Life's Dirty Little Secrets Podcast | Breaking Silence Around the Secrets We All Carry

Christopher McCurry & Emma Waddington
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We often find ourselves comparing our internal struggles to the flawless images others project, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. But here’s the truth: you are not alone. Join psychologists Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry as they delve into the little-discussed yet incredibly common challenges that come with striving to be your best self. In each episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," you'll find thoughtful conversations filled with insights, humor, and compassion that reflect the beautiful complexity of being human. Together, we’ll explore the raw realities of issues like anxiety, depression, self-esteem, grief, and the nuanced journey of growing up. Whether it's confronting the pressures of modern life or unpacking emotional baggage, we provide a safe space for you to resonate with these experiences. Our intriguing discussions with expert guests will illuminate your path toward understanding and healing. Tune in for practical answers to your pressing questions, such as: How can I better manage anxiety and stress?What can help me overcome self-doubt?How do I navigate grief and find solace?How does self-compassion play a role in my journey?What steps can I take towards greater emotional clarity?Join us weekly as we embrace the messiness of life and uncover the secrets that bind us together. With every episode, you’ll feel empowered, understood, and reminded that it’s perfectly okay to not have it all figured out. Together, let’s embark on this journey of self-discovery and compassion—because we all have secrets, and it’s time to share them.

  1. Oct 8

    Secret #90: Emotion Savvy Parenting with Dr. Alissa Jerud

    Recommended Episodes Secret #7: Parental Guilt with Dr. Yael SchonbrunSecret #49: Parenting Your Anxious ChildSecret #84: Parent Anxiety with Jodi RichardsonWhat if good parenting isn’t about keeping yourself or your child calm? Dr. Alissa Jerud joins Emma and Chris to explore how accepting, regulating, and tolerating difficult emotions can help parents respond more effectively without expecting themselves to get parenting “right.” Parenting advice often focuses on what to do about our children’s behavior. But what happens when our own emotions take over? Clinical psychologist Dr. Alissa Jerud joins Emma and Chris to explore why trying to control our children’s feelings, behavior, and even our own emotions can leave parents feeling more stuck.  Drawing from her book Emotion Savvy Parenting, Alissa introduces her ART framework: Accept, Regulate, and Tolerate. Together, they explore acceptance without judgment, mindfulness, emotional regulation, practical strategies for intense moments, and how parents can set limits based on their own values rather than searching for a one-size-fits-all approach.  Key Takeaways Parents don’t have to eliminate difficult emotions to respond effectively.Trying to control a child’s emotions can sometimes be an attempt to reduce our own discomfort.ART stands for Accept, Regulate, and Tolerate. Secret #90_ Emotion Savvy Paren…Acceptance doesn’t mean liking or approving of what is happening.Mindfulness and emotion-regulation skills are easier to access in difficult moments when we practice them in lower-stakes situations first. Secret #90_ Emotion Savvy Paren…Parents can feel intense emotions without automatically acting on what those emotions urge them to do. Secret #90_ Emotion Savvy Paren…Limits and boundaries can be flexible and should reflect the needs and values of each individual family. View extended shownotes here ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids)ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

  2. Sep 24

    Secret #89: The Power of Oversharing with Leslie John

    Recommended Episodes Secret #62: The Connection Paradox with James CordovaSecret #57: Conflict Resilience with Bob Bordone and Dr. Joel SalinasSecret #74: The Cost of Pretending with Jonathan KanterWe’re often warned about the dangers of TMI, but Leslie John’s research suggests we may be overlooking the costs of TLI—too little information. Leslie explains how under-sharing can affect our wellbeing, relationships, and even our effectiveness at work, and why we tend to remember the immediate cringe of saying too much while barely noticing the opportunities we lose by saying too little.  Together, Leslie, Emma, and Chris explore what it takes to reveal ourselves well: knowing what we’re feeling, paying attention to reciprocity, understanding why we want to share, and recognizing that the line between openness and TMI changes with context. They also discuss intimacy, disclosure at work, psychological safety, and why occasionally feeling a little uncomfortable about what we’ve shared might actually be a sign that we’re expanding our capacity for connection.   Key Takeaways  Under-sharing can cost us connection, trust, and opportunities.  Feeling truly known requires allowing other people to know more of who we actually are.  We tend to overreact to the immediate discomfort of oversharing and under-react to the quieter costs of saying too little.  Reciprocity is one of the best clues for knowing whether to share more or pull back.  Before disclosing, consider why you want to share and what you hope it will accomplish.  At work, transparency can provide many of the benefits of openness without requiring deeply vulnerable disclosure.  Occasionally experiencing a little “TMI cringe” may simply mean you’re practicing sharing beyond your usual comfort zone. View extended shownotes here ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids)ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

  3. Sep 10

    Secret #88: Living Your Values with Carolyn Allard

    Recommended Episodes Secret #72: Transforming Guilt and Shame with Dr. Carolyn AllardSecret #47: Living a Meaningful Life with Jenna LeJeuneSecret #30: Wise Effort with Dr. Diana HillDr. Carolyn Allard returns to Life's Dirty Little Secrets to continue her conversation with Emma and Chris about guilt and shame, this time exploring how these difficult emotions can help us identify what truly matters. Carolyn explains how getting stuck in guilt and shame can lead to avoidance, self-punishment, and overcompensation, pulling us further away from the life we want to live. Together, they explore how to reconnect with our values, navigate competing priorities, and distinguish values from goals. They also discuss why living according to what matters isn't always comfortable, and how slowing down to examine our guilt and shame can help us make more intentional choices. Key Takeaways  Guilt and shame can provide useful information about what matters to us.  Avoidance and overcompensation can pull us away from our values.  Values are directions, not destinations.  Prioritizing one value doesn't necessarily mean violating another.  Living according to our values is often difficult. Avoidance is usually easier.  Our values can change as our lives and circumstances change.  Small increases in values-based activities can improve wellbeing. View extended shownotes here ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids)ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

  4. Aug 27

    Secret #87: The Emotionally Mature Parent with Dr. Lindsay Gibson

    What happens when you want to parent differently from the way you were parented—but the old patterns still show up? Clinical psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Lindsay Gibson joins Emma and Chris for a conversation about emotional maturity in parenting. Lindsay explains how emotionally immature parents struggle with self-reflection, emotional intimacy, stress tolerance, and taking responsibility—and how those patterns can leave children believing their feelings and needs are simply too much. But becoming a more emotionally mature parent doesn't mean never losing your temper or getting parenting "right." Lindsay explores the importance of noticing our reactions, tolerating difficult feelings like shame, repairing ruptures, and remembering that children's behavior is a form of communication. The conversation also tackles limit-setting, gentle parenting, yelling, and why being kind and emotionally attuned doesn't mean being permissive. Ultimately, Lindsay offers a hopeful message for parents who didn't receive the emotional connection they needed growing up: emotional maturity can be learned. What matters isn't perfectly understanding your child every time—it's being genuinely interested in understanding who they are. Key Takeaways Even emotionally mature adults can become emotionally immature when they're stressed.Children's behavior is communication, even when they can't put their feelings into words.Emotional maturity requires self-reflection and a willingness to notice our own reactions.Repairing after a parenting mistake can strengthen connection.Shame becomes less powerful when we're willing to experience it rather than immediately avoid or defend against it.Being a kind parent doesn't mean avoiding limits or consequences.Children need to be recognized as individuals with their own inner worlds, perspectives, emotions, and needs.Emotional maturity means allowing emotions to become trusted advisors rather than letting them become our masters.Parents don't have to understand their children perfectly—the effort to understand matters enormously.We can learn new ways of parenting even when healthier patterns weren't modeled for us.View extended shownotes here ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids)ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

  5. Aug 13

    Secret #86: Your Body Is Talking. Are You Listening? with Manuela O'Connell

    Recommended Episodes Secret #67: Living with Death - An Existential Conversation with Dr. Manuela O'Connell & Dr. Robyn WalserSecret #54: The Reign of Pain (Lies Mainly in the Brain) with Howard SchubinerSecret #5: Body Shame with Emily SandozWe spend enormous amounts of time thinking about our bodies: how they look, whether they're healthy, what hurts, what needs fixing, and whether they're performing the way we want. But how often do we actually experience life through our bodies? Returning guest Dr. Manuela O'Connell joins Emma and Chris to explore what we've lost by treating the body as something we have rather than something through which we experience our lives. Manuela shares how her own experience with chronic illness and dance led her toward somatic approaches and a deeper understanding of embodiment. She argues that psychology itself has often privileged thoughts and language while overlooking the information carried through sensation, movement, emotion, touch, and other forms of bodily awareness.   Together, they explore how culture, puberty, shame, body image, technology, and social media can disconnect us from embodied experience. They also discuss what it actually means to "listen to your body" and how slowing down, noticing sensations, and reconnecting with our senses can help us develop a richer relationship with ourselves and the people and world around us.  Key Takeaways Western psychology has traditionally emphasized thoughts and language while paying far less attention to embodied experience.  As children, we experience the world through our senses and bodies, but culture and language can gradually teach us to regard the body as an object we possess.  Listening to your body isn't necessarily intuitive. Manuela argues that noticing and discriminating physical sensations is something we can actually practice and learn.  Our bodily responses are shaped by learning and experience, particularly when it comes to detecting safety and danger.  Social media can intensify the tendency to reduce the body, and even the whole person, to an image.  Becoming more embodied starts with slowing down and paying attention to sensations and senses we routinely overlook.  Reconnecting with the body doesn't have to become another self-improvement assignment. Manuela encourages approaching it with curiosity, exploration, and even a sense of adventure. View extended shownotes here ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids)ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

  6. Jul 30

    Secret #85: The Conversations We Need to Have: A Special Episode Live From Lyon

    Recommended EpisodesSecret #65: The Self-Help Paradox with Joe OliverSecret #79: Fierce Compassion with Dr. Dennis TirchSecret #73: Confidence with Michael HeroldWhat conversations are we avoiding that could change the way we live, connect, and care for one another? Recorded live from the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS) World Conference in Lyon, France, Emma and Chris invite several respected leaders in psychology to answer one deceptively simple question: What conversations should we be having that we're not having enough? The result is a collection of thoughtful reflections that stretch far beyond psychotherapy and into everyday life. Tom Szabo explores how we can better train clinicians to create meaningful change instead of relying on self-report. Niklas Törneke wonders whether there are universal qualities of conversations, poems, and experiences that transform people regardless of where they occur. Rikke Kjelgaard reflects on authenticity, kindness, and our tendency to rush in and fix one another instead of simply being present. Kelly Wilson closes with a powerful challenge to our modern obsession with efficiency, inviting us to ask a question we rarely consider: Efficient for what? This special episode is an invitation to slow down, become curious, and reflect on the conversations that may matter most. Key Takeaways The conversations we avoid often reveal what matters most.  Better clinician training requires observing behavior, not just self-report.  Meaningful change can happen through therapy, art, nature, or everyday conversation.  Authenticity requires making space for vulnerability instead of rushing to fix it.  Kindness often looks like simply staying present with another person's pain.  The modern attention economy rewards outrage more than hope.  Before optimizing everything, we should ask: Efficient for what?View Extended shownotes here ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids)ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

  7. Jul 16

    Secret #84: Parent Anxiety with Jodi Richardson

    Recommended EpisodesSecret #80: The Anxiety Advantage with Dr. Tracy Dennis-TiwarySecret #77: The Paradox of the Overwhelmed with Kerry Makin-ByrdSecret #50: Happy High Achievers with Dr. Mary AndersonWhy does becoming a parent make us so anxious? For many parents, anxiety begins the moment a child is born and never truly disappears. Every milestone, school trip, sleepover, driver's license, and overseas adventure can trigger a flood of "what if" thoughts that invite us to protect, rescue, or accommodate our children. But are those instincts always helping? Chris and Emma welcome anxiety educator and bestselling author Dr. Jodi Richardson for a thoughtful conversation about the relationship between parent anxiety and child resilience. Together, they explore why anxiety is a normal part of caring deeply, how avoidance unintentionally strengthens anxiety, and why some of the most loving parenting moments require us to tolerate our own discomfort instead of eliminating our child's. Drawing on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), personal parenting stories, and decades of experience supporting anxious families, Dr. Richardson offers practical guidance for helping children develop confidence, independence, and resilience while also teaching parents how to respond wisely to their own anxious minds. Key Takeaways Anxiety is a normal consequence of caring deeply about our children.  Parent anxiety does not automatically create anxious children.  Avoidance makes anxiety stronger for both parents and children.  Small challenges build lifelong resilience.  Parents often need to manage their own discomfort before rescuing their children.  Independence develops through age-appropriate opportunities to struggle.  Supporting children is different from protecting them from every uncomfortable experience.View extended shownotes here ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids)ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

  8. Jul 2

    Secret #83: Sleep Myths with Dr. Sue McCurry

    Recommended EpisodesSecret #80: The Anxiety Advantage with Dr. Tracy Dennis-TiwarySecret #65: The Self-Help Paradox with Joe OliverSecret #79: Fierce Compassion with Dr. Dennis TirchWhy do we put so much pressure on ourselves to sleep? From sleep trackers and wellness trends to headlines warning us about the dangers of poor sleep, many of us have come to believe that sleep is something we should be able to control. But according to behavioral sleep medicine expert Dr. Sue McCurry, that's one of the biggest myths about sleep. Chris and Emma sit down with Dr. McCurry to explore what actually drives healthy sleep, why waking up during the night isn't always a problem, and how anxiety about sleep often becomes the very thing that keeps us awake. They discuss the history of human sleep, common misconceptions about insomnia, the science behind Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I), and practical ways to create the conditions for better rest without trying to force it. Whether you're struggling with insomnia, navigating menopause, parenting young children, or simply wondering if you're getting enough sleep, this episode offers a reassuring and evidence-based perspective that may completely change the way you think about sleep. Key Takeaways Sleep cannot be forced, only supported.  Waking during the night is more common than many people realize.  Anxiety about sleep often becomes the biggest barrier to sleeping well.  Consistency is more important than chasing a perfect number of hours.  Sleep trackers can sometimes increase stress rather than improve sleep.  Good sleepers still have occasional bad nights.  CBT-I focuses on changing habits, thoughts, and behaviors rather than forcing sleep.View extended shownotes here ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids)ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

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We often find ourselves comparing our internal struggles to the flawless images others project, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. But here’s the truth: you are not alone. Join psychologists Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry as they delve into the little-discussed yet incredibly common challenges that come with striving to be your best self. In each episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," you'll find thoughtful conversations filled with insights, humor, and compassion that reflect the beautiful complexity of being human. Together, we’ll explore the raw realities of issues like anxiety, depression, self-esteem, grief, and the nuanced journey of growing up. Whether it's confronting the pressures of modern life or unpacking emotional baggage, we provide a safe space for you to resonate with these experiences. Our intriguing discussions with expert guests will illuminate your path toward understanding and healing. Tune in for practical answers to your pressing questions, such as: How can I better manage anxiety and stress?What can help me overcome self-doubt?How do I navigate grief and find solace?How does self-compassion play a role in my journey?What steps can I take towards greater emotional clarity?Join us weekly as we embrace the messiness of life and uncover the secrets that bind us together. With every episode, you’ll feel empowered, understood, and reminded that it’s perfectly okay to not have it all figured out. Together, let’s embark on this journey of self-discovery and compassion—because we all have secrets, and it’s time to share them.

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