Forgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through Forgiveness

Dr. Carron Silva: Forgiveness Guide, Christian Trauma Coach

Are you struggling to forgive yourself? Do you hold a grudge against someone who harmed you physically, emotionally, or mentally? Do you find it hard to forgive the adults in your life who were supposed to protect you, but didn’t? Do you hold resentment against a whole class of people because you’ve been discriminated against? I’VE BEEN THERE. I KNOW. I’m Dr. Carron Silva, Your Forgiveness Guide. As a woman of faith, I’ve spent the last 30 years seeking healing for sexual, physical, and emotional abuse, and healing from racial discrimination. What I’ve learned is that therapy could only take me so far. I believe that FORGIVENESS IS THE WAY TO INTERIOR FREEDOM, but we cannot do it alone. We need God, and in particular, Jesus, the Divine Physician, with the love of the Holy Spirit, to help us through a process of forgiveness. On this podcast, I talk about all the things that help you develop a lifelong skill of forgiveness and empower you to forgive yourself, others, and God. As a Certified Wholeness and Catholic Mindset Coach, I help you to navigate emotionally challenging situations, cultivate resilience after trauma, and in a nurturing emotionally safe, empathic, nonjudgmental, confidential coaching relationship. Why wait? Freedom starts now. Here’s what you can do: Connect: Schedule a FREE consultation with me at www.drcarron.com Study: Want to explore forgiveness on your own time before digging deep? Sign up for my 5 Days to Forgiveness Self-Guided Mini Audio Retreat. https://drcarron.kartra.com/page/forgiveness-audio-retreat Receive: Invite me to your church or small faith-sharing group for a talk or half-day virtual or in-person forgiveness at info@drcarron.com

  1. 6d ago

    S3E23: Created for Love: Restoring Authentic Desire in a Pornified Culture

    Friends,  In this episode, I sit down with Catholic Coach, Husband, and Father, Andrew Lanchoney, to discuss the impact of pornography on the human person and the journey toward healing and freedom.   Together, we explore the deeper questions beneath pornography use: What are we really searching for? Why do so many people feel stuck? And how do we begin restoring authentic desire in a culture that often reduces people to objects for consumption? Drawing on the wisdom of St. John Paul II's Theology of the Body, this conversation offers hope for anyone who has struggled personally, loves someone who has, or wants to better understand the cultural forces shaping our view of human dignity. Freedom is possible. Healing is possible, and authentic love begins when we recognize that we were created for love, not use. Andrew’s Links:  Email: alanchoney@gmail.com  Website: https://www.andrewlanchoneycoaching.com/ Reference: Theology of the Body: https://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/natural-family-planning/catholic-teaching/theology-of-the-body Are you a Christian woman 40+ who has done all the things to heal from trauma and betrayal, but knows deep down forgiveness is still incomplete? Join us for the Freedom to Forgive Masterclass: A Journey of Healing, Release, and Renewal starting tomorrow. Click HERE to learn more and register. Connect with Dr. Carron       Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift       Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin      Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: Follow / Subscribe Share with someone who needs hope Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 How to Leave an Apple Review Open the Apple Podcasts app Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU Tap the show (not an episode) Scroll to Ratings & Reviews Tap Write a Review Credits Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

    28 min
  2. Jun 2

    S3E22 Tips for Overcoming Forgiveness Anxiety

    Friends, What if the anxiety you feel around forgiveness isn’t resistance… but protection? In this episode I explore the very real fear, confusion, and nervous system responses that can surface when we begin considering forgiveness after trauma, betrayal, abuse, or deep emotional pain. Forgiveness is often presented as simple or immediate, but for many people, the thought of forgiving can activate shame, panic, dissociation, hypervigilance, or emotional overwhelm. Why? Because our bodies remember what happened, even when our minds try to move on. Drawing from trauma research, somatic healing principles, and Christian spirituality, I explain how forgiveness anxiety may actually be a signal that deeper healing and safety are needed first. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why forgiveness can feel unsafe in the body How trauma responses impact our ability to forgive The connection between embodiment, emotional safety, and interior freedom Why misunderstanding forgiveness keeps many people stuck The difference between authentic forgiveness and forced forgiveness How unresolved trauma can manifest physically through chronic stress and mind-body symptoms Why becoming a “student of forgiveness” can reduce fear and confusion References:  van der Kolk, Bessel A. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books, 2015. [1, 2]  Levine, P. Retrieved from YouTube, May 26, 2026  https://youtu.be/e4If-3mQtLA?si=KWMOhhWWR_z2KYE4 If forgiveness has felt overwhelming, unsafe, or impossible, this episode offers a gentler path forward — one rooted in honesty, nervous system awareness, compassion, and healing. Are you: A high-achieving Christian woman? Survivor of Trauma and Betrayal? Have done all the things - therapy, wellness classes, spiritual growth practices? And still feel like something is missing? Join us for the Freedom to Forgive Masterclass: A Journey of Healing, Release, and Renewal. We start next Wednesday! Connect with Dr. Carron Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: Follow / Subscribe Share with someone who needs hope Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 How to Leave an Apple Review Open the Apple Podcasts app Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU Tap the show (not an episode) Scroll to Ratings & Reviews Tap Write a Review Credits Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

    16 min
  3. May 26

    S3E21 Why Forgiveness Can Feel So Scary

    *Content Warning* This episode contains mature content not suitable for minors. Please use discretion when listening.  Friends,  In this episode, I explore one of the most difficult and rarely discussed questions surrounding forgiveness: Who will I be if I let go of unforgiveness? For many people, unforgiveness is not simply an emotional response to pain. It becomes intertwined with identity, safety, survival, and even spirituality. When we’ve lived for years inside betrayal, abuse, abandonment, or grief, forgiveness can feel less like freedom and more like losing ourselves. In this episode, I share my own journey through childhood sexual abuse recovery and explore: how wounding can become part of our identity, why the nervous system resists unfamiliar peace, the attachment we develop to our personal stories, the spiritual pressure many Christians feel around forgiveness, and how repeated emotional patterns shape the brain over time. If forgiveness feels scary to you, you are not broken. You may simply be standing at a crossroads between survival and freedom. This episode offers compassion, insight, and hope for those who feel stuck in resentment, grief, fear, or confusion around forgiveness. Reference(s): Van Der Kolk, B.A., The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books, 2015. Learn more about the Freedom to Forgive Masterclass: A Journey of Healing, Release & Renewal.  Connect with Dr. Carron Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: Follow / Subscribe Share with someone who needs hope Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 How to Leave an Apple Review Open the Apple Podcasts app Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU Tap the show (not an episode) Scroll to Ratings & Reviews Tap Write a Review Credits Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

    20 min
  4. May 19

    S3E20 Fighting for Hope: Veteran Suicide and the Battle for Belonging

    Friends,  As Memorial Day approaches, we pause to remember the men and women who gave their lives in service to our country. But there is another group of veterans quietly fighting battles long after deployment ends, those struggling to transition home, find belonging, and rediscover hope in civilian life. In this deeply important conversation, I’m joined by retired Lt. Colonel John Garcia, host of the Regiment of the Cross podcast, to discuss the invisible struggles many veterans face after returning home from service. John shares the heartbreaking realities surrounding veteran suicide, the emotional and psychological challenges of transitioning into civilian society, and the ways advocacy, agriculture, storytelling, and authentic human connection can help restore dignity, purpose, and hope. Together, we explore: Why the transition home can feel isolating and disorienting The importance of belonging and being truly seen The emotional toll of military service and reintegration The alarming statistics surrounding veteran suicide How civilians can better support veterans in their communities Why storytelling and meaningful work can become pathways to healing This episode is both a Memorial Day reflection and a call to greater compassion, awareness, and connection. If you know someone serving in the military, transitioning home, or quietly struggling, please share this conversation with them. Connect with John Garcia Listen to the Regiment of the Cross podcast Email: regimentofthecross@gmail.com Connect with Dr. Carron Interested in joining Dr. Carron for a forgiveness Masterclass this summer? Join the Freedom to Forgive Interested List. This course is for Christian women 50+ who have survived trauma, spent years in therapy, are living good lives, but still feel something is missing. In this course, we will journey together through a process of healing, release and renewal.  Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Limited spots available. Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: Follow / Subscribe Share with someone who needs hope Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 How to Leave an Apple Review Open the Apple Podcasts app Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU Tap the show (not an episode) Scroll to Ratings & Reviews Tap Write a Review Credits Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

    44 min
  5. May 12

    S3E19 When the System Wounds, Who Do We Forgive?

    Friends,  In a world marked by division, violence, and deep injustice, the question of forgiveness becomes anything but simple. In this deeply personal episode, I reflects on my lived experience of Apartheid, a system that shaped my childhood, understanding of safety, and relationship to truth.  As global events echo familiar patterns of oppression and silenced voices, this episode explores what it means to hold both grief and compassion simultaneously.  Through the life and witness of Nelson Mandela, a man who moved from prisoner to president and chose forgiveness in the face of profound injustice, we are invited into a difficult, necessary question: Who do we forgive when the system itself is the wound? This conversation doesn’t offer easy answers. Instead, it creates space to reflect on: Trauma stored in the body and how it resurfaces The impact of hidden or distorted history The tension between justice and forgiveness The role of our shared humanity (Ubuntu) in healing Why forgiveness begins with people, not systems “Systems are made of people, and when people change, systems change.” Whether you are carrying personal wounds or witnessing injustice in the world around you, this episode invites you to consider one small but powerful step: Who is one person you might be ready to forgive? Reference(s) https://www.facebook.com/amarchivepub/videos/nelson-mandela-on-imprisonment-and-forgiveness-1991/2187579574982773/ https://youtu.be/hnpIyHzHukc?si=XF8MP2tISiITmP4M Connect with Dr. Carron Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: Follow / Subscribe Share with someone who needs hope Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 How to Leave an Apple Review Open the Apple Podcasts app Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU Tap the show (not an episode) Scroll to Ratings & Reviews Tap Write a Review Credits Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

    22 min
  6. May 5

    S3E18 Loving an Alcoholic: Healing the Hidden Wounds Left Behind

    Friends,  What does it do to your heart, your body, and your sense of safety to love someone struggling with alcohol use? In this episode, I’m joined by holistic health and fitness coach Tresa Salters, who shares her story of loving a spouse with alcohol use disorder, and the lasting impact it had on her mental, physical, and spiritual health. While much of the conversation around addiction focuses on the person struggling, this episode turns the lens toward the spouse and family members who are often left carrying unseen wounds. Tresa opens up about the moment she knew something had to change, how she began protecting herself and her children, and what true healing has looked like in the years since. If you’ve ever felt the ripple effects of someone else’s addiction, this conversation will remind you that your healing matters too. Tresa's Links Website: www.livewellwithtresa.com Substack: https://substack.com/@tresarolandosalters FB: https://www.facebook.com/tresa.rolando.salters IG: https://www.instagram.com/livewellwithtresa/ Freebie: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/coffe-chatl7uvjx Connect with Dr. Carron Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: Follow / Subscribe Share with someone who needs hope Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 How to Leave an Apple Review Open the Apple Podcasts app Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU Tap the show (not an episode) Scroll to Ratings & Reviews Tap Write a Review Credits Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

    33 min
  7. Apr 28

    S3E17 Forgiveness After Infidelity: Healing From Divorce

    Friends,  In today’s episode of Forgiveness Is for YOU, I’m joined by forgiveness coach Abigail Sikes, who shares her story of forgiving her ex-husband nearly nine years after their divorce Abigail shares how God redeemed the pain of divorce by calling her into forgiveness ministry.  In this conversation, we talk about: How infidelity leaves wounds that don’t quickly resolve The physical cost of unforgiveness The emotional (and even physical) cost of holding onto resentment What forgiveness actually looks like in real life, not just in theory And how healing begins, even when you don’t feel ready If you’ve ever felt pressure to “just move on,”  this episode gives you permission to pause and forgive from the heart.  Abigail's Link(s): Website: https://forgivinggifts.com/ Reclaim YOU: https://reclaimyou.us/my-story Connect with Dr. Carron Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: Follow / Subscribe Share with someone who needs hope Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 How to Leave an Apple Review Open the Apple Podcasts app Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU Tap the show (not an episode) Scroll to Ratings & Reviews Tap Write a Review Credits Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

    33 min
  8. Apr 21

    S3E16 Divorced but Still Catholic? Demystiyfing Annulment with Theresa Matters

    Friends,  When a marriage ends, many Catholics are left asking: Where do I belong now? Am I still part of the Church? And can I ever remarry? In this episode, we explore the reality of divorce through the lens of the Catholic faith and the often misunderstood annulment process. My guest, Theresa Matters, shares her personal journey through divorce and her experience seeking an annulment, and offers insight into how the Church carefully examines the validity of a marriage and what it means to find freedom, clarity, and healing on the other side. Whether you are: A Catholic navigating life after divorce Considering the annulment process Or simply curious about what the Church actually teaches This episode will help you understand the truth and the compassion at the heart of the Church. In This Episode, We Cover: What the Catholic Church teaches about marriage and divorce The difference between divorce and annulment Common misconceptions about annulments (“Is it just Catholic divorce?”) What the annulment process actually looks like How to know if you might be eligible A personal story of healing and starting over Theresa's Links:  IG: @little.way.freedom Email: tmatters@gmail.com Freebie: 9 Day Little Way Rose Novena mailchi.mp/6bf019fccdd1/fdyrr1tes2 Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/littlewayfreedom/welcome30minutecoaching Resources & Next Steps: USCCB Annulment Information Learn more about the Catholic annulment process through your local parish Speak with a priest or tribunal advocate if you are discerning this path Connect with Dr. Carron Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: Follow / Subscribe Share with someone who needs hope Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 How to Leave an Apple Review Open the Apple Podcasts app Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU Tap the show (not an episode) Scroll to Ratings & Reviews Tap Write a Review Credits Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

    28 min
5
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45 Ratings

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Are you struggling to forgive yourself? Do you hold a grudge against someone who harmed you physically, emotionally, or mentally? Do you find it hard to forgive the adults in your life who were supposed to protect you, but didn’t? Do you hold resentment against a whole class of people because you’ve been discriminated against? I’VE BEEN THERE. I KNOW. I’m Dr. Carron Silva, Your Forgiveness Guide. As a woman of faith, I’ve spent the last 30 years seeking healing for sexual, physical, and emotional abuse, and healing from racial discrimination. What I’ve learned is that therapy could only take me so far. I believe that FORGIVENESS IS THE WAY TO INTERIOR FREEDOM, but we cannot do it alone. We need God, and in particular, Jesus, the Divine Physician, with the love of the Holy Spirit, to help us through a process of forgiveness. On this podcast, I talk about all the things that help you develop a lifelong skill of forgiveness and empower you to forgive yourself, others, and God. As a Certified Wholeness and Catholic Mindset Coach, I help you to navigate emotionally challenging situations, cultivate resilience after trauma, and in a nurturing emotionally safe, empathic, nonjudgmental, confidential coaching relationship. Why wait? Freedom starts now. Here’s what you can do: Connect: Schedule a FREE consultation with me at www.drcarron.com Study: Want to explore forgiveness on your own time before digging deep? Sign up for my 5 Days to Forgiveness Self-Guided Mini Audio Retreat. https://drcarron.kartra.com/page/forgiveness-audio-retreat Receive: Invite me to your church or small faith-sharing group for a talk or half-day virtual or in-person forgiveness at info@drcarron.com

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