Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

Michelle Kenney, M. Ed
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Have you tried Gentle Parenting? Are you a fan of Attachment but just can’t put it all together? Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and limits? Welcome to the Peace and Parenting Podcast with Michelle Kenney, M. Ed. Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are completely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions. Twice a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through her interviews with experts and Q&A sessions with struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don't know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you've been searching for.

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    Case Study: Should You Let Your Teen Take Risks in Dangerous Sports?

    What happens when a teen’s risk-taking behavior leads to serious injuries? Balancing safety and freedom is a challenge many parents face, especially when dealing with sports-loving teenagers. Today, I sit down with Kelli, a mother from Utah, who navigates this tricky landscape after her son suffered a string of concussions. How do you keep your kids safe while respecting their need for independence? Together, we explore the power of empathy, the nuances of setting boundaries without triggering rebellion, and the struggle to connect with teens coping with setbacks. I share with Kelli how fostering open conversations and acknowledging our children's emotions can transform our approach to parenting in challenging times. In This Episode: Striking a balance between safety and freedomUsing empathy in parenting tough decisionsNavigating sports-related injuries with teensEncouraging kids to express their feelingsImplementing small, incremental changes for better outcomesAlternative activities during recovery periods ======== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group My ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Our Sponsors: * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    18 min

  2. 6 DAYS AGO

    Effective Strategies to Use During Power Struggles with Kids

    What happens when you choose not to engage in a fight with your child? Can you handle a power struggle with your child without losing your temper? We all want to navigate those heated moments with grace, empathy, and understanding, even when your child is completely offline. In this episode, I discuss the multifaceted approach to maintaining a harmonious parent-child relationship, even amidst conflicts. We'll explore how stepping back, listening actively, and regulating our own emotions can turn potential blowouts into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding. Drawing from some of my personal insights, I hope to show you that while holding our ground is important, doing so from a place of empathy and calm can make all the difference. In This Episode: Why you can't have a one-sided power struggleRecognizing the signs your child is offlineThe art of active listening during argumentsStrategies for your self-regulationUsing empathy to defuse tensionEncouraging your child's emotional self-regulation ======== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group My ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Our Sponsors: * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    13 min

  3. NOV 19

    Case Study: How to Solve Sibling Rivalry Without Punishments

    Are your children constantly fighting and you’re at your wits' end on how to handle it? What if the key to resolving sibling rivalry doesn’t lie in punishments but in fostering deeper connections? Join me today as I welcome Sandra, a mother from Egypt who seeks advice on improving her two daughters' tumultuous relationship. In this episode, we dive into Sandra’s experience as a mom of two constantly quarreling daughters. Through a heartfelt conversation, we uncover the challenges of maintaining harmony and the tendency to use punishments or let kids "fight it out." Sandra shares her journey from using punishments and consequences to struggling with a hectic lifestyle that leaves little room for meaningful connection. Join us as we discuss the importance of making space for connection amidst a busy routine and how empathy and consistency play pivotal roles in cultivating peaceful sibling relationships. In This Episode: Fostering connection over punishment in parentingThe significance of empathy in resolving fightsWhy daily special time is essentialHow a busy life impacts family dynamicsSupporting kids to solve their own conflicts ======== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group My ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Our Sponsors: * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    16 min

  4. NOV 14

    10 Ways to Stay Calm When Parenting Feels Impossible

    Are you feeling at the end of your rope, wondering how to keep calm when everything around you is chaotic? You’re not alone. In this episode, I’ll give you some practical strategies for those moments when staying calm seems impossible. From the importance of recognizing when a situation is truly an emergency to the value of walking away momentarily to gather your thoughts, these TEN tips are rooted in empathy and real-life scenarios. In This Episode: Assessing if situations are true emergenciesManaging reactions when emotions run highPracticing the “pause” before respondingWalking away to regroup without shameValuing the power of sincere apologies 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group My ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Our Sponsors: * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    15 min

  5. NOV 12

    Case Study: How One Family Transformed Chaos Into Harmony

    How can playing more and disciplining less lead to a happier household? Today, you'll hear Ashlena's remarkable journey to connected parenting as she shares how her family transitioned from turmoil to tranquility. In this heartfelt episode, Ashlena, a dedicated member of our community, opens up about her challenging yet rewarding transformation. She dives into the hurdles she faced with her adopted daughter, Devin, and how traditional parenting techniques were failing them both. When stress and desperation took a toll on her well-being, Ashlena finally reached out for help and discovered the incredible impact of our peace and parenting community.  In This Episode: Transforming hellish times through connectionImportance of empathy over consequencesManaging stress and health through better parentingBuilding a sanctuary of safety at homeReaping the rewards of group and individual coaching 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group My ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Our Sponsors: * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    18 min

  6. NOV 7

    Are Stricter Boundaries Making Your Child Rebel?

    Do boundaries and limits really matter in parenting? Have you ever wondered if the secret to a more harmonious parenting journey lies in how we set and manage boundaries with our children? Today, I tackle the often confounding topic of boundaries. I’ll unravel misconceptions about boundaries and explain that they aren't about controlling our children but rather about providing a safe space for them to release their emotions.  Many parents struggle because they believe stricter boundaries equate to more obedient children, but today, I’ll share why this isn't necessarily true. This episode is packed with practical examples, including how to handle common situations like turning off the TV without resorting to punishment and the importance of not mistaking control for safety.  In This Episode: Redefining the role of boundaries in parentingConnection over controlEmpathy's power in handling emotional outburstsBalancing limits and free willCooperation through understanding, not punishmentTailoring boundaries to developmental stages 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group My ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Our Sponsors: * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    12 min

  7. NOV 5

    Case Study: When Should You Apologize to Your Child?

    What happens when empathizing with your child seems to backfire? Should we apologize when they have big feelings? Is it possible that our efforts to validate their feelings might actually increase their frustration? Today, I'm joined by Nandini, a passionate mom to a 7-year-old daughter. Nandini shares her experiences and parenting dilemmas, sparking an enlightening conversation about the delicate balance of validation, empathy, and responsibility. We explore why children might react negatively to our attempts at empathy and the importance of not taking their responses personally. In This Episode: When empathy frustrates instead of calmsValidating feelings without personalizing blameHolding space for children's emotional outburstsCreative ways to foster connectionThe unintentional consequences of over-apologizing 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group My ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Our Sponsors: * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    21 min

  8. OCT 31

    How to Respond When Our Kids Are Defiant

    Are you fighting an uphill battle with your child's “defiance”? What if defiance wasn’t something to squash but an invitation to connect? Today, I’m turning the traditional parenting playbook on its head and exploring how to respond compassionately to our kids when they push back. Often, when our kids push back, we instinctively react with frustration, viewing their refusal as disrespectful or unkind. However, what if small changes in our approach could lead to significant improvements? Instead of using consequences or bribes, we could invite cooperation naturally through play or empathy. In This Episode: Why “defiance” isn’t what it seemsTransforming chores into bonding momentsHow patience can encourage cooperationChoosing empathy over punishment in conflictBuilding connection through playful approaches 🔗 Join my Connected Parent Mastermind, designed for parents who want to strengthen their connection with their children, experience more love, and reduce frustration. 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group My ONLY sale of the year is on for Black Friday, check it out here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/black-friday-promo Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Our Sponsors: * Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/PEACE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    14 min
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Have you tried Gentle Parenting? Are you a fan of Attachment but just can’t put it all together? Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and limits? Welcome to the Peace and Parenting Podcast with Michelle Kenney, M. Ed. Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are completely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions. Twice a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through her interviews with experts and Q&A sessions with struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don't know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you've been searching for.

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