Marriage Coach and HSP Love Expert Hannah Brooks teaches sensitive women how to not only have an easier marriage but to have a marriage where love, understanding, lightness, and connection gets deeper every day. Highly Sensitive people have unique differences that lead to predictable challenges in committed relationships, and sometimes even the deterioration of love. Right now your marriage might feel difficult: you may get upset easily, feel weighed down by resentment, hurt, irritation. It does not have to stay this way. Because as a sensitive person you are cut out for the best marriage possible. You just need to learn and apply a few things you were never taught. You'll hear relatable stories, interviews, advice, and coaching on just what you need to know to use your sensitivity to your advantage in love. You’ll learn how to stop taking things personally, manage your feelings, feel so secure and good about yourself, feel empowered instead of stuck, and how to influence (without manipulation) how your partner feels and behaves towards you, so you can just enjoy the person you’ve chosen as your partner, and invite so much more love and joy into your daily lives together.
How To Stop Your Partner From Controlling You
048 Sometimes we find ourselves in a dynamic we do not like with our partner: we may feel disrespected, looked down upon, controlled. This may be even more common for us HSPs than non-sensitives.
Is there hope to change this dynamic? Can you ever feel like your partner respects you, values your opinion, and sees you as an equal?
Can you stop him from controlling you?
Yes, you can. Without controlling him in return!
In this podcast, we dive into what it takes from your end--which is likely all it will take to totally change this icky dynamic! Just YOU.
I was once someone who felt controlled by men. But I haven't felt an ounce of that in decades! It took some internal work, but I changed myself so I was no longer controllable.
This podcast episode lays out the specific The words and actions you can take to stop your husband from exerting control over you.
We also dive into 3 underlying mental-emotional shifts you will need to make in order to keep this up and feel like a natural at it, so you can gain more respectful treatment from your husband and feel on equal loving ground with him.
How To Not Be A Doormat
As modern women, we’ve been encouraged to not let ourselves be “doormats” in our relationship with men.
And we want to be strong, to not tolerate criticism or unkind treatment, and to stand up for the respect we deserve.
All of which is so important to have a healthy loving marriage, especially as a sensitive person.
But sometimes we do this in a way that actually makes us feel even more walked all over, more like a doormat--and in more pain than ever.
So how do we stop being a doormat for REAL?
Listen in to find out how.
Hint: it has to do with understanding what we can control and what we cannot ...and then learning how to control what we ourselves have dominion over--which is our own selves….and becoming Un-walk-over-able!
Even if your man is sometimes unkind, uncool, and disrespectful, you can put an end to feeling like a doormat-- without FIGHTING, and with dignity, self-containment, confidence, and rooted in love for all involved.
In this episode, I break down the specific of what this entails and get you started on the path to feeling strong, empowered, respected, and being treated with the kindness, care, and love you deserve.
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The Sensitive Love Revolution
The fact of the matter is there’s a lack of empathy, understanding, attentiveness, care and compassion--in other words, SENSITIVITY!-- in our world and intimate relationships.
And so many women right now are hungry for more of this sensitivity in their marriages.
I want this for them deeply, too. It's high time to usher into our marriages, and ultimately into our world, the love and sensitivity we deeply yearn for. It’s time to bring about a sensitivity revolution.
So what does that entail and where do we start?
In this episode I break it down for you, cheer you on and empower you to invite way more of this life-and-love enhancing sensitivity into your own love life and world.
What’s keeping the sensitivity we want just out of reach in our marriages and world
Mindset shifts to help you feel empowered, ready, and inspired to put yourself behind your dream of a marriage full of empathy, support, and loving attentiveness.
Essential and overlooked understandings about yourself as a sensitive person to grasp, so you can start to deepen into how YOU are naturally the exact the force to bring about these changes
Insights into specific aspects of our sensitivity trait, which may at first glance seem detrimental, but are actually powerful gifts perfectly designed to bring about the kinds of changes we envision.
Why, once you learn to honor and work with your sensitivity, you are perfectly positioned and even meant to successfully lead loving sensitivity in your own mini-realm.
And how that doesn’t mean being a doormat, or being nice and sweet all the time, but rather requires strong loving self-advocacy, not tolerating mistreatment, and fiercely standing up for the respect you deserve.
How the work to make these big changes is actually very intimate and accessible, as it starts right here in you and your marriage.
And how by working to bring more sensitivity into your marriage, you’re actually bringing about the exact medicine the planet, as a whole, needs to heal.
If you want to bring about a sea-change of sensitivity in your marriage and in the larger world— one that will make both into realms you are naturally much happier in—this is a must listen episode!
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How Work Can Support HSP's Lives And Relationships With Laurie Carlson
We live in a world where so much focus and energy is directed into our career or work and being productive. This doesn't work well for highly sensitive people, nor does it support having a great marriage or an overall fulfilling life.
It does not have to be this way. If we want a life we actually enjoy living, we HSPs need to make the shift from life supporting our WORK to work being in service to our lives and relationships!
This is totally possible! Today, Laurie Carlson, a Life Coach who helps HSPs and Empaths nurture their sensitivity so it can be the foundation of their success, and I talk about how.
Listen in to hear:
Why our “normal” approach to work doesn't work so well for HSPs (or most humans, actually!) and what it costs us in the other areas of our lifeHow our relationship to our work life has a direct impact on our love lifeWhy our sense of value is so intertwined with having a successful career Steps to disentangle your sense of value from your work and productivitySmall but essential changes you can make today as an HSP to start claiming your time to support the relationships, career, and life you really want Stories from our own lives and our clients lives of how we are all, as HSP women with families and careers, working on doing this, and the beneficial impact it's making all around.Laurie and I are both here to help HSP revolutionize the way we relate to the things that matter most to us in our lives. Join us in this episode to get clear direction and deep insights to chew on that will steer you towards having a life filled with relationships and experiences you love.
Find Laurie at lauriecarlson.com or on Instagram @hsp.lifecoach
Being A Happy Fulfilled Wife
044 If you've ever felt unhappy in your marriage, if you ever look back on the early days or your relationship --or even your single days-- with a longing for those happier times, or if you ever feel like you’ve lost a part of yourself in this marriage, this episode is for you.
Where does our happiness really come from in our marriages? Whose job is it to bring pleasure and enjoyment to you? Whose devotion to your joy and fulfillment matters most in your marriage?
There's one answer that many of us subscribe to unconsciously that paves the way for LESS happiness and fulfillment, and one that is the route to MORE vibrancy and joy in ourselves and our marriages.
So often we think our man is the source of our happiness in our marriages (don't think that's you? It can show up in subtle ways. Listen in to find out more). But when we do this we totally overlook the deep well of happiness available to us all the time, no matter what’s going on with our partner.
When we hand off this job to our man, it’s almost always a love, joy, and attraction downer. But when we reconnect with our own capacity to bring ourselves a sense of fullness and happiness in our lives, we most often end up inspiring more devotion from our husbands.
Listen in to hear me break this all down with fun stories and metaphors, a 2-step process that clarifies where your own focus needs to be, and real life examples of how powerful the effect all this has on your fulfillment, pleasure, and happiness in your life and marriage.
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Or email Hannah at Hannah@lifeisworthloving.com
8 Tips For A Better Traveling Experience With Your (Non-HSP) Husband
043 As Highly Sensitive People, traveling or even day adventures can pose some extra challenges, (i.e, be hard)--especially when traveling with a non-HSP partner.
But, seeing new places, visiting loved ones, and having a change of scenery are not only things many of us would like to do, but things that actually benefit us and our marriage if navigated in a way that honors our sensitivity.
So how do we approach trip-taking in a way that WORKS for us sensitives, and makes them really enjoyable for both ourselves AND our partner?
In this practical episode, you will learn 8 specific things you can do to make any trip with your partner so much easier, more connecting, and more fun, and even return to “regular life” feeling refreshed (instead of like you need a vacation from your vacation!)
The challenges many of us HSP’s face when it comes to getting out in the world and traveling--especially when our partner is along for the ride.
The effects of overstimulation on our mood and ability to engage well, and why it’s so common for highly sensitive people when we travel
Ways to work with your partner’s higher interest for go-go-going and seeing and doing all the things, and your need for decompression, so you both feel happy and satisfied with your trip.
Ways to think intentionally, plan ahead, and things to bring to make your time the most relaxed, refreshing, joyful adventure possible.
The most important thing to know about communicating to your partner about your travel needs as an HSP
The positive impact on our marriage and for all involved when we tend lovingly to our sensitivity when we are away from home
I illustrate this whole thing with stories and my own personal learnings from my recent anniversary trip with my husband, which started off hard, but wound up being deeply connecting and fun for both of us.
Listen in to learn how you can have the same experience on all your future travels.
A truly amazing resource
This podcast is informative, inspiring and motivating for HSPs navigating love relationships. Right now, it’s a strong addition to my individual work with Hannah, in that it keeps bringing to me the core principles of her approach to relationship coaching. Each podcast brings deeper understanding of how I can be the person I want to be, in my relationship and have a better relationship. After my individual work with Hannah ends, it will continue to be a life line for me. I especially appreciate her bringing in other voices, of clients and other coaches. What a truly amazing resource!
Hannah gives listeners concrete ideas, options and guidance. Her speaking style fills me with hope as she shares her expertise with gentle loving kindness, and I hear her voice deeply. The wisdom of years and the beauty of her delivery bring me back every time. THANK YOU HANNAH for offering your gift in this way!
Incredible resource for HSP’s
Going through the world as a highly sensitive person, I often times feel alone in my big emotions and don’t always know the healthiest approach to incorporating that into my relationships. Hannah gives you the tools and teachings to truly live more cohesively all while respecting your nature as an HSP. Her personal stories and perspectives have been incredibly helpful for me because of how strongly I can relate. Thank you for this podcast!