Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be. The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode. Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough. This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience. If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else. New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.

  1. 1D AGO · BONUS

    Why You Feel Off After Talking to Your Mom + Why You Pull Your Hair Without Realizing + Why You Can’t Stay Present

    Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re diving into three powerful questions that illuminate just how deeply our nervous systems are wired to protect us, even when those protections feel confusing or frustrating. First, why do I feel anxious and disoriented after talking to my mom, even when the conversation seemed “fine”? We’ll explore how old relational patterns, emotional labor, and unspoken survival strategies can leave your body braced and buzzing long after you hang up. Next, we unpack what’s really going on when you pull your hair without realizing it. If you’ve ever felt ashamed about this, please know you are not broken. You’ll learn how body-focused behaviors like hair pulling can be unconscious attempts to regulate or ground when your system doesn’t have other tools. Finally, we explore what it means to be physically present, but mentally checked out. If you’ve felt like you’re watching your life from a distance or constantly lagging behind real time, this conversation on dissociation and functional freeze will help you understand why, and what you can do about it. You’ll walk away with insight, compassion, and nervous-system-centered practices to support your healing from the inside out. So grab your coziest blanket, pour a warm drink, and come settle into the tenderness with me. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Mentioned in this episode: EEO Pre-Sale

    16 min
  2. 6D AGO

    Values-Based Living: The Alternative to New Year’s Resolutions

    #359: Have you been taught that your safety, belonging, and love were conditional? That they could only be earned by contorting yourself into someone else's idea of enough? This week, I’m inviting you to step away from the pressure of resolutions and into a different kind of conversation for the new year. One that's about reclaiming the parts of you that have been quietly set aside. The parts of you that got buried under layers of self-doubt, fear, and the relentless pressure to be what others needed you to be. I'm talking here about your values: the core grounding principles that make you, you. Tune in today to discover how resolutions are often just another set of icky, exhausting expectations. You'll learn why kitten steps (not baby steps, which are enormous!) are the nervous system-friendly way to make sustainable change. Most importantly, you'll understand that you don't need fixing because you were never broken, and that this work isn't about self-improvement - it's about self-remembrance. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/359 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Mentioned in this episode: Register for Somatics to Reclaim Your Authentic Self! Somatics to Reclaim Your Authentic Self is my newest free live webinar where you’ll learn how to connect to your authentic self through somatics and thought work. Join me live on January 12th, 2026, at 8pm ET or January 14th, 2026, at 12pm ET. Click here to register for free: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/authenticity Authentic Self Workshop EEO Pre-Sale

    30 min
  3. 12/30/2025 · BONUS

    My New Year's Wish For You

    Tenderoni Hotline #13: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, the segment where we explore the soft and spacious path of healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself. In today’s episode, I’m offering you a different kind of New Year’s message. Not one about resolutions or becoming a better version of yourself, but one about remembering who you already are. This episode is a love letter, a wish, a grounding reminder to carry with you as the year unfolds. Together, we’ll explore what it means to choose rest over hustle, to listen to your body before the world’s expectations, and to let go of the shame-fueled push for perfection. I’ll guide you through what it looks like to step into small acts of self-regard, to loosen the grip of old codependent and people-pleasing habits, and to build a relationship with yourself rooted in trust, honesty, and compassion. You’ll walk away with a deeper sense of what it means to source your worth from within, to honor your nervous system’s wisdom, and to meet yourself with tenderness in the moments that matter most. So grab something warm, take a deep breath, and let’s begin this year with love and intention... together. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Mentioned in this episode: EEO Pre-Sale

    6 min
  4. 12/25/2025

    The Best of Feminist Wellness: Emotional Liberation, Somatic Wisdom, and Collective Care

    #358: This week, we're stepping into the winter solstice with a special gift - a collection of powerful moments from past episodes that capture the heart of what Feminist Wellness is all about.  Whether you're celebrating the holidays, marking Yule, or simply taking a breath in this midwinter moment, this episode invites you to pause and come home to yourself through what I call a kitten step: the smallest possible step toward growth, even smaller than a baby step (because those are way too big). Join me this week as I share some of the most transformative teachings from recent conversations about breaking free from the systems that keep us small. From understanding emotional outsourcing patterns to practical tools for reclaiming your emotional space as an act of resistance, these insights offer a path toward collective liberation that starts with the revolutionary act of being kind to yourself. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/358 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Mentioned in this episode: Register for Somatics to Reclaim Your Authentic Self! Somatics to Reclaim Your Authentic Self is my newest free live webinar where you’ll learn how to connect to your authentic self through somatics and thought work. Join me live on January 12th, 2026, at 8pm ET or January 14th, 2026, at 12pm ET. Click here to register for free: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/authenticity Authentic Self Workshop EEO Pre-Sale

    27 min
  5. 12/23/2025 · BONUS

    The Truth About Perimenopause No One Told You With Mariza Snyder

    Tenderoni Hotline #12: Hello, my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline. Today’s episode is a true gift, a clarifying, empowering, and deeply nerdy deep dive into all things perimenopause, hormones, and how to actually get the support you deserve. I’m joined by my dear friend and longtime women’s health advocate, Mariza Snyder, for a conversation that every midlife woman (and every clinician who serves them) needs to hear. Mariza is an author and speaker with over 17 years of experience, and the brilliant mind behind the Energized podcast. Together, we break down the science behind perimenopause, bust some harmful myths, and get into the nitty-gritty about progesterone, estrogen, testosterone, HRT, and beyond. We also talk about how to advocate for yourself at the doctor’s office, why lab work isn’t everything, and how to navigate this hormonal transition with confidence, clarity, and compassion. Mariza shares from both her clinical expertise and personal story, and offers powerful tools to help you feel more like yourself again, rested, resourced, and rooted in your truth. This episode is rich with real talk, science-backed wisdom, and loving reminders that your symptoms are real and your care should match your lived experience. Whether you’re in your mid-30s or well into your 50s, this one is essential listening. So get cozy, grab your journal, and let’s get nerdy in the best way. More From Mariza: - Learn about Mariza’s book, The Perimenopause Revolution, here: http://drmariza.com/book - The Perimenopause Toolkit Bonus Page: https://peri-revolution.com/ - Thriving in Perimenopause Survival Guide: https://drmariza.com/perimenopausesurvival - Learn more about Mariza at drmariza.com Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

    57 min
  6. 12/16/2025 · BONUS

    Why Saying No Feels So Hard + Why You Overexplain + How to Protect Your Energy This Holiday Season

    Tenderoni Hotline #11: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re diving into three listener questions that so many of us face, especially during the holiday season when old patterns and roles come rushing back. First, why do I feel so guilty every time I say no during the holidays? We’ll explore why guilt isn’t always what it seems, and how your nervous system might be misreading safety and danger based on old programming. You'll learn how to recognize when guilt is actually fear and how to respond with compassion and clarity. Next, we unpack why you overexplain your decisions to family and others. If every boundary you set comes with footnotes, this segment is for you. You’ll learn how childhood experiences can lead to this habit and how to start saying less, not more, without shame or shutdown. Finally, we answer: how can I protect my energy during the holidays without avoiding everyone? I’ll guide you through somatic tools and practical strategies to help you stay grounded, present, and connected to yourself and to what really matters. You’ll walk away with insight, support, and simple nervous-system-centered practices you can use right away. So grab your coziest blanket, pour a warm drink, and come settle into the tenderness with me. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Apply to my group coaching program, Anchored: Overcoming Codependency: https://beatrizalbina.com/anchored/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Episode 85 - Guilt Guilt Guilt: beatrizalbina.com/85 Mentioned in this episode: EEO Pre-Sale

    18 min

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You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be. The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode. Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough. This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience. If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else. New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.

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