How To Be Awesome At Everything

Lindsay Dickhout
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The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how the thoughts that we think and words that we say create the world that we live in. What started as a folder of life lessons to share with her kids one day has become a podcast with over one million downloads. Always with a growth mindset, Lindsay presents topics that she thinks are worth hitting pause on life to focus on. She shares her successes (and failures!) in business and in life and her journey to be awesome at everything.

  1. Sep 8

    363. How To Be Awesome At Having The Best Luck Ever

    I think luck is less random and more based on 2 things…  Putting yourself in more situations where luck can find you… And becoming the kind of person who is actually looking for it when it does.   I think some people get "lucky" because they've stayed in the game long enough for luck to find them.   They're out there. They're in the arena. They're meeting people, trying things, taking chances, going places, following ideas, and creating more opportunities for something good to happen. But I also think luck has a lot to do with perspective. Two people can experience the exact same setback and see it completely differently. One person sees proof that nothing works. The other person thinks, "Okay… what could this make possible?" People who believe they are lucky tend to look for evidence that good things happen to them. They notice opportunities. They see possibilities. They expect something good could come from the situation. And find what you're looking for. Sometimes the lucky break doesn't happen because someone is smarter. Or more talented. Or more connected. It happens because they were still there when the opportunity showed up. If you believe nothing ever works out for you, you will find evidence for that everywhere. If you believe good things happen to you, they are more likely to.           LUCKY PEOPLE STAY IN THE GAME LONG ENOUGH FOR LUCK TO FIND THEM A lot of what we call luck is really persistence. Someone kept going long enough to still be there when the opportunity finally showed up. They kept creating. Kept asking. Kept applying. Kept trying. Kept learning. Kept meeting people. Kept taking another shot. You cannot beat someone who has already decided they will do whatever it takes for as long as it takes. If quitting is off the table, you automatically give yourself more chances for something to break your way. Sometimes the "lucky" person simply lasted longer than everyone else. They were still in the room when the right person walked in. They were still building when the market changed. They were still posting when one video finally took off. They were still trying when the right opportunity appeared. Luck rewards longevity. GET IN THE ARENA Luck has a hard time finding you if you are sitting on the sidelines. The people who seem to get lucky are often out there doing more. They go to the dinner. They attend the event. They introduce themselves. They take the trip. They try the class. They send the email. They make the call. They publish the idea. They take a chance without knowing exactly how it will turn out. You cannot control every outcome, but you can control how many opportunities you create for a good outcome. More action means more chances for something unexpected to happen. Give luck more opportunities to bump into you. INCREASE YOUR SURFACE AREA FOR LUCK Think about luck in terms of probability. One conversation gives you one possibility. Ten conversations give you ten. One pitch gives you one chance. Fifty pitches give you fifty. One new experience exposes you to one set of people and ideas. A life filled with new experiences exposes you to hundreds. Luck can still be random, but you can absolutely increase the number of moments where randomness has a chance to work in your favor. Ask yourself: Where could I go that puts me around new people? Who could I talk to? What could I try? What could I apply for? What could I create? What could I say yes to? STOP REQUIRING A GUARANTEED OUTCOME A lot of people miss opportunities because they need certainty before taking action. Will this work? Will this be worth my time? Will this person say yes? Will this make money? Will this lead somewhere? Sometimes you have absolutely no idea. And that is where possibility lives. If you only do things where you can predict the outcome, you remove a huge amount of serendipity from your life. Some of the best things that happen to us begin with no obvious payoff. Follow the interesting thing. Take the meeting. Explore the idea. Try the thing. Let curiosity lead sometimes. LUCK HAS A LOT TO DO WITH WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR Your brain is constantly filtering information. You cannot notice everything around you, so what you expect and what you focus on changes what you actually see. If you believe nothing ever works out for you, you will find evidence for that everywhere. If you believe there are opportunities all around you, you start noticing them. You notice the person you should talk to. The idea worth exploring. The opening. The invitation. The connection. The possibility. You find what you are looking for. This does not mean pretending bad things do not happen. It means training yourself to ask: What is available to me here? What could be good about this? What opportunity might I be missing? DECIDE THAT YOU ARE A LUCKY PERSON There is power in the identity you carry around. If you move through life thinking, "Good things happen to me," you behave differently. You are more open. More curious. More willing to engage. More likely to take a chance. More likely to notice something good. This is not about believing you are entitled to a perfect life. It is about expecting possibility. Instead of only asking, "What if this goes wrong?" Ask, "What if this goes incredibly right?" That shift changes how you move through the world. SOMETIMES BAD LUCK BECOMES GOOD LUCK BECAUSE OF YOUR PERSPECTIVE One of the most interesting things about luck is that you often cannot tell whether something is lucky or unlucky while it is happening. Something falls apart. You lose an opportunity. Someone rejects you. A plan changes. Something does not work out the way you wanted. At the time, it can feel like terrible luck. But then it redirects you. You meet someone you would not have met. You start something you never would have started. You learn something you desperately needed to learn. You end up somewhere better. Sometimes what initially looks like the worst thing becomes one of the luckiest things that ever happened to you. The person who is open to that possibility responds differently. Instead of immediately deciding, "This is terrible," they ask: What could this be redirecting me toward? How could I use this? What could become possible because this happened? OPTIMISM KEEPS YOU IN THE GAME Optimism is not believing everything will always work out exactly how you want. It is believing you will figure out what to do next. That mindset matters enormously when something goes wrong. A pessimistic response says, "See? I knew this wouldn't work." An optimistic response says, "Okay. That didn't work. What now?" One response ends the game. The other keeps you playing. And the longer you keep playing, the more chances you have for luck to find you. Optimism creates endurance. YOUR RELATIONSHIPS CREATE LUCK A massive amount of luck comes through other people. Someone recommends you. Someone introduces you. Someone tells you about an opportunity. Someone thinks of you. Someone invites you somewhere. Someone shares an idea that changes the way you see something. Relationships create intersections you could never manufacture on your own. Be interested in people. Help people. Make introductions. Be generous. Follow up. Stay connected. Talk to people you have no obvious reason to talk to. You never know which conversation becomes important later. FOLLOW CURIOSITY MORE OFTEN Curiosity is one of the easiest ways to create unexpected opportunity. Read the thing. Learn the skill. Visit the place. Ask the question. Explore the topic. Try the hobby. Meet the person. You do not always need to justify everything with productivity or ROI. Sometimes the dots connect later. A random interest today could create an opportunity five years from now. Curiosity puts more dots on the page. TAKE MORE SHOTS This might be one of the simplest ways to become luckier. Take more shots. If you want the opportunity, apply. If you want the collaboration, ask. If you want the business, pitch. If you want people to hear your ideas, publish them. If you want to meet more people, go where people are. If you want a different life, start creating different inputs. You do not need every shot to work. You need enough shots that a few work really well. The goal is not a 100 percent success rate. The goal is to stay active enough that something has a chance to hit. ASK: HOW CAN I GIVE LUCK MORE OPPORTUNITIES TO FIND ME? Make this a regular question. Who could I reach out to? Where could I go? What invitation could I accept? What idea could I test? What could I publish? What could I learn? What slightly uncomfortable thing could I do? Do not sit around hoping to get lucky. Build a life that gives luck a lot of entry points.     I think the biggest shift is realizing that creating more luck is not about controlling what happens to you. You cannot. Random things happen. Things go wrong. Plans fall apart. And sometimes incredible opportunities appear completely out of nowhere. But you can decide how you live in between those moments. You can stay in the game. You can get in the arena. You can meet more people. Take more shots. Follow more curiosity. Put yourself in more rooms. And you can choose to move through life believing that good things are possible and looking for evidence of them. Because you tend to find what you are looking for. And sometimes something that looks like terrible luck in the moment becomes one of the best things that ever happened to you because you were willing to ask, "Okay… what can I do with this?" So maybe being lucky is not about sitting around waiting for the universe to pick you. Maybe it is deciding: I am going to stay in this long enough. I am going to put myself out there enough. I am going to keep looking for the good.

  2. Sep 4

    362. How To Be Awesome At Forgiveness Without Access Back

    I think there is this idea that when you forgive someone, part of that is letting them back in. Like forgiveness automatically means reconciliation. Like because you let go of the anger, they get their old access back. And I think that is one of the biggest misunderstandings about forgiveness. Because I can forgive you and still not trust you. I can wish you well and still not want you in my space. Those things are not contradictions. That is clarity. Forgiveness, for me, is about releasing what I no longer want to carry. The anger. The resentment. The replaying. But forgiveness does not delete the data. I still remember what you showed me. I still remember what happened. I still get to make decisions based on that information. And if nothing has changed, giving someone access again is sometimes just giving them another opportunity to do the exact same thing. So today we are talking about how to forgive without reopening doors that need to stay closed. How to release resentment without abandoning your boundaries. And I think learning the difference between forgiveness and access is one of the most important lessons there is when it comes to protecting your peace. FORGIVENESS AND RECONCILIATION ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS I think this is where so many people get confused. Forgiveness is internal. Reconciliation is relational. Forgiveness is something you can choose by yourself. Reconciliation requires two people. You can decide: "I am done being angry about this." "I am done letting this take up space in my mind." "I am done wishing things were different." "I am going to move forward." None of that requires you to restore the relationship. Reconciliation requires rebuilding. It requires accountability. Change. Consistency. Trust. Effort. Time. And sometimes, even after all of those things, you may still decide that the relationship is better left in the past. Forgiveness does not automatically create an obligation to reconnect. FORGIVING SOMEONE DOESN'T DELETE THE DATA I love this idea: Forgiving you doesn't delete the data. Because sometimes we treat forgiveness like we are supposed to suddenly become forgetful. But experiences give us information. If someone lied repeatedly, that is information. If someone betrayed your confidence, that is information. If someone consistently disrespected your boundaries, that is information. If being around somebody repeatedly left you anxious, depleted, insecure or confused, that is information. You don't have to be angry about the information in order to use it. That is such an important distinction. You can say: "I'm not mad anymore. But now I know." That is wisdom. You don't need to keep touching the stove just because you forgave it for burning you. You learned. And learning is supposed to change your behavior. FORGIVENESS IS NOT THE SAME THING AS TRUST This is another huge one. You can forgive somebody and still not trust them. Because forgiveness can happen in a moment. Trust is built through behavior. Trust is evidence. Trust is repetition. Trust is somebody consistently showing you: "My words and actions match." "I respect your boundaries." "I take responsibility when I hurt you." "I have actually changed." You do not owe somebody instant trust because they apologized. And you definitely don't owe them trust simply because you decided to forgive them. You can forgive freely. Trust should be earned. ACCESS SHOULD BE EARNED Not everyone deserves the same level of access to you. I think we need to normalize this. There are levels. Someone can be somebody you care about but don't confide in. Someone can be somebody you are cordial with but don't spend time alone with. Someone can be somebody you love but know you cannot have an emotionally close relationship with. Someone can be somebody you forgive from a very large distance. Access is not a punishment. Access is a boundary. Your time is access. Your home is access. Your children are access. Your private thoughts are access. Your energy is access. Your vulnerable moments are access. Those things should not be automatically available to everyone. Especially someone who has already shown you they cannot handle that access responsibly. YOU CAN WISH SOMEONE WELL FROM FAR AWAY This is where people think boundaries somehow mean hate. They don't. You can genuinely hope somebody has a beautiful life. You can hope they heal. You can hope they grow. You can pray for them. You can celebrate something good happening to them. And still say: "I do not want to participate in your life anymore." Those things are not contradictions. You do not have to hate somebody in order to leave. Sometimes you leave because you finally stopped hating them. You stopped fighting. Stopped trying to prove your point. Stopped trying to make them understand. Stopped trying to get the apology. And you simply accepted reality. THE GOAL OF FORGIVENESS ISN'T TO GET THE RELATIONSHIP BACK Sometimes the goal is just peace. That's it. Not closure from them. Not an apology. Not a reunion. Not some perfectly wrapped ending. Just peace. Peace that says: "That happened." "I didn't like it." "I learned from it." "And I am not going to keep paying for it emotionally every day." Forgiveness can simply mean that the event no longer gets to control your nervous system. You stop waking up thinking about it. You stop rehearsing imaginary conversations. You stop checking whether they finally understand what they did. You reclaim your attention. That is freedom. SOME PEOPLE DON'T WANT FORGIVENESS. THEY WANT THEIR POSITION BACK. This one is important. Sometimes somebody says: "Well, I thought you forgave me." But what they really mean is: "I thought I would get the same access again." Those are not the same thing. Some people aren't upset that you're still angry. You're not angry. They are upset that there are consequences. They want to skip accountability and go directly back to proximity. They want your forgiveness to erase the natural consequences of their choices. But forgiveness does not require you to protect somebody from consequences. If I learn that I cannot trust you with certain parts of my life, the consequence may simply be less access. Not revenge. Not punishment. Just a new boundary based on new information. PROXIMITY WITHOUT CHANGE IS JUST ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY FOR THE SAME PATTERN This line really matters: Proximity without change is just a second opportunity to do the same thing. Because people will sometimes rush reconciliation because the discomfort of distance feels awkward. But if nothing actually changed, what are we reconciling? Did the person become more accountable? Did the behavior stop? Did communication improve? Were boundaries respected? Was there actual repair? Or did enough time just pass that everyone feels uncomfortable talking about it anymore? Time passing is not the same thing as growth. An apology is not the same thing as transformation. Words matter. Behavior matters more. STOP PERFORMING REUNIONS YOU DON'T ACTUALLY FEEL I think sometimes people reconcile because they don't want to look mean. They don't want family members to think they're difficult. They don't want mutual friends to feel awkward. They don't want to be accused of holding a grudge. So they perform closeness. And inside they are thinking: "I don't trust this person." "I don't feel safe around this person." "I don't actually want this relationship." That kind of relationship becomes exhausting because now you're spending energy pretending. You do not have to manufacture intimacy to prove that you're healed. Sometimes healing actually looks like being able to peacefully say: "No thank you." YOU DON'T NEED ANGER TO JUSTIFY A BOUNDARY You don't have to still be mad in order to say no. You don't need a dramatic reason. You don't need another explosion. You don't need them to do something terrible one more time. You can simply decide: "This relationship no longer works for me." We have been conditioned to think boundaries need a courtroom argument. They don't. You are allowed to notice patterns. You are allowed to recognize how somebody affects you. And you are allowed to make decisions accordingly. BEING AT PEACE DOESN'T MEAN BECOMING AVAILABLE AGAIN Peace sometimes looks like silence. Peace sometimes looks like not responding. Peace sometimes looks like seeing their name and feeling nothing. Peace sometimes looks like being able to be in the same room without needing to confront them. And peace sometimes looks like never seeing them again. There is no universal picture of forgiveness. Sometimes people assume healing means everybody gets back together. Maybe healing means you no longer need everybody to get back together. YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE AND STILL LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO LEAVE This applies to friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships, work relationships and everything in between. Love by itself does not make every relationship healthy. Sometimes you can genuinely love somebody and still recognize: "We are not good together." Or: "I cannot keep exposing myself to this." Or: "I care about you, but I cannot keep participating in this dynamic." That doesn't make the love fake. It means love isn't the only factor in the decision. You also have to consider trust. Respect. Safety. Compatibility. Peace. Values. Patterns. STOP WAITING FOR THEM TO UNDERSTAND YOUR BOUNDARY One of the hardest parts about boundaries is realizing the other person may never agree with yours. They may call you dramatic. Cold. Unforgiving. Sensitive. Difficult. Selfish. And if your entire goal is getting them to approve of your boundary, you're going to stay stuck. Sometimes the person who benefited most from you having no boundaries is going to hate your boundaries the m

  3. Sep 1

    361. How To Be Awesome At Resetting Your Dopamine

    Today we are talking about something that I think we all need to know about…  How to reset your dopamine. And before you think this is going to be one of those extreme episodes where I tell you to throw your phone into the ocean, stop drinking coffee, sit in a dark room for three days and eliminate everything fun from your life… That is absolutely not what we are doing. Because dopamine isn't bad. We need dopamine. Dopamine is part of what makes us want things. Pursue things. Work toward goals. Get up and go. The problem is that we are living in an environment where we can get enormous amounts of stimulation with almost zero effort. Open Instagram. Refresh your email. Check likes. Open TikTok. Eat something hyper-palatable. Buy something. Get a notification. Watch another episode. Click another video. Check your texts. Pick up your phone because you have 17 seconds with nothing to do. We have essentially eliminated boredom. And I think we need to talk about what that is doing to us. Because I don't think most people have a motivation problem. I think some people have made normal life too boring compared to the stimulation they consume all day long.   Think about this. Working toward a goal is slow. Building a business is slow. Getting stronger is slow. Improving a relationship is slow. Reading a book is slow. Learning something difficult is slow.     But your phone can give you novelty every half second. So what happens when your brain gets accustomed to incredibly stimulating rewards that require almost no effort? The things that actually build an awesome life can start feeling painfully boring.   And THAT is what I want to change today. I've been going deep into what Andrew Huberman, Chris Williamson, Stanford addiction psychiatrist Anna Lembke, Peter Attia and Gary Brecka have discussed around dopamine, reward, pleasure, discomfort and motivation. And there is one massive theme that keeps coming up: We need to stop getting so many rewards without earning them.   We need less cheap dopamine… And more earned dopamine. More accomplishment dopamine. More anticipation. More effort. More challenge. More doing hard things and feeling awesome afterward.   So today we're going to talk about what dopamine actually does, why our modern environment can completely screw with our motivation, what people mean by a dopamine reset, and most importantly… How we actually do it. Not forever. Not perfectly. But intentionally enough that normal life starts feeling interesting again.       Because imagine waking up and actually WANTING to work on your goals. Imagine sitting in your car without immediately opening your phone. Imagine finishing a workout and letting that accomplishment be the reward instead of instantly needing another stimulus. Imagine being fully engaged in dinner. Or a conversation. Or a walk. Or your kids. Or your work. That's what we're after. Not less enjoyment. More enjoyment from the things that actually matter. FIRST… WHAT IS DOPAMINE? Dopamine isn't simply the "pleasure chemical" This is probably the biggest misunderstanding. Dopamine plays a huge role in motivation, pursuit, learning, reinforcement and determining what your brain decides is worth pursuing again. Think less "this makes me happy" and more: "Go get that again." It's a molecule heavily involved in wanting and pursuing. Huberman explains dopamine in terms of baseline and peaks You have a baseline level of dopamine. Then certain experiences generate temporary increases above that baseline. The important part is what happens afterward. A big dopamine peak can be followed by a period where dopamine activity falls below where it was previously. This is part of why something incredible can sometimes leave you feeling strangely flat afterward. The higher and more frequently we chase enormous peaks, the more ordinary activities can start losing their appeal. Think about it like contrast If you eat incredibly sweet processed foods all day… A blueberry doesn't taste very sweet. There isn't anything wrong with the blueberry. Your reference point changed. The same general concept applies here. When your environment becomes filled with intense stimulation… Quiet feels boring. Reading feels boring. Work feels boring. Walking feels boring. A normal conversation feels boring. Your life didn't necessarily become boring. Your stimulation threshold changed. WHAT I MEAN BY "CHEAP DOPAMINE" I'm going to use the phrase cheap dopamine throughout this episode even though scientifically dopamine itself isn't cheap or expensive. What I mean is: A high-reward experience requiring very little effort. Things like: Endless short-form videos Constant social media refreshing Notifications Online shopping Gambling Highly processed foods Video games for hours and hours Constant snacking Drinking Continually checking texts Refreshing email Internet rabbit holes Watching episode after episode after episode Constant novelty And here's the key… None of those things has to be inherently evil. It's the dose. The frequency. And whether you've lost control over your consumption. There's a massive difference between choosing to watch a movie on Saturday night… And being literally unable to stand in an elevator for 25 seconds without checking your phone. That's the part I want us to notice. THE WORLD HAS REMOVED THE WAITING This might be one of the biggest problems. Almost everything used to have some friction. You wanted food? You cooked it. You wanted entertainment? You waited until your show came on. You wanted to talk to your friend? You called them. Maybe they weren't home. You wanted to buy something? You drove somewhere. You wanted information? You found a book. Now? Everything is immediate. Food. Entertainment. Shopping. Attention. Validation. Communication. Information. Novelty. Almost every human desire has an app attached to it. And our brains evolved in an environment where rewards generally required work. Now we can receive reward after reward while lying horizontally on the couch. That is a massive mismatch. THE PLEASURE-PAIN SEESAW One of my favorite explanations comes from Dr. Anna Lembke. She describes pleasure and pain almost like opposite sides of a balance. When we repeatedly push hard toward pleasure… Our brain tries to restore balance. And over time, you may need more of the stimulus just to experience the same effect. This is incredibly obvious with severe addiction. But I think it's useful to recognize much milder versions in ourselves. Have you ever: Opened Instagram for five minutes and 45 minutes disappeared? Finished a show and immediately needed another episode? Finished dessert and started looking for something else sweet? Checked one notification and then somehow checked four different apps? Picked up your phone without consciously deciding to? That automatic reaching is important. You aren't necessarily choosing anymore. You're responding. And I want us to get back into choosing. WHY NOTHING FEELS EXCITING ANYMORE Sometimes people say: "I'm unmotivated." "I don't feel like working." "I can't concentrate." "I'm bored." "I don't really feel excited about anything." Obviously there can be many medical, psychological and situational reasons for those feelings. But there is another question worth asking: How much stimulation are you consuming? Because if you're exposing yourself to novelty constantly… Your brain never gets a chance to be bored enough to create. Never bored enough to think. Never bored enough to solve a problem. Never bored enough to decide what you actually want. We're treating boredom like an emergency. I actually think boredom is incredibly productive. Some of my best ideas happen when there's nothing else coming into my brain. And we are filling every single empty pocket.   DOPAMINE STACKING Huberman talks about something that I think is fascinating: stacking multiple dopamine-producing experiences together. Think about a workout. Exercise itself can be rewarding. But now we add: Pre-workout. Favorite playlist. Phone. Texts. Social media. Energy drink. Maybe stimulants. Maybe a reward meal afterward. Maybe we post the workout and check responses. We've taken one intrinsically rewarding activity and stacked reward upon reward upon reward. And his point isn't that you can never do those things. It's that you don't necessarily want every good experience in life turned up to 100 every single time. Sometimes train without the perfect playlist. Sometimes walk without the podcast. Sometimes drink the coffee without simultaneously scrolling Instagram. Sometimes eat without watching television. Separate the rewards. You don't have to eliminate pleasure. Stop supercharging every experience. LEARN TO LOVE EFFORT This might be my favorite part of the entire episode. We need to stop making the reward exclusively something that comes AFTER the work. "I'll work out and then I can have this." "I'll finish this project and then I'll reward myself." "I'll complete my work and then I'll scroll." There's nothing wrong with celebrating accomplishments. But we also want to train ourselves to associate the effort itself with something positive. Because if the entire purpose of doing something difficult is the reward waiting at the end… The work becomes something you're trying to escape. Instead: "This discomfort means I'm getting stronger." "This is hard because I'm growing." "I'm proud of myself for doing this when I don't feel like doing it." "This is what keeping promises to myself feels like." "This is who I am." That shift is huge. The workout becomes the win. Doing the work becomes the win. Keeping the promise becomes the win. USE DISCO

  4. Aug 24

    360. How To Be Awesome At Being Delusional On Purpose

    My goal in this podcast is to completely change the way you feel about the word delusional.  Because most of the time, we use it as an insult… as if believing in something before you have proof means you're disconnected from reality.  But I think delusional can be one of the most powerful words there is when it means refusing to let your current circumstances dictate what you believe is possible for your future.  It means looking at your life as it is today and deciding that these are facts about today, not instructions for tomorrow. It means believing in the business before it works, walking like you're next before the room agrees, acting like the opportunity is coming before you can see it, and refusing to shrink your dream just because the results haven't caught up yet.  Because most people don't fail because they lack talent… they fail because they are too reasonable. They make decisions based on what they've done before, what feels safe, what other people think is realistic, and what their current life seems to prove is possible. Then they pray for a new life and move like the old one.  So today, I want to talk about what it actually means to be delusional on purpose: to believe bigger than the evidence, behave in a way that creates new evidence, stop inheriting other people's limitations, and stay in the game long enough for the life you imagined to actually happen.      BE DELUSIONAL ABOUT THE VISION. BE RUTHLESS ABOUT THE EXECUTION. This is the distinction. Being delusional does not mean sitting on the couch imagining a better life and expecting Amazon Prime to deliver it. That's fantasy. The kind of delusion I'm talking about is different. Be completely unreasonable about what you believe is possible… and extremely practical about what you need to do today. Maybe you want to be in phenomenal shape. Great. Be delusional enough to believe you can completely transform your body. Then be incredibly non-delusional about what today requires. Train. Walk. Eat enough protein. Sleep. Stop negotiating with yourself. Maybe you want to build a huge business. Be delusional about how big it can become. Then be painfully realistic about what you need to do today. Make the calls. Film the videos. Make the offer. Study what isn't working. Fix it. Post again. Follow up. Get better. That combination is so powerful. Massive belief.   Grounded action.   YOU CAN'T PRAY FOR A NEW LIFE AND MOVE LIKE THE OLD ONE They pray for a new life and then they move like the old one. How often do we do this? We say… I want to get into the best shape of my life. I want to make way more money. I want to start the company. I want to become an incredible parent. I want to completely change my social circle. I want an extraordinary marriage. I want to write the book. I want to launch the thing. I want to travel. I want to have freedom. I want to wake up excited about my life. Okay. But then Monday morning comes… And we operate exactly like we operated last Monday. Same schedule. Same habits. Same distractions. Same excuses. Same amount of effort. Same standards. Same conversations. Same people influencing us. Same three hours disappearing into our phones. And somehow we expect a radically different result. It doesn't work that way. At some point you have to decide… If I want a life I've never had, I'm probably going to have to behave in ways I never have. That is where being a little delusional becomes your superpower.   YOU CANNOT ACT OUTSIDE OF WHAT YOU BELIEVE TO BE TRUE This is a huge part of all of this. Your actions are limited by what you believe is possible. If you don't believe you can do something… how are you going to consistently take the actions that would actually allow you to do it? You probably won't. If deep down you don't believe your business is going to work, that doubt will eventually show up in your behavior. You won't do the outreach. You won't post enough content. You'll avoid the uncomfortable work. You'll procrastinate on the thing you know matters. You'll distract yourself. You'll convince yourself you need another course, another plan, another month of preparation. And then when it doesn't work, you get to say… See? I knew it. That's why your beliefs matter so much. The achievement of your goals is largely dictated by your actions. And your actions are heavily influenced by what you believe is possible. So if you want a radically different outcome, part of the work is expanding what you believe you are capable of creating.   MOST PEOPLE ARE HANDING YOU THEIR OWN INSECURITIES This is one of the most important things to understand if you want to do anything big with your life. Most of the time when somebody tells you what isn't possible for you… They aren't actually talking about you. They're talking about themselves. They are giving you the boundaries of their own imagination. They're giving you their fears. Their experiences. Their disappointments. Their risk tolerance. Their insecurities. Their definition of what is realistic. And we absorb it like it's objective truth. Someone says: "That's really hard." "You probably can't make money doing that." "That industry is too saturated." "You're getting a little obsessive." "Do you really think you can do that?" "What if it doesn't work?" Okay. But ask yourself… Is this person qualified to tell me what is possible for my life? Have they built the type of life I'm trying to build? Have they taken the type of risks I'm trying to take? Have they accomplished the thing they're warning me is impossible? Because sometimes the advice isn't wisdom. Sometimes it's fear wearing a very convincing outfit. And you have to get really good at distinguishing between the two. You can listen to smart feedback. You should listen to facts. You should change strategy when necessary. But you do not have to inherit someone else's limitations.   STOP ASKING YOUR CURRENT LIFE FOR PERMISSION One of the biggest mistakes we make is looking at our current circumstances for evidence that our future dream is possible. Of course the evidence might not be there yet. You haven't built it yet! Imagine somebody starting a business and saying… "Well, I'm only making $5,000 a month right now, so it would be pretty delusional to think I could make $100,000 a month." Yes! Exactly! Be delusional. Because every person making $100,000 a month once had a month where they made zero. Every person who is incredibly fit once had a first workout. Every person with a massive audience once posted something that six people saw. Every amazing relationship had a first conversation. Every expert was once completely new. Your beginning does not get to vote on your ending. We keep wanting proof before belief. But most extraordinary things happen in the opposite order. You believe. Then you behave differently because of that belief. Then the evidence starts showing up.     BORROW EVIDENCE UNTIL YOU HAVE YOUR OWN Here's a practical way to strengthen your belief. Look for people who have already done the thing you want to do. Not so you can compare yourself to them. So you can give your brain evidence. Someone built the company. Someone transformed their body. Someone started over at 45. Someone built an audience from nothing. Someone came back from failure. Someone learned the skill. Someone figured out how to make the money. Someone changed their entire life. They aren't made from different materials than you. They may have different advantages, different circumstances, different timing and different talents. But their existence proves that the category of outcome is possible. Use that. Study people ahead of you. Learn what they did. Stack evidence. Follow your plan. Adjust when necessary. And keep moving. You don't have to blindly tell yourself something is possible. You can go collect proof that it is.     GET RID OF THE "JUST IN CASE" ENERGY This was another part that really hit me. We want the blessing… But we keep a just-in-case plan. And I don't mean that you should make irresponsible financial decisions or abandon basic common sense. I mean emotionally. We say we believe in something… But we leave ourselves 900 exits. We don't fully commit. We keep one foot in the old identity. We keep telling everybody, "Well, if it doesn't work…" Why are we spending so much energy rehearsing the failure? What would happen if you spent that energy preparing for success? What would you need if this actually worked? Who would you need to become? What systems would need to be in place? What skills would you need? What help would you need? What would your days look like? That's a much more useful conversation.     MAKE YOUR FUTURE SELF THE MAIN CHARACTER Main-character energy gets made fun of online, but there's something really useful buried inside of it. Stop acting like a supporting character in your own life. Stop letting everybody else's schedules, preferences, opinions and expectations determine your entire existence. You get one life. This is it. And sometimes we behave as if we're waiting for someone to come tell us what we're allowed to do with it. You are allowed to change careers. You are allowed to reinvent yourself. You are allowed to stop liking things you used to like. You are allowed to want more. You are allowed to become wildly disciplined. You are allowed to make new friends. You are allowed to build a different routine. You are allowed to start over. You are allowed to decide that the person you have been is not the person you are going to continue being.   YOUR PAST IS INFORMATION, NOT A PROPHECY Maybe you've failed before. Okay. That is information. Maybe you've quit things before. Information. Maybe your business didn't work the first time. Informat

  5. Aug 19

    359. Awesome Health Lessons I Learned From Gary Brecka

    Our dear friends invited us to an event this weekend in LA… they are partnering with Gary Brecka to build Ultimate Longevity Centers which will bring treatments and testing that just hasn't been easily accessible before now. I believe the way we look at aging is outdated and I'm going to share the biggest take aways I got from his on stage message and chatting with him one on one. We are talking about very practical starting points and Gary Brecka's actual morning health routine. Stop waiting until something is wrong to start taking care of your body. We have been taught this idea that getting older automatically means getting weaker, having less energy, gaining weight, losing muscle, sleeping worse, becoming more anxious, needing more medications and eventually developing all of the diseases that "run in our family." Gary challenges a lot of that thinking. His message is essentially… What if we became obsessed with keeping our bodies functioning incredibly well for as long as possible? What if instead of asking, "How do I treat disease once I have it?" we asked, "How do I create a body that is incredibly difficult for disease to thrive in?" And then there's the longevity piece that completely fascinates me. Gary believes we're entering a period where medicine, AI, biological data and longevity research are going to advance so rapidly that lifespan could look radically different in the future. Maybe 120. Maybe beyond. We don't know. But what we do know is that we need to keep ourselves healthy enough NOW to benefit from whatever becomes possible later. So today's episode is about doing the things that give you the strongest, healthiest, most capable body possible. I've been listening to Gary Brecka talk about health, longevity, anxiety, genetics, sleep, sunlight, oxygen, muscle, bloodwork and what he believes is coming next in longevity science. THE BIG IDEA: YOUR HEALTH IS BUILT EVERY DAY One of my biggest takeaways from Gary is that health isn't something we deal with when there's a problem. It's something we're building every single day. Your sleep last night matters. What you do when you wake up matters. Whether you move your body matters. Whether you maintain muscle matters. Your metabolic health matters. Your stress matters. Your relationships matter. Your nutrition matters. Your environment matters. And individually, none of these things feels life-changing. But repeated for years and decades… they become your life. Gary describes his routine as simple, portable and repeatable. I LOVE that. Because the best health routine isn't the $100,000 biohacking setup. It's the one you'll actually do every day. HABIT #1: HYDRATE BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING ELSE Gary starts his morning with water and minerals. One version of his routine is a large glass of room-temperature water with mineral salt and sometimes lemon. His current routine also frequently includes mineral salt, hydrogen water and essential amino acids. Wake up and hydrate. You've just spent roughly eight hours without drinking anything. Don't make coffee your first liquid of the day. Put water next to your bathroom sink. Put it next to your coffee machine. Make it automatic. Gary likes mineral salt because sodium and other minerals participate in fluid balance and normal nerve and muscle function. HABIT #2: GET OUTSIDE FIRST THING Gary says to get outside within the first part of your morning and get natural outdoor light into your eyes. His routine generally calls for about 10 minutes outside. Morning light helps tell your brain: It's daytime. Start the clock. Light is one of the strongest environmental signals for the circadian system. Properly timed morning light can shift circadian timing earlier and increase daytime alertness. And I love thinking of sleep this way: Your good night's sleep starts in the morning. We tend to think sleep health starts when we crawl into bed. But your body has been receiving signals all day telling it when to be awake and when to prepare for sleep. HABIT #3: BREATHE ON PURPOSE Gary talks about oxygen constantly. His personal morning practice has included three rounds of deep breathing followed by breath holds. And this connects to another thing we've been talking about: Anxiety. I love the idea that when you feel anxious, you shouldn't immediately decide: "I'm an anxious person." Anxiety is a state your nervous system is experiencing. Sometimes your thoughts are driving your physiology. And sometimes your physiology can amplify anxious thoughts. Either way, changing the physical state can sometimes help change the mental state. Research on structured breathwork has found modest improvements in stress and anxiety, although it isn't a cure-all and the quality of studies varies. HABIT #4: GIVE YOUR BRAIN SILENCE Gary often combines his morning breathing with quiet, gratitude and reflection. He has described sitting quietly for around 10 minutes, looking toward the horizon or closing his eyes and thinking about gratitude. (PodScripts (https://podscripts.co/podcasts/the-ultimate-human-with-gary-brecka/246-gary-brecka-answers-googles-most-searched-questions-on-his-diet-wellness-and-lifestyle?utm_source=chatgpt.com)) Think about how different this is from what most of us do. Eyes open. Phone. Email. Instagram. News. Text messages. Stress. Other people's priorities. And we wonder why we feel overstimulated. TRY THIS: Before consuming everybody else's thoughts… Have some of your own. What am I grateful for? What matters today? Who needs me today? How do I want to feel today? What is actually important? PRACTICAL VERSION: Five minutes. That's it. No phone. No podcast. No input. Just quiet. HABIT #5: USE CONTROLLED DISCOMFORT Cold exposure is another major Brecka habit. If he has access to a cold plunge, he uses it. When traveling, he has said a cold shower works too. But I think there is a bigger lesson here than whether everybody needs to buy a cold plunge. Stop designing your entire life around comfort. Human beings are unbelievably adaptable. Exercise is stress. Heat is stress. Cold is stress. Fasting is stress. Challenging your brain is stress. The key is appropriate amounts of stress followed by recovery. HABIT #6: MOVE EARLY Gary includes movement in his morning routine. But here's what I love: It doesn't need to be a full workout. Walk. Stretch. Squat. Lift. Do yoga. Go outside. Movement tells your body: We're alive. We're using this machine today. And then keep moving after the morning is over. One exceptionally practical habit is walking after meals. Instead of finishing dinner and immediately sitting on the couch… WALK FOR 10 MINUTES. Moving skeletal muscle after eating can help the body handle glucose. You don't need workout clothes. You don't need a gym. You don't even need to sweat. Walk around your neighborhood. Walk your dog. Walk while you're on a phone call. ONE OF THE EASIEST HEALTH RULES: Eat → walk. HABIT #7: BUILD MUSCLE LIKE YOUR FUTURE DEPENDS ON IT This is where I think longevity conversations get really practical. MUSCLE IS NOT JUST ABOUT LOOKING GOOD. Maintaining muscle becomes increasingly important as we age. Resistance training is one of the most powerful non-drug strategies available for preserving and building skeletal muscle. Losing muscle eventually affects: strength balance mobility independence your ability to recover from illness your ability to do normal life You're not building your 2026 body. You're building your 2056 body. HABIT #8: PRIORITIZE PROTEIN AND REAL FOOD- avoid processed foods Gary emphasizes protein and essential amino acids because preserving lean tissue is a major part of his longevity philosophy. The research strongly supports resistance training for preserving muscle, while evidence regarding how much additional benefit comes from protein supplementation specifically is more mixed. HABIT #9: PROTECT YOUR METABOLIC HEALTH I think this deserves WAY more attention. We obsess over weight. Gary talks much more about metabolic health. There is a difference. Weight is one number. Metabolic health includes things like: blood glucose insulin sensitivity blood pressure blood lipids waist circumference fitness body composition Instead of only asking: "How much do I weigh?" Ask: "How well is my body functioning?" Someone can lose weight while losing muscle. Someone can be thin and still have poor metabolic health. PRACTICAL HABITS: Strength train. Walk. Walk after meals. Eat mostly whole foods. Get enough sleep. Maintain healthy body composition. Reduce constant snacking if it isn't serving you. Know your basic health numbers. THE GOAL ISN'T SKINNY. The goal is metabolically capable. HABIT #10: TEST… DON'T JUST GUESS This might be one of my favorite parts of Brecka's philosophy. Stop guessing about everything. If you're exhausted all the time… investigate. If you're unusually anxious… investigate. If your sleep has suddenly changed… investigate. If your energy has disappeared… investigate. If your hormones feel completely different… investigate. If you feel awful despite doing "everything right"… investigate. Don't immediately decide: "I'm getting old." "This runs in my family." "I'm just an anxious person." "My metabolism sucks." "This is just how I am." ASK BETTER QUESTIONS. Could something modifiable be contributing? sleep nutrient deficiencies thyroid function iron status medications hormones metabolic health stress alcohol caffeine environment psychological health This does NOT mean

  6. Aug 10

    358. Unexpected Ways To Use AI To Make Your Life More Awesome

    Here's the link to my 2.0 calendar planning system…  https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem **The perfect pairing to use with AI** I explain how and why towards the end of this episode!      I think most people are using AI way too small.   They're asking it to rewrite an email, make a grocery list, or answer a random question… which is fine. But that's like buying a Ferrari and using it to drive to the mailbox. The real opportunity is to use AI to remove friction from your life. To make decisions faster. To stop carrying 47 unfinished thoughts around in your head. To get healthier, make more money, organize your life, solve problems faster, and actually create more space for the things you care about.   Today I want to show you how to start thinking differently about AI altogether. How to use it almost like an extension of your brain… a personal assistant, strategist, researcher, coach, planner, and sounding board that is available the second you have a problem to solve.   Because I really believe the people who learn how to use AI well right now are going to have an insane advantage. Not because they're smarter or working harder… but because they're going to spend so much less time stuck in the figuring-it-out phase.    And that means more time spent in forward motion, less of the mundane and more time living… which is always the goal.   IDEAS!!  TURN YOUR REFRIGERATOR INTO A PERSONAL CHEF Take a picture of what you have and say: "I want a high-protein dinner using these ingredients. Under 30 minutes, at least 40 grams of protein, no seed oils, kid-friendly, and minimal dishes." Now AI isn't giving you a random recipe. It's solving your actual dinner problem. USE BOOKS FOR EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED Instead of just asking for a book summary, make it relevant to your life. "Teach me the parenting principles from Good Inside using examples with an eight-year-old." "Explain the identity-based habits concept from Atomic Habits and tell me how to use it for my current goal." You can learn exactly what you need, exactly when you need it. USE AI AS YOUR TRAVEL CONCIERGE Give it your destination, hotel, kids' ages, budget, preferences, and schedule. Then ask it to: • Build the itinerary • Avoid tourist traps • Find great restaurants • Plan rainy-day backups • Organize everything geographically • Tell you what to pack • Compare hotel options • Decide whether upgrades are worth it It can save hours of research. TREAT IT LIKE A PERSONAL ASSISTANT If something has been sitting on your list because it requires research or decision-making… hand it over. "I'm comparing these three gyms." "I need a new mattress." "I'm choosing between schools." "I need the perfect birthday gift." Tell AI your priorities and let it compare the options. Don't just ask: "Answer this question." Ask: "Help me solve this entire problem." HIRE YOURSELF A PERSONAL TRAINER Say: "Act as my personal trainer. Ask me everything you need before building my program." Give it your goals, schedule, equipment, injuries, current fitness level, and nutrition goals. Then let it create a plan around your actual life. And when life changes: "I only have 25 minutes today. Modify my workout." LET AI ORGANIZE YOUR HOUSE Take a picture of your pantry, closet, garage, or playroom. Then ask: "Pretend you're a professional organizer. Tell me what to donate, relocate, buy, and exactly what order to tackle this in." This is especially helpful when you feel overwhelmed and don't know where to start. USE AI AS A THINKING PARTNER Sometimes you don't need more information. You need perspective. Dump the entire situation into ChatGPT. Then ask: "What am I not seeing?" "What pattern do you notice?" "If you were incredibly direct with me, what would you tell me?" Sometimes getting everything out of your head and organized is enough to create clarity. BUILD YOUR DREAM LIFE BACKWARDS Describe your current life. Then describe the life you want. Example: "I'm overwhelmed, my house is cluttered, I don't have enough energy, and I always feel behind." Versus: "My home feels calm, I feel strong, I'm organized, I have financial confidence, and my days feel intentional." Then ask: "Build me the smallest daily and weekly habits that would move me from Version A to Version B." Now AI becomes a life-design tool. CREATE A DEFAULT HEALTHY DAY Stop making 100 tiny decisions every day. Give AI your schedule and priorities. "I wake up at 5:30, kids leave at 7:45, I work from 8 to 1, I want 10,000 steps, 130 grams of protein, a workout, time outside, and bed by 9:30. Build me the most efficient version of my day." Now you have a default operating system instead of reinventing your schedule every morning. AUDIT YOUR TIME + MONEY Give AI your spending and say: "I want to free up $2,000 a month without dramatically changing our lifestyle. Show me where you would find it." Give AI your weekly calendar and say: "My priorities are health, family, income-producing work, and margin. Tell me what should be eliminated, delegated, batched, or moved." Sometimes the problem isn't that you need more time or money. You need to use what you already have better. THE BIG IDEA The people getting the best results from AI aren't necessarily asking better questions. They're giving better context. Don't ask: "What's a healthy dinner?" Ask: "I have 25 minutes, two hungry kids, chicken, broccoli, sweet potatoes, and Greek yogurt. I want something high-protein, kid-friendly, no seed oils, and minimal cleanup." The better you brief AI… The better it performs.   ** Last thoughts ** Imagine carrying around a world-class assistant everywhere you go. Someone who can organize, research, teach, plan, compare, coach, and help you think through almost anything. The goal isn't to think less. The goal is to spend less time stuck. Less time overwhelmed. Less time researching. And more time executing, creating, taking care of yourself, being with your people, and actually living your life. The next time you think: "I need to figure this out…" Try asking: "How could AI help me figure this out faster?"   This is the greatest time to ever be alive and AI can help your life be more efficient and filled with joy if you know how to use it!!

  7. Jul 27

    357. The Secret To Supporting Your People In The Most Awesome Way

    I think a lot about how I can best show up and be there for my people.  My family and closest friends… my inner circle.  I want to be very intentional about how I support them. I realized something recently that I hadn't pin pointed in this way before. And one of the greatest gifts you can give them isn't advice… It isn't solving all of their problems… It's belief. I think that's what every single person is really looking for. Someone who believes in them. Someone who's in their corner. Someone who genuinely wants to see them win. Today we are talking about believing in your people sometimes even more than they believe in themselves. I honestly think that's what so many people are longing for. To know someone sees something in them they can't quite see yet. Sometimes people just need to borrow someone else's belief until they build their own confidence. It looks like this… someone you love says "I have a huge presentation tomorrow." Instead of… "Oh man… that's stressful." Smile and say… "Good thing you're one of the best presenters I know." It's belief in what they are doing and what they care about.  By shifting our responses to belief statements, I think we can completely change how people feel after spending time with us. This is the reframe… when you're in a situation with someone you love and you're responding to what they have doing on or what they told you about… tell yourself… how can I show how much I believe in them? I think 99% of the time that's what they actually need and want to hear. Let's look at some examples. **Starting a business They say: "I've been thinking about starting my own business." Standard response: "Just be careful… most businesses fail." Your belief statement: "If anyone can figure this out, it's you. I know it will work because you don't stop until things do." **Child Before A Big Game They say: "I'm nervous about my game." Standard response: "Don't be nervous." Your belief statement: "Good thing you're the kind of person who plays their best when it matters. I can't wait to watch you." **Tough Day At Work They say: "I don't know if I'm doing a good job." Standard response: "I'm sure you're fine." Your belief statement: "I've watched you solve harder problems than this. I have complete confidence that you'll figure this out too." **Trying Something New They say: "I've never done anything like this before." Standard response: "Well… just try your best." Your belief statement: "Every expert was once doing something for the first time. I think you're going to surprise yourself." **Your Spouse Feeling Overwhelmed They say: "I don't know how I'm going to get everything done." Standard response: "Yeah… you've got a lot on your plate." Your belief statement: "I know it feels like a lot, but you're one of the most capable people I know. And we're a team—we'll figure it out together." Let's lean into these 4 types of belief statements 1. Believe in their ability "You've got this." "You're ready." "I trust you." "You can handle this." "You're really good at this." 2. Believe in their character "You're incredibly resilient." "You're wiser than you think." "You're a great leader." "You're one of the kindest people I know." "You're built for hard things." 3. Believe in their future "I can't wait to see what you do." "You're just getting started." "This is going to be part of your success story." "Your future is bright." "Big things are ahead." 4. Believe in them when they can't "I'll believe in you until you believe in yourself." "I see something special in you." "I wish you could see yourself through my eyes." "Don't count yourself out." "I haven't lost confidence in you for one second." Imagine if the people in your life consistently heard responses like these. Imagine how your spouse would walk into work. How your kids would walk into school. How your friends would chase bigger dreams. How much more courage they would have simply because they know there's someone in their corner who believes in them. You can't control every outcome for the people you love. But you can control what they hear from you. And maybe the greatest gift you can give someone isn't having all the answers… Maybe it's helping them believe they already have what it takes. The reframe… Before you respond to someone… Pause for just one second and ask yourself: "What response would make this person feel more capable?" Not more dependent. Not just more comfortable. More capable. Then respond from that place. Because the best supporters don't just make people feel better. They make people become better. And maybe that's one of the greatest gifts we can ever give the people we love.

  8. Jul 20

    356. How To Be Awesome At Resetting Fast

    This is a bold statement but I fully believe it.  The speed at which you recover from life's setbacks has a bigger impact on your future than almost anything else. Examples … Someone says something super rude. Or you get disappointing news. Or you make a big mistake you're so bummed about.    The event lasts a few minutes... but for so many people, the emotional impact lasts for days or longer!  I've been thinking a lot about this lately, and I think one of the greatest skills you can develop isn't avoiding difficult moments... It's learning how to recover from them faster. Imagine two people. The exact same upsetting thing happens to both of them. Person A needs seven days to recover. Person B needs seven minutes. Now imagine that happens hundreds of times over the course of a lifetime. Who builds the better life? Today we're talking about one of the most valuable life skills you can develop... How To Be Awesome At Resetting Fast. Because you can't always control what happens to you... But you can absolutely control how long you let it affect you.      Stop Measuring Failure... Start Measuring Recovery Time Alex Hormozi talks often about speed. Speed of decisions. Speed of learning. Speed of action. But one thing he demonstrates over and over is speed of recovery. He doesn't pretend successful people avoid problems. He believes they simply spend less time emotionally attached to them. Ask yourself: How long do I stay upset? 10 minutes? 10 hours? 10 days? The longer recovery takes... the more expensive every setback becomes. Great performers compress recovery time.   Build Reset Rituals Successful people don't rely on motivation. They have reset systems.   Examples: "I had a bad meeting." → Walk outside. "I argued with someone." → Journal. "I skipped my workout." → Schedule tomorrow before bed. "I feel overwhelmed." → Brain dump.   The faster your ritual... the faster your recovery. I've been through harder.    This is not the worst thing that's ever happened to you.  Identity Doesn't Change Because Of One Decision Or Situation  Mark Manson talks about identity being built through repeated behaviors rather than dramatic declarations. Environment and consistent actions matter more than forcing yourself through shame.  One bad decision doesn't erase years of good ones. One great workout doesn't make you healthy. It's averages. The stock market doesn't go straight up. Neither do you.     Hormozi's Philosophy Alex Hormozi says something along these lines all the time: You don't become exceptional by avoiding hard things. You become exceptional because hard things stop surprising you.   Your response becomes automatic. Problem? Solve. Mistake? Adjust. Failure? Learn. Move. No drama. Just data.   The Compound Effect Of Fast Resets Imagine two people. Both make 200 mistakes this year. Person A Needs seven days to recover. Person B Needs seven minutes.   Who wins? Not because they're smarter. Not because they're more talented. Simply because they spend dramatically more days moving forward. That difference compounds over years.   Challenge For the next 30 days... Stop trying to be perfect. Instead... Become obsessed with shortening your reset time. Miss your workout? Reset tomorrow. Bad conversation? Don't carry it into the evening. Eat poorly? Next meal. Made a bad decision? Learn. Adjust. Move. Your goal isn't to eliminate mistakes.   It's to become someone who never stays down for very long. Because life will keep knocking you off course.   The people who build extraordinary lives aren't the ones who never fall... They're the ones who become world-class at getting back up.   If you remember one thing from today's episode, let it be this: One bad moment should never become a bad day. One bad day should never become a bad week. One bad week should never become a bad year. Your greatest superpower isn't avoiding setbacks... It's refusing to live there. Reset. Refocus. Take the very next right step. That's how extraordinary lives are built... one fast reset at a time.

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The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how the thoughts that we think and words that we say create the world that we live in. What started as a folder of life lessons to share with her kids one day has become a podcast with over one million downloads. Always with a growth mindset, Lindsay presents topics that she thinks are worth hitting pause on life to focus on. She shares her successes (and failures!) in business and in life and her journey to be awesome at everything.

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