Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

Raffaela
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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a refuge for the veterans of chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting, where we address this issue through the lens of addiction and holistic healing. Here, you learn how to heal through the root cause: emotional regulation, feeling deeply, understanding your past, trauma, the science of addiction, and the power of compassion. When all the surface-level solutions have been exhausted, this is where your heart draws you - To the truth, deep healing, and freedom. It's time to come home to you. My name is Raffaela Maire. I've healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking by treating it as an addiction and learning how to feel my feelings deeply. Now I am a coach helping others, like you, to heal as I did. This podcast is where I endeavour to share everything I know with you so that you can find your path forward to creating long-term, sustainable change. Not only so you can reduce the length, severity, and frequency of picking, pulling, and biting sessions, but also to become more of the person you are at your core - confident, secure, sure, and wonderfully, beautifully unique. 

  1. 1d ago

    132: Guided Evening Practice To Reduce Picking & Pulling Sessions

    If evenings are when your picking, pulling or biting tends to get worse, this episode is something you can actually come back to and use when you need it. After a whole day of doing, thinking and being “on”, it can be incredibly difficult to suddenly slow down. Your body might be tired, but your nervous system is still carrying everything from the day and picking, pulling or biting can become the way you decompress. This episode is designed to give you another way. In this episode: ✨ I'll guide you through a grounding practice to help you slow down, decompress and give your nervous system space to regulate ✨ You'll practise coming back into your body and the present moment rather than automatically defaulting to picking, pulling or biting ✨ You'll learn how to meet yourself with more softness and compassion at the end of the day — even if you do find yourself picking, pulling or biting This isn't a quick fix, and it's not about having a perfect evening where you don't pick at all. It's a practice you can keep coming back to. And over time, you're building the skills to regulate, slow down and support yourself in the moments you would normally turn to picking, pulling or biting. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

  2. Sep 22

    131: Could Meditation Be The Solution To Chronic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling? (Science Based)

    What if one of the most powerful tools for healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling or nail biting has nothing to do with trying to stop the urge? Meditation isn't about getting rid of urges. It can help us learn how to notice them, make space for them and not automatically act on them. And there’s some really interesting research showing us why this can be such a powerful practice. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ What the science tells us about meditation, addiction and our ability to better handle stress and urges ✨ Why meditation can be such a powerful tool for healing from picking, pulling and biting without trying to replace the behaviour ✨ How to actually build a consistent meditation practice (even if you have ADHD or have struggled with consistency in the past) Meditation isn't the solution to chronic skin picking or hair pulling. But it can be a really powerful part of the puzzle. And you don't need to meditate for 30 minutes every day to experience the benefits. The most important part of the practice might simply be learning to keep coming back. Resources: Mindfulness treatment for substance misuse: A systematic review and meta-analysis Relative Efficacy of Mindfulness-Based Relapse Prevention, Standard Relapse Prevention, and Treatment as Usual for Substance Use Disorders The neuroscience of mindfulness meditation How Meditation for Addiction Can Help With Recovery 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

  3. Sep 15

    130: I Had a Good Childhood… So Why Am I Struggling?

    If you had a good childhood, it can be really confusing to look at the ways you struggle today and wonder… why? You might even feel guilty exploring your past because your parents loved you, gave you so much, and other people had it far worse. But having a good childhood doesn't mean you received everything you emotionally needed. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ Why you can have loving, well-intentioned parents and still carry emotional wounds from childhood ✨ How the emotional patterns within your family can help explain struggles like anxiety, people pleasing, perfectionism and chronic skin picking, hair pulling or nail biting ✨ Why understanding your past doesn't mean blaming your parents and how it can actually create more compassion for yourself AND them You don't have to dismiss the good parts of your childhood to acknowledge what might have been missing. Understanding both can help you connect the dots between who you were then and who you are today and give you so much more clarity on what you actually need to heal. Resources: Understanding Bowen Theory from The Family Systems Institute Understanding Bowen Family Systems Theory: Enhancing your relationships through emotional differentiation. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

  4. Sep 8

    129: Why You CAN'T Just Replace Skin Picking + What Is 10x More Effective

    If you’ve tried replacing chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting with something less destructive and found that, so far, the only result has been more frustration and a sense of hopelessness... This is because you can't replace it. You've essentially been beating your head against a wall in the hope that it will feel better.  It's not your fault. I did this for years too! Until I found a more effective approach. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ Why trying to replace picking, pulling or biting can actually create more stress and frustration ✨ The difference between adaptive and maladaptive coping mechanisms and why this is so important to understand in your healing ✨ What to start focusing on instead of constantly asking, “How do I stop?” or “What can I replace it with?” These behaviours serve a purpose. Instead of just trying to get rid of it, we can use it as an opportunity to understand yourself better, recognise the skills you might be missing, and learn healthier ways to navigate stress, emotions and difficult moments. Resources: Maladaptive Coping: 15 Behavior Examples & Mechanisms (Peer reviewed article) How Maladaptive Coping Strategies Maintain Anxiety Disorders (article) 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

  5. Sep 1

    128: Your Inner Critic Is Making You Pick - The Greatest Gift You Can Give Yourself

    Your inner critic might be playing a much bigger role in your skin picking, hair pulling or nail biting than you realise. I've spoken to hundreds of people within this community, and this just keeps popping up in a very meaningful way, so it's time to unpack it together. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ What your inner critic actually is and why it’s not your enemy ✨ Why fighting or trying to silence it can keep you stuck ✨ A simple perspective shift that can help you quiet your inner critic and change the way you relate to yourself Your inner critic has a purpose. Understanding that purpose might just be one of the greatest healing gifts you can give yourself. --- Qs for curiosity -  Ask your inner critic this: For more context and to get the most out of these questions, make sure you listen to the full episode! Where did you learn this?Where did you learn that that's the truth?Who taught you this?What are you trying to protect me from right now?If you didn’t listen to your inner critic right now, what would you do instead? --- 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

  6. Aug 25

    127: Why You Can’t Relax at the End of the Day + The Shift That Can Change It

    Do you get to the end of the day and feel restless, dissatisfied or like you haven't done enough? What if it's not because you've done something wrong or you need to do better, but because somewhere along the way, you learnt that feeling good is something you have to earn? In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ Why conditional love can make it so hard to relax and actually feel satisfied at the end of the day ✨ How we learn to use our emotions as "currency" and why this can leave us constantly searching for something to make us feel good ✨ A journaling practice to help you shift the emotions you feel stuck in so you can experience more peace, satisfaction and fulfilment I also share something I've never shared on the podcast before: a raw entry from my own journal after spending seven evenings doing nothing but sitting with myself and my feelings. This episode will give you a very different perspective on why it can feel like nothing you do is ever quite enough, and a tangible way to start changing that. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

  7. Aug 18

    126: How To Stop Chronic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

    🙌A great follow-up episode to listen to after this one is 123: Stop The Spiral & Heal After a Picking, Pulling, or Biting Session What if the thing keeping you stuck in chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting isn't just the behaviour itself, but how you treat yourself because of it? For so many people in this community, there is one thing that shows up again and again: a loud inner critic. And the shame, judgment and relentless pressure it creates can actually become part of the reason you need picking, pulling or biting in the first place. In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ How your inner critic may be fuelling the cycle of picking, pulling or biting ✨ Why these behaviours can provide an escape from the noise inside your own mind ✨ How the way you treat yourself after a session can become a powerful opportunity for healing This isn't a quick fix. It's about building an inner foundation of compassion and support so that, over time, you simply don't need the behaviour in quite the same way. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

  8. Aug 11

    125: The 3-Step Reset for Picking & Pulling Urges: Regain Control in the Moment

    This isn't a quick fix, and it won't make the urge disappear. But it is a process that can help you create long-term, sustainable change. These 3 steps were vital in my own healing journey, and I continue to see them help my clients and other wonderful members of this community find their way forward. In this episode, you'll learn how to: ✨ Regulate your emotions through your breath and reconnect with your body ✨ Ask effective questions to better understand what you actually need ✨ Take intentional action that makes sense, feels good, and can actually move you forward Instead of seeing an intense urge as something you need to fight, fix, or get rid of, you'll learn how to use it as information - an opportunity to pause, check in with yourself, and respond differently. But there is one mistake that can completely derail this process and I'm yet to meet a person who doesn't make it. Listen in to learn how these 3 simple steps can change the way you respond to urges and, over time, change your relationship with skin picking altogether.  💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a refuge for the veterans of chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting, where we address this issue through the lens of addiction and holistic healing. Here, you learn how to heal through the root cause: emotional regulation, feeling deeply, understanding your past, trauma, the science of addiction, and the power of compassion. When all the surface-level solutions have been exhausted, this is where your heart draws you - To the truth, deep healing, and freedom. It's time to come home to you. My name is Raffaela Maire. I've healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking by treating it as an addiction and learning how to feel my feelings deeply. Now I am a coach helping others, like you, to heal as I did. This podcast is where I endeavour to share everything I know with you so that you can find your path forward to creating long-term, sustainable change. Not only so you can reduce the length, severity, and frequency of picking, pulling, and biting sessions, but also to become more of the person you are at your core - confident, secure, sure, and wonderfully, beautifully unique. 

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