In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

Alexa Andre - Sexologist and Relationship Expert
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The no-b******t sex and relationship podcast where sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) says everything you're too afraid to. Stop having mediocre sex and level up your game! 🎧 New episodes every week.

  1. 2d ago

    How to Know When It's Time to Leave a Relationship (or Fight for It) (ft. Gaby Balsells)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with clinical psychologist and relationship coach Gaby Balsells to unpack one of the hardest questions in love: how do you know whether to stay in a relationship or walk away? Together they explore: how to tell the difference between a temporary rough patch and true incompatibilitythe danger of ignoring red flags during the honeymoon phaseemotional vs. sexual compatibilitysettling vs. honoring your needstrusting your desireshealthy communicationovercoming defensivenessbecoming "us vs. the problem”emotional laborthe initiator/receiver dynamicwhy actions matter more than wordsconsistency over empty promisesrepairing conflict, couples therapy,sexual compatibility, mismatched libidos & feeling desiredknowing when you've waited long enoughguilt around leavingselective effort & weaponized incompetenceand why love alone isn't always enough Follow Gaby:Instagram: @gabybalsells Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

  2. Jul 16

    Vasectomies, ED, Fertility & Post-Nut Clarity (ft. Dr. Jed Kaminetsky)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with urologist Dr. Jed Kaminetsky to unpack everything you need to know about men's sexual health: from vasectomies, erectile dysfunction, testosterone, fertility, sperm count, pornography, performance anxiety, lifestyle habits, microplastics, prostate health, post-nut clarity, and why great sex is about so much more than penetration. In this episode, Dr. Jed shares insights from performing over 6,000 vasectomies, explains why vasectomies don't affect erections, orgasms, ejaculation, libido, or masculinity, and discusses who should (and shouldn't) get one. We also dive into why more young men are experiencing erectile dysfunction, the difference between psychological and physical ED, performance anxiety, refractory periods, Viagra vs. Cialis, low testosterone, healthy ways to increase testosterone naturally, pornography's impact on arousal, penis pumps and rings, fertility, declining sperm counts, microplastics, prostate health, ejaculation frequency, steroids, testosterone therapy, men's fears around penis size, micro-penis stigma, post-nut clarity and more. Topics discussed: ​Dr. Jed's experience performing 6,000+ vasectomies​Why vasectomies don't affect erections, orgasms, ejaculation or libido​Who should and shouldn't get a vasectomy​Vasectomy reversals and success rates​More childfree men choosing vasectomies​Psychological vs. physical erectile dysfunction​Performance anxiety and first-time sex nerves​What erectile dysfunction actually means​Lifestyle causes of ED (sleep, obesity, smoking, alcohol, exercise)​Stress, anxiety and blood flow to the penis​Refractory periods and why they change with age​Viagra, Cialis and how they work​Daily Cialis vs. as-needed dosing​Testosterone testing and common misconceptions​Natural ways to increase testosterone​Weightlifting vs. endurance running for hormone health​Penis pumps and c**k rings​Pornography, masturbation habits and sexual conditioning​Low libido vs. erectile dysfunction​Fertility, declining sperm counts and modern lifestyle​Microplastics and male fertility​Sauna use, heat exposure and sperm health​Prostate enlargement, prostate cancer and ejaculation research​Steroids, bodybuilding and infertility​Testosterone replacement therapy risks​Women's testosterone and libido​Post-nut clarity explained​Why men's physiology isn't an excuse to neglect a partner's orgasm​Communication, sex therapy and relationship dynamics​Micro-penis myths and penis size insecurity​Why erectile dysfunction is a symptom, not a disease Follow Dr. Jed:Instagram: @drjedkaminetsky Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2629-alexa

  3. Jul 9

    Former Sex Worker on Hiring a Male Escort, OnlyFans & the Loneliness Epidemic (ft. Coral Osborne)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Coral Osborne (@theunrealcoralosborne), sexologist, intimacy coach for men, former sex worker, and writer.  Coral shares how sex work has changed over the last decade, why the industry has become increasingly polarized, and why she believes decriminalization matters for safety and autonomy. She opens up about the realities behind influencer culture, escorting, OnlyFans, AI, the loneliness epidemic, and why becoming a content creator today is harder than ever. The conversation takes a deeply personal turn as Coral recounts hiring a male escort, what she hoped to experience, why it didn't unfold as expected, and what the experience revealed about vulnerability, performance, pleasure, and intimacy.  Topics discussed: The changing landscape of sex work over the past decadePolitical divides and hypocrisy within the sex industryEscort culture in Los Angeles, New York, Dubai, and Las VegasWhy older sex workers often earn more than younger onesThe rise of OnlyFans and if it’s easy to become a millionaireThe loneliness epidemic and why AI won't replace real intimacyBuilding an audience on social media without sacrificing integrityWriting vulnerable essays on SubstackWhy Coral hired a male escortWhat it felt like to be on the client side of sex workPerformance anxiety from a woman's perspectiveReceiving versus giving pleasureFaking orgasms and learning how to stop performingOral sex, vulnerability, and intimacyDating after leaving sex workMeeting her current boyfriend and navigating honesty early onWhy intimacy and transaction can coexistDouble standards around dating former sex workersLived experience versus academic credentials in sex educationWhy coaches should continue investing in their own healingUsing relationship tools like Yes/No/Maybe lists and relationship menusBringing curiosity and intentional communication into long-term relationships Follow Coral Osborne:Instagram: @theunrealcoralosborne Substack: https://substack.com/@coralosborne Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

  4. Jul 2

    P***y Worship 101: How to Give (and Receive) Pleasure Like a Pro (ft. Ashley Manta)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with sex educator, relationship coach, and OnlyFans creator Ashley Manta for a deep dive into p***y worship, oral sex, receiving pleasure, and what truly creates incredible sex. They discuss what p***y worship actually means, why enthusiasm and verbal reassurance matter and creating safety for the receiver. Topics covered: What p***y worship really isWhy enthusiasm changes everythingVerbal reassurance before oral sexCreating emotional safety during sexThe ideal 60-minute p***y worship sessionForeplay being needed before oral sexLabia massage techniquesConsent before penetrationPleasure-focused vs orgasm-focused sexTension orgasms vs relaxed orgasmsBetty Dodson's orgasm techniquesBreathing through orgasmWhy sex educators have higher standardsEscaping performative sexRaising your standards for pleasurePorn vs real-life sexLearning to receive instead of always givingOvercoming people-pleasing in bedMutual masturbation as educationGiving and receiving feedback during sexHormonal changes and changing preferencesPussy worship fantasiesBisexual experiences and women's play partiesBreast worship and body worshipToys during oral and hand sexWhy everyone should use lubeOral-anal hygiene tipsChoosing partners who prioritize your pleasure Follow Ashley Manta:Instagram: @cannasexual Website: pussywhisperer.coach Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2629-alexa

  5. Jun 25

    Pt.2 - 3 Sluts, 3 Moods: Cream Pies, P***y Health, & Feeling Chosen (Vee & Elle - Girls Gone Deep)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Vee and Elle from the Girls Gone Deep podcast for Part 2/2. Together they explore whether non-monogamy is really about unmet needs, what happens when a partner satisfies nearly everything you're looking for, the role of new relationship energy in long-term relationships, primary partnerships versus non-hierarchical polyamory, freedom and autonomy in love, catching feelings for people who aren't a match, maintaining boundaries despite intense attraction, and the science behind oxytocin, dopamine, attachment, and post-sex bonding. They also unpack cream pies, breeding kinks, ownership versus feeling chosen, BDSM dynamics, worship, possessiveness, fertility awareness methods, Oura Ring tracking, vasectomies, accidental pregnancy stories, relationship satisfaction, energetic pleasure, arousal, and what it really means to build a "bulletproof p***y." Topics Discussed Whether non-monogamy is fundamentally about unmet needsCan one person satisfy all your emotional, sexual, and relational needs?New relationship energy (NRE) and its role in long-term relationshipsCatching feelings for people who aren't a good matchOxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, and attachment after sexBacterial vaginosis (BV): causes, treatment, recurrence, and preventionYeast infections and recurring vaginal health issuesGut health's connection to vaginal healthCreating a “bulletproof p***y”Sleep, alcohol, drugs and sexUTIs and post-sex hygieneSelf-checking vaginal health through scent and tasteCream pies, breeding kinks, and why people find them attractiveAccidental pregnancy storiesOwnership, possessiveness, worship, and feeling chosenBDSM dynamics and core desires in sex Follow Girls Gone Deep:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

  6. Jun 18

    Pt. 1 - 3 Sluts, 3 Moods: Postpartum Sex, Polyamory & Childfree Dating (Vee & Elle - Girls Gone Deep)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Vee and Elle from the Girls Gone Deep podcast for an honest conversation about sexuality, identity, motherhood, non-monogamy, desire, dating, pleasure, and why "sluthood" has nothing to do with how much sex you're having. Together they explore whether you can still be a slut while celibate, the difference between sex positivity and sluthood, and why owning your desires without shame is at the heart of sexual empowerment. Topics Covered: • Why "sluthood" is a mindset, not a body count• Sex positivity vs. sluthood• Owning sexual desires and boundaries• Polyamory and relationship de-escalation• Solo poly life and finding a new primary partner• BDSM dynamics, D/s relationships, and sexual compatibility• Playing together vs. playing separately in non-monogamous relationships• Feeling sexually satiated in long-term partnerships• Asexuality, demisexuality, and the ace spectrum• Whether you can be an asexual slut• Anonymous sex vs. sex with emotional connection• Sex parties and sex-positive communities• Building trust, safety, and desire with recurring partners• Female arousal, nervous system safety, and orgasm• Why one pregnancy can feel completely different from another• Postpartum sexuality and loss of desire• Returning to sex after giving birth• Masturbation during pregnancy and postpartum• First postpartum orgasms and sexual rediscovery• Oral sex, receiving pleasure, and people-pleasing tendencies• Why some women struggle to receive• "Real eaters" and enthusiastic oral sex partners• The psychology of receiving pleasure• The Wheel of Consent• Foreplay, full-body arousal, and erotic anticipation• Female desire and what actually creates arousal• Grinding, making out, and erotic tension• Bad kissers and sexual compatibility• What makes oral sex feel incredible• Leaving casual sex behind• Dating with intention• Childfree dating and relationship dealbreaker• Having sex on the first date• Slow burns versus instant chemistry• Building tension before sex• Boundaries, self-control, and emotional attachment• Future sexual adventures and lifestyle goals Follow Girls Gone Deep:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2624-alexa

  7. Jun 11

    The Conversation About Porn We're Too Afraid to Have (ft. Noelle Perdue)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with porn historian, writer, and adult industry expert Noelle Perdue for a fascinating conversation about pornography, fantasy, sexuality, kink, technology, trauma, aging, relationships, and the hidden ways porn shapes our world. Noelle shares her unlikely journey from software developer to porn scriptwriter, her work with Pornhub and the adult industry, and why she believes pornography is one of the most misunderstood cultural forces of our time. Together, Alexa and Noelle unpack the relationship between porn and real-life sexuality, whether porn influences behavior, the myths surrounding porn addiction, the role of fantasy, kink exploration, sex education, censorship, free speech, technology, consent, and how pornography impacts legislation, culture, and online platforms. The conversation also explores giantess fetishism, size kink culture, porn parodies, queer sexuality, healing after sexual trauma, alternative forms of intimacy, body image, aging, MILF culture, hookup communication, sex work, human trafficking misconceptions, and why people are often far more sexually diverse than they realize. Whether you're curious about porn's role in society, interested in sexual exploration, or simply want a deeper understanding of human desire, this episode offers an honest, nuanced, and thought-provoking perspective. Topics discussed: • How Noelle became a porn historian• Leaving tech to write porn scripts• Writing porn parodies for major studios• Working with Brazzers and Pornhub• Pornography's influence on technology and culture• Section 230 explained• FOSTA-SESTA and online censorship• Sex work vs. human trafficking• Porn and free speech debates• Does porn affect relationships?• Porn addiction and dependency myths• Porn as a tool for exploration• Why porn should not replace sex education• Fantasy vs. reality in sexual desire• The dangers of using porn as sex ed• Giantess fetish and SizeCon• Expansion fetishes and breast expansion• Vore and consumption fantasies• Alternative forms of intimacy• Expansive definitions of sex• Communicating desires with partners• Casual sex and queer relationship dynamics• Why sexual communication matters• The popularity of MILF content• Body diversity in porn• Criticisms of pornography• The "teen" category debate• Pornography as a reflection of culture• Sexual violence and porn studies• Gooning culture explained Follow Noelle:Instagram: @all_day_breakfast_ Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

  8. Jun 4

    The Ethics of Public Sex: Consent, Kink & Social Norms (ft. Tara Michaela)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator Tara Michaela for a nuanced conversation about the ethics of public sex, public play, PDA, kink visibility, consent, social norms, and why society struggles to define where the line actually is. Together they unpack whether public sexuality is inherently unethical, why people are drawn to public play and exhibitionism, the role of novelty and desire, and how context changes our perception of what's acceptable. They explore everything from making out in public, wearable vibrators, public bathrooms, sex in cars, beach hookups, PDA at parties, BDSM at Pride, leash dynamics in public spaces, sex-positive parenting, children witnessing nontraditional expressions of sexuality, consent education, sex negativity, and the difference between legality and ethics. They also discuss whether bystanders can truly consent to what they encounter in public, how social norms shape our reactions to sexuality, why people react so strongly online, how consent is often taught as a black-and-white concept despite living in gray areas, and why intent and impact both matter in conversations about consent violations. Topics discussed: • public sex vs. public play• PDA, making out, and cultural attitudes toward affection• Why public play is exciting and appealing• Novelty, desire, exhibitionism, and fantasy fulfillment• Wearable vibrators and remote-control sex toys in public• The ethics of public sexual behavior• Consent and uninvolved bystanders• Social norms versus personal freedom• The difference between legality and morality• Being the "naked neighbor" and visibility at home• BDSM visibility in public spaces• Kink at Pride and public kink discourse• Walking a submissive on a leash in public• Public conversations about sex and sexual experiences• Elevator conversations, social etiquette, and discomfort• Consent education and its limitations• Intent versus impact in consent violations• Ethical gray areas in sexuality• Sex on the beach and secluded public spaces• Sex in cars and privacy expectations• Public bathrooms and ethical considerations• PDA at parties, raves, and social gatherings• Exhibitionism and safer alternatives• Sex parties and kink events as consensual spaces• Online outrage and reactions to sexual content• How sexuality can challenge and change social norms Follow Tara:Instagram: @yourexgirlfriendtara Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2624-alexa

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The no-b******t sex and relationship podcast where sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) says everything you're too afraid to. Stop having mediocre sex and level up your game! 🎧 New episodes every week.

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  • Creator
    Alexa Andre - Sexologist and Relationship Expert
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    115
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Alexa Andre - Sexologist and Relationship Expert
  • Show Website
    In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

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