Sex, Love, and Addiction

I’ve listened to A LOT of the podcasts on this subject (sadly) and this one offers so much help for both the addict and the betrayed. It is my go to and I have shared so many episodes with my husband and the women in my support group. As a betrayed partner, I appreciate Dr. Rob’s genuine sensitivity to our pain and the Betrayal Trauma experts he has on to offer us help and advice. There are some incredibly knowledgeable guests on this podcast. With that said, like with any podcast, there are some episodes with some experts that I might not totally agree with but they still help because they give different perspectives and I take those or leave them. At the end of the day, as a deeply heartbroken betrayed partner, I greatly appreciate this podcast and the expert knowledge it offers to every partner out there suffering from the deep pain of this addiction. THANK YOU Dr. Rob!!!

I have so much respect and admiration for Dr. Rob. Over the years, I’ve learned a great deal from him—I’m a licensed clinician myself—and I continue to value his insights. That said, this episode was genuinely difficult to listen to. If it were transcribed, I think we’d be taken aback by how frequently Dr. Rob interrupted his guest. It’s a testament to her composure that she was able to stay on track. The way Dr. Rob asked questions felt noticeably different from his usual style: impulsive, abrupt, and unusually disruptive. I say this not to diminish his brilliance, but because, as a fellow clinician, I found the experience jarring. Had I been the guest, I’m not sure I would have been able to finish the conversation.

In a great time of need, I was seeking resources and help. I found Love, Sex and Addiction. After soaking up many episodes-some multiple times and even contemplating workshops for my loved one with Seeking Integrity, I discovered a guest on the show and Director of Content Development for Seeking Integrity is not only a recovering addict, but a convicted sex offender…against a child. I actually feel betrayed….again. In a dark moment of trying to find light & hope, I feel duped. I feel exploited. As a partner in this journey to find healing, I shudder to think that I almost insisted that my loved one not only invest time listening to this show, but also consider paying for online workshops facilitated by this individual. I truly believe everyone has the right to recover and heal, but if you are the one everyone is turning to for help and healing, there should be full disclosure. Where is that episode?

These two clearly have a high opinion of themselves. They promote a single mentality and disparage alternative views. They use benign words like “connection” to exclude addicts and sex monsters.