How to Decrease Resentment and Share the Mental Load

In this episode of the Feel Good Club podcast, Tia Graham and Paige Connell discuss the invisible load and mental load that working mothers experience. They explore the emotions tied to motherhood, such as resentment and guilt, and provide actionable steps for identifying and articulating these feelings. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication with partners to create equitable sharing of responsibilities and the need for self-care and time equity. Paige shares valuable resources and insights for mothers navigating these challenges, encouraging them to prioritize their well-being and recognize that they are not alone in their struggles.

Takeaways

• The invisible load of motherhood encompasses more than just tasks.
• Many women experience feelings of resentment and guilt in motherhood.
• Identifying and articulating the mental load is crucial for change.
• Effective communication with partners can lead to equitable sharing of responsibilities.
• It may take time to shift the mental load dynamics in a relationship.
• Self-care and time equity are essential for both partners.
• Resources like books and apps can help in managing the mental load.
• It's important to recognize that feelings of inadequacy are often societal constructs.
• Moms should prioritize their well-being and practice self-compassion.
• Support systems and therapy can be invaluable for navigating challenges.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding the Invisible Load of Motherhood

06:36 Identifying and Articulating the Mental Load

11:05 Communicating with Partners: Building a Team

17:02 The Journey to Equitable Sharing of Responsibilities

20:27 Prioritizing Self-Care and Time Equity

25:01 Resources for Navigating the Mental Load

26:18 Addressing Unequal Partnerships

27:34 Empowering Moms: Moving Beyond Guilt and Shame