The Rare Life

Madeline Cheney
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  • Parenting
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This is the real, raw, and all the feels of loving a child with disabilities. Episodes feature parent-guests, professionals, and solo episodes with host Madeline Cheney. Their authentic conversations don’t shy away from the strong and mixed emotions that often accompany medically-complex parenting. Parents listen in to feel seen, validated, and receive much-needed solidarity. Professionals working with disabled people listen in to better understand what is often going on under the surface for a family living with disabilities.

  1. 5d ago

    234: Carolina’s Story | A Surprise Diagnosis, A Liver Transplant, + When Relaxing Feels Risky

    When Carolina’s daughter Cruz was just days old, newborn screening revealed she had maple syrup urine disease. Almost overnight, Carolina went from first-time mom to managing hospital stays, oxygen, G-tube feeds, and a condition that could become dangerous very quickly. In today’s episode, Carolina shares what those early years looked like, including the hypervigilance, the pressure to get everything exactly right, and the fear that if she relaxed even a little, something bad would happen. We also talk about the decision to pursue a liver transplant after years of managing Cruz’s condition, and what life has looked like on the other side. From finally sharing cultural foods with Cruz to finding snack crumbs in the car seat, Carolina reflects on the small, ordinary things that can feel huge after years of medical complexity. Links: Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups! Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update! Follow Carolina on Instagram @carolq14! Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life! Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.

  2. Oct 1

    233: PTSD | What It Looks Like + Why It’s So Prevalent for Disability Parents w/ Amanda Griffith-Atkins

    A hospital admission. A seizure. A certain time of year. Sometimes your body can react to medical trauma long after the moment itself has passed. But when does that become PTSD, and what does that look like when the trauma is tied to your child’s medical care? In today’s episode, Amanda Griffith-Atkins joins us to break down the difference between PTSD, post-traumatic stress symptoms, and other trauma responses, plus why things like hypervigilance, avoidance, feeling trapped, and physical reactions to reminders can show up so strongly for medical parents. We also dig into what makes trauma especially complicated when you have to keep returning to the hospital or facing new medical crises, how treatment options like EMDR and medication can help, and why you don’t need an official PTSD diagnosis for your trauma to deserve attention. And a big thanks to our sponsor for this episode, themakers of the incredible documentary, The Zebra & The Bear! Links: Watch The Zebra & The Bear Listen to Ep 185: Medical Parent Trauma. Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups! Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update! Follow Amanda on Instagram @amanda.griffith.atkins! Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life! Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode. Amanda’s Episodes: 81: Health Anxiety 85: Should A Child’s Disability be Part of Their Parents’ Identity? 99: Family Planning 108: Holidays + Disability 109: Isolating During Holidays 110: Inpatient During Holidays 130: Fearful of Childloss 131: Chronic Stress + Our Bodies 132: When Self-Care Gives Us the Swears 135: Ways Career + Family Roles Can Be Affected by Disability 142: What If My Disabled Child Outlives Me? 147: Sex + Disability Parenting 153: Hurtful Things Loved Ones Say and Do 156: Should I Get Divorced? 159: Mental-Load Sharing with Your Partner 171: Financial Strain 182: Hobbies 189: Grief in Disability Parenting 203: Strengthening Marriage 222: Intellectual Disabilities

  3. Sep 24

    232: Exercise + Disability Parents

    Exercise can be a powerful coping tool, a way to feel stronger, and something that improves our mental health as parents of disabled children. But for those in our community, it can also be hard to access, hard to sustain, and just one more thing on our never-ending to-do list. In today’s episode, we’re talking about that tension: the ways exercise has helped so many parents cope with stress, anger, trauma, and the physical demands of caregiving, alongside the very real barriers of time, energy, money, childcare, and hospital stays. We also dig into body image, identity, losing routines you once loved, and why “just make it a priority” doesn’t capture the reality of caregiving. No matter your relationship to exercise, this episode has something for everyone. Links: Listen to Ep. 142: What If My Disabled Child Outlives Me? Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups! Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update! Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life! Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.

  4. Sep 17

    231: Numbing Out | When Disability Parents Need a Break From Reality

    Scrolling. Comfort shows. Exercise. Reading. Keeping yourself so busy you don’t have time to think. Numbing out can look a lot of different ways. In today’s episode, we’re talking about why medical parents numb out, especially during stressful seasons, before and after scary medical moments, and after long days of being “on” for everyone else. We also dig into the difference between numbing out and dissociation, how to tell when distraction is helping versus becoming avoidance, and why sometimes giving your brain a break is exactly what you need. Also, a big thank you to Functional Formularies, oursponsor for this episode.   Links: Learn more about Functional Formularies! Listen to Ep 182: Hobbies for Disability Parents. Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups! Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update! Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life! Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.

  5. Sep 10

    230: Amanda’s Story | Medical-Parent Anxiety, Fear of the Future + 17 Years of Perspective

    When your first child is medically complex, your experience can look very different from a “typical” parent. But sometimes, that’s only really apparent in hindsight. In today’s episode, we (finally!) have Amanda Griffith-Atkins on to share the story of her and her son Asher. From the first inkling that something wasn’t quite right to navigating conflicting messages and fears about the future to what her life looks like now seventeen years later, Amanda shares it all. We also dig into that moment where you realize you have to share diagnostic news with your friends and family, how having typical children later brought up grief for moments she and Asher missed out on, and how the way disabled children are portrayed in medical settings influences parents and can contribute to fear. This episode has it all! You won't want to miss it. Links: Check out Amanda's past episodes on TRL! 81: Health Anxiety 85: Should A Child’s Disability be Part of Their Parents’ Identity? 99: Family Planning 108: Holidays + Disability 109: Isolating During Holidays 110: Inpatient During Holidays 130: Fearful of Childloss 131: Chronic Stress + Our Bodies 132: When Self-Care Gives Us the Swears 135: Ways Career + Family Roles Can Be Affected by Disability 142: What If My Disabled Child Outlives Me? 147: Sex + Disability Parenting 153: Hurtful Things Loved Ones Say and Do 156: Should I Get Divorced? 159: Mental-Load Sharing with Your Partner 171: Financial Strain 182: Hobbies 189: Grief in Disability Parenting 203: Strengthening Marriage 222: Intellectual Disabilities Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups! Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update! Follow Amanda on Instagram @amanda.griffith.atkins! Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life! Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.

  6. Sep 3

    229: Season 14 Kickoff | Our Board Retreat, Summer Recaps + Sneak Peeks

    Season 14 is here, and this time the focus is on how raising a disabled or medically complex child impacts us as people. This season, we’ll be talking about things like anxiety, PTSD, identity, feeling like your body failed your child, numbing out and dissociation, exercise, and being seen as a “Debbie Downer” when you’re honest about the realities of this life. As always, we’ll also have story episodes woven throughout the season, including a long-overdue story episode with Amanda Griffith-Atkins. We’re also sharing some behind-the-scenes updates in this episode, including how Madeline and Alyssa are splitting hosting and production this season, our first in-person board retreat in Maine, and a little of what we’ve been up to over the summer. Finally, we’re wrapping up this season opener with clips from the first few episodes. Don’t miss it! Links: Access the NICU Survival Guide here or at https://therarelife.org/nicuguide. Listen to Ep 81: Health Anxiety. Listen to Ep 85: Should A Child’s Disability be Part of Their Parent’s Identity?  w/ Emily Ladau. Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups! Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update! Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life! Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.

  7. Aug 13

    New Launch: The NICU Survival Guide w/ Cindy Reinhard and Ashley Caywood (Summer Mini #10)

    It’s finally here! For the last year and a half, we’ve been working on this project to be a big hug for NICU families from parents who just get it. In this episode, we’re sharing our NICU Guide for the first time, why we created it, who it’s for, and how you can help get it into the hands of families who need it the most. If you’d like to help, send us a message on Instagram, ontherarelife.org/contact or by emailing us directly at team@therarelife.org. A huge thank you to our sponsor for this summer season, Real Food Blends! Real Food Blends are the only 100% real food meals thatare ready-to-feed for people with feeding tubes. Offering 8 different meals and 1 snack for adults & kids, it's the closest thing to homemade blenderized tube feeding. Learn more at realfoodblends.com! Links: Access the NICU Survival Guide here. Get involved with distribution efforts by emailing us team@therarelife.org. Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups! Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update! Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life! Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.

  8. Aug 6 ·  Bonus

    When You and Your Child are Both Medically Complex with Sarah (Summer Mini #9)

    Imagine this: You’ve just finished going through the diagnostic process for your child’s rare disease. You’re trying to find your new normal. And in the midst of all this, you continue to uncover your own medical complexities. That story isn’t foreign to Sarah, our guest in today’s episode. She shares both her and her daughter’s diagnostic journey, how that impacts their life in unique ways, and why she’s ultimately thankful to be able to understand her daughter’s struggles. A huge thank you to our sponsor for this summer season, Real Food Blends! Real Food Blends are the only 100% real food meals thatare ready-to-feed for people with feeding tubes. Offering 8 different meals and 1 snack for adults & kids, it's the closest thing to homemade blenderized tube feeding. Learn more at realfoodblends.com! Links: Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups! Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update! Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life! Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.

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This is the real, raw, and all the feels of loving a child with disabilities. Episodes feature parent-guests, professionals, and solo episodes with host Madeline Cheney. Their authentic conversations don’t shy away from the strong and mixed emotions that often accompany medically-complex parenting. Parents listen in to feel seen, validated, and receive much-needed solidarity. Professionals working with disabled people listen in to better understand what is often going on under the surface for a family living with disabilities.

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  • Creator
    Madeline Cheney
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    316
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Madeline Cheney
  • Show Website
    The Rare Life

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