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Marriage Coach and HSP Love Expert Hannah Brooks teaches sensitive women how to not only have an easier marriage but to have a marriage where love, understanding, lightness, and connection gets deeper every day.   Highly Sensitive people have unique differences that lead to predictable challenges in committed relationships, and sometimes even the deterioration of love.   Right now your marriage might feel difficult: you may get upset easily, feel weighed down by resentment, hurt, irritation. It does not have to stay this way. Because as a sensitive person you are cut out for the best marriage possible. You just need to learn and apply a few things you were never taught.  You'll hear relatable stories, interviews, advice, and coaching on just what you need to know to use your sensitivity to your advantage in love.   You’ll learn how to stop taking things personally, manage your feelings, feel so secure and good about yourself, feel empowered instead of stuck, and how to influence (without manipulation) how your partner feels and behaves towards you, so you can just enjoy the person you’ve chosen as your partner, and invite so much more love and joy into your daily lives together.

Highly Sensitive, Happily Married Hannah Brooks

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Marriage Coach and HSP Love Expert Hannah Brooks teaches sensitive women how to not only have an easier marriage but to have a marriage where love, understanding, lightness, and connection gets deeper every day.   Highly Sensitive people have unique differences that lead to predictable challenges in committed relationships, and sometimes even the deterioration of love.   Right now your marriage might feel difficult: you may get upset easily, feel weighed down by resentment, hurt, irritation. It does not have to stay this way. Because as a sensitive person you are cut out for the best marriage possible. You just need to learn and apply a few things you were never taught.  You'll hear relatable stories, interviews, advice, and coaching on just what you need to know to use your sensitivity to your advantage in love.   You’ll learn how to stop taking things personally, manage your feelings, feel so secure and good about yourself, feel empowered instead of stuck, and how to influence (without manipulation) how your partner feels and behaves towards you, so you can just enjoy the person you’ve chosen as your partner, and invite so much more love and joy into your daily lives together.

    How to LIKE Your Spouse

    How to LIKE Your Spouse

    143   If you are like many other women,  deep down you probably LOVE your partner, but it can feel like you DON’T LIKE him very much sometimes, yeah?
    I’ve been there, too, and it doesn't feel great… because who wants to not like the person they’re planning to spend their whole life with? By now, it shouldn't come as a surprise that this can be even more common of an experience as an highly sensitive Person unfortunately.

    That’s why I want to share with you 6 primary things I've learned from my own experience with re-enlivening my LIKE for my husband.

    So listen in to hear my story of going from feeling rather annoyed often with my husband, and wondering if I even liked him and what it means if I didn't, to realizing one day how MUCH I now truly enjoy him! 

    Just like I do, you CAN laugh, be playful, flirt with, and simply enjoy your partner again, when you really implement the 6 steps I share in this episode. 

    Don’t get stuck in the myth that there’s nothing you can do from your side of the street to change things for the SO much better.  It simply isn't true.

    Listen in and follow my lead, and you WILL start feeling closer and happier with your partner–and even start really LIKING him again. 
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    Learn about or enroll now in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. 
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    • 33 min
    Self-Compassion and HSP Relationships With Lori Cangilla

    Self-Compassion and HSP Relationships With Lori Cangilla

    142   Developing Self-Compassion is one of the key ingredients to building a truly thriving marriage as an HSP. It is embedded in everything I teach and will be forever, because it is just so essential. 

    So I invited Lori Cangilla, a psychologist and HSP specialist, to have a conversation about it with me, share stories and some laughs, and dive deeper into what self-compassion is all about in this episode. 

    Although self-compassion is often misunderstood, it is a source of so much goodness between you and your partner–and even if you haven’t been the most self-compassionate person up until now, you can totally develop it! And it will send powerful healing ripples throughout your whole life and marriage.

    So listen in to discover: 
    what self compassion really is (and what it isn’t!) how it relates to compassion and connectionThe common misunderstandings about it that may be preventing you from accessing the deep benefits of it, the 4 main pieces that compose self compassion, why you would bother spending a bit of energy to become a more self-compassionate person as a highly sensitive personwhat the benefits of it are in our intimate relationshipswhy being self-compassionate can be challenging at first for HSPs the two types of self-compassion and how they work together to help you lead a life that is empowered, and self-honoring, as well as compassionate to others,  and tips to begin developing more self compassion starting today

    No HSP should live life without this vital way of relating to yourself.  As you grow your self-compassion, you will open doors to richer and deeper connection and intimacy with your own self and with your significant other, and reap the rich benefits of it in all areas of your life for all your years to come.

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    Find Lori at singularlysensitive.com  and her book, Wander and Delve here.

    Learn about or enroll now in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. 

    • 58 min
    Whose Business Am I In?

    Whose Business Am I In?

    141  This episode should be required listening for anyone in an intimate relationship! With many years under my belt as a marriage coach, one of the biggest and most common problem-causer I’ve noticed again and again that causes disrespect, pain, and discord in marriages (and more so in HSP marriages) is the tendency to not know the difference between one’s own side of the court and one’s partner's side of the court–and therefore not tend well to your own, and over-tend to theirs. 

    This episode will shed light on why this is so damaging, help you identify if you are doing this–even just a little bit–and help you put an end to it, so you can re-develop or strengthen the mutual respect in your relationship that is so essential for it to thrive.

    We dive into the 3 types of “business” there are when it comes to relationships, and clarify what is your domain and what is your spouses–and what is beyond everyone's control.

    Then you will get very specific and practical advice on  how you can stop wasting your energy where you have no power or control, and instead put your energy where it is truly effective to drive REAL positive change in yourself and in your marriage…and you and your significant other are freed up to both able to genuinely enjoy each other a whole lot more

    For some of you, when you take this episode to heart, it will be the magic bullet that begins a cascade of healing in your marriage–and that perhaps even lets you see once again in your partner that person who you originally fell in love with, but haven’t seen in a while!

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    • 38 min
    True Wealth with Mark Yegge (and Einstein's Ghost)

    True Wealth with Mark Yegge (and Einstein's Ghost)

    140   We all want a life full of what is most important to us, full of “Wealth” of the emotional, relational, and also financial, kind–or what my guest, Mark Yegge, a “wealth architect” and money manager, calls “balanced abundance”.

    In other words, we want the wealth of feeling good, feeling secure, feeling healthy, feeling connected, loved, and fulfilled in this life. There is solid research that proves this.

    Even Einstein, the most brilliant scientific mind of his time, was super clear about what actually makes humans feel most alive and abundant. (In this episode we share the most beautiful secret letter he wrote to his daughter—it will truly just melt your heart!!)

    Unfortunately, because of the culture we live in, it’s easy to end up (almost by accident) over-focusing on things that don't actually lead us to that happiness and fulfillment. That lead, instead, to what I call Emotional Poverty. Mark and I have both seen all too many people lose track of what most matters to them by over-focusing on the pursuit of a successful career and financial abundance (or what we think is just financial security), while under-focusing on the things that actually bring them Emotional wealth and TRUE security.

    Since you're here, you have a pretty good sense that relationships are a prime way to the happiness and meaning you want in this life. But you're likely (even to just a small degree) to fall under the influence of cultural programming that, by no fault of our own, distracts you from being able to make your important relationships the truly fulfilling and life-giving ones you know they are meant to be.

    Luckily, it’s not so hard to re-align with what matters most to you, which is HOW you will be able to bring more TRUE WEALTH, the kind that matters most to YOU,  into your life, starting today. It can just take a bit of remembering –and intention.

    So listen to this fun, laughter-filled, not-to-be-missed  conversation,  where Mark and I dive straight into the heart of all of this. You’ll come away with your heart energized and a surge of motivation to bring what most matters to YOU alive in your life, so you can feel genuinely happier and more fulfilled --and wealthy in all ways--as an HSP.
     
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    • 52 min
    “Dirty Pain” VS “Clean Pain”

    “Dirty Pain” VS “Clean Pain”

    139  It's time for FREEDOM FROM HURT WEEK.  Learn more and join us here.  There are 2 categories of emotional pain in our relationships, and although neither of them is “wrong”, one of them tends to push us apart, making our marriages HARDER  (if we don't know how to work with it)…

    …and the other, if we let it, can actually fuel the love and connection we want in our relationships.

    You WANT to know the difference between these types of pain, because one of them you want to tune deeper into, the other you want to quickly dissolve…

    Listen in to this episode, peppered with plenty of personal stories and examples, to discover:
    the difference between “clean pain” and “dirty pain”, the negative impact on your relationships of falling prey to dirty pain and not tending to your clean pain, why clean pain is so healing and powerful, the different ways you want to address each of them to move out of pain and discord in your relationship and into a deeper place of peace, love, and connection than ever and what gets in the way of easily doing this, so YOU can do it well. Pain is inevitable in life, but hurt isn't. When you know how to work with these 2 types of pain, you will free yourself from so much unnecessary pain in love and life,  be so much more empowered to effectively make real changes in your marriage that feel so much better, get the best treatment from your significant other, and make the best impact in this world in general. Listen in.

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    • 39 min
    The Hurt of Care Distortion

    The Hurt of Care Distortion

    138   One of the underlying causes of my first marriage ending was because of what I call Care Distortion. It wrecked me, leading me to feel like my husband didn't care about me enough, and took a huge toll on how good my then hubby and I felt with each other.  

    Today, I tell you all about my story with it, and how it is very possibly affecting your relationship too, as it does so many highly sensitive women. If you ever feel like your partner doesn't care enough about you, or you’re not so important to him, or he doesn't value you enough, this episode is especially for you. 

    I know how painful it can feel. It not only hurts, but, at least for me and many of the women I work with, it tends to lead to real frustration, anger, and resentment… And all of these feelings can end up making the whole relationship much more difficult and fraught with tension, arguments, and cold wars…

    But in most cases, this is totally something YOU can change, just like I did. It has everything to do with Care Distortion. 

    Listen in to learn: 
    what Care Distortion is, where it comes from in the first place, why it's more common for HSPs than non-HSPs, why it causes so much pain and discord, and what you can do to put an end to it.

    When care distortion is no longer happening in your marriage, you will feel so much lighter, more peaceful and loved– and you’ll be free to start having a whole lot more laughter, fun, and all the good stuff that you most want in your marriage.

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    • 32 min

Customer Reviews

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54 Ratings

54 Ratings

nicole12749 ,

Wonderful podcast

Found this podcast a few months ago and I’m so happy I did- learning so much and can see changes in ALL my relationships as a result. And to the person who complained that she is “not inclusive,” in the very first episode she explained that even though she is speaking for simplicity in heteronormative terms for the remainder of the podcast, this relationship advice applies for ALL intimate relationships, not just “husband/wife.” I appreciate her wise, compassionate guidance on this podcast!

Tyhinr ,

Amazing insight into the HSP relationship

Hannah has the most incredible insights into the HSP relationship. Her observations and advice are very fresh, accurate and oh so helpful. It really makes an even greater impact if you can have your partner listen as well. Keep these podcasts coming.

gingergal64 ,

Life changing

These podcasts and Hannah's Treasured program have been absolutely life changing for me. I have finally been able to let go of the pain and resentment I have been holding onto for years. I am learning to break down my emotional walls and open myself up to a loving relationship again. I am learning to accept and process my emotions in a healthy way. I think my relationship with my husband may the best it has ever been. Highly, highly recommend.

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