Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

Michelle Kenney, M. Ed
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Have you tried Gentle Parenting? Are you a fan of Attachment but just can’t put it all together? Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and limits? Welcome to the Peace and Parenting Podcast with Michelle Kenney, M. Ed. Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are completely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions. Twice a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through her interviews with experts and Q&A sessions with struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don't know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you've been searching for.

  1. 1D AGO

    Case Study: Why Punishment Makes Sibling Aggression Worse

    How can parents navigate the chaos when sibling rivalry turns into a hair-pulling standoff? What if sibling rivalry wasn't just a battle between your kids but an opportunity to deepen your connection with them? In today’s episode, we dive into the dynamics of sibling relationships and discuss how shifting your perspective can bring peace to your parenting journey. I’m joined by Shannon, a mother of two from Canada, who shares her experience with sibling rivalry. We unravel the complexities of these interactions and explore how our own responses, often shaped by past influences, can either quell or perpetuate conflict. Listen in as we discuss the pivotal role of empathy in navigating these challenging moments and how prioritizing connection over correction can foster a harmonious environment. In This Episode Approaching sibling fights with neutralityViewing aggression as a sign of fearConnection as a tool for impulse controlModeling conflict resolution for partnersUnpacking personal triggers in parenting Check out my FREE Sibling Rivalry Protocol, I guide you through 12 steps to help transform anger and frustration from quarreling into a calm, constructive resolution without yelling or punishments.🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Join my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    23 min

  2. 6D AGO

    5 Powerful Phrases to Boost Your Child's Self-Esteem

    The secret to boosting your child's self-esteem is not about constant praise but in how you truly see and trust them. In today’s episode, I explore the significant role parents play in fostering healthy self-esteem in children. I reflect on the profound impact a nurturing and affirming approach has on a child’s self-image. By expressing genuine belief in their inherent goodness and autonomy, parents can help children develop confidence and a strong sense of self-worth. I’ll share five practical affirmations I use with my kids and the importance of recognizing our children’s internal decision-making capabilities. This episode emphasizes how crucial parental trust is in enabling children to navigate life's challenges independently and confidently. In This Episode Affirmations that boost child's self-esteemThe power of being seen and understoodEncouraging autonomy in children's decisionsImportance of trust in parent-child relationshipsOvercoming society's punitive parenting norms======== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Join my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    14 min

  3. MAR 4

    Case Study: How Can I Help My Toddler Who Struggles to Go to Bed?

    Is bedtime drama with your toddler an indicator of a deeper connection issue? What if the path to peaceful and restful nights for your child begins with understanding their emotional needs? Today on the Peace and Parenting podcast, I welcome Jamesetta, a devoted mother of three daughters, who shares her ongoing journey with her three-year-old's nighttime struggles. Jamesetta expresses the challenges she faces with her daughter's bedtime routine, revealing a cycle of sleep resistance and wakefulness in the middle of the night. Together, we explore how connection, empathy, and setting limits may hold the key to smoother bedtime transitions. I offer insights and strategies to help transform these nightly ordeals into opportunities for growth and closeness. Whether your child is a spirited three-year-old or a reserved seven-year-old, these insights might just be the comfort you need to support a connected parenting approach. In This Episode Understanding separation anxiety challengesImportance of connection in bedtime routinesStrategies for transforming routines into playSetting limits to uncover emotions======== 🔗 Help your child move through their emotions with meaningful game play. In this FREE download. 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Join my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    24 min

  4. FEB 27

    How Rewards Teach Kids to Follow Rules for the Wrong Reasons

    Are rewards just another form of punishment in disguise? Ever thought that the key to nurturing genuine cooperation in your child lies beyond the promise of a star chart or a treat? In this episode of Peace and Parenting, I dive deep into the often-overlooked pitfalls of reward systems in parenting and how they can inadvertently erode the parent-child connection. As a mother who once believed in handing out star stickers for good behavior, I share my journey of discovery and realization. I revisit the time I created an elaborate star chart to encourage my daughter, Esme, to complete tasks and exhibit positive behavior. Initially effective, this approach crumbled as Esme lost interest and I realized it was a form of manipulation rather than authentic motivation. Join me as I challenge traditional parenting norms that prioritize compliance over connection.  In This Episode The pitfalls of reward-based parentingIntrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation in childrenHow rewards can erode parent-child connectionBenefits of connective parenting over compliance-focused methods ======== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Join my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    14 min

  5. FEB 27 • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    How Rewards Teach Kids to Follow Rules for the Wrong Reasons

    Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

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  6. FEB 25

    Case Study: How Do I Get My Strong-Willed Child to Shower Without Losing My Cool

    What happens when kids have the freedom to decide their own hygiene? Today on Peace and Parenting, I'm joined by Ana, a loving mom to two and a strong believer in connective parenting but who is having some trouble getting her children to cooperate. Together, we dive into understanding how connection, rather than control, can be the key to cultivating cooperation and harmony within your household. Ana opens up about her challenges with a spirited 6-year-old, whose strong will and logical mind can sometimes lead to power struggles. Sound familiar? I share my insights on dealing with everyday parenting hurdles, like bath time resistance and the art of playful persuasion in toothbrushing wars. By leaning into empathy and letting go of rigid controls, we look at how we can teach our kids responsibility through natural consequences, fostering their independence while deepening our bond. In This Episode Connection is as crucial as food and waterPlayful techniques to encourage cooperationEmbracing natural consequences as teaching toolsLetting go of control to strengthen bondsImportance of modeling desired behaviors======== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Join my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    24 min

  7. FEB 20

    Why Your To-Do List Is Hurting Your Parenting

    Do you ever feel like there’s just not enough time for connection? Between work, household tasks, and never-ending to-do lists, it’s easy to let quality time with our kids slip to the bottom of our priorities. But what if I told you that focusing on connection first actually makes everything else run smoother? Today, I’m exploring a mindset shift that can transform parenting, prioritizing connection over productivity. We live in a world that glorifies busyness, but at what cost? I explore why deep, meaningful relationships with our kids should come first and how that shift leads to more cooperation, smoother days, and stronger bonds. Listen in for five ways to ensure connection is an integral part of your parenting.  In This Episode Why busyness isn’t the same as successThe power of prioritizing connection firstHow natural consequences teach better than punishmentsWhy homework shouldn’t take priority over relationshipsThe long-term benefits of focusing on connection ======== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Join my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    13 min

  8. FEB 18

    Case Study: What If Your Teen Doesn’t Want Connection?

    What if your teen rejected every attempt at connection? You’ve ditched punishments and bribes, but now your child is pushing back harder than ever. Is it even working? Today, I sit down with Tova, a mother of four, who’s navigating the tricky transition from traditional parenting to connection-based parenting, especially with her resistant teens. Tova has seen beautiful changes in her younger twins since implementing connective parenting, but her older teen daughters aren’t responding the same way. We dive deep into why trust takes time, what “progress” really looks like, and how to stay the course when your teen meets your efforts with eye rolls and rejection. I share my personal experiences raising teens, offering strategies that shift the dynamic. If you've ever felt stuck wondering whether connection is really working, this episode is for you. In This Episode Why teens resist connection at firstSigns that your approach is workingHow to stay patient through rejectionUsing humor to defuse power strugglesThe problem with punishments and bribesBuilding true cooperation in your home ======== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Join my Connected Parent Mastermind and become the parent you want to be: https://peaceandparentingla.com/connected-parent Did you miss the Organic Cooperation Event? Check out the replays here: https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-event-replay-signup Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    21 min
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Have you tried Gentle Parenting? Are you a fan of Attachment but just can’t put it all together? Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and limits? Welcome to the Peace and Parenting Podcast with Michelle Kenney, M. Ed. Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are completely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions. Twice a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through her interviews with experts and Q&A sessions with struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don't know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you've been searching for.

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