Family Disappeared

Lawrence Joss
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Have you lost contact with your child? What about your parent, or grandparent, sibling, or any other family member? You might be experiencing estrangement, alienation, or erasure. All of these terms speak to the trauma and dysfunction that so many families face. A family is a complex living and breathing system. Each member plays a role in the family dynamic. When families carry generational trauma and/or experience new trauma, challenges, or dysfunction, this can result in a break in the family system. These reaction strategies are habitual and very often interwoven into every aspect of how our family interacts. Hi! I´m Lawrence Joss and I’ve learned that I need to cultivate a spiritual, emotional, and physical relationship with myself in order to have healthy relationships with others and everything in my life. It is my mission to help you create and nurture that relationship with yourself first and provide you with tools that might help you heal and strengthen family relationships. This podcast is an opportunity to explore our healing journey together through the complexities of our families.Welcome to the FAMILY DISAPPEARED podcast.For more information, visit:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email- familydisappeared@gmail.comLinktree https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

  1. 5D AGO

    Why Good Moments Still Feel Unsafe | Parental Alienation & PTSD Recovery

    In this conversation, Lawrence Joss continues exploring PTSD, nervous system healing, and parental alienation with psychologist Faust Ruggiero. Together, they reflect on what happens after years of survival mode, when reconnection, hope, or positive change finally begins to appear, but the body still reacts with fear, overwhelm, and hypervigilance. Lawrence shares personal reflections on emotional eating, reconnecting with loved ones, and the challenge of staying present when even good moments feel emotionally intense. Blending lived experience with practical trauma insight, the discussion explores nervous system conditioning, emotional regulation, coping behaviors, support systems, and why healing rarely happens in isolation. Faust offers grounded guidance on recognizing trauma patterns, slowing reactivity, and rebuilding stability through small consistent actions rather than perfection. For parents navigating estrangement, grief, and reconnection, this conversation is a reminder that healing is not about erasing pain, it’s about learning how to live alongside it with greater steadiness, compassion, and self-awareness. Living fully is not giving up, but an act of love and integrity. Key Takeaways Hypervigilance makes safety feel unfamiliarPositive emotions can still overwhelm the nervous systemTrauma responses affect daily coping behaviorsEmotional eating can become self-soothingReconnection often brings emotional disorientationNervous system healing happens gradually over timeSupport systems reduce emotional isolationHealing requires consistency, not perfectionPTSD impacts both mind and bodyChapters 0:00 - Trauma And The Stuck Alarm 2:44 - Numbing Out With Food 4:37 - Past Memories Collide With Now 9:01 - Process Over Perfect Resolution 12:40 - Trust Shame And Feeling Worthy 17:54 - Breathe First Then Find Facts 20:47 - Spot Body Cues Early 24:27 - DIY Healing Versus Professional Help 26:25 - Supporting Someone With PTSD 28:41 - The PTSD Handbook And Film 32:39 - Final Takeaways And Goodbye Support & Community: Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery. PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and family disconnection. All our services are free and sustained by grants and community donations. Your support helps us continue offering these vital resources. Donate here: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/donations-for-the-12-step-program Connect with Us: Email your questions or insights: familydisappeared@gmail.com Like, share, and comment to help us reach more families in need. If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:    Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com  Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) To learn more or connect with Faust, visit: https://www.faustruggiero.com/ Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email-         familydisappeared@gmail.com

    35 min

  2. MAY 11

    When Your Nervous System Never Feels Safe | Parental Alienation & PTSD

    In this conversation, Lawrence Joss and psychologist Faust Ruggiero explore the trauma responses many alienated parents experience while navigating parental alienation, estrangement, and high-conflict family systems. Together, they unpack how chronic stress, fear, hypervigilance, and unresolved grief affect the nervous system—and why many parents begin living in a constant state of emotional and physical survival. Blending clinical insight with lived experience, the discussion examines PTSD, nervous system dysregulation, emotional overwhelm, and the physical symptoms that often go unnoticed during alienation. Lawrence reflects on his own reconnection journey and the challenge of teaching the body to recognize safety again, even during positive moments. Grounded in recovery, self-awareness, and emotional regulation, this conversation reminds us that healing is not about becoming emotionless—it’s about slowly coming home to yourself. Living fully is not giving up, but an act of love and integrity. Key Takeaways • PTSD changes how the body responds  • Family dysfunction shapes trauma responses  • Hypervigilance becomes a survival pattern  • Emotional stress creates physical symptoms  • Internal self-talk affects nervous system healing  • Trauma distorts safety and emotional trust  • Chronic alienation impacts mind and body  • Healing requires emotional and physical awareness  • Grounding practices support nervous system recovery  • Self-regulation helps restore inner stability Chapters 00:00 - Understanding PTSD Beyond the Mind  04:53 - How Family Systems Shape Trauma  10:06 - Why the Body Holds Trauma  14:55 - Self-Talk and Nervous System Healing  20:07 - Balancing Emotional Reactions with Reality  24:53 - The Long-Term Impact of Victimization Support & Community: Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery. PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and family disconnection. All our services are free and sustained by grants and community donations. Your support helps us continue offering these vital resources. Donate here: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/donations-for-the-12-step-program Connect with Us: Email your questions or insights: familydisappeared@gmail.com Like, share, and comment to help us reach more families in need. If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:    Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com  Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) To learn more or connect with Faust, visit: https://www.faustruggiero.com/ Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email-         familydisappeared@gmail.com

    25 min

  3. MAY 6

    When Even the Good Feels Too Much | Parental Alienation & Reconnection

    Lawrence Joss reflects on a deeply personal milestone, reconnecting with his daughter and meeting his grandchildren after years of parental alienation. What might seem like a moment of relief unfolds instead as something far more complex, bringing waves of emotion, uncertainty, and the challenge of learning how to show up in a relationship that is still taking shape. As he shares this experience, Lawrence explores the often-unspoken reality of reconnection: the emotional overwhelm, the return of grief, and the need for patience, boundaries, and nervous system regulation. This episode offers an honest look at what comes after contact returns, reminding us that healing is not a single moment, but an ongoing process. Living fully, even within uncertainty, is not giving up, but an act of love, integrity, and steady presence. Key Takeaways Reconnecting after long-term parental alienationWhy reconnection can feel overwhelming, not relieving Managing emotional activation before and after contact The non-linear nature of rebuilding relationships Setting boundaries during early reconnection Nervous system regulation in high-emotion moments The role of support systems in recovery Living fully without guaranteed outcomesChapters 00:00 - Navigating Overwhelm and Capacity 02:52 - Reconnecting with Family: Expectations and Challenges 06:01 - The Impact of Parental Alienation on Relationships 08:54 - Managing Emotional Responses to Positive and Negative Experiences 11:37 - Preparing for Reconnection: Questions and Boundaries 15:01 - The Journey of Self-Reflection and Compassion 17:57 - Understanding the Non-Linear Nature of Reconnection 20:46 - Finding Grace in the Process of Reconnection 23:39 - The Role of Support Systems in Healing 26:51 - Integrating Life Beyond Parental Alienation 29:40 - Embracing the Journey of Reconnection 32:53 - Final Thoughts and Moving Forward Support & Community: Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery. PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and family disconnection. All our services are free and sustained by grants and community donations. Your support helps us continue offering these vital resources. Donate here: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/donations-for-the-12-step-program Connect with Us: Email your questions or insights: familydisappeared@gmail.com Like, share, and comment to help us reach more families in need. If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:    Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com  Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email-         familydisappeared@gmail.com

    35 min

  4. APR 20

    Can You Stay Connected Without Access? | Parental Alienation & Grandparents

    Lawrence continues with a Parental Alienation Anonymous panel to explore Part 2 of the grandparents experience, focusing on what happens after initial contact is made, but connection remains uncertain. Through lived experience, the panel reflects on navigating relationships with children and grandchildren where access, expectations, and emotional realities don’t always align. The discussion moves through themes of pacing, control, aging, and recovery, highlighting the internal work required to stay grounded in the face of inconsistency. As perspectives shift over time, the conversation offers a deeper understanding of how to live with both hope and acceptance, reminding listeners that living fully is not giving up, but an act of love and integrity. Key takeaways Recovery is for the individual, not just the relationship.Community and shared experiences are vital for healing.Patience and pacing are crucial in rebuilding relationships.Aging brings awareness of time and the importance of presence.Chapters 00:00 - Understanding Recovery and Community Support  02:52 - Navigating Family Dynamics and Generational Trauma  05:44 - The Role of Nonviolent Communication in Relationships  08:42 - First Encounters with Grandchildren  11:52 - The Complexity of Relationships and Control  14:43 - Pacing in Relationships and Recovery  17:40 - Gifts, Boundaries, and Family Connections  20:50 - Aging and Its Impact on Relationships  23:58 - Legacy Planning and Emotional Awareness  26:37 - The Importance of Self-Care in Recovery  29:59 - Final Thoughts on Relationships and Community Support & Community: Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery. PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and family disconnection. All our services are free and sustained by grants and community donations. Your support helps us continue offering these vital resources. Donate here: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/donations-for-the-12-step-program Connect with Us: Email your questions or insights: familydisappeared@gmail.com Like, share, and comment to help us reach more families in need. If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:    Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com  Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email-         familydisappeared@gmail.com

    43 min

  5. APR 13

    What Happens When Grandparents Are Erased? | Parental Alienation

    In this heartfelt panel, Lawrence Joss brings together grandparents to explore the emotional realities of maintaining connection in the context of parental alienation. Through lived experience, they reflect on the quiet grief of distance, the moments of unexpected contact, and the deep love that continues even in the absence of regular relationships. This conversation offers a rare window into the grandparent perspective, one often overlooked, yet deeply affected by family separation. Together, the panel unpacks the complexity of holding both loss and hope at the same time. Themes of patience, resilience, identity, and intergenerational connection emerge, alongside the importance of community and shared understanding. This episode is a reminder that even when access is limited or uncertain, presence, love, and intention continue to matter in ways that may unfold over time. Key Takeaways Differences between being a parent and grandparent in alienationEmotional impact of parental alienation on grandparentsStrategies for maintaining connection with grandchildrenThe role of recovery and self-work in healing family relationshipsGenerational trauma and breaking cyclesChapters 00:00 - Introduction and Overview of Parental Alienation 03:56 - Grandparents' Experiences and Emotional Impact 09:27 - Communication and Connection Challenges 12:53 - Differences in Relationship Dynamics 17:37 - Handling Transitions and Moving Forward 20:15 - Using Technology to Bridge the Gap 23:38 - The Power of Small Changes and Responses 25:56 - Reflections on Connection and Hope 27:52 - Closing Thoughts and Resources Support & Community: Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery. PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and family disconnection. All our services are free and sustained by grants and community donations. Your support helps us continue offering these vital resources. Donate here: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/donations-for-the-12-step-program Connect with Us: Email your questions or insights: familydisappeared@gmail.com Like, share, and comment to help us reach more families in need. If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:    Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com  Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email-         familydisappeared@gmail.com

    29 min

  6. APR 6

    When Love Feels Conditional in a Child’s Mind | Parental Alienation

    Continuing the conversation, Lawrence Joss and Stephanie Sternes, a licensed counselor and family systems expert, further explores the complex dynamics of loyalty binds, attachment, and family systems within the context of parental alienation and stepfamily relationships. Alongside Stephanie Sternes, a specialist in two-family systems, the focus deepens into how children and parents navigate competing loyalties, emotional pressure, and the challenge of maintaining connection across two-home environments. With both professional and lived perspective, Stephanie brings clarity to how attachment patterns and loyalty conflicts shape behavior within blended families. This episode offers a grounded lens into parental alienation and stepfamily dynamics providing insight, validation, and a more compassionate understanding of the emotional complexity many families are carrying. Key Takeaways Loyalty binds override natural parent-child attachment  Children feel forced to choose one parent  Love becomes conditional in high-conflict families  Attachment trauma shapes long-term emotional patterns  Chronic stress impacts memory and identity development  Sibling relationships divided by loyalty-based dynamics  Adult relationships reflect unresolved childhood attachment wounds  Healing begins through awareness and nervous system safety Chapters 00:00 - Exploring Loyalty and Love in Family Dynamics 02:52 - The Impact of Loyalty Binds on Relationships 05:42 - Navigating Childhood Memories and Adult Relationships 09:01 - Understanding Attachment and Loyalty in Parenting 11:43 - Sibling Relationships in Divided Households 14:38 - The Role of Step-Parents and Outsider Dynamics 17:44 - Bad Advice and Misconceptions in Co-Parenting 21:02 - Aha Moments in Understanding Family Systems 23:52 - Finding Help and Resources for Families in Transition If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:    Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com  Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) To learn more or connect with Stephanie, you can visit: https://www.stephsternes.com https://www.healingstoryranch.com Resources Mentioned: Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships by Patricia Papernow https://stepfamilyrelationships.com/ The Smart Stepfamily by Ron L. Deal https://smartstepfamilies.com/ Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS Support & Community: Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery. PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and fa This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email-         familydisappeared@gmail.com

    30 min

  7. MAR 30

    Why Stepfamily Dynamics Feel So Hard to Navigate | Parental Alienation

    In this conversation, Lawrence Joss sits down alongside Stephanie Sternes, a specialist in two-family systems, to explore the often-overlooked realities of blended families and the emotional complexity of navigating life across two homes. Together, they unpack how attachment, shifting roles, and stepfamily dynamics shape both parent and child experiences, especially in the presence of parental alienation and high-conflict family environments. With both professional and personal perspective, Stephanie brings awareness to the emotional layers within stepfamily dynamics, inviting greater understanding and compassion for what blended families and two-home systems hold. This episode offers a deeper lens into parental alienation and blended family dynamics, providing clarity and a more grounded way of understanding the complexity many families navigate. Key Takeaways Two-family systems and their impact on childrenAttachment, grief, and loss in blended familiesLoyalty binds and the love-loyalty paradoxHigh conflict, oppositional parenting, and abuse spectrumClinical training gaps and systemic understanding in therapy Chapters 00:00 - Understanding Two-family Systems 02:47 - The Impact of Grief and Loss on Family Dynamics 05:49 - Navigating Attachment and Regulation in Two-family Homes 08:48 - Misconceptions in Therapy for Two-family Systems 12:03 - The Spectrum of Parenting Styles: Co-parenting vs. Oppositional Parenting 14:46 - The Loyalty Bind: Navigating Love and Loyalty in Divided Families 18:06 - The Role of Therapy in Healing Family Dynamics If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:    Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com  Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Please donate to support PAA programs: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part Support & Community: Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery. PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and family disconnection. All our services are free and sustained by grants and community donations. Your support helps us continue offering these vital resources. Donate here: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/donations-for-the-12-step-program This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email-         familydisappeared@gmail.com

    34 min

  8. MAR 23

    Learning to Live Without Answers | Parental Alienation & Uncertainty

    This second part of the panel conversation explores what begins to change when parents shift from urgency to patience. Lawrence Joss and the panel reflect on the role of emotional safety, vulnerability, and self-awareness when relationships with children begin to reopen, even in small ways. Through deeply personal reflections, the panel discusses how reconnection rarely happens through persuasion or explanation. Instead, it often emerges slowly through presence, patience, and emotional steadiness. The conversation highlights how recovery communities, self-care, and learning to regulate one's own emotional responses can create the conditions for trust, healing, and sometimes renewed relationships. Key Takeaways Taking care of oneself is crucial in building relationships.Patience is essential when communicating with loved ones.Safety cues can help foster trust in relationships.Emotional flooding can be managed through self-awareness.Recovery work provides a framework for personal growth.Finding balance in connection and disconnection is important.Community support plays a vital role in healing.Practicing self-compassion allows for better interactions with others.It's okay to take a pause during emotional conversations.The journey of recovery is ongoing and requires continuous effort.Chapters 00:00 - Navigating Safety and Self-Care in Relationships 03:10 - The Importance of Patience in Communication 05:55 - Understanding Safety and Trust in Interpersonal Dynamics 08:48 - Emotional Flooding and Managing Reactions 12:10 - The Role of Recovery in Building Relationships 14:59 - Finding Balance in Connection and Disconnection 17:46 - Reflections on Emotional Highs and Lows 20:58 - The Power of Community and Support 23:52 - Final Thoughts on Personal Growth and Connection If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:    Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com  Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss (All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree) Please donate to support PAA programs:  https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager Connect with Lawrence Joss: Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ Email-         familydisappeared@gmail.com

    38 min
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Have you lost contact with your child? What about your parent, or grandparent, sibling, or any other family member? You might be experiencing estrangement, alienation, or erasure. All of these terms speak to the trauma and dysfunction that so many families face. A family is a complex living and breathing system. Each member plays a role in the family dynamic. When families carry generational trauma and/or experience new trauma, challenges, or dysfunction, this can result in a break in the family system. These reaction strategies are habitual and very often interwoven into every aspect of how our family interacts. Hi! I´m Lawrence Joss and I’ve learned that I need to cultivate a spiritual, emotional, and physical relationship with myself in order to have healthy relationships with others and everything in my life. It is my mission to help you create and nurture that relationship with yourself first and provide you with tools that might help you heal and strengthen family relationships. This podcast is an opportunity to explore our healing journey together through the complexities of our families.Welcome to the FAMILY DISAPPEARED podcast.For more information, visit:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email- familydisappeared@gmail.comLinktree https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

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  • Creator
    Lawrence Joss
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    147
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Family Disappeared
  • Show Website
    Family Disappeared

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