Marriage Coach and HSP Love Expert Hannah Brooks teaches sensitive women how to not only have an easier marriage but to have a marriage where love, understanding, lightness, and connection gets deeper every day. Highly Sensitive people have unique differences that lead to predictable challenges in committed relationships, and sometimes even the deterioration of love. Right now your marriage might feel difficult: you may get upset easily, feel weighed down by resentment, hurt, irritation. It does not have to stay this way. Because as a sensitive person you are cut out for the best marriage possible. You just need to learn and apply a few things you were never taught. You'll hear relatable stories, interviews, advice, and coaching on just what you need to know to use your sensitivity to your advantage in love. You’ll learn how to stop taking things personally, manage your feelings, feel so secure and good about yourself, feel empowered instead of stuck, and how to influence (without manipulation) how your partner feels and behaves towards you, so you can just enjoy the person you’ve chosen as your partner, and invite so much more love and joy into your daily lives together.
The Amazing Human Marriage
064 Without knowing where we want to go, how can we ever get there? We can’t, at least not without a ton of meandering and getting lost along the way.
So having a clear vision of what you WANT in your marriage is always the very first step to creating it.
I want you, my friend-- and all sensitive women who are in a partnership (or want to be) to have what they feel is an amazing relationship, an amazing marriage.
And I bet you want that, too.
Creating that requires some learning and skill building, and also some UNLEARNING– of what we’ve been taught that doesn’t work.
So we need to start with not just a vision, but a re-envisioning of how we want our marriages to be–one that takes into account the VERY REAL HUMANS we are, in this current moment in time.
In this episode, I offer you that: a re-envisioning of what an amazing marriage realistically looks like for us as sensitive humans. A vision that I’ve brought to life in my own marriage, and my clients have in theirs, too...
...It's a vision that YOU yourself can achieve with your partner, too!
Slow down and really take and SAVOR this one. It will be the start of a sea-change of more love, connection, support, and ease in your marriage. It will be the beginning of you making your marriage one that gets more amazing for the rest of your life.
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Link to blog post this was read from: The First Step To An Amazing Marriage
The Loving Marriage Magic Ratio
063 If interactions between you and your significant other are laced with negativity, even slightly….or if you just want to bring more connection and love in your relationship, this episode is for you.
In it, I share one key thing (backed by decades of research) that you can do, or rule you can follow, to not just improve the culture in your marriage, but to maintain a strong loving relationship into the future. It’s so simple to keep in mind and to do.
I break down
The exact formula to follow Why to do itWays it could look in your marriageThe most important thing to keep in mindHow to take it all further And how to make it come naturally.
Listen in to learn how to follow this important guideline that will help you steward your marriage back to love and happiness.
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How To Release Control For More Intimacy
062 Today we dive into a 4 step formal process to release the urge to control your partner in the moment.
Because the cost of trying to control our partner in a marriage is intimacy –and feeling a whole lot of icky emotions, whereas releasing control is a huge step towards gaining more intimacy and harmony with your honey.
Yet, even if you intellectually know this, old habits die hard (and your human brain is naturally wired to want to control). So releasing control is easier said than done.
Which means it's really helpful to have a clear cut step-by-step process (a process that really zones in on all the feelings that drive control) that you can come back to over and over in any situation to help you decide whether or not you want to try to control, and if not, to release the urge right away.
I lay out the 4 steps right here in this episode, and illustrate them with personal stories and work I’ve been doing around my own urges to control.
This is the 3rd episode in a 3 part series on control in relationships, but it is also a stand alone episode. We do a quick review of why control causes more problems than rewards, what it looks like, why we aren’t bad for acting on our human urge to try to control our partner, and what actually serves us way better in our goal of having a loving, mutually respectful, connected marriage.
Join me to learn a process you can easily use if you’ve realized you’d prefer intimacy and harmony over following that impulse to try to control what really isn’t controllable anyway.
Episode 37, How To Feel Safe To Feel Any FeelingHannah's Website
From Imagined Control To Real Influence
061 How can you have more genuine influence in your marriage and way more control over your experience of it?
Today, I shed light on this as we continue our series on our human urge to control in our relationships.
In this episode, I offer you an important intermediary step you can take to be great at releasing control and ultimately creating MORE of the fulfillment, support, and authentic love you really want in your marriage
It can be totally life-shattering (in both good and not so comfortable ways) to finally get that we cannot control our significant other--and so much in our lives– that it was all just an illusion that brought us more pain than good.
But as we accept this, we are able to open the door to more loving influence in both our own internal landscapes and our marriages (and other important relationships).
Listen in as I share a rarely talked about but important piece of this process, illustrate it with a vulnerable story of my own, and offer you a chance to take this healing step yourself.
This episode will take you one healing step closer to connecting to deeper love and your capacity to actually influence things in the direction you’d love for them to go on your marriage.
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Being His Lover, Not His Mother
In this fundamental episode (the 1st in a 3-part series), we dive into an essential-to-look-at issue--one most sensitive women will need to face and learn to work with if we want to feel more like our husband’s “lover” (someone for him to love and cherish and someone for him to feel loved and cherished by) rather than, well, his “mother”.
With a whole lot of compassion and honest sharing of my personal journey with it, I address and help you solve this very common challenge:
Our own urge to control what we cannot control: another adult.
So many of us women fall into this habit unintentionally--and for good well-intentioned reasons. But, it alway backfires and makes marriage a burdensome, duty-bound, sparkless experience that wanes in mutual respect and enjoyment every day.
And the ironic thing is that our efforts to control our partner actually make us LESS capable of bringing ourselves the loving experiences we want with him.
If you think you don’t have any issue with this, I invite you to listen in to find out for sure. Because, the kind of control I’m talking about shows up in subtle ways, and is completely pervasive in modern marriages--and it slowly kills the love and romance in them.
Learn how to not let it do so, and how you can actually start truly influencing your marriage in a more loving direction, in this episode.
Listen in to learn:
the two general categories in which control commonly manifests the signs to look out for that indicate your veering towards control the effect it has on you, your partner, and your marriageHow to begin moving out of controlly and “mother” energy and into more “lover” energySo you and your husband can have a marriage that you both love.
The 7 Most Powerful Phrases To Deepen Connection In Your Marriage
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6 Seconds To A Better Marriage
059 The way to make truly lasting positive changes in your marriage is by addressing the SOURCE of the things that a) keeps you from doing or saying things that lead to a loving relationship, or b) drives you to do things that lead to misunderstanding, hurt, and disconnection.
By making root-deep positive cognitive and emotional shifts, you’ll naturally have way more interactions with your honey full of respect, love, and connection. This podcast, and most of my focus as a teacher and coach, emphasizes this in a big way. (Dive into any episode to start making such shifts today.)
But there are also some simple actions you can take that have the power to sway things between you and your significant other in big delightful ways--IF you do them.
Today I share one thing you can do that takes only 6 seconds. Sprinkle this into your daily life together to start feeling more calmness, lightness, connection-- and even a reigniting of passion.
My husband and I make it a basic part of our marriage maintenance, and it seriously juices things up.
Listen in to find out what it is. Oh, and it’s fun.
If it isn't as easy as it sounds, find out what to do to make it naturally part of your life together. ( Hint, I shared the answer above.)
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Hannah is terrific!
Hannah‘s podcast are filled with so much information and ways to improve your life and marriage. She’s right on target with her teachings. She gives good insights as to how to implement changes in your own world that makes life so much better. I highly recommend listening to her podcasts! I didn’t realize how sensitive I was until I could relate to so many of the things that she was talking about. This has really helped me.
Hannah Brooks podcast shares amazing techniques for women looking to improve their relationship with their spouses. Hannah offers solid advice for women to ultimately empower themselves and help them feel more love for their spouse. She teaches women that they have the power and resources to change their love lives. I absolutely recommend this to anyone looking to work towards a more loving relationship with their spouse and within themselves. ❤️
It’s sad that she’s not inclusive.