Around the Circle | An Enneagram Channel

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The Enneagram is a map of the human personality. It’s a tool for navigating relationships. It creates language for what motivates us and helps us look at the way we look at everything else. Most importantly the enneagram is a mirror; because sometimes you need help seeing yourself.

12h ago

Partners | Enneagram 3 & 9 * Braden & Lydia

We're traveling to Alaska this week! Braden & Lydia walk us through their relationship as a young 3 & 9; we chat about performance, rest, & meeting each other in the middle. A quick disclaimer for this video - we had some audio issues around the 15 minute mark. They resolve themselves in ~5 minutes but Braden's comments were so good that I didn't want to cut them out! You might also notice some fluctuations in volume across the recording because of this. Also - tune in next week for a big SURPRISE!!!!!!!! Follow me on Instagram to keep up to date with new episodes and happenings

49 min
1d ago

Comparison Continued | "The Atlas of the Heart" Study

JOIN US ON TUESDAYS : HERE In this week’s Reading Room, Jeff explores Brené Brown’s discussion of comparison and the surprising emotions that can grow from it: admiration, reverence, envy, jealousy, resentment, schadenfreude, and freudenfreude. Along the way, he reflects on why some comparisons inspire growth while others expose our wounds, how resentment may be rooted in hidden envy and unmet needs, and why celebrating the success of others might be one of the deepest forms of connection available to us. From Enneagram insights to questions of justice, self-worth, and belonging, we're invited to pay closer attention to what our emotions are trying to teach us.

37 min
2d ago

The Augie Cook Interview | Autism, Gender and Enneagram 8s

What happens when an Enneagram Eight is also autistic, non-binary, and willing to speak candidly about their inner world? For Jeff’s 50th, he sits down with his oldest, Augie Cook, for a discussion about identity, neurodivergence, gender, family, and the Enneagram. Together they explore what it feels like to move through the world as an autistic person, how sensory processing shapes daily life, why so many assumptions about Eights miss the mark, and how understanding motives can deepen relationships. The conversation also explores the overlap between autism and online communities, the experience of being non-binary, the challenges autistic adults face around work and belonging, and the importance of allowing people the freedom to understand and express themselves on their own terms.

1h 10m
6d ago

The Space Between Wings | 8↔9 and 9↔1

In this episode, we continue our exploration of the spaces between the Enneagram types by examining the shared ground between Eights and Nines, and between Nines and Ones. While these pairings can appear very different on the surface, they often share deeper motivations, struggles, and strengths that reveal the logic of the Enneagram symbol itself. Jeff and Katie discuss themes like guardedness, resistance, agency, self-control, confidence, team dynamics, conflict avoidance, and the unique relationship these body types have with anger. Along the way, they explore why Eights and Nines can seem so stubborn, why Nines often act with quiet certainty after long periods of reflection, and how Ones and Nines both wrestle with what is happening inside of themselves before it reaches the outside world. The conversation also highlights the gifts these types bring to relationships, teams, and communities: stability, consensus-building, thoughtfulness, and a desire to create environments where people can thrive together. Whether you're an Eight, Nine, One, or simply curious about the dynamics between these types, this discussion offers a deeper look at the motivations that unite and distinguish them.

31 min
Jun 17

Siblings | Enneagram 1 & 9 * Veronica and Sara

Veronica is back, today with her younger sister Veronica! We talk about what it's like to share a common sense of justice, the difference (and similarities) between "harmony" and "order", and how a 1 and 9 offer each other a lot of balance.

57 min
Jun 15

"Inside Story" | The Work for Ones | Dani Cooper Enneagram Coach

Dani Cooper is a Certified Enneagram Teacher, Coach, and your biggest cheerleader on the road to self-discovery. She helps individuals, couples, and teams identify the patterns keeping them stuck — and grow beyond them into who they were always meant to be. She’s the author of The Enneagram for Christian Couples (2022), and her life’s work is simple: helping people know themselves, love themselves, and live more freely. IG: @deepwatersenneagram website: deepwatersenneagram.com

1h 18m
Jun 14

"Atlas of the Heart" | Comparison

This week in The Reading Room, we continue our journey through Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart by exploring "comparison." Join our Tuesday night discussion : HERE As we elevate other topics in ths text, it seems good to sit on this experience for a moment. Drawing from Brown’s research, we examine how comparison shapes our relationships, self-worth, emotional life, and even our sense of the future.

38 min
Jun 11

Saturday Workshop | How do 2s, 5s, and 8s Connect?

Join us Saturday, June 13th to discuss 369s! : HERE This episode goes some places! In this month's Second Saturday gathering, we explored the Enneagram's Affect Groups (sometimes called Harmony Groups), drawing on the work of David Daniels. The conversation focused on the 2-5-8 triad, often called the Relationists or Rejection Group. Together we explored questions such as: What does it mean to "expect rejection" in relationships?How do Twos, Fives, and Eights offer connection through gifts, service, knowledge, protection, and strength?Why do these types often maintain a small circle of true vulnerability?How do experiences of rejection, betrayal, unmet needs, and emotional exposure shape the way these types connect with others?What is the difference between transparency and vulnerability?How do our instincts (Self-Preservation, Social, and One-to-One) influence the way we seek connection?An idea to hold that may bring clarity to this discussion is this:The term "Rejection" refers to the idea that these types unconsciously assume that their ordinary needs may not be welcomed, so they learn to gain connection by offering something rather than simply showing up with their needs. In classic Enneagram language:Twos reject their own needs and become needed.Fives reject their needs and become self-sufficient.Eights reject vulnerability and become strong. That is somewhat different from the way many people hear the term today. It does not necessarily mean "I expect everyone to reject me." Rather, it points to a developmental stance in which the person concludes: "My needs won't automatically be met, so I must relate through what I can provide." Join Us This SaturdayThis Saturday we'll continue our exploration of relationship patterns through the lens of the 3-6-9 triad. How do Threes, Sixes, and Nines create connection? How do they seek belonging, support, and security? What happens when attachment, success, harmony, and safety become central to our relationships? These monthly gatherings typically include around 30 participants and are one of the most engaging ways to move beyond theory and into real conversation. Saturday 8:30 AM Pacific11:30 AM Eastern4:30 PM GMT

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11/07/2025

Afstrick2013

I searched on a long shot when husband exclaimed he wanted to hear more ‘1s’, but it was easier listening to a man’s voice. As the one, I feel like Jeff did a great job “laying us out”. I look forward to checking out his number shows, 5. Thank you!
Enneagram as it’s meant to be!

08/01/2025

LGT33

Jeff and TJ take enneagram to the depths it was intended to go! They also provide a platform for so many enneagram voices and facilitate such rich conversations!
Best enneagram podcast available.

03/31/2025

sueub

Thanks guys for all the hard work. I do love this podcast.
5 stars!

03/27/2025

AllyNoel

I love this podcast. It’s easy to listen to and extremely interesting. I love getting different perspectives and relatable references. The guests are also people I familiar with so that makes sense even more tantalizing.

The Enneagram is a map of the human personality. It’s a tool for navigating relationships. It creates language for what motivates us and helps us look at the way we look at everything else. Most importantly the enneagram is a mirror; because sometimes you need help seeing yourself.