Hey Best Friend with Dr. Britt

Brittany Lashua
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Think of me as your best friend with a PhD. It’s really the best of both worlds… advice with truth, science and a whole lot of love sprinkled in. We chat about the stuff that’s hard to talk about sometimes—femininity, relationships, sex, self-esteem, health, motherhood and mindset.

  1. 1d ago

    91- When the Dream Changes: How to Grieve What You Wanted and Keep Moving Forward

    Hey best friend. This one is personal. I wanted to be a mom since I was a little girl. I had a picture of what it would look like. I’m in my last year of my thirties, and I am definitely not done. The timeline, the infertility, the C-sections I didn’t want, the births that didn’t go how they were supposed to go. None of it looked like what I planned. I’m not talking about this from the other side. I’m talking about it from inside the house with you, sitting on the couch with you. This episode is for the woman whose life looks different than she planned. A career that went sideways. A relationship that didn’t happen. A family that took a different shape. A calling she was sure was hers. We talk about why grief that isn’t processed goes underground, what your dream was actually pointing toward underneath the specific thing you lost, and five steps for grieving well and pivoting with intention. A story that changed is not a story that failed. Sit with these: Is there a dream you have let go of without actually grieving? What was it? What did you tell yourself about why you shouldn’t feel that loss?Underneath that specific dream, what did you actually value? What was it pointing toward?What has the hard chapter built in you that you would not have otherwise? What do you know or carry now because of what you went through?What does the new picture look like? Something honest about where you are right now and what you actually value.What’s the next visible step? Just the next one. 📖 I Wish Someone Had Told Me Grab your copy and go deeper. ⁠⁠Get it here

  2. Oct 28

    90- How to Stop Watching Your Life and Start Choosing It

    Are you living your life or watching it? There's a difference. And a lot of us know exactly what I mean by that.   There is a version of being alive where you are justmanaging. Keeping up. Taking care of the next person, getting through the next week. It looks fine from the outside. But from the inside, it feels a little like standing behind the glass of your own experience. Present, but not really there. Moving, but not going anywhere.   This episode is for the woman who is ready to stop watching and start choosing. We are talking about agency: what it is, why so many of us lose it, and how to get it back. Not as a self-focused project, but as an act of stewardship. Because everything flows from who you are on the inside. And you were not made to coast. You were made for more than that. Today is the day. Now is the time. IN THIS EPISODE •     Why staying in an undersized life is a choice and why that's actually good news •     The psychology of narrative identity: why the story you live out of shapes your wellbeing more than your circumstances do •     Dan McAdams's research on the redemptive narrative and what it means to be the one holding the pen •     Attachment theory and the internal working models that keep women reactive instead of active •     The limiting beliefs running in the background of your passive patterns and how to surface them •     Five concrete steps to stop being a bystander and start showing up as the full version of you •     Why you have to choose before you feel ready (and what the research says about that) •     What to do if you feel like you've lost yourself REFLECTION QUESTIONS 1. In the story of your life right now, are you the actor or the reactor? Be honest.   2. What is the belief underneath your most passive pattern? What are you afraid will happen if you actually choose?   3. Is there something hard you've been through that you haven't yet made meaning from? What could it have been building in you?   4. What does the full, active version of you look like? Describe her specifically. What does she choose? What does she say? How does she move through the world?   5. What is one thing you can do this week that is a choice instead of a reaction? One act of agency that reflects who God made you to be. 📖 I Wish Someone Had Told Me Grab your copy and go deeper. ⁠Get it here

  3. Oct 21

    89- The Meaning You're Making: How to Rewrite the Story Your Brain Is Telling

    IN THIS EPISODE •    Why it’s not what happens to us, it’s the meaning we make of it, and the real-life counseling story that proves it •    The Default Mode Network: the brain’s background narrative system and why it’s running your emotional life without your permission •    The three P’s (personal, permanent, pervasive) and how they quietly create suffering •    Why reframing is not toxic positivity, it’s actually the most clinically validated emotional regulation tool we have •    Five concrete ways to interrupt the default and choose a more empowering meaning •    Viktor Frankl, Marcus Aurelius, the Apostle Paul, and what they all understood about meaning-making under pressure “You are not a passive receiver of your life. You are the meaning-maker.” “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” — Marcus Aurelius REFLECTION QUESTIONS •    Think of something painful that happened. What meaning did you make of it? Was it personal, permanent, or pervasive? •    Where in your life are you creating your own suffering through the story you’re telling, not because the pain isn’t real, but because the meaning is making it worse? •    What meaning would you need to make instead for this situation to feel more workable? More hopeful? •    Is there a place you need to surrender the meaning? Where you need to say, I don’t understand this, and I am choosing to trust anyway? •    What default settings has your brain been running that you know it’s time to update? 📖 This episode is anchored in Chapter 5 of I Wish Someone Had Told Me Grab your copy and go deeper on the meaning-making mind, the three P’s, cognitive reappraisal, and the tools Dr. Britt teaches in this episode. Get it here

  4. Oct 15

    88- Stop Jumping to Conclusions: How Curiosity Calms Anxiety and Loosens Limiting Beliefs

    In this episode, Dr. Britt unpacks why our minds jump toconclusions and why curiosity is not just a nice idea, but a neurological and spiritual practice that can actually interrupt anxiety, challenge limiting beliefs, and change the way you see yourself and other people. IN THIS EPISODE •    Why anxiety and curiosity cannot fully occupy the same space at the same time and how to use that •    What it actually costs you when your brain fills in the blanks with fear •    The difference between rumination and curiosity, and a simple question to know which one you're doing •    NLP Meta Model questions that break open vague, fear-based thinking ("no great guy would ever want me") •    How mindful self-awareness becomes a form of curiosity turned inward and why that changes everything •    What beginner's mind has to do with Matthew 18:3 and growing into who you're meant to be "Curiosity isn't a detour from becoming who you'resupposed to be. It's the path." REFLECTION QUESTIONS •    Where in your life are you working from a conclusion you never actually verified? •    When something goes quiet like a friend, a partner, a coworker, what does your mind assume by default? Whatstory do you automatically write? •    What limiting belief keeps showing up for you? What question have you never actually asked it? •    Are you ruminating, or are you actually learning something? What's the difference in how each one feels inyour body? 📖 This episode is anchored in Chapter 3 of I Wish Someone Had Told Me. Grab your copy and go deeper on curiosity, the NLP Meta Model, and the tools Dr. Britt teaches in this episode 💬 Join the community. Life isn't meant to be done alone.

  5. Oct 14

    87- She Read the Whole Book — An Early Reader Conversation with Tatiana

    What happens when someone actually reads your book… every chapter, every question, every hard page and tells you honestly what it did to them? That is this episode. Tatiana Pellegrin was one of the first people to receive an early copy of Dr. Britt's book, and she read all of it. In this conversation, she opens up about the chapters that made her cry, the identity work that felt like reading her own story, the meaning-making she is now seeing in her own child, and the desire chapter that cracked something open. If you have ever wondered whether a book can actually reach a woman who is deep in the middle of her real life, this is your answer.IN THIS EPISODE●     Tatiana shares what it was like to read the fullmanuscript and which chapter stopped her in her tracks. The self-love chapter brought her to tears because it met her exactly where she was ●     The identity chapter hit differently: she describes reading about earning love versus deserving love and feeling like the book was written about her life, even though the circumstances were nothing alike ●     Chapter 5 on meaning-making surfaced something she is now watching in her own child, childhood meanings that were never true but got carried forward as wounds ●     The archetypes chapter gave her permission she didn't know she needed: freedom to operate from more than one, and a clear-eyed look at the shadows she is still working through ●     The desire chapter: shame, healing, and restoration. Tatiana describes what it opened up without either of them having to name everything out loud ●     What it means for a woman who is not fully settled in her faith to read a faith-integrated book and have it land and what Dr. Britt is dreaming about building around this community of women "She can change. She doesn't have to be where she is."— Tatiana Pellegrin REFLECTION QUESTIONS ●     Which chapter or idea in your own healing story are youstill in the middle of and what would it mean to have someone name it for you? ●     Where are you operating out of a meaning you made as achild that has never been questioned or updated? ●     Is there a version of love in your life that you havebeen earning rather than receiving as something you already deserve? ●     What is one archetype you have been living out ofalmost exclusively and what shadow of it might be showing up in your relationships or your inner world? GET YOUR COPY HERE!

  6. Sep 17

    86- Understanding Your Shadow Self: A Christian Perspective on Jungian Psychology.

    We're closing out the Feminine Archetypes series with abonus episode — going wide across all seventeen shadows from the last seven weeks. Instead of walking through them one by one, Dr. Britt organizes them into four real psychological patterns and brings in the secular research behind each one, plus a deep dive into Carl Jung's actual theory of the shadow. The shadow is not the enemy. It is information. It isnot a character flaw. It is evidence that you are human In this episode: ●      Areal dive into Jung's theory of the shadow — his own words, the concept of projection, and the surprising idea of the “golden shadow” ●     Why understanding your shadow actually matters, tied to Jesus's own teaching on the speck and the plank ●     The Control Cluster: the Tyrant, the Controller, and the Smotherer and the anxiety research behind them ●     The Hiding Cluster: the Self-Eraser, the Invisible, the Withholder, and the People Pleaser ●     The Performance Cluster: the Entitled, the Seductress, the Counterfeit, and the volume-as-authority version of the Aggressor ●     The Avoidance Cluster: the Escapist, the Defined, the Arrived, and the over-extending version of the Martyr ●     A practical, body-based way to actually shift out of a shadow in real time If you're enjoying this series.. you are getting a sneak peak into one of the sections in my book about how we show up in the world. If you want all of the latest details and updates, ⁠⁠⁠joinhere. ⁠⁠⁠ And if you're ready for the the e-book, ⁠⁠⁠preorder here⁠⁠⁠.Physical copies will be available at the end of September.

  7. Sep 16

    85- The Transformer Archetype: How to Turn Your Pain Into Purpose

    We’ve reached the last of the seven archetypes: theTransformer. Dr. Britt closes out the archetype stories with Mary Magdalene who was delivered from seven demons, present at the cross when the disciples scattered, and the very first person commissioned to announce the resurrection. Her history is her testimony, and that brings her depth.She doesn’t get to where she’s going without going through what she went through. And when she arrives, she doesn’t stay. She goes and tells. In this episode: ●     Mary Magdalene’s full story from seven demons to the first resurrection witness ●     A Stoic gut-check from Marcus Aurelius on turning obstacles into the way forward ●     The Transformer’s two shadows: the Defined and the Arrived ●     The real research on redemptive life stories and why they predict wellbeing, not just resilience ●     What the healthy Transformer looks like today, and why every other archetype in this series eventually needs her ●     A recap of all seven archetypes and what to actually carry forward from them Grab your journal for this one, best friend, and stickaround, because next week we’re going wide with a bonus episode on all seventeen shadows from this series. If you're enjoying this series.. you are getting a sneak peak into one of the sections in my book about how we show up in the world. If you want all of the latest details and updates, ⁠⁠⁠joinhere. ⁠⁠⁠ And if you're ready for the the e-book, ⁠⁠⁠preorder here⁠⁠⁠.Physical copies will be available at the end of September.

  8. Aug 27

    84- The Beloved Archetype: What the Bible Actually Says About Desire and Beauty

    Week six of the Feminine Archetypes series introduces the Beloved — the woman who walks into a room and takes up exactly the amount of space she was made to take up, because she's stopped auditioning for a love she already has. Dr. Britt unpacks her through the Shulamite in Song of Solomon and Ruth: one woman who already knows she's loved, one woman choosing love before she has any proof it'll be returned. Everything changes when you stop auditioning for a lovethat was already given. In this episode: ●      The Shulamite's own words in Song of Solomon — desire, beauty, and being fully known, in the Bible's own poetic language ●     Ruth's choice to bind herself to Naomi's people and God with zero guarantee of the outcome ●     The Beloved's two shadows: the Seductress and the Invisible ●      A Stoic gut-check from Epictetus on committing before the outcome is confirmed ●      The real research on belonging as a fundamental human need — and what separates stable self-worth from self-worth that collapses ●      How the Beloved differs from the Nurturer, even though both love deeply ●     Journal-ready reflection questions on where you're still auditioning for love you already have Next week: our final archetype, the Transformer. If you're enjoying this series.. you are getting a sneak peak into one of the sections in my book about how we show up in the world. If you want all of the latest details and updates, ⁠⁠joinhere. ⁠⁠ And if you're ready for the the e-book, ⁠⁠preorder here⁠⁠.Physical copies will be available at the end of September.

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Think of me as your best friend with a PhD. It’s really the best of both worlds… advice with truth, science and a whole lot of love sprinkled in. We chat about the stuff that’s hard to talk about sometimes—femininity, relationships, sex, self-esteem, health, motherhood and mindset.

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