤️ Attraction Mastery – Polarity Secrets for a Thriving S-x Life & Lasting Connection 🔗 https://shop.katekali.com/products/attraction-mastery   🏆 Mastery for Men – The Ultimate Self-Development Program for Men 🔗 https://shop.katekali.com/products/mastery-for-men/   💎 Book a 1-Hour Coaching/Hypnotherapy Session With Kate: 
🔗 https://katekali.com/book-single-session   💎Apply to Work Long-Term With Kate: 🔗 https://katekali.com/consultation-intake-form

    34 min
  3. 10/17/2025

    Why You Can't Get Over Your Avoidant Ex-Girlfriend (Top 3 Mistakes Men Make)

    Why You Can't Get Over Your Avoidant Ex-Girlfriend (Top 3 Mistakes) In this video, explore the top three reasons why healing from a relationship with an avoidant ex-girlfriend can be so challenging. Understand the deep emotional connections formed in such relationships and how they tie back to unresolved childhood traumas, particularly those involving unmet emotional needs. Learn about the concept of complex trauma and how it influences adult relationships, as well as effective ways to reframe and process the emotional pain you're experiencing. This episode offers insights and practical steps for addressing these deep-seated issues, including recognizing and dealing with rumination and viewing emotional pain as valuable information for personal growth. Additional resources and support options are also discussed.   00:00 Introduction: Why You're Not Healing from Your Avoidant Ex-Girlfriend 00:38 Understanding Emotional Bonds and Complex Trauma 01:48 The Impact of Childhood Trauma on Adult Relationships 04:34 The Role of Pain in Healing and Self-Discovery 10:25 Three Reasons You're Not Over Your Avoidant Ex 13:15 Reframing Your Pain and Emotions 16:56 Practical Steps to Heal and Move Forward 26:34 Conclusion and Resources for Further Help   NEXT STEPS: @KATE__KALI INSTAGRAM: 👉 https://www.instagram.com/kate__kali/   WATCH ON YOUTUBE: How to Detach From Your Avoidant Ex-Girlfriend (4 Step Process): 👉 https://youtu.be/D1blqgKAEvQ   🎯 FREE MEN’S MASTERCLASS: 👉 https://katekali.com/unleash-your-masculinity-opt-in/   👑 MASTERY FOR MEN (Online Course): 👉 https://shop.katekali.com/products/mastery-for-men/   🐅 REWILD YOUR RELEASE (Heal Trauma and Complex Trauma): 👉 https://shop.katekali.com/products/rewild-your-release/   💻 BOOK A SINGLE SESSION WITH ME: 👉 https://katekali.com/book-single-session   ⭐️ APPLY TO WORK LONG-TERM WITH ME: 👉 https://katekali.com/consultation-intake-form

    30 min
  4. 09/14/2025

    Emotional Alchemy: Turn Your Pain Into Your Greatest Gift

    Emotional Alchemy: Turn Pain Into Your Greatest Gift Shadow work maps your subconscious; emotional alchemy shows you exactly what to do with every emotional trigger. Most people treat uncomfortable emotions—shame, anger, grief, depression, anxiety, even overthinking—like a threat. But what if every emotion isn’t proof something’s wrong… and is actually a piece of your authenticity held in your subconscious? In this video, I teach my 4-Step Emotional Alchemy method to turn any trigger into clarity, confidence, and clean boundaries. No toxic positivity. No bypass. This is the real work.   Start here (free + fast): 👉 4-Step Method Explained: https://youtu.be/ycRmC1e-9kc 👉 FREE E-Book – The Self-Sabotage Solution: https://katekali.com/the-self-sabotage-solution-1/ 👉 FREE Men’s Masterclass (confidence + authenticity): https://katekali.com/unleash-your-masculinity-opt-in/ What you’ll learn ⭐️ Why emotions belong to the body (not your thoughts) ⭐️ The body → brain loop (and why your thoughts lie) ⭐️ How the mask vs. vulnerable self split forms in childhood ⭐️ The #1 reason positive affirmations backfire ⭐️ A simple process you can use for any trigger ⭐️ How to have confidence without faking it ⭐️ The addiction secret: why it “latches” when there’s space between mind & body—and how to close it How each emotion alchemizes ❤️ Anger → Boundary (neutral, not performative) 🧡 Grief → Capacity for love & presence 💛 Shame → Confidence / magnetism 💚 Jealousy → Clear desire + belief to update 🩵 Disgust → Self-protection & life-honoring clarity 💙 Loneliness → Real connection 💜 Worry → Freedom from old loops GO DEEPER: 🐅 Rewild Your Release — Release stored trauma + master emotional alchemy 🔗 https://shop.katekali.com/products/rewild-your-release/ 👉 FREE Body Language and Face Reading Masterclass: 🔗 https://katekali.com/face-reading-body-language-masterclass/ ❤️ Attraction Mastery — Polarity secrets for a thriving s-x life & lasting connection 🔗 https://shop.katekali.com/products/mastery-for-men/ 💎 Work 1:1 With Me • Personal Face Reading: https://katekali.com/book-face-reading-session • 1-Hour Coaching/Hypnotherapy: https://katekali.com/book-single-session • Apply for Long-Term Work: https://katekali.com/consultation-intake-form

    43 min
  5. 08/19/2025

    How to Heal From Your Avoidant Ex-Girlfriend (4-Step Process That WORKS)

    How to Heal From Your Avoidant Ex-Girlfriend (Step-by-Step Process That Works) | Why is it so hard for men to get over avoidant women (fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant, avoidant attachment style ) even when they know the relationship isn’t healthy? In this video, I break down the powerful biochemical force at play: vasopressin—the bonding hormone that makes men wire their long-term future to one woman. Unlike oxytocin (how women bond), vasopressin creates a territorial, monogamous pull that makes heartbreak feel like addiction. You’ll learn: 🌹 The difference between how men and women bond biologically 🌹 Why heartbreak feels like obsession, rumination, and withdrawal 🌹 How avoidant partners amplify the “addiction cycle” of love 🌹 Why willpower isn’t enough to heal this kind of attachment 🌹 The 4-step shadow work process I teach men to break free, heal their inner child, and step into true masculinity 🌹 How to heal the root cause of RUMINATION so it stops haunting your mind This isn’t just about heartbreak—it’s about transformation. The pain you’re feeling is the invitation to become the man you were always meant to be.   👉 Links mentioned in the video: ❤️ YouTube Video on Emotional Alchemy: https://youtu.be/kVnCxrOTsfM ❤️ Free Men's Masterclass (40 mins): https://katekali.com/unleash-your-masculinity-opt-in/ 👑 Mastery for Men: https://shop.katekali.com/products/mastery-for-men/ 👑 Rewild Your Release for massive trauma healing, inner child healing, emotional alchemy, and identity rewiring: https://shop.katekali.com/products/rewild-your-release/ 💎 Book one 1:1 session with Kate: https://katekali.com/private-session-kate/ 💎 Apply to work long-term with Kate: https://katekali.com/consultation-intake-form/

    24 min
  6. 07/21/2025

    Shadow Work Secrets: The Missing Link to Confidence & Manifestation

    Shadow Work Secrets: The Missing Link to Confidence & Manifestation | If you feel stuck, anxious, are struggling with depression, or uare nable to manifest the life, love, and confidence you want, shadow work is the missing key. In this video, we reveal shadow work secrets that will help you unlock true confidence, emotional freedom, and authenticity. You’ll discover: ✨ What shadow work actually is (and isn’t) ✨ Why your body never lies and how to listen to it ✨ How your inner child and unmet needs shape your personality and triggers ✨ How shadow work increases your nervous system regulation and confidence ✨ Why ignoring your shadow keeps you stuck in self-sabotage ✨ How shadow work accelerates manifestation and abundance Most people try to “think positive” or use positive affirmations while ignoring their hidden emotional wounds and subconscious patterns. This is why they continue to self-sabotage in relationships, confidence, and money. Shadow work helps you identify and heal these hidden blocks so you can manifest your desires faster and with ease. Whether you’re interested in manifestation, inner child healing, trauma healing, masculine/feminine polarity, or emotional intelligence, shadow work is the foundation you need. 🌀 Watch until the end to learn how to apply shadow work to your daily life for real transformation. ✨ RESOURCES to go deeper: 📥 Download your FREE Self Sabotage Solution eBook (learn the 4 steps to heal any limiting belief or emotional trigger): 👉 https://katekali.com/the-self-sabotage-solution-1   👑 Watch my free men's masterclass & learn my proven 3-step method for men to overcome their deepest struggles and evolve into the man they are truly meant to be: 👉 https://katekali.com/unleash-your-masculinity-opt-in/   📺 Watch my video: The 4 Steps to Heal Any Emotional Trigger (complete shadow work and inner child healing process): 👉 https://youtu.be/ycRmC1e-9kc   🎓 Ready to fully transform? JOIN my "Rewild Your Release" course to release trauma, rewire your nervous system, and embody unshakable confidence: 👉 https://shop.katekali.com/products/rewild-your-release/   Follow me on TikTok (250k+ followers) for Dating advice, Chinese Face Reading, and Body Language 👉 https://www.tiktok.com/@kate__kali?_t=ZT-8xhdCxk3Vdt&_r=1 Follow me on Instagram for Men's Mental, Emotional, and Relational Health (@kate__kali) 👉 https://www.instagram.com/kate__kali/profilecard/?igsh=dG9hZ3N1M3JrNDB3   #shadowwork #manifestation #innerchildhealing #nervoussystemregulation #emotionalintelligence #spiritualgrowth #confidence #personaldevelopment #selfhealing #traumahealing #authenticity #emotionalhealing #subconsciousmind #masculineenergy #feminineenergy

    33 min

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5
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12 Ratings

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The Going Deep Podcast dives unapologetically into self-development, sex, relationships, and the raw truths of human behavior. No surface-level fluff—just real, explicit, and transformative conversations that cut through the noise. If you’re ready to challenge your beliefs, break toxic patterns, and embrace deeper connections, this is where it all begins.

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