Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Kimmy Seltzer
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Welcome to the Charisma Quotient hosted by dating, makeover and confidence expert, Kimmy Seltzer. Each week, learn from Kimmy and other experts about how to build confidence from the outside, in. She's consulted thousands of people to revamp their style, boost their confidence and most importantly, find love. Her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach brings a fun and knowledgeable style to the podcast. She alternates the podcast with solo episodes highlighting various topics, interviewing experts, reading questions and answering them with surprising answers and live coaching sessions.

  1. 4D AGO

    What's Your Dating Style? How Human Design Reveals Who You Attract With Dr. Karen Parker

    What if your dating challenges have roots far deeper than your last breakup, maybe even back to childhood family dynamics and subconscious roles?  In Episode 434 of The Charisma Quotient, "What's Your Dating Style? How Human Design Reveals Who You Attract With Dr. Karen Parker," Kimmy sits down with Human Design expert Dr. Karen Parker to dive into the intersection of energetic patterns, early life conditioning, and dating success.    Together, Kimmy and Dr. Karen walk through how recurring relationship patterns often stem from old family roles and unspoken rules absorbed in childhood—before you ever go on your first date. Dr. Karen reveals the essentials of Human Design, describing how our energetic types influence not only relationships, but also areas like self-worth, communication, and even financial abundance. She explains the five Human Design types—Manifestor, Generator, Manifesting Generator, Projector, and Reflector and shares actionable tips to reconnect with your authentic self.   You'll hear: Why most dating patterns start in your family system—not your romantic experiences The revealing question Kimmy asks clients who habitually attract emotionally unavailable partners The five Human Design energy types and their influence on love, self-expression, and decision-making Common relationship challenges each Human Design type tends to face (and how to overcome them) Practical strategies for self-acceptance and breaking stubborn patterns in dating.   If you want to find out what type of dater you are take Kimmy's Dating Diagnosis Quiz www.kimmyseltzer.com/quiz . Once you detect your challenges and you're ready to get out of your old dating patterns, book your free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    38 min

  2. FEB 27

    AI and Dating After 40: Can Technology Help You Find Real Love with Joel Comm

    Can technology truly help us become better at love, or is it making things more transactional and detached?  In Episode 433 of The Charisma Quotient, "AI and Dating After 40: Can Technology Help You Find Real Love with Joel Comm," Kimmy dives deep with guest Joel Comm—New York Times bestselling author, digital innovation expert, and host of "AI for Everyone"—to explore these questions and more.    Kimmy and Joel reminisce about real-world connections and the role technology has played in their own journeys—including their hilarious story of reconnecting after years apart thanks to both Facebook glitches and human intuition. Together, they break down how AI is currently being used in dating, from chatbots writing flirty texts to platforms predicting our perfect matches. They discuss the benefits—like better safety, more precise matches, and support for those re-entering the dating pool—as well as serious drawbacks, such as overthinking, decision fatigue, and the loss of authentic connection and in-person chemistry.  Listen at the end where AI actually created a song for this episode! You'll hear: How AI tools are influencing everything from match selection to first-date conversation starters The hidden pitfalls of relying too much on AI for flirting, texting, and dating Joel and Kimmy's real-life story of reconnection—where algorithms failed and humanity triumphed Why body language, humor, and presence are irreplaceable components of attraction Strategies for using AI as a dating resource, not an emotional substitute   If you're tired of overthinking and want to work towards dating people IRL, book your free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    48 min

  3. FEB 20

    Dating, Trauma & Healing After a Narcissistic Marriage: Coaching with Kimmy

    Are you struggling to trust yourself as you consider dating again? In Episode 432 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating, Trauma & Healing After a Narcissistic Marriage: Coaching with Kimmy," Kimmy does a live coaching session with Rex, who courageously opens up about his five-year marriage that morphed from an intoxicating honeymoon phase into a whirlwind of emotional manipulation and eventual abandonment.   Together, Kimmy and Rex explore not only the recognizable stages of narcissistic relationships—love bombing, devaluation, and discard—but also the deep psychological wounds left behind. Kimmy guides Rex through a process of understanding how childhood caretaking shaped his relationship patterns and how he can break free of the cycle to rediscover who he is beyond being "the caretaker." You'll hear: The warning signs and stages of a narcissistic relationship, including love bombing, devaluation, and discard How childhood family dynamics can set the stage for becoming a caretaker in adult relationships The emotional fallout from being in a narcissistic marriage—especially the impact on men Practical steps for rebuilding self-worth and confidence after being discarded Strategies to overcome the fear of abandonment and re-learn trust in oneself   If you find yourself getting back out there after a toxic relationship and things feel heavy, join Kimmy's co-ed Flirting Made Easy Workshop to learn how to flirt and have fun while dating.   Kimmy will teach you how to flirt without pressure, without games, and without feeling awkward. This isn't about pickup lines or pretending to be someone you're not. It's about learning how to use your body language, energy, and natural charisma to create attraction and connection.  Register here www.stophatingdating.com and grab your spot.    Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    1h 1m

  4. FEB 13

    Reclaiming Sexuality & Desire After 40 with Lauren Elise Rogers

    What does it mean to feel truly alive, sexy, and desired after decades of following the rules or after a long relationship ends? In Episode 431 of The Charisma Quotient, "Reclaiming Sexuality & Desire After 40 with Lauren Elise Rogers," Kimmy invites holistic sexuality educator and intimacy coach Lauren Elise Rogers to unravel the complex journey of reclaiming desire and sexual confidence later in life.    Together, they open up about their own post-divorce experiences—Kimmy's first kiss after years of marriage and Lauren's deep dive into rediscovering herself after a painful divorce in a strictly religious community. They discuss how outdated beliefs about sexuality and worth can shape our experiences, and why it's never too late to ask yourself what you truly want. Through candid stories and transformative insights, Kimmy and Lauren explore how to identify and break free from limiting beliefs, understand the difference between "recreational" and "relational" intimacy, and use self-reflection to plant new seeds in your metaphorical (and sometimes literal) inner garden.   You'll hear: Kimmy's vulnerable story about her first kiss after divorce—and why it was such a crucial turning point. Lauren's powerful journey from a "purity culture" upbringing through marital adversity and into personal liberation. How to identify the old rules and beliefs about sex, intimacy, and relationships that might be holding you back. Strategies to move from "people-pleasing" and self-doubt to embodied confidence and authentic connection, no matter your age or history.. A breakdown of the four cornerstones of eroticism—and what your favorite romantic stories reveal about your subconscious desires.   If you are having some confidence issues in getting back out there and feeling sexy, join Kimmy's co-ed Flirting Made Easy Workshop.   Kimmy will teach you how to flirt without pressure, without games, and without feeling awkward. This isn't about pickup lines or pretending to be someone you're not. It's about learning how to use your body language, energy, and natural charisma to create attraction and connection.  Register here www.stophatingdating.com and grab your spot.    Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    50 min

  5. FEB 5

    Reclaiming Confidence, Flirting, and Visibility After Heartbreak with The Golden Bachelor's Cindy Cullers

    Have you ever wondered what it really takes to rebuild your confidence after a major heartbreak?  In Episode 430 of The Charisma Quotient, "Reclaiming Confidence, Flirting, and Visibility After Heartbreak with The Golden Bachelor's Cindy Cullers" Kimmy welcomes Golden Bachelor finalist, Cindy Culler, for an open and deeply personal conversation about dating confidence in the second act and the power of showing up.    In this episode, Kimmy shares her signature "red dress moment"—the small outward change that catalyzed massive inward growth—and how taking action outside her comfort zone helped her step into confidence after her divorce. Cindy reveals how Kimmy's advice played a vital role in her own post-divorce journey, inspiring her to shed the "mom mode," say yes to new experiences, and ultimately land on national television.   You'll hear Cindy recount the real transformation that happened when she decided to show up boldly—both in life and love—including behind-the-scenes stories from the Golden Bachelor and how she used Kimmy's advice and became a "flirting coach" for her castmates.   You'll hear: Cindy's candid account of moving from the shadows to center stage, and how she reclaimed her sense of self after divorce. Why wearing red—and stepping into visibility—can be a game changer, with research-backed reasons men are drawn to this bold color. How to rebuild confidence from the outside in, not just by thinking, but by taking action. Playful and approachable flirting tips that work (straight from Cindy's Golden Bachelor adventures!) The importance of not settling—setting boundaries, getting clear on what you want, and refusing to play small in love or life.   If you're ready to reclaim your sexy confidence, join Kimmy's co-ed Flirting Made Easy Workshop. Register here www.stophatingdating.com and grab your spot.    Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    53 min

  6. JAN 30

    Understanding Men's Sexual Confidence: Interview with Dr. Anne Truong

    What if sexual confidence isn't about effort or technique, but something deeper happening in your body and mind?  In Episode 429 of The Charisma Quotient, "Understanding Men's Sexual Confidence: Interview with Dr. Anne Truong" Kimmy dives into the hidden side of masculine confidence, exploring how pressure, stress, and nervous system responses can shut men down and how it affects women when dating—with special guest Dr. Anne Truong.   Together, they explore why so many men feel immense pressure to perform in dating and in the bedroom, and how these expectations can rob them of authentic confidence. She shares a powerful case study of a client struggling with sexual dysfunction, revealing how shame and self-doubt can create a self-fulfilling prophecy—keeping men stuck in the friend zone and away from healthy romantic chemistry. Dr. Anne brings her expertise as a board-certified physician in anti-aging and regenerative medicine, sharing both her professional insights and raw personal experience as a partner supporting her husband through erectile dysfunction caused by medication. The episode reveals the root causes of ED and why the answers lie beyond just popping a little blue pill.   You'll hear: Why pressure to perform shuts down men's confidence—and what actually builds it. The surprising role of the nervous system in sexual connection for both men and women. Real-life stories about overcoming sexual dysfunction and the path to restored confidence. How open communication can break destructive cycles of shame and misunderstanding in relationships. The four holistic pillars of sexual health—diet, exercise, sleep, and stress—and practical tips for improvement. If you're ready to unlock your sexual confidence, join Kimmy's co-ed Flirting Made Easy Workshop. Register here www.stophatingdating.com and grab your spot.    Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    42 min

  7. JAN 15

    Dating Confidence at Any Age with The Golden Bachelor's Edith Aguirre

    Is your dating confidence low? Do you ever ask yourself if it's really possible to reinvent your love life at your age?  In Episode 428 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Confidence at Any Age with The Golden Bachelor's Edith Aguirre" dives deep into the concept of confidence with her special guest Edith Aguirre, Season One star from The Golden Bachelor. Together, they explore what it means to cultivate "second act charisma"—the confidence that blooms not from perfection or external validation, but from genuine self-connection, presence, and embracing where you are in life.   The conversation illuminates how confidence isn't just an internal feeling; it's experience, repetition, and self-expression on multiple levels—inner, outer, and social. Kimmy shares her charisma formula, detailing how each type of confidence interacts, and Edith reveals her personal journey to self-acceptance, from embracing her gray hair to putting herself out there in real-life dating scenes. If you've ever wondered how to gracefully transition into dating after 40, how to stop hiding and start radiating your authentic self, or simply how to attract more positivity, this episode will give you practical tools and heartfelt stories to spark your own reinvention.   You'll hear: What "second act charisma" really means for confidence and dating. Three key types of confidence—and how to build each one. Authentic, actionable tips to meet people in real life (without dating apps). Why clear intentions and boundaries matter in mature relationships. Strategies for breaking old dating patterns and loving yourself first. If you are wanting to feel more confident inside and out and maybe need a little nudge to reinvent your love life, join Kimmy's co-ed Authentic Dating Workshop. Learn how to express yourself, build real connections, and conquer dating fears. Register here www.stophatingdating.com and grab your spot.    Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    34 min

  8. JAN 8

    Break Your Dating Patterns: Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Partners

    Are you tired of feeling like you're starring in your own dating version of Groundhog Day? Do you wonder why you keep attracting the same partners, or why your relationships keep ending in familiar heartbreak? What if breaking those old patterns and creating the love life you want is less about finding a different person—and more about becoming a different you? In Episode 427 of The Charisma Quotient, "Break Your Dating Patterns: Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Partners" Kimmy dives deep into the cycles that keep you stuck in frustrating dating loops.   Using real-life client stories, Kimmy explains how childhood experiences and past relationships unconsciously influence who we are drawn to in adulthood. She shares actionable strategies to increase your emotional IQ, set healthy boundaries, interrupt self-sabotaging habits, and shift your mindset toward authentic, intentional dating. Whether you're newly single or a seasoned dater, you'll learn how to rewrite your relationship script, attract emotionally available partners, and turn the coming year into a breakthrough for your love life. You'll hear: Why dating can feel like "Groundhog Day"—and what's really behind those repeating patterns. Actionable exercises to flip your dating autopilot and start new, healthy habits. Why setting micro-boundaries on dates can jump-start your confidence and attract better partners. The difference between chemistry and familiarity  If hitting refresh on your dating game is part of your 2026 resolutions and you're ready to break your old dating patterns and show up more confidently, join Kimmy's co-ed Authentic Dating Workshop. Learn how to express yourself, build real connections, and conquer dating fears. Register here www.stophatingdating.com and grab your spot.  Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

    34 min
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Welcome to the Charisma Quotient hosted by dating, makeover and confidence expert, Kimmy Seltzer. Each week, learn from Kimmy and other experts about how to build confidence from the outside, in. She's consulted thousands of people to revamp their style, boost their confidence and most importantly, find love. Her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach brings a fun and knowledgeable style to the podcast. She alternates the podcast with solo episodes highlighting various topics, interviewing experts, reading questions and answering them with surprising answers and live coaching sessions.

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