Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

Gina Hendrix
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What does it really take to find love after 40? Follow women as they navigate dating apps, figure out what men really want, and search for the man they can finally settle down with - with the help of private matchmaker and dating expert Gina Hendrix. In each episode, real women bring Gina their biggest dating questions, frustrations, and dilemmas - and Gina gives honest, no-fluff advice based on nearly 20 years in the matchmaking business. It’s a call-in-style dating show - with real women, real questions, real dating situations, and the matchmaking intel most women never get access to.

  1. 4d ago

    A Glow-Up For Your Dating, with Kerry Brett and Maggie Barry

    The women who stay magnetic are the ones who never stop evolving, in how they look, how they show up, and the energy they put out.  Re-invention is the theme for this episode of Secret’s They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker, with Gina Hendrix and we have two very special guests to help us on that journey. Kerry Brett is a celebrity photographer, podcaster, dating author, and a longtime celebrity costume designer and stylist. Maggie Barry is a stylist to the stars, having dressed some of the biggest celebrities for films, commercials, fashion shows and award ceremonies. The Q&A includes a question about whether affluent men judge women based on apparent wealth, a dentist whose comments about his ex-wife's new, wealthier husband raise a subtle fear-based red flag, and whether or not it’s worth expanding the radius on the dating apps. We talk about AI generated dating messages, how old is too old when it comes to the photos on your dating profile, and how to dress to impress online and in person. The takeaway from this episode of Secret’s They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix: reinvention isn't about becoming someone else, it's about becoming the best version of who you already are. One small change tends to lead to another, and the moment you stop growing is the moment you risk getting left behind, in your look, your dating life, and everywhere else. New episodes every Thursday. Subscribe so you never miss the truth about men and dating. And if this one hits home share it with a girlfriend who needs to hear it. Follow me on Instagram @MatchmakerGinaHendrix or visit my matchmaking website GinaHendrix.com Kerry Brett Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kerry_brett/?hl=en-gb Shot @ Love podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/shot-at-love/id1497181618 Shot @ Love book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Shot-Love-Celebrity-Photographers-Unfiltered-ebook/dp/B0FRV1MYYC Maggie Barry Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maggiebarryfashion/?hl=en-gb Gina's "One In A Million Glow-Up Experience", a goddess weekend in Los Angeles with Gina Hendrix is back. This isn't some regular makeover, it's a takeover! You’ll leave looking better, feeling better, and knowing how to show up with more confidence in your photos and your dating life. Only 10 spaces are available. Find out more and apply to attend: https://academy.ginahendrix.com/luxury-glow-up CHAPTERS: (00:00) Introduction (03:36) Luxury Glow Up Weekend (06:31) Coffee Dates and Video Chat (07:31) Red Flags and Fear Energy (10:15) What to Wear on Dates (11:41) Kerry's Tinder Love Story and Dating Apps (17:01) Long Distance Hinge Messaging (20:25) Date Style First Impressions (31:14) Photos Glow Up Wrap

    A Glow-Up For Your Dating, with Kerry Brett and Maggie Barry

  2. Oct 1

    Is He Stringing You Along?

    In this episode of Secrets They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker, Gina Hendrix takes calls and offers advice to women who are navigating dating and the dating apps. We cover everything from first dates, to saying no and how to spot the good guys from the bad. One caller asks about dating multiple people at once and when it's actually time to stop, another who is hoping to build something long-term, wonders if she's wasting her time with younger men, and a caller processes a pattern of going for "nice guys" who move too fast physically. We hear from Laurie about a years-long, on-and-off “situationship” with a man who won't commit but keeps circling back, and Gina doesn't mince her words, walking through exactly why it's a dead end and coaching her toward cutting off contact for good.  Another caller asks what behaviors actually predict a lasting relationship, we dive into practical advice on how to handle physical boundaries with confidence, and a listener wonders if a man in his 50s who's never been married is automatically a red flag. Gina opens this episode with something she says has been on her mind everywhere lately, not just in dating: the gap between what people say and what they actually do. Somebody can tell you they're ready, they'll change, they'll call, they'll show up differently, but she makes the case that words are cheap and behavior is the only real evidence worth paying attention to, including the stories we tell ourselves about our own intentions and choices. The takeaway from this episode of Secrets They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker: stop listening to promises and start watching patterns. Potential isn't commitment, enthusiasm isn't commitment, and intention isn't commitment, only consistent action is. Pay attention to what's actually happening right now, not what someone says might happen someday, and don't shrink yourself to fit someone who isn't showing up as the right match. New episodes every Thursday. Subscribe so you never miss the truth about men and dating. And if this one hits home share it with a girlfriend who needs to hear it. Follow me on Instagram @MatchmakerGinaHendrix or visit my matchmaking website GinaHendrix.com CHAPTERS: (00:00) Introduction (05:58) Situationship Reality Check (10:24) Nice Guy Attraction Signals (14:02) Kiss Or Hold Back (19:03) Dating Under 40 (21:54) Red Flags And Exes

    Is He Stringing You Along?

  3. Sep 24

    Men and Money and Dating

    If we don’t ask the right questions, we’re never going to get to the truth of any situation. And when it comes to dating, that works in multiple ways. If we’re not curious about someone, we can build an image of them that doesn’t truly reflect who they are, and that is a recipe for disaster. If we’re not brave enough to ask about our red lines, we’re just going to be disappointed further down the line. In this episode of Secrets They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker, matchmaker Gina Hendrix opens with a personal story about a man who, convinced he already knew exactly who she was, tried to start a relationship with her.  Only he'd never actually asked her a single question about herself, not her interests, her values, or how she actually lives day to day.  Men and women fall into the same trap all the time: projecting a fully formed picture onto someone before ever really getting to know them, then getting disappointed when the real person doesn't match the fantasy. From there it's straight into calls. One caller opens up about a long-distance relationship where the split cost of a hotel left her feeling less than satisfied, another raises the same theme from a different angle, wondering how to say "I'm not comfortable with that" around money and effort without over-explaining herself. A caller asks how to ask about a man's lifestyle without sounding like she's a gold-digger, another processes a date that didn't go anywhere, and Gina walks through how to get clarity on a phone call before a date ever happens. We also get some top tips on getting the most from the dating apps. The takeaway from this episode of Secrets They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker: don't build a version of someone in your head and fall for that instead of the real person, and don't let anyone do the same to you. Ask real questions, stay curious, and keep those standards high. New episodes every Thursday. Subscribe so you never miss the truth about men and dating. And if this one hits home share it with a girlfriend who needs to hear it. Follow me on Instagram @MatchmakerGinaHendrix or visit my matchmaking website GinaHendrix.com CHAPTERS: (00:00) Introduction (02:31) Projection in Dating (05:43) Who Should Pay? (10:19) Money Questions (15:45) Divorce Status (18:03) Dating App Choices (25:09) Photos and Wording That Works

    Men and Money and Dating

  4. Sep 17

    The Bumble Bio Red Flag

    We can all put our best foot forward when everything’s going well. But how we react to the small stuff usually tells us a lot more about a person. How you handle a curveball, not a crisis, just the little stuff, a messed-up reservation, a late Uber, a plan that falls apart last minute, can be very telling.  Matchmaker Gina Hendrix has seen this play out hundreds of times, and shares two very different reactions to the exact same kind of hiccup. One took it in their stride, the other cancelled a date. The lesson? Watch how your date reacts to minor setbacks, but watch yourself too. Do you want to be the type of person who’s derailed or the type who rolls with the punches? This episode of Secret’s They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker is packed with calls from women seeking dating advice.  One caller wants to know what's normal on Bumble these days when so few men fill out a bio. And there are red flags to look out for. Once you know what they are, you'll stop wasting time on low-level men. Another caller replays a strange moment from a great first date, when her date jumped up mid-conversation to say an oddly warm goodbye to two strangers, and Gina answers a question many of us have: what are the clearest signs a man is only looking for something casual? We discuss wearing fancy jewelry on a date, slightly cringe dating profile pictures, and what putting in effort actually looks like. And then the topic of libido. How do you ask, in a ladylike way, whether his libido is compatible with yours? The takeaway from this episode of Secret’s They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker: don't sweat the small stuff. Nobody remembers how you handled things when everything went perfectly, they remember how you showed up when it didn't. All you can control is yourself, so choose grace, choose to pivot, and be the woman who's unforgettable because she's cool under pressure. Gina's "One In A Million Glow-Up Experience", a goddess weekend in Los Angeles with Gina Hendrix is back. This isn't some regular makeover, it's a takeover! You’ll leave looking better, feeling better, and knowing how to show up with more confidence in your photos and your dating life. Only 10 spaces are available. Find out more and apply to attend: https://academy.ginahendrix.com/luxury-glow-up CHAPTERS: (00:00) Introduction (01:05) Handling Life’s Curveballs (05:43) Glow Up Weekend Invite (12:44) The Bumble Bio Red Flag (16:59) How to Vet Dates Properly (18:34) Talking About Libido (22:35) Dating Safety Advice

    The Bumble Bio Red Flag

  5. Sep 10

    Why the Early Days Mean Nothing

    Sometimes life is hard, sometimes bad things happen to good people - but the answer is never to hide away. This episode of Secrets They’ll Only Tell A Matchmaker is about dusting yourself off and going again. Whether that’s in the dating world or in life more generally. Matchmaker Gina Hendrix shares two very personal stories from her early years in LA, that almost derailed her, but instead helped shape the woman she would become. And the link to dating is clear, yes you might have one bad experience on the apps, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try again - a little wiser, but still the woman you are in your heart. In an lively Q&A, we hear from a woman who can't verify her date’s backstory, another who’s worried about a potential partner’s political views, and we talk about stepping back and letting a man lead rather than doing the work yourself.  The takeaway from this episode of Secrets They’ll Only Tell A Matchmaker: don't let fear be the reason you miss out on the love you deserve. Ask smarter questions, trust your gut, lean on your community, and keep showing up, because the moment you let fear keep you inside, that's the moment it wins. New episodes every Thursday. Subscribe so you never miss the truth about men and dating. And if this one hits home share it with a girlfriend who needs to hear it. Follow me on Instagram @MatchmakerGinaHendrix or visit my matchmaking website GinaHendrix.com CHAPTERS: (00:00) Introduction (02:41) Fear vs Living Fully (06:28) Dating App Safety Q&A (15:24) Politics and Dating (16:12) Long Distance, Low Effort Man (21:36) Qualifying Dating Questions Strategy (26:29) Bragging and Energy Match (28:45) Don't Overthink Early Dating

    Why the Early Days Mean Nothing

  6. Sep 3

    What Men Really Want, with David Matthews

    Our special guest on Secrets They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker is David Matthews, author of “Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider's Guide to How Men Think.” David is a men’s dating coach and he’s here for a candid conversation about how men actually think, communicate, and approach dating.  He and matchmaker Gina Hendrix cover why the idea that men are intimidated by successful women is mostly a myth, why directness gets better results than hints or games, and a surprisingly practical trick for getting past the polite "yes" answer everyone gives to "are you looking for a relationship?" The Q&A covers a wide range of topics. There's a discussion on what to do with unexpected likes and messages from couples on the apps, and how to handle it when someone you've politely declined pushes back and demands feedback. One caller opens up about juggling health challenges and dating burnout, another wrestles with a small but persistent "ick" from an otherwise great match, and we try to answer the big question: is true love real? All of this is couched in some self-reflection and a realization that the more responsibility and hustle a woman carries, the more their softness and femininity can quietly get buried under it.  The takeaway from this episode of Secrets They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker, with Gina Hendrix: the world only sees us the way we present ourselves to it, so it's worth asking whether you're showing up to dates as the guarded, hardened version of yourself or the lighter, more open one.  CHAPTERS: (00:00) Introduction (04:01) Rejecting Without Debate (08:42) Introducing David Matthews (10:31) How Men Think Today (14:28) Texting Intentions And Truth (17:29) Getting Honest Relationship Answers (19:59) Awkward Intimacy Questions (23:22) Apps, Love And Better Date Questions

    What Men Really Want, with David Matthews

  7. Aug 27

    Why You Keep Pushing Great Men Away

    People rarely sabotage promising relationships because of what actually happened, they sabotage them because of the story they told themselves about what happened.  In this episode of Secrets They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker, with Gina Hendrix, we’re having a reality check - is the story you’re telling yourself the truth, or one you’ve made up? Gina walks through a recent matchmaking date that went sideways because both people showed up carrying baggage and skepticism instead of just meeting who was in front of them. Dating can mean playing the long game, learning about someone and really getting to know them, rather than creating stories about people we don’t really know that well yet. In this quick fire Q&A, we hear from one woman who wants to know if seeing familiar faces resurface on dating apps after a decade is a red flag, another admits she can no longer get past a slightly feminine voice, and we hear from a woman seeking advice about a date she doesn't want to go - but it's due to happen tonight! Then we hear from a woman who found herself in an uncomfortable situation - a man she'd only just started video chatting with peppered her with explicit sexual questions, we also discuss age gaps - one caller’s been told she is too old, another worries her date is only with her because she’s young. And we discuss the dangers playing detective and over-analyzing for potential red flags. The big takeaway from this episode of Secret’s They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker: dating isn't about eliminating uncertainty as fast as possible, it's about learning to navigate it. When anxiety shows up, don't let it become your storyteller. Stay curious, gather real information, and let people reveal themselves before you decide what their story means. CHAPTERS: (00:00) Introduction (03:15) Friend Setups and Lifestyle Fit(08:18) Red Flags Age Gaps and Boundaries(16:02) Canceling the Pushy Date(22:36) Stop Red Flag Detective Mode(28:31) Standards vs Reality on Apps(31:08) Why Dating Gets Harder

    Why You Keep Pushing Great Men Away

  8. Aug 20

    What is Sexy?

    Sometimes a date can take a turn for the worse, and it’s not entirely clear why. In the early stages, it doesn’t matter too much. If you’re not that interested and not 100% invested, just move on - life really is too short. But matchmaker Gina Hendrix says often, when we look back on why things took a turn, we can learn a lot - and more times than not it comes down to one thing: we weren’t curious enough. Not detective-style curiosity, trying to figure out if he's lying or a match on paper, but real, innocent interest in another human being.  Not only does that curiosity give us more opportunity to spot a mis-match early on, it’s also a sexy, magnetic quality in a person. The theme of genuine curiosity comes up throughout this episode of Secrets They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker. One caller asks why men feel intimidated by her lifestyle - have they been properly pre-qualified? Another asks how to pick profile prompts that spark real depth instead of surface-level small talk. And we hear from one woman who wants to know why some men go flakey after a couple of conversations. The conversation turns to whether where you live makes dating more difficult, why dating and manners in general seem to have declined, and how to know when a divorced or widowed man is really ready to start dating again. The big takeaway from this episode of Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix: bring your energy and your curiosity everywhere you go, because that, more than anything, is what people remember. New episodes every week. Follow Gina on TikTok and Instagram @MatchmakerGinaHendrix and visit ginahendrix.com to learn more about her matchmaking for men and coaching programs for women. CHAPTERS: (00:00) Introduction (02:07) Detective vs Conversation (05:23) Saying No With Grace (09:31) Profiles That Spark Talk (10:54) Flaky Messages Wiggle Room (13:37) Apps Culture And First Dates (24:45) Prequalify And Bring Energy

    What is Sexy?
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What does it really take to find love after 40? Follow women as they navigate dating apps, figure out what men really want, and search for the man they can finally settle down with - with the help of private matchmaker and dating expert Gina Hendrix. In each episode, real women bring Gina their biggest dating questions, frustrations, and dilemmas - and Gina gives honest, no-fluff advice based on nearly 20 years in the matchmaking business. It’s a call-in-style dating show - with real women, real questions, real dating situations, and the matchmaking intel most women never get access to.

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