The Art & Skill of Coaching

Jess DeMarchis
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Welcome to The Art & Skill of Coaching Podcast with life coach and therapist, Jess DeMarchis. Coaching is one of the fastest growing industries today, but having a desire to help is not enough to be a good coach. It is a skill set and art form that is learned and practiced. And in this podcast, I will be sharing over a decade of education and experience as a therapist and coach to teach you the skills needed to feel confident and competent in your craft. You will walk away from each episode with tools you can implement immediately for both your own and your coaching clients' growth.

  1. 4D AGO

    If You're Successful But Exhausted — Listen to This

    If you're a high-achiever whose income has plateaued, your nervous system may be the bottleneck. In this episode, I break down why unresolved trauma — not strategy, not time management — quietly caps income, impact, delegation, and leadership capacity. You'll learn: • Why hyper-independence works… until it doesn't • How overfunctioning becomes a trauma response • Why insight alone doesn't create regulation • The difference between coping and expanding capacity • What it actually takes to scale from safety instead of survival I'm also sharing the details of my three-month, one-on-one trauma-informed coaching container designed specifically for ambitious individuals who want to increase income and impact without increasing stress. This isn't about slowing down. It's about cleaning up the nervous system patterns that are limiting your next level. If you're ready to stop surviving your success and start leading from regulation, this episode will show you what that looks like.   1-1 Trauma-Informed Coaching: www.chatwithjess.com   Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification: https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

    10 min

  2. MAR 24

    Heartbreak, Lawsuits, and IVF — And My Biggest Business Quarter Yet Life Blew Up — My Business Didn't. Here's Why.

    Last year, my life blew up. Trial. Engagement. Move. Breakup. IVF. And… my business didn't collapse. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly how I regulated my nervous system in 21 days during one of the most destabilizing seasons of my life — and why my income, health, and leadership didn't suffer. We'll talk about: • What actually happens to your brain under stress • Why high-achievers regress during crisis • The trauma-informed steps I took to stabilize fast • How to expand capacity instead of just cope • Why systems and regulation protect your revenue This isn't about powering through. It's about building a nervous system that can hold pressure without sabotaging success. If you want to lead, earn, and grow — even during hard seasons — this episode will change how you think about resilience.   1-1 Trauma-Informed Coaching: www.chatwithjess.com   Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification: https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

    16 min

  3. MAR 17

    Why Your Success Feels Exhausting — And How to Increase Your Income and Impact Without Working More

    You're capable of more: More income. More impact. More leadership. So why do you feel tapped out? In this episode, I break down why high-achieving founders, leaders, and entrepreneurs hit a growth ceiling — not because they lack strategy or time or don't work hard enough, but because they're scaling from survival mode. We'll talk about: • Why overfunctioning works… until it doesn't • The nervous system science behind burnout  • How trauma patterns cap your revenue and leadership capacity • Why slowing down is the fastest way to scale • How to grow your business from safety instead of stress If you want to increase your income and impact without increasing your exhaustion, this episode will reframe everything.   1-1 Trauma-Informed Coaching: www.chatwithjess.com   Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification: https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

    15 min

  4. MAR 10

    How Indecision Is Costing You Money, Energy, and Opportunities

    You're waiting for clarity before you decide. But what if clarity actually comes after the decision? In this episode, Jess breaks down the psychology of indecision, why overthinking feels productive but isn't, and how confirmation bias works in your favor once you choose.  You'll learn how to build decision-making capacity instead of waiting to "feel ready," how to coach clients out of dilemmas and into options, and why decisiveness is one of the most underrated leadership skills in coaching and business. If you've been stuck between yes or no, now or later, stay or go — this episode will help you move NOW!   Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification: https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

    14 min

  5. MAR 3

    The Truth About Balance for Ambitious Women & Coaches Career, Marriage, Motherhood & Self-Care: Is 'Having It All' Possible?

    What if balance wasn't about choosing between your career, your relationships, your health, or your ambition—but learning how to honor it all? In today's episode of The Art and Skill of Coaching, I'm joined by Shayla King—former C-suite leader turned life coach, wife, mother, and entrepreneur—who is a living example of what it looks like to build a full, thriving life without sacrificing what matters most. Shayla and I unpack what balance actually looks like in practice, not just in theory. We talk about the beliefs she had to unlearn coming from corporate leadership, how her relationship with balance has evolved across different seasons of life, and the systems, structures, and decision-making frameworks that support both her business and personal life. This is a grounded, honest conversation about capacity, priorities, and redesigning your life—especially if you're a high-achieving woman, a coach, or someone who refuses to accept the narrative that you have to choose. Inside this episode, you'll learn: Why "doing balance better" often keeps women stuck—and what actually creates space How Shayla decides what gets prioritized when everything matters The non-negotiables that protect her marriage, health, and business The systems and support that make balance sustainable (not exhausting) The biggest mistake coaches make early on when trying to build a full life and a thriving practice If you're looking for a more expansive way to think about success, this episode will challenge you—in the best way.   Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification: https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching   The Coach Skill Audit: https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/coachskillaudit    Coach Question of the Week: https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/agcj1mr1y3    Shayla info: www.ShaylaKing.com

    47 min

  6. FEB 24

    From New Coach to Expert: The 5 Stages of Coaching Skill Development

    Most coaches don't struggle because they lack confidence or passion—they struggle because they're in a predictable stage of skill development. In this episode, I break down the 5 stages of becoming a coach, why each stage feels the way it does, and how learning theory and the four stages of competence explain why so many coaches feel stuck despite doing "all the right things." We'll talk about: Why personal growth doesn't automatically translate into coaching skill The difference between consuming information and developing competence What I call the coaching gap—and why it's a training issue, not a personal flaw How coaches move from intuition and soft skills to real, repeatable results What separates good coaches from expert-level coaches If you're a coach who wants to go beyond the basics, refine your craft, and coach with confidence rooted in skill, this episode will help you identify where you are—and what your next step should be. Take the Coach Skill Audit: https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/coachskillaudit  ASC Consult: www.chatwithjess.com    Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification: https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

    19 min

  7. FEB 17

    Why your clients keep repeating the same patterns

    Most coaches are trained to do one thing well: either push clients forward with action and accountability or take them deep with insight and awareness. Great coaches do both — at the same time. In this episode of The Art School of Coaching, I break down what it actually means to move a client deep and forward simultaneously, why most coaching training fails to teach this skill, and how that gap leads to unsustainable results, resistance, and client frustration. You'll learn: Why action without depth creates temporary change Why insight without tools increases overwhelm The psychology behind sustainable behavior change The ABC Model (Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence) and how it's used in evidence-based coaching How to rework beliefs and implement aligned behavior for lasting results If you want to coach using science-backed frameworks, create deeper client transformations, and build a coaching practice based on science — this episode is for you. 🎓 Spring enrollment for The Art School of Coaching is open now. This is the final week before doors close for six months.   ASC Consult: www.chatwithjess.com    Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification: https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching   The Coach Skill Audit: https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/coachskillaudit    Coach Question of the Week: https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/agcj1mr1y3

    12 min

  8. FEB 10

    Why Most Coaches Burn Out: Coaching From Energy Instead of Skill

    Many talented coaches struggle with consistency, income ceilings, and burnout—not because they aren't good enough, but because they're coaching from energy instead of skill. In this episode of The Art and Skill of Coaching, I break down why motivation, rapport, and personal experience aren't sustainable foundations for professional coaching—and what it actually means to coach from skill. You'll learn: The difference between surface-level coaching and professional skill-based coaching Why relying on energy leads to inconsistent client results How structure and frameworks protect intuition (not kill it) The two types of structure every coach needs to scale their impact Why breadth of skill matters more than having a "favorite" modality If you want to create consistent results, scale your income, and coach effectively even when you're tired or uninspired, this episode is for you. Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification: https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching   ASC Waitlist:  https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/ascwaitlist    Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching   The Coach Skill Audit: https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/coachskillaudit    Coach Question of the Week: https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/agcj1mr1y3

    9 min
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Welcome to The Art & Skill of Coaching Podcast with life coach and therapist, Jess DeMarchis. Coaching is one of the fastest growing industries today, but having a desire to help is not enough to be a good coach. It is a skill set and art form that is learned and practiced. And in this podcast, I will be sharing over a decade of education and experience as a therapist and coach to teach you the skills needed to feel confident and competent in your craft. You will walk away from each episode with tools you can implement immediately for both your own and your coaching clients' growth.

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