In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

Alexa Andre - Sexologist and Relationship Expert
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The no-b******t sex and relationship podcast where sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) says everything you're too afraid to. Stop having mediocre sex and level up your game! 🎧 New episodes every week.

  1. 2d ago

    I Asked a Butt Surgeon Every Question You're Too Embarrassed to Ask - Pt. 2 (ft. Dr. Evan Goldstein)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in back bed with Dr. Evan Goldstein, founder of Bespoke Surgical, creator of Future Method, and author of Butt Seriously. They discuss anal health, pleasure, preparation, and all the questions people are often too embarrassed to ask. Topics discussed in this episode: Anal pleasure and breaking down taboos and mythsExploring anal stimulation for the first timeThe P-spot/prostate and prostate orgasmsThe A-spot and anal pleasure for womenTopping vs. bottomingWhy tops should understand anal anatomyAnal foreplay and gradual penetrationThe three sphincter musclesBreathing, relaxation and communicationPain, bleeding and discomfort during anal sexLube and why anal sex differs from vaginal sexPenis size, thickness and anatomyMushroom-shaped penises and preparationBad first anal experiencesSelf-exploration and masturbationPressure vs. in-and-out stimulationRiding and controlling penetrationDilators and gradual anal trainingAnatomy vs. psychological/neurological factorsBleeding, tightness and when to seek medical carePoop during anal sexShame and anxiety around cleanlinessDouching and over-douchingGut health, fiber and dietPrebiotics and probioticsFood and how diet can affect anal sexCondoms and anal sexPrEP and DoxyPEPThe “toy test” after douchingHemorrhoids and what they actually areFissures and skin tagsPegging and strap-on playProstate massage and prostate milkingEdging and gooningAnal Botox and pelvic floor physical therapyButt facialsButt acne, ingrown hairs and hair removalWet wipes and anal irritationBidets and portable bidetsToilet paper vs. water-based cleaningEvan's work with Bespoke Surgical and Future Method Follow Dr. G:Instagram: @drevangoldstein | @bespokesurgical | @thefuturemethod Website and more: Bespoke Surgical Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2633-alexa

  2. Aug 6

    I Asked a Butt Surgeon Every Question You're Too Embarrassed to Ask (ft. Dr. Evan Goldstein)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Dr. Evan Goldstein, founder of Bespoke Surgical, creator of Future Method, and author of Butt Seriously. They do a deep dive into anal sex, butt health, and everything you've always wanted to ask about your a*****e. Topics Discussed Dr. Evan Goldstein's journey from heart surgery to anal surgeryComing out and discovering anal health as a medical specialtyCosmetic vs. functional anal proceduresHemorrhoids, fissures, skin tags, and anal anatomyPost-pregnancy anal changesGrooming injuries and anal skin concernsConfidence and body image around the anusAnal bleaching and whether it's worth itPerineum "sunning"What makes a "healthy" vs. "perfect" assholeThe truth about anal douchingProtecting the anal microbiomeWhy over-douching can increase STI and HIV riskFuture Method and isotonic douchingSafe products to use in the anusCan anal sex make you loose?Incontinence mythsMale vs. female pelvic anatomyAnal BotoxWhen surgery is necessaryDilators for beginnersFingering mistakes that cause injuriesProper lubricationRelaxation techniques for anal penetrationUnderstanding the three anal sphinctersThe three "types" of assholesBuilding up to anal safelyHow often bottoms should practiceFiber, probiotics, hydration, and digestive healthWhether everyone needs to douchePreparing for occasional anal sexThe prostate (P-spot)The A-spotProstate orgasmsCommon myths surrounding anal sexHow to reduce injury while maximizing pleasure Follow Dr. G:Instagram: @drevangoldstein | @bespokesurgical | @thefuturemethod Website and more: Bespoke Surgical Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

  3. Jul 30

    How Written Erotica Can Completely Change Your Sex Life (ft. Carly Pifer)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Carly, founder of Read Aurore, to talk about why written erotica is becoming one of the most powerful tools for pleasure, communication and self-discovery.  Together they explore how true erotic stories differ from fantasy, why women are increasingly choosing erotica over visual porn, the psychology behind imagination and desire, how writing about sex can help process emotions and improve communication, and how reading erotica can inspire better sex and stronger relationships. Topics discussed: Carly's path to creating Aurora EroticaInterviewing strangers about sexDating in Europe vs New YorkVacation confidence and sexual freedomWhy true stories are hotter than fantasyTurning real experiences into eroticaWriting as emotional processingFirst-time sex that is actually goodWhy men should read eroticaWomen's real sexual desiresAffairs and taboo fantasiesOpen relationships vs secret affairHow Aurore selects submissionsWriting as therapyRewriting difficult experiencesSmut vs eroticaRomance vs eroticaThe decline in Gen Z sexual activityBenefits of reading eroticaBenefits of writing eroticaReliving pleasurable experiencesReading erotica together as foreplay Follow Carly:Instagram: @readaurore Website: readaurore.com Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2629-alexa

  4. Jul 23

    How to Know When It's Time to Leave a Relationship (or Fight for It) (ft. Gaby Balsells)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with clinical psychologist and relationship coach Gaby Balsells to unpack one of the hardest questions in love: how do you know whether to stay in a relationship or walk away? Together they explore: how to tell the difference between a temporary rough patch and true incompatibilitythe danger of ignoring red flags during the honeymoon phaseemotional vs. sexual compatibilitysettling vs. honoring your needstrusting your desireshealthy communicationovercoming defensivenessbecoming "us vs. the problem”emotional laborthe initiator/receiver dynamicwhy actions matter more than wordsconsistency over empty promisesrepairing conflict, couples therapy,sexual compatibility, mismatched libidos & feeling desiredknowing when you've waited long enoughguilt around leavingselective effort & weaponized incompetenceand why love alone isn't always enough Follow Gaby:Instagram: @gabybalsells Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

  5. Jul 16

    Vasectomies, ED, Fertility & Post-Nut Clarity (ft. Dr. Jed Kaminetsky)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with urologist Dr. Jed Kaminetsky to unpack everything you need to know about men's sexual health: from vasectomies, erectile dysfunction, testosterone, fertility, sperm count, pornography, performance anxiety, lifestyle habits, microplastics, prostate health, post-nut clarity, and why great sex is about so much more than penetration. In this episode, Dr. Jed shares insights from performing over 6,000 vasectomies, explains why vasectomies don't affect erections, orgasms, ejaculation, libido, or masculinity, and discusses who should (and shouldn't) get one. We also dive into why more young men are experiencing erectile dysfunction, the difference between psychological and physical ED, performance anxiety, refractory periods, Viagra vs. Cialis, low testosterone, healthy ways to increase testosterone naturally, pornography's impact on arousal, penis pumps and rings, fertility, declining sperm counts, microplastics, prostate health, ejaculation frequency, steroids, testosterone therapy, men's fears around penis size, micro-penis stigma, post-nut clarity and more. Topics discussed: ​Dr. Jed's experience performing 6,000+ vasectomies​Why vasectomies don't affect erections, orgasms, ejaculation or libido​Who should and shouldn't get a vasectomy​Vasectomy reversals and success rates​More childfree men choosing vasectomies​Psychological vs. physical erectile dysfunction​Performance anxiety and first-time sex nerves​What erectile dysfunction actually means​Lifestyle causes of ED (sleep, obesity, smoking, alcohol, exercise)​Stress, anxiety and blood flow to the penis​Refractory periods and why they change with age​Viagra, Cialis and how they work​Daily Cialis vs. as-needed dosing​Testosterone testing and common misconceptions​Natural ways to increase testosterone​Weightlifting vs. endurance running for hormone health​Penis pumps and c**k rings​Pornography, masturbation habits and sexual conditioning​Low libido vs. erectile dysfunction​Fertility, declining sperm counts and modern lifestyle​Microplastics and male fertility​Sauna use, heat exposure and sperm health​Prostate enlargement, prostate cancer and ejaculation research​Steroids, bodybuilding and infertility​Testosterone replacement therapy risks​Women's testosterone and libido​Post-nut clarity explained​Why men's physiology isn't an excuse to neglect a partner's orgasm​Communication, sex therapy and relationship dynamics​Micro-penis myths and penis size insecurity​Why erectile dysfunction is a symptom, not a disease Follow Dr. Jed:Instagram: @drjedkaminetsky Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2629-alexa

  6. Jul 9

    Former Sex Worker on Hiring a Male Escort, OnlyFans & the Loneliness Epidemic (ft. Coral Osborne)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Coral Osborne (@theunrealcoralosborne), sexologist, intimacy coach for men, former sex worker, and writer.  Coral shares how sex work has changed over the last decade, why the industry has become increasingly polarized, and why she believes decriminalization matters for safety and autonomy. She opens up about the realities behind influencer culture, escorting, OnlyFans, AI, the loneliness epidemic, and why becoming a content creator today is harder than ever. The conversation takes a deeply personal turn as Coral recounts hiring a male escort, what she hoped to experience, why it didn't unfold as expected, and what the experience revealed about vulnerability, performance, pleasure, and intimacy.  Topics discussed: The changing landscape of sex work over the past decadePolitical divides and hypocrisy within the sex industryEscort culture in Los Angeles, New York, Dubai, and Las VegasWhy older sex workers often earn more than younger onesThe rise of OnlyFans and if it’s easy to become a millionaireThe loneliness epidemic and why AI won't replace real intimacyBuilding an audience on social media without sacrificing integrityWriting vulnerable essays on SubstackWhy Coral hired a male escortWhat it felt like to be on the client side of sex workPerformance anxiety from a woman's perspectiveReceiving versus giving pleasureFaking orgasms and learning how to stop performingOral sex, vulnerability, and intimacyDating after leaving sex workMeeting her current boyfriend and navigating honesty early onWhy intimacy and transaction can coexistDouble standards around dating former sex workersLived experience versus academic credentials in sex educationWhy coaches should continue investing in their own healingUsing relationship tools like Yes/No/Maybe lists and relationship menusBringing curiosity and intentional communication into long-term relationships Follow Coral Osborne:Instagram: @theunrealcoralosborne Substack: https://substack.com/@coralosborne Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

  7. Jul 2

    P***y Worship 101: How to Give (and Receive) Pleasure Like a Pro (ft. Ashley Manta)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with sex educator, relationship coach, and OnlyFans creator Ashley Manta for a deep dive into p***y worship, oral sex, receiving pleasure, and what truly creates incredible sex. They discuss what p***y worship actually means, why enthusiasm and verbal reassurance matter and creating safety for the receiver. Topics covered: What p***y worship really isWhy enthusiasm changes everythingVerbal reassurance before oral sexCreating emotional safety during sexThe ideal 60-minute p***y worship sessionForeplay being needed before oral sexLabia massage techniquesConsent before penetrationPleasure-focused vs orgasm-focused sexTension orgasms vs relaxed orgasmsBetty Dodson's orgasm techniquesBreathing through orgasmWhy sex educators have higher standardsEscaping performative sexRaising your standards for pleasurePorn vs real-life sexLearning to receive instead of always givingOvercoming people-pleasing in bedMutual masturbation as educationGiving and receiving feedback during sexHormonal changes and changing preferencesPussy worship fantasiesBisexual experiences and women's play partiesBreast worship and body worshipToys during oral and hand sexWhy everyone should use lubeOral-anal hygiene tipsChoosing partners who prioritize your pleasure Follow Ashley Manta:Instagram: @cannasexual Website: pussywhisperer.coach Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2629-alexa

  8. Jun 25

    Pt.2 - 3 Sluts, 3 Moods: Cream Pies, P***y Health, & Feeling Chosen (Vee & Elle - Girls Gone Deep)

    Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Vee and Elle from the Girls Gone Deep podcast for Part 2/2. Together they explore whether non-monogamy is really about unmet needs, what happens when a partner satisfies nearly everything you're looking for, the role of new relationship energy in long-term relationships, primary partnerships versus non-hierarchical polyamory, freedom and autonomy in love, catching feelings for people who aren't a match, maintaining boundaries despite intense attraction, and the science behind oxytocin, dopamine, attachment, and post-sex bonding. They also unpack cream pies, breeding kinks, ownership versus feeling chosen, BDSM dynamics, worship, possessiveness, fertility awareness methods, Oura Ring tracking, vasectomies, accidental pregnancy stories, relationship satisfaction, energetic pleasure, arousal, and what it really means to build a "bulletproof p***y." Topics Discussed Whether non-monogamy is fundamentally about unmet needsCan one person satisfy all your emotional, sexual, and relational needs?New relationship energy (NRE) and its role in long-term relationshipsCatching feelings for people who aren't a good matchOxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, and attachment after sexBacterial vaginosis (BV): causes, treatment, recurrence, and preventionYeast infections and recurring vaginal health issuesGut health's connection to vaginal healthCreating a “bulletproof p***y”Sleep, alcohol, drugs and sexUTIs and post-sex hygieneSelf-checking vaginal health through scent and tasteCream pies, breeding kinks, and why people find them attractiveAccidental pregnancy storiesOwnership, possessiveness, worship, and feeling chosenBDSM dynamics and core desires in sex Follow Girls Gone Deep:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

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The no-b******t sex and relationship podcast where sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) says everything you're too afraid to. Stop having mediocre sex and level up your game! 🎧 New episodes every week.

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  • Creator
    Alexa Andre - Sexologist and Relationship Expert
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    118
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Alexa Andre - Sexologist and Relationship Expert
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    In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

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