Holding Space Dr. Cassidy Freitas

In this episode we explore the roots of perfectionism with anti-racism educator Monique Melton!

Monique answers the questions:

What is the cost of perfectionism on all humans?What steps can we begin to take to unhook from perfectionism and face the way it hurts black people?

Monique Melton is an educator, published author, content creator, international speaker, and host of the Shine Brighter Together podcast. She is also the founder of Shine Bright School, which is a global community of people dedicated to doing the work from the inside out for our liberation. The school offers education on topics such as anti-racism in the workplace, equitable business development, anti-racism parenting, inner work/personal growth, committing to anti-racism as a daily practice, and healthy relationships.

She is a wife to her high-school sweetheart and a loving mother to two little ones. She is also a natural big, bold dreamer and a joyfully unapologetic Black woman who believes we shine brighter together.

Learn more from her through the Shine Bright School by clicking here or visiting https://www.shinebrightschool.com/

Monique Melton's Website: https://moniquemelton.com/

Follow on IG: @shinebrightertogether and @moemotivate

How did you and I first connect? How did you learn about this podcast? My best guess would be that you found yourself here through Instagram. Thank goodness for that!

And yet, that little app on our phone can also be the place where we find ourselves in spirals of comparison, shame, overwhelm. That little app gives us access to so many resources and possible connections, but we can leave it feeling more depleted and overwhelmed. Social media's addictive qualities can eat away at all our margins, stealing away from the real connections in front of us, and can have a direct impact on our mental health.

So...what can we do about this? 

I invited Dr. Anisha Patel-Dunn to explore this with me. Together we name the issues and identify some tangible strategies for developing a healthier relationship with social media. 

We are the first generation to enter parenting in the era of social media and it's not going anywhere. So, let's figure it out together. For us, and for our children.

Dr. Anisha Patel-Dunn is the Chief Medical Officer at LifeStance Health which you can learn more about at lifestance.com/.

To learn more about Dr. Cassidy's California-based private practice visit https://www.drcassidymft.com/

If you're not based in California and looking for a therapist in your area, visit https://www.drcassidymft.com/blog/how-to-find-a-therapist-like-me

In this episode we are bridging mental health, interior design, and parenting with therapist turned interior designer Anita Yokota!

Anita explores the role that our home environment can have on our mental health and relationships as a parent, and offers simple strategies for designing a home with intention.

I also get a chance to ask her my burning questions on making interior design/home purchase decisions and how to create a system for tackling the never-ending laundry.

To connect with Anita you can find her on instagram @anitayokota or at her website www.anitayokota.com. Be sure to check out her book Home Therapy!

If you liked this episode you might also enjoy:

Episode 110: How to Work Through Perfectionism and Tap Into Your Mom Intuition with Renata Cameron

Episode 108: Am I Screwing Up My Kids with Dr. Sumi Raghavan

To learn more about Dr. Cassidy's California-based private practice visit https://www.drcassidymft.com/

If you're not based in California and looking for a therapist in your area, visit https://www.drcassidymft.com/blog/how-to-find-a-therapist-like-me

In this episode I sit down with New York Times Bestselling author Eve Rodsky. Together we explore the real issue of women shouldering the brunt of domestic and parenting responsibilities, regardless of whether they work outside the home. The unequal emotional labor and “invisible work” in a relationship has real costs for everyone involved, but Eve is here to share the light that comes with the solution! 

Eve's Fair Play book and card deck completely changed the trajectory of my own marriage, and she's here to share more about the system that saved hers and countless others.

To learn more about Eve's work and Fair Play visit https://www.everodsky.com/fair-play

To learn more about Dr. Cassidy's California-based private practice visit https://www.drcassidymft.com/

If you're not based in California and looking for a therapist in your area, visit https://www.drcassidymft.com/blog/how-to-find-a-therapist-like-me

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I've got one foot in toddler land and one foot in tween land. Yes, it feels like the splits and damn do the splits hurt sometimes. AND, it has also provided me this unique experience to see the thread between these two seasons and the push for independence and big feelings that come with both. 

I'm fortunate to call New York Times Bestselling Author and founder of Good Inside, Dr. Becky Kennedy, a friend and colleague. And as I find myself looking ahead to the teen years I had to ask her..."Do you think we're all destined to have a strained relationship with our teens?" Her answer was "No", and together we wondered if we can set the stage for a different relationship with our children early on.

In this episode we invite you all to join us in this conversation as we dive deeper into exploring the link between how we parent our children early on and the connection and trust we experience with our teens.

Already past those toddler years? Don't worry, we walk you through the important conversations that can support you in building that connection and trust RIGHT where you're at today.

To connect with Dr. Becky Kennedy and learn more about her book, community, workshops (like the Potty Learning and Deeply Feeling Kids workshop mentioned in the episode), as well as her podcast visit https://www.goodinside.com.

If you're a California resident and interested in learning more about Dr. Cassidy's therapy practice you can connect with her directly at https://www.drcassidymft.com/contact.

If you're not a California resident and you're looking for supportive steps to find a therapist visit https://www.drcassidymft.com/blog/how-to-find-a-therapist-like-me.

Other episode you might like:

Ep. 108 Am I Screwing Up My Kid? with Dr. Sumi Raghavan

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Parenting can be overwhelming, throw in being a Highly-Sensitive Person (HSP) and oof...it can be a lot.

In this episode we support you in understanding what it means to be a HSP, the challenges and gifts that come with it, and tangible ways to care for yourself in this modern era of parenting.

Amy Lajiness, LCSW, PMH-C is a Therapist and Coach who has spent countless hours supporting Highly Sensitive (HSP) parents in reclaiming their peace and confidence. Amy is a Highly Sensitive Person herself as well as a mother of two highly energetic young children. Amy holds certifications in Perinatal Mental Health and HSP, and is passionate about providing resources for HSP parents, teaching them how to harness their strengths and manage challenges with grace and confidence, in order to thrive in parenthood.

You can find Amy at www.highlysensitiveparenthood.com (for HSP Parent Resources & Coaching) and at www.innernaturetherapy.com (for Therapy for HSPs & Parents in California).  Amy is offering listeners of Holding Space 20% off of any resources or services at Highly Sensitive Parenthood, simply use the code HOLDINGSPACE at checkout to save 20% on any of the following:

Highly Sensitive Parenthood Course

Nourish Coaching Package

Highly Sensitive Parenthood Toolkit

Supporting Your Highly Sensitive Child Course (Presale)

To learn more about Dr. Cassidy's Group Therapy Practice for California parents visit www.drcassidymft.com.