Hey Best Friend with Dr. Britt

Brittany Lashua
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Think of me as your best friend with a PhD. It’s really the best of both worlds… advice with truth, science and a whole lot of love sprinkled in. We chat about the stuff that’s hard to talk about sometimes—femininity, relationships, sex, self-esteem, health, motherhood and mindset.

  1. 4d ago

    80- I Will Go With You: The Warrior Archetype

    Week two of the Feminine Archetypes series is here — andthis one’s personal. Dr. Britt digs into the Warrior, the archetype she lives in most often herself, through the story of Deborah: judge, prophetess, and the only woman in Scripture recorded holding both civil and spiritual authority over a nation. Deborah didn’t fight because she loved conflict. Shefought because she couldn’t watch injustice continue when she had the authority to move against it — and knowing the difference between the two is exactly what this episode is about. In this episode: ●     The real story of Deborah, Barak, and the battle at Mount Tabor — and why her strategy was as sharp as her faith ●     The Warrior’s two shadows: the Aggressor and the Martyr ●     A Stoic gut-check from Seneca on the difference between courage and anger ●     What the healthy Warrior actually looks like today — at work, in friendship, in motherhood, in marriage ●     The psychology behind it: secure base behavior, the nervous system’s fight response, and the real research on hardiness and post-traumatic growth ●     Journal-ready reflection questions to help you recognize which archetype a moment actually needs Next week: the Strategist. Pre-order your ebook if you want to go deeper here! Physical copies coming out for pre-order in September.

  2. Jul 22

    79- The Queen Archetype: What She Is, Where She Comes From, and Why You Need Her

    You’ve been living in one archetype most of your life. It got you through. It also cost you things you didn’t realize you were paying for. This week Dr. Britt introduces the seven-week archetypes series with the Queen — who she is, where she came from, and what it looks like when she’s healthy, and when she’s not.   In This Episode •      What an archetype is —and why this isn’t a personality test box •      Carl Jung, cross-cultural research, and why God didn’t build us generically •      Esther’s story as the Queen archetype in full — the three-day fast, “if I perish I perish,” and strategic grace •      The Queen’s two shadows: the Tyrant and the Entitled •      What a healthy Queen looks like in your life today   Five Questions to Sit With ThisWeek 1.    Where in my life do I have access, influence, or position that I’m not using for anyone but myself? 2.   Is there a decision in front of me right now that needs a three-day fast kind of preparation instead of an impulsive reaction? 3.   Who in my life needs me to use what I have — and have actually asked, or have I just assumed I already know? 4.   Am I leading from a consecrated place as the queen, or am I leading from ego? 5.   If I’ve been living in the queen most exclusively, what does it cost me — or who would it bless — if I learned to move to another archetype? “And who knows whether you have not come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” — Esther 4:14 📚 Book:  The full embodiment process for every archetype is in I Wish Someone Had Told Me — releasing September 27, 2026. Learn more here.

  3. Jun 23

    78- How to Face Pain Without Letting It Destroy You: Why It's an Invitation, Not a Punishment

    In our house we have a saying: Lashuas can do hard things. In this episode — recorded with Samson, three months post unplanned C-section, right beside her — Dr. Britt makes the direct case that pain is not something to manage from a distance. It’s an invitation to move toward. She brings in Bonanno’s resilience research, IFS, hope theory, and narrative identity to show you exactly how.   IN THIS EPISODE •       Why managing your pain from a distance quietly teaches you that you can’t handle it — and how that belief spreads •       George Bonanno’s resilience research: why facing pain directly is the rule, not the exception •       The difference between resilience and growth — and why neither happens from a distance •       IFS: the part of you that wants to run, and why it doesn’t get to drive •       Hope theory: why agency is a decision, not a feeling you wait for •       Narrative identity: why the hardest chapter is not the whole book •       Six practical steps to move toward pain instead of around it  FIVE QUESTIONS TO SIT WITH 1.     What is the specific thing you’ve been managing around instead of facing directly? 2.    What is the part of you that wants to run actually afraid will happen if you move toward this instead of away from it? 3.    If you stopped waiting to feel ready and took the next visible step today, what would that step actually be? 4.    What would it mean to treat this season as a hard chapter instead of the whole story — and what do you want the next chapter to say about how you responded? 5.    What is your version of ‘Lashuas can do hard things’ — and are you willing to say it out loud this week, even before you fully feel it? Nothing that feels hard is ever the last step. It feels like the end because it is the hardest part you’ve faced yet. It is not the end. Keep walking. “Weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.”  — Psalm 30:5 📚 Book Newsletter:  Get exclusive excerpts from I Wish Someone Told Me before anyone else. Sign up at drbrittlashua.com.

  4. Jun 17

    77- Angry at God? You Can Still Trust Him: Here's What Lament Actually Means

    Have you ever been furious with God — not confused, not disappointed, actually furious — and then felt ashamed of it? Dr. Britt names what most women have never been given permission to say out loud: anger at God is not weak faith. It has a name in Scripture. It’s called lament. This episode walks through what spiritual bypassing costs you, why anger is actually evidence of attachment, and how to move through lament without calcifying into bitterness. FIVE QUESTIONS TO SIT WITH 1.     What emotion have you been editing out of your prayers — and what story have you told yourself about why it isn’t allowed there? 2.    Is there a place in your relationship with God right now that feels more like performance than presence? What would you say if you stopped performing? 3.    When you think about the anger or frustration you’ve felt toward God — is it lament or bitterness? Is it moving toward Him or has it become a closed system? 4.    What do you know to be true about God’s faithfulness in your history — even when you cannot feel it right now? 5.    What would it look like to bring your most unedited self into your relationship with God this week? You are allowed to be furious and faithful at the same time. He doesn’t arrive after the breakdown. He’s in it with you. “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”  — Psalm 34:18 📚 Join the Book Newsletter:  Dr. Britt is sharing exclusive excerpts from I Wish Someone Told Me — including a piece this week on lament, pain, and the stance of “I am still here.” Sign up for early access.

  5. Jun 3

    76- Why Healing Feels Lonely: And What Nobody Told You About Outgrowing the People Around You

    Nobody warned you that healing could feel like the loneliest thing you’ve ever done. This episode names why growth loneliness happens, what it costs when you misread it, and how to walk through it without losing yourself or your people.   IN THIS EPISODE •       Why the loneliness of growth is not a sign you went wrong •       Identity transition, narrative identity, and the dissonance of becoming •       Attachment theory: why the people who love you resist your growth without meaning to •       IFS: the parts of you that are exhilarated and the parts that are grieving •       Post-traumatic growth, PERMA, and why every pillar of flourishing is disrupted at once •       Six practical steps to move through this season without losing yourself or your people   FIVE QUESTIONS TO SIT WITH 1.     When you think about the relationships that have felt strained in a season of growth — what story have you been telling yourself about what that means? 2.    Which of your parts is most afraid of who you’re becoming — and what is it afraid it will lose? 3.    Is there someone in your life right now who hasn’t had the chance to know who you’re becoming because you assumed they couldn’t handle it before you gave them the chance? 4.    What would it look like to hold both the grief and the growth at the same time — to let the season be genuinely hard without deciding it was a mistake? 5.    Who in your life can hold the full complexity of who you are becoming — and are you letting them?   “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  — Jeremiah 29:11   READY FOR MORE? 📚 Book:  The meaning you make of this season changes everything. Dr. Britt goes deep on exactly this in her upcoming book I Wish Someone Told Me — releasing September 27, 2026. Check it out here.   ⚡ Breakthrough Session:  If you understand your patterns but still feel stuck in them — that gap is exactly what a Breakthrough Session is built for. Apply here.

  6. May 20

    75- Your Body Didn’t Store Your Trauma: Your Brain Learned It.

    A brand-new paper from Frontiers in Systems Neuroscience is directly challenging one of the most influential trauma frameworks of the last decade — and Dr. Britt couldn’t wait to bring it to you. In this episode she breaks down what it actually means, layers it with thirty years of resilience research from Columbia University, and shows exactly why the distinction between stored trauma and learned predictions changes everything about how you heal.   IN THIS EPISODE •       Why the “body stores trauma” metaphor may be biologically inaccurate — and what the science actually says •       Predictive coding: why your brain is a prediction machine, not a recording device •       Metastability: what trauma does to your brain’s range of motion •       George Bonanno’s Flexibility Sequence — the three steps that separate people who heal from people who stay stuck •       Why flow states are medicine for a traumatized nervous system •       The neuroscience of memory reconsolidation — and why it explains everything about Breakthrough Sessions •       Eight practical tools to restore your brain’s flexibility today THREE REFLECTION QUESTIONS 1.     Has the framework of “trauma stored in the body” ever made you feel like you were never fully healed — like there was always one more thing to excavate? Sit with that. 2.    What would it mean practically in your daily life if healing was recalibration rather than excavation? What would you do differently? 3.    What is one new experience — one safe, challenging, connected, or meaningful thing — you could give your nervous system this week? You are not a prisoner of your stored pain. You are a system that is learning. And systems that learn can change. Get on the list for updates about Dr. Britt's new book I Wish Someone Told Me. Apply for a Breakthrough Session Today! Kotler, Mannino, Fox & Friston (2026) — Frontiers in Systems Neuroscience Bonanno, G.A. (2021) — The End of Trauma, Basic Books Csikszentmihalyi, M. (1990) — Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience James, M. (2016) — Mental and Emotional Release

  7. May 13

    74- This Isn’t About Sleep: The Emotional Roots of Chronic Exhaustion

    If you’ve tried the sleep hygiene, the magnesium, the earlier bedtime — and you’re still exhausted — this episode is for you. Dr. Britt makes the case that chronic exhaustion for high-achieving women is almost never about sleep. It’s about what’s running underneath: emotional over-functioning, nervous system dysregulation, and the physiological cost of suppressing what you haven’t let yourself feel.   IN THIS EPISODE •       Why the tank refills overnight and drains before noon — and what that actually means •       Polyvagal theory and the difference between collapse and rest •       Emotional over-functioning as an anxious attachment strategy •       What emotional suppression costs you physiologically — Pennebaker’s research •       Five practical steps to begin healing the root, not just managing the symptom   FIVE WAYS TO HEAL THE ROOT 1.     Name it before you fix it.   2.    Apply the Stoic filter.   3.    Regulate before you produce.   4.    Set down one thing that isn’t yours.  5.    Create a container for what you’ve suppressed.     FIVE QUESTIONS TO SIT WITH 1.     When you feel exhausted, what is the first thing you reach for to fix it — and has it ever actually worked long-term? 2.    Whose emotional weight are you carrying right now that does not belong to you — and what would it feel like to put it down? 3.    What emotion have you not let yourself fully feel in the last week, month, or season — and where do you think it is right now? 4.    Is the exhaustion you’re carrying a signal — and if so, what do you think it’s trying to tell you? 5.    What would it mean for you — specifically you — to actually rest? Not sleep. Rest.   “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.”  — Isaiah 40:29–31 You cannot rest your way out of a wound. But you can heal your way into rest. Don't forget to leave a comment or a review and help others find this podcast too! Get on the book list here! — Dr. Britt

  8. May 6

    73- The Ache of the In-Between: What Your Waiting Season Is Actually Doing

    The waiting is the hardest part. Especially for high-achieving women who are wired to move, plan, and execute — and who interpret the in-between as falling behind. In this episode Dr. Britt goes deep into why waiting hurts so much, what it’s actually doing in you, and how to do it well. Practical, psychological, and grounded in faith.   IN THIS EPISODE •       Why your nervous system registers “not yet” as “never” — and why that’s not weakness •       The five costly substitutes women reach for when they don’t know how to wait well •       Stoicism, Epictetus, and what you actually can and can’t control •       Hope theory — why hope is agency, not wishful thinking •       Five postures for waiting well, today, inside the season you’re already in   FIVE WAYS TO WAIT WELL 1.     Grieve the gap.  Don’t spiritualize past the ache. Name it before you reframe it. 2.    Audit your interpretation.  Is the silence abandonment — or preparation? Is the story you’re living out of the truest one available? 3.    Find what’s yours to do.  Make Epictetus’s list. Ruthlessly redirect energy to what you can actually control. 4.    Stay in motion.  What is the next faithful step — not the one that ends the waiting, just the next one? Take it. 5.    Let it form you.  The in-between is not wasted time. It is formation time.   FIVE QUESTIONS TO SIT WITH 1.     What story are you living out of about this waiting season — and is it the truest version, or just the most familiar one? 2.    Where are you treating the timing as yours to control — and what would it free up in you to release it? 3.    What is the next faithful step on the path you can see right now? 4.    If you looked back five years from now, what will this season have formed in you that nothing else could have? 5.    What would it look like to stop waiting for the season to end before you fully show up?   “For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay.”  — Habakkuk 2:3 You are not behind. You are not forgotten. You are on a prepared one. — Dr. Britt

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Think of me as your best friend with a PhD. It’s really the best of both worlds… advice with truth, science and a whole lot of love sprinkled in. We chat about the stuff that’s hard to talk about sometimes—femininity, relationships, sex, self-esteem, health, motherhood and mindset.

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