The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast

Kayleigh Summers

Birth trauma is the dark and sometimes scary side of pregnancy & postpartum that no one wants to talk about. But, we're here to change that! I'm Kayleigh, a licensed therapist and birth trauma survivor, determined to bring birth trauma out of the shadows and into the light. When we talk about birth trauma, we take away its power and leave space for healing. Your birth trauma does not need to “happen for a reason." Birth trauma sucks and it’s okay to admit that. Join us as we navigate what it means to heal from birth trauma. You’ll hear from experts in the field as well as others who have experienced birth trauma. Storytelling and education are keys to raising awareness and better understanding how we heal trauma. We don’t do toxic positivity in this space, but you’ll definitely hear some dark humor. You’ll laugh and you’ll cry, but, most importantly, you’ll learn that you’re not alone and that healing is possible. Birth trauma is bullish*it, but your healing is not. 

  1. Ep. 250: Birth Trauma, Preeclampsia, and a Life-Changing Prenatal Diagnosis feat. Kate

    4d ago

    Ep. 250: Birth Trauma, Preeclampsia, and a Life-Changing Prenatal Diagnosis feat. Kate

    In this powerful listener story, Kate returns to share her second birth experience after previously sharing her first story years ago. After surviving postpartum preeclampsia and medical trauma with her first child, Kate spent years healing through therapy, EMDR, community support, and advocacy work. When she became pregnant again, she hoped for a different experience, but life had other plans. At 24 weeks pregnant, Kate learned that her son had a rare congenital heart condition. What followed was months of uncertainty, specialist appointments, a surprise early delivery, NICU and cardiac ICU stays, and ultimately open-heart surgery when her son was just five weeks old. Through it all, Kate shares how community, mental health support, and unwavering advocacy helped her navigate some of the most difficult moments of her life. In This Episode, We Discuss: 🩺 Kate’s experience with preeclampsia and postpartum preeclampsia after her first birth 💔 Developing PTSD following a traumatic postpartum hospital readmission 🧠 How EMDR therapy helped her process medical trauma and begin healing 🤝 Finding support through the Preeclampsia Foundation, Mama’s Voices, and the birth trauma community 👶 The emotional challenges of trying to conceive after a traumatic birth experience 🔬 Receiving a prenatal diagnosis of a rare congenital heart condition during her second pregnancy 🏥 Navigating fetal echocardiograms, specialist appointments, and uncertainty throughout pregnancy ❤️ Understanding her son’s diagnosis of Shone’s Complex and the impact on his developing heart 📋 Transferring medical care and advocating for both her baby’s needs and her own mental health 🌪️ Going into labor unexpectedly just 48 hours before her scheduled C-section 👩‍⚕️ Delivering a medically complex baby and coping with immediate separation after birth 🏨 The realities of NICU and Cardiac ICU life as a heart parent 🚗 The emotional experience of leaving the hospital without her baby 💉 Watching her son undergo open-heart surgery at only five weeks old 🌟 The incredible advances in pediatric cardiac care and modern medicine 💙 How chosen family, therapists, healthcare providers, and community support carried her through 🎙️ Becoming a patient-family partner and using her story to advocate for better care and awareness Take a look at Kate's writing for a professional organization: Read here Baby Boy Principe's Caring Bridge - read "in real time" how Kate processed their experience. Resources Mentioned 🔹 The Preeclampsia Foundation @preeclampsia.foundation 🔹 Mama’s Voices @mommasvoices 🔹 Mended Little Hearts @mendedlittleheartsnational 🔹 Conquering CHD @conqueringCHD 🔹 CHD Doodles @chd_doodles Connect With Birth Trauma Mama ✨ Follow along for more birth stories, healing resources, and support for parents navigating birth trauma and perinatal mental health challenges. For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama. Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services. Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

    51 min
  2. 6d ago

    Ep. 249: One and Done After Birth Trauma - A Special ReRelease

    This week, we are rereleasing a powerful episode with our guest Jess Myhre to talk about the choice (or sometimes not) to be one and done, particularly after birth trauma. Jess has been a pioneer in the discussion and support of families with only children, regardless of the reason. She fiercely advocates and validates for these families in her beautiful space @onlyyoucommunity. On this episode, Jess shares her story of birth trauma along with hope and encouragement for those who are one and done through choice, trauma, or for any reason at all. You can learn more about the Birth Trauma & Secondary Infertility Webinar here. Guest Bio:  Hi I’m Jess! I am a preeclampsia survivor, mom of an only child, and advocate for parents of one, by choice or by circumstance. I am also the creator of Only You: A One and Done Podcast, a show for parents of only children. For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama. Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services. Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

    43 min
  3. Ep. 248: Preeclampsia, Birth Trauma, and the Search for A Redemption Birth feat. Kayelynn

    May 29

    Ep. 248: Preeclampsia, Birth Trauma, and the Search for A Redemption Birth feat. Kayelynn

    This week on the Birth Trauma Mama Podcast listener series, Kayleigh is joined by Kayelynn to share her powerful story of preeclampsia, birth trauma, repeat C-sections, and the complicated journey of pregnancy after trauma. In honor of Preeclampsia Awareness Month, this episode highlights the reality of living through severe preeclampsia, navigating emergency medical decisions, and coping with the emotional aftermath that can linger long after birth. Kayelynn vulnerably shares her experiences across three pregnancies and births, from a traumatic induction and emergency C-section at 35 weeks to pursuing a VBAC after trauma to ultimately finding empowerment in choice, healing, and reclaiming trust in herself. This conversation is an honest reminder that healing is not always linear, and that “redemption” after birth trauma can look very different from what we imagine. ✨ In this episode, we discuss: 💜 May as Preeclampsia Awareness Month and why awareness matters 🩺 The warning signs and progression of severe preeclampsia 🏥 A traumatic induction, magnesium treatment, and emergency C-section at 35 weeks 💔 Experiencing pain during a C-section and the lasting emotional impact 👶 Parenting a newborn while simultaneously trying to process trauma 🫂 Feeling misunderstood by family and support systems after a traumatic birth 🌈 The hope — and pressure — that can come with trying for a “redemptive” birth ⚡ Navigating a VBAC attempt after birth trauma and coping when plans change 🧠 How therapy, support, and self-awareness helped Kaitlin begin healing ✨ Finding empowerment and choice, even within another difficult birth experience 🤍 The reality that healing after birth trauma is not always perfect or linear 🌱 Learning that joy and grief can exist together after traumatic birth experiences You can follow along or connect with Kayelynn on Instagram: @kayelynn_schmid For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama. Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services. Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

    48 min
  4. May 26

    Ep. 247: Losing Yourself After Birth Trauma

    This episode explores the profound identity shift that can happen after birth trauma, the grief of losing who you were before, the disorientation of feeling disconnected from yourself, and the complicated process of rebuilding after trauma. Kayleigh shares how trauma can reshape personality, relationships, interests, and even the way we experience parenthood itself. Through personal stories and reflections from the birth trauma community, this conversation offers validation, hope, and reassurance that healing does not mean becoming who you were before, it means learning to reconnect with yourself in a new way. If you’ve ever felt like birth trauma changed you forever, this episode reminds you that while trauma leaves its mark, healing can bring pieces of yourself back to life again. In this episode, we discuss: 🫶 The grief and identity loss that can follow birth trauma 🧠 How trauma changes personality, emotions, and daily life 👶 Why parenthood after trauma can feel isolating and confusing 💔 The loss of innocence around pregnancy, birth, and postpartum 🎭 Feeling disconnected from other parents and motherhood spaces 📺 Unexpected changes in hobbies, media tolerance, and interests after trauma 🌱 How healing allows parts of yourself to slowly return 🤍 Making peace with the version of yourself that existed before trauma 🌟 Finding hope, connection, and joy again after birth trauma 🫂 A reminder that healing is possible — even when it feels far away For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama. Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services. Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

    20 min
  5. Ep. 246: The Accident, the NICU, and the Aftermath: A Twin Sisters’ Birth Trauma Story feat. Holly & Alison

    May 21

    Ep. 246: The Accident, the NICU, and the Aftermath: A Twin Sisters’ Birth Trauma Story feat. Holly & Alison

    In this deeply emotional and powerful listener episode, Kayleigh is joined by sisters identical twin sisters Alison and Holly, whose journeys through pregnancy, birth trauma, medical trauma, and survival became heartbreakingly intertwined. Both clinical psychologists, both high-achieving perfectionists, and both navigating pregnancy at the same time, neither could have imagined the life-altering experiences ahead of them. From severe pregnancy complications and traumatic medical experiences to a devastating accident involving Holly while pregnant with twins, this conversation explores the profound impact trauma can have not only on individuals—but on families navigating it together. Through vulnerability, honesty, and immense strength, Alison and Holly share what it meant to survive the unimaginable while also supporting one another as sisters, twins, clinicians, and mothers. This episode is raw, validating, heartbreaking, and ultimately full of hope and resilience. 💛 ✨ In this episode, we cover: 🧬 Alison’s journey through pregnancy after stage four endometriosis, prior loss, and previous medical trauma 🌨️ Going into early labor at 28 weeks during a Seattle snowstorm and experiencing a life-threatening allergic reaction 🚑 What it felt like to be coded during pregnancy—and the unexpected sense of safety Alison experienced in that moment 👯 Holly finding out she was unexpectedly pregnant with twins while watching her sister navigate a high-risk pregnancy 📚 The pressure of trying to have the “perfect” healthy pregnancy and how trauma disrupted those expectations 🏥 Alison’s traumatic birth experience, severe hemorrhage, postpartum complications, and prolonged hospitalization 💔 The emotional toll of postpartum PTSD, dissociation, flashbacks, and medical gaslighting 🫶 The profound impact one compassionate provider had during Alison’s darkest moments 🚗 Holly’s terrifying hit-and-run accident at nearly 30 weeks pregnant with twins 🌤️ The surreal details trauma imprints on memory—and the moments both sisters still vividly remember 🧠 How their experiences transformed the way they understand trauma both personally and professionally as psychologists 🌱 The complicated process of healing while navigating motherhood, survival, and family trauma together 💞 The unique bond of sisters walking through trauma side by side and what it meant to not feel alone 💛 This episode is for you if: 🌼 You’ve experienced birth trauma, medical trauma, or a traumatic pregnancy 🌀 You’ve struggled with postpartum PTSD, anxiety, dissociation, or flashbacks 🤍 You’re processing grief around how your pregnancy or birth experience unfolded 🪞 You’ve felt pressure to “do everything right” during pregnancy and still experienced trauma 👭 You understand the healing power of having someone who truly sees and validates your experience ✨ You want to feel less alone in the complexities of trauma and recovery You can follow along with the Alison and Holly on their socials: @Alison.phd & @holly.phd Alison's website: alisonphd.com Holly's website: hollyphd.com Take a listen to Alison & Holly's podcast: Twin Minds Unwind Podcast This conversation is a reminder that trauma can change us deeply—but so can compassion, connection, and being witnessed in our pain. Alison and Holly’s story is one of survival, sisterhood, and finding ways to keep moving forward even after life changes in an instant. 💛 For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama. Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services. Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

    1h 17m
  6. Ep. 244: From Twin Birth to Neuro ICU feat. Jessica

    May 15

    Ep. 244: From Twin Birth to Neuro ICU feat. Jessica

    In this episode, Jessica shares the unimaginable journey of becoming a first-time mom to twin boys while surviving a rare and life-threatening postpartum medical complication after a wet tap during her epidural. From seizures and brain bleeds to time in the neuro ICU and separation from her newborns, Jessica vulnerably opens up about trauma, healing, advocacy, and ultimately finding hope through a healing birth experience with her third baby. 💛 The emotional rollercoaster of conceiving twins after fertility struggles and navigating a high-risk pregnancy 🤰 Severe pregnancy sickness, extra monitoring, and transferring care to a larger hospital for delivery 🏥 The frustration and stress of a delayed induction two hours away from home 💉 A traumatic epidural experience involving a “wet tap” and complications that quickly escalated after delivery ⚠️ The terrifying onset of neurological symptoms, grand mal seizures, and discovering multiple subdural hematomas after birth 🧠 How spinal fluid loss after the epidural led to brain sagging, bleeding, ICU admission, and a long neurological recovery 👶 The heartbreak of being separated from her newborn twin boys during her postpartum hospitalization 😭 Navigating postpartum trauma while coping with seizures, medication side effects, fear, anger, and loss of independence 🚗 Losing her driver’s license for six months after seizures and the emotional toll of repeated hospital admissions 📚 The complicated emotions that surfaced when the hospital requested to publish her rare medical case 🫶 The life-changing support of birth trauma therapy, mental health medication, and an incredibly supportive family 🌤️ How time, therapy, community, and answers slowly helped her begin to feel like herself again 🎙️ The impact the Birth Trauma Mama community and Safe Partum anesthesia episode had on her healing journey ✨ Choosing to pursue another pregnancy after trauma and preparing differently for a subsequent birth 🏥 Experiencing a deeply healing repeat C-section at a new hospital with a compassionate care team 💚 Jessica’s message of hope for other birth trauma survivors considering future pregnancies and births 🤍 A reminder that healing is possible, support matters, and you are never alone in your birth trauma journey For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama. Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services. Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

    38 min
  7. May 12

    Ep. 243: EMDR for Perinatal OCD & Trauma

    In this insightful episode, Kayleigh sits down with therapist and perinatal mental health expert Hilary Waller to explore the nuanced overlap between perinatal OCD, trauma, and EMDR. Hilary shares her journey into this work, her passion for supporting parents through medical trauma and loss, and how EMDR can help address the nervous system responses underneath intrusive thoughts and anxiety. 💛 Why intrusive thoughts in the perinatal period are far more common than most parents realize 🧠 The difference between generalized postpartum anxiety and the more “hyper-focused” presentation of perinatal OCD ⚠️ How birth trauma, NICU experiences, medical complications, and loss can create the perfect storm for OCD symptoms to emerge 🔄 The connection between trauma, uncertainty, and compulsive behaviors 🩺 Why health anxiety after perinatal trauma often has a strong OCD component 🌊 How EMDR helps target the nervous system response beneath intrusive thoughts and compulsions 📚 Why psychoeducation can be one of the most healing parts of therapy 👶 The importance of distinguishing between “normal new parent worries” and symptoms of trauma or OCD ✨ The power of reducing shame and helping parents understand: “These are symptoms, not who you are.” 🤍 Why finding a therapist trained in perinatal mental health can make such a profound difference in recovery Whether you’re a parent navigating intrusive thoughts, a clinician supporting trauma survivors, or someone wanting to better understand the overlap between OCD and birth trauma, this episode offers compassionate, validating, and deeply practical insight. Resources Mentioned: 🎧 Birth Trauma Mama Episodes: • Episode 32 — OCD in the Perinatal Period • Episode 119 — OCD and Intrusive Thoughts • Episode 15 with Dr. Priya Alpern — EMDR Basics 📖 Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts 📖 Perinatal EMDR chapter featuring Hilary Waller and Dr. Amber Penn 💻 Learn more about Postpartum Support International: Postpartum Support International Guest Bio: Hilary is a psychotherapist specializing in reproductive and parental mental health and treatment of related disorders. After earning dual Bachelor’s degrees at Columbia University and The Jewish Theological Seminary, Hilary worked with adolescents in both formal and informal educational settings. This experience piqued her interest in parent-child relationships and led her to pursue a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology with a specialty in marriage and family therapy.  For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama. Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services. Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

    50 min
4.9
out of 5
95 Ratings

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Birth trauma is the dark and sometimes scary side of pregnancy & postpartum that no one wants to talk about. But, we're here to change that! I'm Kayleigh, a licensed therapist and birth trauma survivor, determined to bring birth trauma out of the shadows and into the light. When we talk about birth trauma, we take away its power and leave space for healing. Your birth trauma does not need to “happen for a reason." Birth trauma sucks and it’s okay to admit that. Join us as we navigate what it means to heal from birth trauma. You’ll hear from experts in the field as well as others who have experienced birth trauma. Storytelling and education are keys to raising awareness and better understanding how we heal trauma. We don’t do toxic positivity in this space, but you’ll definitely hear some dark humor. You’ll laugh and you’ll cry, but, most importantly, you’ll learn that you’re not alone and that healing is possible. Birth trauma is bullish*it, but your healing is not. 

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