The Black Mother Wound Podcast

The Black Effect Podcast Network and iHeartPodcasts
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Welcome to The Black Mother Wound, a podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl. In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love.Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.  

  1. 1d ago

    It’s My Birthday!

    It's my birthday, y'all! Your girl is officially 52, and I'm taking some time to look back at my life, my healing, and everything I've learned along the way. And one thing I know for sure is that the more you heal, the more you realize there's still some shit to work through. In this episode, I'm reflecting on what I wish I knew about myself when I was younger, the things I'm most proud of, and what I want for this next chapter of my life. I spent so many years believing I wasn't smart enough, lovable enough, or capable of making good decisions. I thought my mother's opinion of me determined my worth, and I wasted a whole lot of time trying to be a good daughter instead of figuring out who I wanted to be. But at 52, I'm in a different place. I'm giving myself permission to change my mind, want different things, and trust myself even when I don't know exactly what's coming next. And I'm also realizing that healing isn't something you can perfect by reading another book or listening to another podcast. At some point, you gotta get out here and practice that shit in real life. In this episode:• What I wish I understood about my mother wound when I was younger• Why your mother's inability to love you properly doesn't determine your worth• The years we lose trying to be good daughters instead of choosing ourselves• Learning to recognize your intelligence, innocence, and value• Why healing requires practice, not just information• What I'm most proud of after everything I've been through• Giving yourself permission to change your mind at any age• What I want for myself in this next chapter of life One of the biggest things I'm taking into 52 is the understanding that I'm in the sunrise of my life, not the sunset. I still have things I want to do, places I want to go, and parts of myself I haven't fully explored. And I'm not interested in spending another decade questioning whether I'm good enough to have them. So whether you're 25, 52, or 75, I want you to know that you can still choose yourself. You can still change your mind. And you can still build a life that actually feels good to you. And as always, don't let no m***********s play in your face. Not even you. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  2. Oct 27

    You Have the Right to Change Your Mind

    Sis, when was the last time you changed your mind about something without feeling guilty, questioning yourself, or worrying about what somebody else would think? For many of us who grew up with emotionally unavailable, controlling, or overly critical mothers, changing our minds can feel irresponsible. We've been conditioned to believe that once we make a decision, we have to stick with it, even when it's no longer what we want. But who said that? In this episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast, I'm sharing a lesson I learned as a little girl that has stayed with me for almost 45 years: Every woman has the right to change her mind. I'm also sharing some personal changes I'm considering in my own life and how healing my mother wound has helped me become more comfortable making decisions based on what I actually want, without needing to justify them to anybody else. We're talking about perfectionism, people pleasing, self-trust, and why having the freedom to change your mind is an important part of reclaiming your autonomy. And yes, we're talking about accountability too, because being able to do what you want doesn't mean you get to avoid the responsibilities that come with your choices. In this episode, we're talking about: How growing up with a controlling or emotionally unavailable mother can make you afraid to change your mind. Why changing your mind doesn't mean you made a mistake. The difference between making decisions for yourself and making decisions based on other people's expectations. Learning to trust your desires, even when they change. How honoring your choices helps rebuild trust with your inner little girl. Why personal freedom also requires accountability, responsibility, and integrity. Stay Connected I'm also excited to share more about The Daughterhood, a documentary short exploring what becomes possible for Black women as we heal our mother wounds. We're preparing to launch our crowdfunding campaign, and I'd love your support in helping bring this project to life. Check the show notes for more information. Follow the conversation on Instagram at @blackmotherwound, and don't forget to subscribe, rate, and share the podcast. And remember, sis: Nothing has to be wrong with what you have for you to want something different. You have the right to change your mind. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  3. Oct 20

    You Can't Heal Your Mother Wound Without Making Hard Choices

    Ask me anything (link) Y'all, I need us to have an honest conversation about what it actually takes to heal your mother wound. Because one thing I'm noticing from the questions you send me is that many of us are still looking for a way to protect our peace, set boundaries, and become independent without having to make some really uncomfortable decisions. And sis, that's just not how this works. In this episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast, I'm answering three listener questions about dealing with a manipulative mother, protecting your children from unhealthy family dynamics, living at home while trying to heal, and navigating the guilt that comes with setting boundaries. We're talking about why you can't control your mother's behavior, why becoming emotionally and financially independent is so important, and why setting boundaries means accepting that some people aren't going to like your decisions. I'm also challenging you to examine the ways you may still be showing up as a daughter seeking your mother's approval instead of an adult woman taking authority over her own life. Healing your mother wound isn't about figuring out how to make everybody happy. It's about learning to show up for yourself, protect your inner little girl, and make the hard choices necessary to build the life you want. In this episode, we're talking about: Protecting yourself and your children from a mother's harmful behavior. Why distancing yourself from your mother doesn't mean you can control what she says or does. The emotional and financial challenges of living with your mother while trying to heal. Why boundaries are about changing your behavior, not forcing someone else to change. Learning to manage guilt, grief, and rejection without abandoning yourself. Taking responsibility for your life and reclaiming your autonomy. Stay Connected Have a question about healing your mother wound? Submit it through the Ask Me Anything link in the show notes for a chance to have your question answered on the podcast. I'm also working on The Daughterhood, a documentary short exploring who we get to become as we heal our mother wounds. Learn more about the project and how you can support its production through the link in the show notes. Follow us on Instagram @blackmotherwound or @jenniferarnise and don't forget to subscribe, rate, and share the podcast. Remember: You can't control how other people respond to your boundaries, but you can decide how you're going to show up for yourself.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  4. Oct 13

    Live at the 2026 Mental Wealth Expo With Minaa B.

    This week’s episode was recorded live at the 2026 Mental Wealth Expo hosted by Charlamagne Tha God and the Mental Wealth Alliance. I’m joined by licensed therapist and author Minaa B for a conversation about the Black mother wound, sibling relationships and what happens when the mother who hurt you becomes the mother who needs your care. We talk about: -How the mother wound impacts self-trust, confidence and people pleasing-Why siblings can grow up in the same house and have completely different experiences-Favoritism, competition and emotional neglect between siblings-How childhood roles follow us into our adult sibling relationships-Caring for an aging or toxic mother without abandoning yourself-Why caregiving does not have to mean sacrificing your mental health-Setting boundaries with family while still showing compassion-Letting go of the need to prove you’re a “good daughter” Healing your mother wound is not about fixing your relationship with your mother. It’s about healing the relationship you have with yourself. Keep the conversation going on Instagram @BlackMotherWound. More about Minaa B: Minaa B. is a highly sought-after licensed therapist, author of Owning Our Struggles, and creator of The Siblinghood Theory, a relational framework that examines how sibling and peer relationships shape how we navigate belonging, conflict, and connection throughout life. An expert in her field, Minaa has been featured in numerous media outlets, including The TODAY Show, BBC, CNN, and more. She hosts This Feels Familiar, a podcast that explores the relational patterns that keep people stuck, and serves as a relationship expert for eharmony. Minnab.com Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  5. Oct 6

    Go After Your Dreams DAMNIT!

    What happens after you’ve spent years healing your mother wound? At some point, you have to start living. In this episode, I’m talking about having the audacity to go after the life you actually want, especially when you didn’t grow up with someone encouraging your dreams, believing in you or teaching you how to believe in yourself. I share what this looks like in my own life as I return to the parts of myself that have always been there, including writing my first novel, working on a documentary and fully embracing myself as an artist. We talk about: Becoming someone different from who your mother expected you to be• Why healing requires more than understanding your pain• Building a community that supports who you’re becoming• Learning to trust your dreams without needing everyone else to understand them• Starting before you know exactly how everything will work• Doing the thing because you love it, not because it has to immediately make money• Giving yourself permission to change, pivot and want more If you’ve been doing this work for a while, the question becomes: What are you healing for if you’re not going to change your life? You don’t need the entire roadmap. You need to trust yourself enough to start and keep going. Keep the conversation going on Instagram @JenniferArnise or @BlackMotherWound. Here’s the link to ask your questions. And here’s the information about the Mental Wealth Alliance Expo See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  6. Sep 29

    LIVE PODCAST RECORDING

    This episode is a little different. You’re listening to audio from the live episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast I recorded in June 2026 in front of a live audience. And y’all came with the questions. We talked about what healing actually looks like when your mother is still in your life, how the mother wound follows us into friendships and romantic relationships, rebuilding trust with our children and learning how to create safety within ourselves. Because healing your mother wound is not about having a better relationship with your mother. It’s about having a better relationship with yourself. We talk about:• Setting boundaries when you’re still in contact with your mother• Creating safety for your inner little girl• Why healing can feel lonely when old relationships begin to fall away• People pleasing, overgiving and learning when enough is enough• Protecting your story when people judge your relationship with your mother• Repairing relationships with your children after recognizing your own patterns• Building confidence through evidence and experience• Learning how to connect without overinvesting in relationships Healing changes how you relate to your mother, but it also changes how you relate to yourself and everybody around you. Keep the conversation going on Instagram @JenniferArnise or @BlackMotherWound. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  7. Sep 22

    The Grief of What Was Lost and the Promise of What’s to Come

    Do I ever regret the time you lost because of your mother wound?   I do.   When you start healing, you can look back and see just how much your relationship with your mother shaped your choices, relationships, confidence and the life you built. And there can be real grief in realizing what might have been different.   In this episode, I’m talking about what we do with that regret without getting stuck in resentment. Because grieving what you didn’t get doesn’t mean your life is over. Sometimes allowing yourself to finally feel that loss is exactly what makes room for joy, possibility and the parts of yourself you thought you lost.   I also share what healing has looked like for me lately, including returning to my creativity and finally writing the novel I’ve wanted to write since I was a teenager.   We talk about: Regretting choices you made from an unhealed place Grieving the life you thought you could have had Why resentment can keep an emotional debt open that no one is going to repay Learning to give yourself what your mother couldn’t give you Returning to dreams and desires you abandoned years ago How healing can give you a second chance at your own life   Your joy did not die because of your relationship with your mother. Your possibilities didn’t either.   So ask yourself: What is something you wanted earlier in your life that you can reach back for now?   Keep the conversation going on Instagram @JenniferArnise or @BlackMotherWound.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  8. Sep 15

    Choosing Your Inner Little Girl

    In this episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast, Jennifer answers a listener question about what happens when you ignore healing your mother wound and how to become more consistent in healing your inner little girl. Jennifer breaks down a truth that sits at the center of this work: the mother wound is not just about the relationship you have with your mother. It is about the relationship you have with yourself. More specifically, it is about the relationship you have with your inner little girl. This episode is a firm and loving call back to self. Jennifer explains how ignoring your healing causes you to repeat the same abandonment, rejection, dismissal, and lack of care that hurt you in the first place. When you ignore your needs, silence your body, chase approval, over give, people please, or abandon yourself to be seen as good, your inner little girl experiences that as another betrayal. Jennifer challenges listeners to stop making healing conditional. You cannot only care for your inner little girl because you want a better relationship, a marriage, more money, peace, or a different outcome. She deserves care because she is yours. Period. This conversation is for the Black woman who keeps showing up for everybody else but still struggles to show up for herself. It is for the woman who says she is tired of healing, but has not realized that taking a break from healing can sometimes mean leaving her inner little girl alone again. Jennifer reminds us that this work is not a trend, not a 30 day challenge, and not something you pick up only when life falls apart. It is a lifelong commitment. Key Takeaways The mother wound is not only about what your mother did. It is about what you now do to yourself because of what happened. If you are abandoning, rejecting, dismissing, or withholding care from yourself, your inner little girl is still living inside the wound. Approval addiction will have you sacrificing your inner little girl just so other people can see you as good. Healing cannot be conditional. Your inner little girl does not need to perform, improve, or help you get something before she deserves care. Your body is always giving you information. The tightness, fear, anxiety, anger, resentment, and numbness are not random. They are messages. You may have been waiting for your mother to apologize, but you also owe your inner little girl an apology. Consistency does not mean you never mess up. It means you keep coming back, repairing, listening, and choosing her again. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Welcome to The Black Mother Wound, a podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl. In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love.Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.  

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    The Black Effect Podcast Network and iHeartPodcasts
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    120
  • Rating
    Explicit
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