The Loud Quiet - Empty Nest Living

Rick and Clancy Denton | Empty Nester Life
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Empty nest thriving! Rick and Clancy have been enjoying life together since the 90s. Starting in Aug 2023, with two college-aged kiddos they entered Empty Nest Living. A quieter house than before...a loud quiet, indeed. Join them as they laugh and cry while trying to figure out how to live the empty nest. Tune in for relatable stories, navigating the ups and downs of empty nest life with humor about the empty nest journey. 📖 Our book is here! Get your copy of The Loud Quiet – Love, Laughter and Life in the Empty Nest, here: https://amzn.to/4sC0EV7 © EX4CX LLC. All rights reserved.

  1. 22m ago

    Moving Kids Into College? What These Empty Nesters Learned E149

    Move-in day never quite goes the way you expect, even after doing it more than once. Rick and Clancy walk through what actually shifts each time, from how much to help unpacking a dorm room to when to step in on a rough roommate situation. "Help them, but only as much as they want to be helped" comes up early, and it holds up through the rest of the conversation. Budgeting gets its own segment, including the ten days of DoorDash during a COVID quarantine that no spreadsheet prepared them for. Communication comes up too, and how differently their two kids handled being away, from daily texts to the "proof of life" check-in Clancy had to establish herself. 📖 Our book is here! The Loud Quiet – Love, Laughter and Life in the Empty Nest https://www.theloudquiet.com If you've been through move-in day more than once, or you're staring down your first one, this is exactly the kind of thing we talk through in our Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theloudquiet 🎧 Find all episodes, podcast apps, and YouTube links here: https://www.theloudquiet.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro And Season Kickoff 01:03 Help Only As Much As Wanted 02:50 Building Furniture And Learning To Step Back 04:00 Get Off Campus, Let Emotions Surface 08:01 Two Kids, Two Very Different Move-Ins 10:06 Budgeting For The Unexpected 14:55 The Proof Of Life Text 17:26 Different Rhythms, Not Rejection 19:12 Communication Hacks That Actually Work 20:37 Listen First, Fix Rarely 21:14 Where The Line Really Sits 27:24 Campus Resources And What's Coming Next Want to be a guest on The Loud Quiet - Empty Nest Living? Send Rick and Clancy Denton a message on PodMatch: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/theloudquiethost Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed are those of the hosts and guests and should not be taken as legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult with a qualified attorney, financial advisor, or other professional regarding your specific situation. The opinions expressed by guests are solely theirs and do not necessarily represent the views or positions of the host(s).

  2. Jul 30

    Launching kids AND preparing empty nest parents the right way with Hanna Bankier E148

    How is the nest empty if you're still living in it? That question from Hanna Bankier is why we brought her on this week. Hanna runs Birdie Launcher, helping parents navigate launching their kids, and themselves, into whatever comes next. Her focus isn't the packing list. It's the relationship that has to get rebuilt once the packing's done. Hanna's website is a great place to start if any of this sounds familiar: https://www.birdylauncher.com/ Follow her on Instagram at birdylauncher. 📖 Our book is here! The Loud Quiet – Love, Laughter and Life in the Empty Nest https://www.theloudquiet.com If parenting a kid who's about to launch, or already has, sounds familiar, come talk about it with other empty nesters in our Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theloudquiet 🎧 Find all episodes, podcast apps, and YouTube links here: https://www.theloudquiet.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome And Meeting Hanna Bankier 01:04 Why She Named It Birdie Launcher 03:31 The Problem With Empty Nest 04:17 Only Seven Percent Of Parents Plan Ahead 07:39 Checklist Culture Versus Relational Work 11:05 Gen X Parents Finally Talking About It 12:35 Parenting Is Managing Your Own Anxiety 18:26 Will I Still Be Needed 20:40 The Pre-Launch Relational Gift Conversation 23:08 Rewriting Your Job Description As Parent 26:33 Marriage, Divorce Risk, And Siblings Left Behind 31:28 Where To Find Birdie Launcher Want to be a guest on The Loud Quiet - Empty Nest Living?Send Rick and Clancy Denton a message on PodMatch: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/theloudquiethost Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed are those of the hosts and guests and should not be taken as legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult with a qualified attorney, financial advisor, or other professional regarding your specific situation. The opinions expressed by guests are solely theirs and do not necessarily represent the views or positions of the host(s).

  3. Jul 23

    Empty nest marriage tune up and a bucket list band E147

    We went into a marriage conference this weekend thinking we didn't really need it. Decades of marriage will do that to you. That assumption got proven wrong fast, especially in a breakout session on parenting adult children. Then we capped the weekend off with something completely impulsive that had nothing to do with marriage advice and everything to do with a nineteen dollar ticket. If you want to look into your own love languages, and how they change over time, that's the book we keep coming back to: The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman https://amzn.to/3Rhf00d (Amazon affiliate link) Catch the episode mentioned in today's show 🎸I Want to See Them Before One Of Them Dies - E22 https://youtu.be/YG601NqlgW4 📖 Our book is here! The Loud Quiet – Love, Laughter and Life in the Empty Nest https://www.theloudquiet.com If parenting adult kids or getting a marriage tune up of your own sounds familiar, come talk about it with other empty nesters in our Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theloudquiet🎧 Find all episodes, podcast apps, and YouTube links here:https://www.theloudquiet.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Nearly Skipping The Marriage Conference 01:32 Feeling Too Experienced To Need Help 04:45 Every Couple Gets Something From It 08:23 Love Languages Now Have Dialects 09:37 How Gift Giving Preferences Change 13:09 Parenting Adult Kids Breakout Session 14:26 Releasing Kids From Holiday Expectations 15:28 Spiritual Intimacy In The Mundane Middle 19:02 The Marriage Tune Up Analogy 21:19 Finally Seeing Air Supply Live 24:24 Crying During Sweet Dreams 26:37 A Fun Night Capping The Weekend Want to be a guest on The Loud Quiet - Empty Nest Living?Send Rick and Clancy Denton a message on PodMatch:https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/theloudquiethost Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed are those of the hosts and guests and should not be taken as legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult with a qualified attorney, financial advisor, or other professional regarding your specific situation. The opinions expressed by guests are solely theirs and do not necessarily represent the views or positions of the host(s).

  4. Jul 16

    Empty Nester summer isn't summering E146

    We set an alarm for five forty this week. After a night out. Nobody made us do that. We keep saying we have more freedom than ever, so why does this summer feel busier than any before it. Turns out the empty nest doesn't erase old habits, it just removes the excuse for them. We're still keeping a schedule neither of us actually needs anymore. "We have this productivity addiction that we just can't turn off even when we can." By the end of this one, we're rethinking what a schedule is even for. 📖 Our book is here! The Loud Quiet – Love, Laughter and Life in the Empty Nest https://www.theloudquiet.com We're curious how many of you have actually managed to let a schedule go once the kids left, so come tell us in the group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theloudquiet 🎧 Find all episodes, podcast apps, and YouTube links here:https://www.theloudquiet.com CHAPTERS 00:05 Empty Nest Summer Feels Off 01:44 What Summering Actually Means 03:00 Kids Used To Set The Pace 05:19 Do We Romanticize Summer 06:12 World Cup Fills The Calendar 07:38 Camp Memories Versus Empty Nest Reality 11:15 The Productivity Addiction We Can't Quit 12:55 Becoming The Early Bird Retired Couple 14:32 Reclaiming Summer On Our Terms 16:12 Book Pick And Real Freedom Want to be a guest on The Loud Quiet - Empty Nest Living?Send Rick and Clancy Denton a message on PodMatch: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/theloudquiethost Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed are those of the hosts and guests and should not be taken as legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult with a qualified attorney, financial advisor, or other professional regarding your specific situation. The opinions expressed by guests are solely theirs and do not necessarily represent the views or positions of the host(s).

    Empty Nester summer isn't summering E146

  5. Jul 9

    Empty Nesters Talk Medical Procedures...some necessary, some elective E145

    Rick and Clancy are both mid-recovery and mid-appointment season, and this one gets into what that's actually like in our fifties.Between the two of them, this year alone brought a procedure Clancy had been putting off for years, a colonoscopy, and more skin checks than either of them expected to need yet. Some of it was elective. Some of it wasn't.Neither of them feels their age, but their test schedules keep suggesting otherwise. That gap between how they feel and what the doctors are asking of them runs through most of the conversation.They land on a distinction that reframes the whole thing: living longer isn't the goal. Staying able to do what they actually want to do is.📖 Our book is here! The Loud Quiet – Love, Laughter and Life in the Empty Nest. Get your free bonuses at https://www.theloudquiet.comIf any of this sounds familiar, come compare notes with people who get it.https://www.facebook.com/groups/theloudquiet🎧 Find all episodes, podcast apps, and YouTube links here:https://www.theloudquiet.comCHAPTERS00:00 Recovering From Recent Surgery00:48 The Original Mommy Makeover Story02:47 Implants Have An Expiration Date03:54 Choosing Not To Replace Implants07:57 Struggling With Recovery Restrictions09:32 Getting Caught By The Ring Doorbell12:05 Feeling Old And Sun Damage14:19 Daughter's First Pap Smear16:24 Living Better Instead Of Longer17:31 The Colonoscopy Experience And Prep18:56 Internal Fears Versus External Ones20:41 Get Your Screenings Scheduled NowWant to be a guest on The Loud Quiet - Empty Nest Living?Send Rick and Clancy Denton a message on PodMatch:https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/theloudquiethostDisclaimer: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed are those of the hosts and guests and should not be taken as legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult with a qualified attorney, financial advisor, or other professional regarding your specific situation. The opinions expressed by guests are solely theirs and do not necessarily represent the views or positions of the host(s).

  6. Jul 2

    Communicating better as empty nesters with Rebecca Mullen E144

    Communication breaks down in the same few places for almost every couple. This episode is about finding those places before they turn into a fight. Rebecca Mullen joins Rick and Clancy to talk about the three roles inside a marriage, partner, lover, and friend, and how easily one of them gets neglected once kids leave the house. The conversation moves into why couples assume their partner can read their mind, why apologies so often fall flat, and how something as small as the way you say hello can set the tone for everything else. Rebecca walks through her four steps to an apology that actually lands, the difference between a boundary and a punishment, and a simple shift in how you greet your person that took her over ninety days to see change. Rick and Clancy bring their own real moments into it, including one that traces straight back to an argument they processed on a recent episode. Want to dig into your own communication patterns? Come share what's coming up for you in the Facebook group.https://www.facebook.com/groups/theloudquiet 🎧 Find all episodes, podcast apps, and YouTube links here:https://www.theloudquiet.com CHAPTERS 0:00 Intro 1:32 Partner, Lover, and Friend Defined 2:22 Why the Partner Role Crowds Out the Lover 4:58 A Childhood Wound That Became Her Calling 6:49 What Empty Nesters Lose When Kids Leave 9:38 Mixing Up Friend Energy and Lover Energy 10:39 Why We Hesitate to Say Sorry 11:20 The Four Steps to a Real Apology 15:40 The Black Hole That Causes Most Confusion 20:07 Surviving Family Gatherings Without a Blowup 23:53 What We Actually Want From Each Other 25:28 The Hello That Sounds Like Goodbye 28:45 How Boundaries Actually Strengthen Love Here's where you can learn more from Rebecca. Get her free guide, 6 Steps to Better Marriage Communication: https://mcusercontent.com/4cf37118f97d708517b01dc3d/files/936bb894-d4c0-4ed7-2cdd-17843ccf7210/6_Steps_to_Better_Marriage_Communication_Additional_Resources.pdf Book 6 steps to better Marriage Communication by REbecca S. Mullen https://amzn.to/4vxIi9C (affiliate link) Listen to her podcast, Habits for Your Happily Ever After: https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/podcast/ Watch her TEDx Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/rebecca_mullen_the_vegetarian_the_hunter_creating_peace_at_the_dinner_table Join her newsletter: https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/mailing-list/ Her website: https://rebeccamullencoaching.com Want to be a guest on The Loud Quiet - Empty Nest Living?Send Rick and Clancy Denton a message on PodMatch: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/theloudquiethost Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed are those of the hosts and guests and should not be taken as legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult with a qualified attorney, financial advisor, or other professional regarding your specific situation. The opinions expressed by guests are solely theirs and do not necessarily represent the views or positions of the host(s).

  7. Jun 25

    World Cup Mania With The Empty Nesters E143

    The stadium they've seen a hundred times looks completely different through a stranger's eyes. Rick and Clancy talk World Cup fever in Dallas, from Rick's first match in 1994 to watching tourists fall for ranch dressing and a screen they stopped noticing years ago. The conversation moves through ticket prices, FIFA's reputation, and how different the sport felt before the US started hosting. It lands on something simpler: hosting gave them a reason to look at their own city again. 📖 Our book is here! The Loud Quiet – Love, Laughter and Life in the Empty Nest. https://www.theloudquiet.com Has the World Cup fever hit your city? Drop a comment and let us know.https://www.facebook.com/groups/theloudquiet 🎧 Find all episodes, podcast apps, and YouTube links here:https://www.theloudquiet.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome and Father's Day shoutout 01:39 Rick's first World Cup in 1994 06:54 Watching Dallas Stadium through European eyes 11:24 Ranch dressing and tourist food obsessions 17:00 Hosting changes how you see your own city 21:46 Other sports lost in the shuffle 22:37 Planning the Japan match with their son 26:42 Comparing 1994 expectations to now Want to be a guest on The Loud Quiet - Empty Nest Living?Send Rick and Clancy Denton a message on PodMatch:https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/theloudquiethost Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed are those of the hosts and guests and should not be taken as legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult with a qualified attorney, financial advisor, or other professional regarding your specific situation. The opinions expressed by guests are solely theirs and do not necessarily represent the views or positions of the host(s).

  8. Jun 18

    Empty Nesters Argue E142

    Three years into running a podcast together, Rick and Clancy are together constantly. That didn't stop them from arguing about cottage cheese, a dinner reservation in Spain, and a birthday gift for their son.None of those arguments were actually about the thing they were about.In this episode, Rick and Clancy walk through three real arguments unrehearsed, raw, on mic, in real time. What comes out underneath all three is the same: they hadn't been feeling heard by each other. And the deeper they go, the more they find the actual root cause. They've been going out, traveling, staying busy... but they can't remember the last time they went out alone, just the two of us. Proximity isn't connection. And the empty nest doesn't fix that automatically.📖 Our book is here. The Loud Quiet – Love, Laughter and Life in the Empty Nest. Grab it at https://www.theloudquiet.comIf the friction in your relationship has been showing up in unexpected places lately, come talk about it with other empty nesters in the Facebook group.https://www.facebook.com/groups/theloudquiet🎧 Find all episodes, podcast apps, and YouTube links here:https://www.theloudquiet.comCHAPTERS00:00 No Prep No Filter Just Us02:33 Argument One: The Cottage Cheese Incident06:13 When You've Already Asked Them to Stop09:33 The Real Theme: Not Feeling Heard10:28 Argument Two: The Spain Dinner Reservation15:58 Brain Fart vs. Not Listening17:50 Argument Three: The Spoiled Birthday Surprise22:08 Rick Takes the Hit on This One26:55 The Actual Root Cause: No Date Nights30:24 Clutter, Unsettledness, and What to Do NextWant to be a guest on The Loud Quiet - Empty Nest Living?Send Rick and Clancy Denton a message on PodMatch:https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/theloudquiethostDisclaimer: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed are those of the hosts and guests and should not be taken as legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult with a qualified attorney, financial advisor, or other professional regarding your specific situation. The opinions expressed by guests are solely theirs and do not necessarily represent the views or positions of the host(s).#relationships #marriage #recreation #podcast #EmptyNesters #EmptyNesting #Lifeafterkidsleave #Transitiontoanemptynest #Parentingjourney #Reinventingourselves #Newchapterinlife #Emptynestchallenges #Findingpurpose #Rediscoveringhobbies #Relationshipafterkids #Self-discovery #Preparingforanemptynest #Reconnectingasacouple #Growingtogetherafterkidsleave #Familydynamicsafterkidsleave #Supportsystemsforemptynesters #Tipsforsuccessfulemptynesting

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Empty nest thriving! Rick and Clancy have been enjoying life together since the 90s. Starting in Aug 2023, with two college-aged kiddos they entered Empty Nest Living. A quieter house than before...a loud quiet, indeed. Join them as they laugh and cry while trying to figure out how to live the empty nest. Tune in for relatable stories, navigating the ups and downs of empty nest life with humor about the empty nest journey. 📖 Our book is here! Get your copy of The Loud Quiet – Love, Laughter and Life in the Empty Nest, here: https://amzn.to/4sC0EV7 © EX4CX LLC. All rights reserved.

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    Rick and Clancy Denton | Empty Nester Life
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
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