Teaching Autism and Special Education by Nikki

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Hi, I’m Nikki —a passionate special educator, autism specialist, and founder of Teaching Autism. With over a decade of experience creating hands-on, engaging resources for educators worldwide, I’m here to make your teaching journey easier, more effective, and a lot more fun! With each episode, I’ll bring you practical tips, creative strategies, and inspiring insights to help you thrive in your autism and special education classroom. From tackling behavior challenges to creating meaningful lesson plans, we’ll dive deep into what works—and what doesn’t—in the world of special education. You’ll find: ✅ Real-world strategies you can use tomorrow. ✅ Expert advice for creating inclusive, student-centered classrooms. ✅ Honest conversations about the joys and challenges of teaching. ✅ Plenty of laughs, relatable moments, and inspiration to keep you going. Whether you’re a seasoned educator, new to special education, or simply looking to level up your teaching game, this podcast is your go-to resource for empowering yourself and your students. Join me on this journey, and let’s build better classrooms together! Hit “subscribe” and tune in to each episode to fill your teaching toolbox with fresh ideas, tools, and motivation. Let’s make teaching less stressful and a whole lot more impactful!

  1. 6d ago

    The After-School Restraint Collapse

    The After-School Restraint Collapse Have you ever heard, “They’re perfect at school… but the second they get home, they completely fall apart”? In this episode, we’re talking about after-school restraint collapse - when a child spends the day holding it together, masking, managing sensory input, following expectations, and regulating their emotions, only to release everything once they reach a safe space. We’ll chat about: What after-school restraint collapse can look like Why a child can appear completely “fine” at school but struggle at home The huge amount of energy that masking and constant self-regulation can require Why parents and teachers can see two very different sides of the same child How schools can reduce the build-up of stress throughout the day Simple ways parents can support decompression after school Instead of measuring how well a child is coping by how calm they appear at school, we need to consider how much effort that calm might be taking. Because sometimes the meltdown at the end of the day isn’t about one tiny thing going wrong. It’s the nervous system finally saying, “I can stop holding it together now.”

  2. Sep 4

    Micro-Stressors That Build to Meltdowns

    Micro-Stressors That Build to Meltdowns Sometimes a meltdown can feel like it came completely out of nowhere - but often, there’s been a whole day of tiny stressors quietly building in the background. In this episode, we’re talking about micro-stressors: the small sensory, social, emotional, and environmental demands that can gradually fill a student’s “stress bucket” until their nervous system reaches overload. We’ll chat about: What micro-stressors can look like in the classroom Why autistic students may experience them more intensely The “final straw” effect and why the last trigger often isn’t the real cause Early signs that a student’s stress bucket is filling Simple ways to build regulation and decompression into the school day Why breaks should be preventative - not something students have to earn Instead of asking “What caused that meltdown?”, this episode encourages us to ask: “What filled the bucket today?” A simple shift that can help us move from reacting to meltdowns to proactively supporting regulation in a neuro-affirming way.

  3. Aug 21

    Behavior That Looks Manipulative But Isn’t

    Have you ever heard someone say, “They know exactly what they’re doing,” “They’re playing us,” or “They’re just being manipulative”? The word manipulative gets thrown around pretty quickly in schools and special education settings. But once we give a student that label, it can completely change the way we see - and respond to - their behavior. In this episode of Teaching Autism and Special Education, we’re looking at behavior that can look manipulative from the outside, but may actually be a response to distress, dysregulation, communication difficulties, or a missing skill. We’ll talk about situations like crying when work is presented, escalating after being told no, and behaving completely differently depending on which adult is around. While these behaviors can sometimes look calculated, there’s often much more happening underneath the surface. We’ll also explore the nervous system side of behavior and how fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses can easily be mistaken for intentional control or avoidance. In This Episode, We Talk About: Why labeling a student as “manipulative” can be harmful What true manipulation actually requires Why crying to escape a difficult task doesn’t necessarily mean a student is manipulating you Why students may behave differently with different members of staff What can really be happening when a student escalates after hearing “no” How frustration tolerance and emotional regulation affect behavior The role of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses The important difference between reinforcement and manipulation How children naturally learn patterns based on what happens after a behavior Why we should look for the missing skill instead of assigning negative intent Practical ways to teach replacement communication and regulation skills How to maintain boundaries without turning behavior into a power struggle One of the biggest takeaways from this episode is that reinforcement does not automatically equal manipulation. A child can learn that a particular behavior results in escape, attention, or relief without sitting there and deliberately planning how to control the adults around them. Instead of asking, “How are they trying to manipulate me?” we can ask: What skill might be missing here? Do they need support with communication? Emotional regulation? Frustration tolerance? Executive functioning? Asking for help or requesting a break? Changing that question can completely change our response. You can still hold boundaries. You can still say no. You can still have expectations and protect the needs of everyone in your classroom. But we can do all of those things without villainizing the child. The next time you hear behavior described as manipulative, ask yourself: Is this strategy… or survival? That one question might change how an entire team responds to a student.

  4. Aug 13

    The Nervous System Behind Escalation

    Why can a student seem completely fine one minute and suddenly become overwhelmed the next? In this episode of Teaching Autism and Special Education with Nikki, we’re looking at what’s actually happening in the brain and body during escalation and why understanding the nervous system can completely change the way we respond to behavior. Escalation is often a stress response. Sensory overload, difficult demands, unexpected changes, social pressure, fatigue, hunger, and lots of other small stressors can build throughout the day until a student reaches their tipping point. In This Episode, We Talk About: What happens in the brain and body during escalation Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses Why escalation is often cumulative Early warning signs of dysregulation Why reasoning and lecturing don’t work at the peak What students need from us during escalation How our own regulation can influence the situation What to consider when escalation happens frequently Escalation is information. It tells us that, in that moment, a student’s capacity was exceeded. Instead of asking, “How do I stop this behavior?”, try asking: “What did their nervous system just detect?” That can change the way we understand and respond to escalation.

  5. Jul 30

    Why Students Fixate on One Staff Member

    In this episode of Teaching Autism and Special Education with Nikki, we’re unpacking why some students become strongly attached to one specific staff member and what is often happening underneath that behavior. Whether it looks like refusal to work with anyone else, following one adult constantly, distress when that person leaves the room, or repeatedly asking for the same staff member, this episode explores why these patterns are usually rooted in nervous system safety and regulation rather than manipulation or “attention seeking.” We dive into why this attachment pattern is especially common for autistic students who rely heavily on predictability, consistency, and clear communication to feel safe in overwhelming school environments. I also talk about the role of co regulation, how certain adults become emotional anchors for students, and why differences in tone, rhythm, or communication style between staff can feel much bigger to a dysregulated nervous system than we might realize. This episode looks at attachment through a neuro affirming and trauma aware lens while also discussing when healthy attachment can begin to limit flexibility and independence. This episode is full of practical, compassionate strategies for widening a student’s circle of safety without abruptly removing the trusted adult. We discuss gradual generalization, predictable handovers, consistency across staff, building low pressure relationships with other adults, and preparing students carefully for absences or changes. Instead of asking, “How do we stop this attachment?” this episode encourages us to ask, “How do we gently help this student feel safe with more people?” Because the goal is not removing safety. It’s expanding it.

  6. Jul 23

    When Students Control the Environment Through Chaos

    In this episode of Teaching Autism and Special Education with Nikki, we’re unpacking a behavior pattern that can feel incredibly intense in the classroom: when students seem to control the environment through chaos. We explore why some students suddenly escalate situations, disrupt lessons, argue, shout, run, or completely shift the energy of the room seemingly out of nowhere. While it can look deliberate or attention seeking on the surface, this episode looks deeper at the nervous system need underneath the behavior and why chaos can sometimes become a way for students to regain a sense of safety, predictability, and control. We dive into the connection between overwhelm, uncertainty, vulnerability, and the need to regain power externally when things feel emotionally or sensorily out of control internally. I also talk about why these patterns often happen around transitions, difficult tasks, emotional intensity, or rising expectations, and how some students learn through survival that creating disruption resets the environment around them. This episode takes a grounded, neuro affirming look at why behavior that appears strategic is often rooted in dysregulation and nervous system protection rather than intentional manipulation. This episode is full of practical strategies to help educators respond without escalating the situation further. We discuss staying calm and predictable, reducing the audience effect, reintroducing structure, offering safe choices, planning for vulnerable moments, and delaying reflective conversations until regulation returns. Instead of asking, “How do I stop the chaos?” this episode encourages us to ask, “What felt out of control for them in that moment?” Because when we understand the function underneath the behavior, we can respond in ways that build safety rather than intensify threat.

  7. Jul 16

    Behavior After Trauma Triggers

    In this episode of Teaching Autism and Special Education with Nikki, we’re exploring what can happen when trauma triggers show up in the classroom and why some student reactions can seem much bigger than the moment itself. We unpack what trauma triggers actually are, how the nervous system responds to perceived threat, and why behaviors like shouting, running away, shutting down, refusing, or panicking are often automatic survival responses rather than intentional defiance. Sometimes the behavior we see is not truly about the present moment at all, but about something the student’s nervous system associates with past stress, fear, or overwhelm. We also dive into the overlap between trauma responses and autism, including how sensory sensitivities, repeated correction, social uncertainty, and experiences of exclusion or bullying can increase nervous system vulnerability. I talk about what trauma triggers can look like in school settings, why logic and lectures often fail during escalation, and how fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses can show up differently in different students. This episode takes a grounded, trauma informed and neuro affirming approach without over pathologizing behavior or assuming all distress is trauma related. This episode is packed with practical strategies to help educators respond in ways that increase safety instead of escalating threat. We discuss calm tone, reducing proximity, using simple reassuring language, spotting behavioral patterns, increasing predictability, and delaying teaching conversations until regulation returns. Instead of asking, “Why are they reacting like this?” this episode encourages us to ask, “What might this moment be reminding their nervous system of?” Because when we respond to safety first, behavior often starts to make much more sense.

  8. Jul 9

    Why Some Students Apologize Excessively

    In this episode of Teaching Autism and Special Education with Nikki, we’re exploring why some students apologize constantly, even when they haven’t done anything wrong. We unpack how excessive apologizing is often not about politeness at all, but instead a nervous system safety strategy linked to anxiety, shame, masking, people pleasing, and fear of correction. For many students, especially autistic learners or those who have experienced frequent criticism or unpredictable adult reactions, “sorry” can become a way of trying to stay emotionally safe and prevent conflict before it even happens. We dive into the connection between excessive apologizing and the fawn response, as well as the impact of repeated correction and internalized shame. I also talk about how some students use “sorry” as a catch all social response when they feel uncertain, overwhelmed, or unsure of social expectations. Sometimes apologizing excessively is a form of masking, especially for students who have learned that over apologizing feels safer than risking being perceived as rude or “getting it wrong.” This episode is full of gentle, practical ways educators and parents can respond differently without reinforcing shame or anxiety. We discuss replacing “sorry” with more accurate language, reducing public correction, responding calmly and predictably, and helping students separate genuine repair from chronic self blame. Instead of simply saying, “Stop apologizing,” this episode encourages us to ask, “What are they trying to protect themselves from right now?” Because behind that tiny word is often a child trying very hard to stay safe.

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Hi, I’m Nikki —a passionate special educator, autism specialist, and founder of Teaching Autism. With over a decade of experience creating hands-on, engaging resources for educators worldwide, I’m here to make your teaching journey easier, more effective, and a lot more fun! With each episode, I’ll bring you practical tips, creative strategies, and inspiring insights to help you thrive in your autism and special education classroom. From tackling behavior challenges to creating meaningful lesson plans, we’ll dive deep into what works—and what doesn’t—in the world of special education. You’ll find: ✅ Real-world strategies you can use tomorrow. ✅ Expert advice for creating inclusive, student-centered classrooms. ✅ Honest conversations about the joys and challenges of teaching. ✅ Plenty of laughs, relatable moments, and inspiration to keep you going. Whether you’re a seasoned educator, new to special education, or simply looking to level up your teaching game, this podcast is your go-to resource for empowering yourself and your students. Join me on this journey, and let’s build better classrooms together! Hit “subscribe” and tune in to each episode to fill your teaching toolbox with fresh ideas, tools, and motivation. Let’s make teaching less stressful and a whole lot more impactful!

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