Nuance Needed

Nuance Needed
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In a world obsessed with quick fixes, licensed therapists Amanda White and Sam Dalton cut through black-and-white thinking to explore the messy reality of mental health. Drawing from both evidence-based practices and personal struggles, we have candid conversations about perfectionism, burnout, relationships, and cultural trends. No oversimplified advice—just honest dialogue about what healing actually looks like in our complicated human lives. For more information check out therapyforwomencenter.com

  1. 91: Rerun: Stop Flaking on Your Friends

    6D AGO

    91: Rerun: Stop Flaking on Your Friends

    In this candid episode, therapists Sam and Amanda discuss Sam's recent experience with a Tiktok going viral. After posting about friendship and flaking culture, Sam faced unexpected backlash leading to a broader conversation about social media, nuance, and connection in today's world. The hosts explore: - How legitimate concerns about accessibility and mental health can sometimes be weaponized to avoid discomfort - The erosion of our collective ability to say "this doesn't apply to me" and keep scrolling - The importance of maintaining friendships despite busy lives and different life stages - Practical ways to maintain connections when you have limited capacity - The difference between genuine barriers to connection and avoidance - How social media has complicated our expectations for socializing - The long-term investment of friendship and why it matters.  If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

    51 min
  2. 90: Rerun: The Weaponization of Boundaries

    12/23/2025

    90: Rerun: The Weaponization of Boundaries

    Licensed therapists, Amanda White, LPC and Sam Dalton, LCSW discuss the topic of boundaries and how they are often misconstrued. They explore the difference between boundaries, norms, and expectations, emphasizing the importance of understanding intentions and allowing for mistakes. They highlight the need for nuance and grace in navigating boundaries, both in personal relationships and online interactions. The conversation also touches on the impact versus harm debate and the role of repair in building trust and understanding. In this conversation, Amanda and Sam discuss the importance of flexible boundaries and the dangers of rigid boundaries. They explore the idea that boundaries should be adaptable and considerate of others' boundaries. They emphasize the need for communication and context when setting boundaries, as well as the importance of self-reflection and self-trust. They also discuss the role of vulnerability and the power of articulating why certain boundaries are in place.  If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

    52 min
  3. 89: What People Get Wrong About Estrangement with Whitney Goodman

    12/18/2025

    89: What People Get Wrong About Estrangement with Whitney Goodman

    What if estrangement isn't about ungrateful kids—but about parents who can't let go? This week we chat with Whitney Goodman, LMFT to discuss the myths and actual research about estrangement and what all the online discourse is missing. In conversation, we discuss: Why estrangement has become a more common topic in online mental health spaces. The differences between setting boundaries, creating distance, and choosing no contact. How estrangement can bring both relief and grief — sometimes at the same time. How trauma, attachment, and family dynamics influence estrangement decisions. What often gets overlooked when estrangement is discussed in all-or-nothing terms. How to approach these decisions with more clarity, compassion, and flexibility. Whitney is the host of the Calling Home Podcast. You can find more about Calling Home and Whitney on social media @sitwithwhit.  If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com. We’d love to hear what you think!

    50 min
  4. 88: How to Reflect On A Year That Felt Like Being Awake During Surgery

    12/16/2025

    88: How to Reflect On A Year That Felt Like Being Awake During Surgery

    In this Pep Talk with Sam, we're talking about how to actually process your year—without getting swept up in what everyone else says you should feel. In this pep talk, Sam covers: * How collective stress impacts each of us differently (and why groupthink makes us assume we all experienced the same thing) * Permission to admit: some things that devastated others didn't impact you the same way  * Why it's humanly impossible to appropriately process the onslaught of information we get every day * The obsession with making your year either "all good" or "all bad" * How to sit in complexity: multiple realities exist at the same time * Why you can't stay in one emotional state constantly (even if you want to) * The questions to ask yourself: What went well? What surprised you? What challenged you specifically—not what challenged everyone else? This is a Pep Talk with Sam—a shorter solo episode to help you wind down the year with nuance, not pressure. Big thanks to our sponsor Cozy Earth! Use code NUANCE for 40% off your order! If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

    12 min
  5. 87: Therapy Speak is not Therapy

    12/09/2025

    87: Therapy Speak is not Therapy

    In this episode, we're breaking down what people get wrong about therapy and why therapy speak has nothing to do with actual therapy. In conversation, we tackle: * Why the narrative that "therapy is just validation" is completely missing the point (and harming the profession) * The polarization: either therapy is your entire identity or you're against it because it's "too soft" * How therapy speak gets weaponized instead of used as neutral tools for self-exploration * The difference between introducing a concept and telling someone "this is definitively your experience" * Why good therapy involves challenge and discomfort, not just being told you're right * How "protecting your peace" might actually be protecting you too much * Why boundaries have become about keeping everyone out instead of letting the right people in * The lost middle ground: sometimes people just need help making sense of their inner world * How to know if you're making decisions from your values or from your most insecure, fear-based parts Big thanks to our sponsor Cozy Earth! Use code NUANCE for 40% off your order! If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

    50 min
  6. 86: What 2025 Taught Us

    12/02/2025

    86: What 2025 Taught Us

    It's the end of 2025 (HOW?!) and we're both in very different places: Sam just moved her entire life (again), and Amanda is navigating her mom's cancer diagnosis while trying not to lose her mind before Thanksgiving. So instead of a planned topic, we're sharing what this year actually taught us. * Why the really hard emotional work pays off, even when you can't see it happening for years * How to let yourself celebrate milestones that don't come with cards or parties * The weird experience of finally getting what you wanted and feeling like you can't relax into it * Why your body needs time to catch up to big life changes, even good ones * What it's like to survive the thing you were sure would break you * How to exist in purgatory when you can't control the outcome * The difference between knowing about locus of control and actually living it * Why we're both choosing joy and mischief over optimization in 2026 If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

    39 min
  7. 85: Why In-Law Relationships Are So Complicated with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish

    11/25/2025

    85: Why In-Law Relationships Are So Complicated with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish

    Tired of the villain vs. victim narrative in mother-in-law conflicts? In this episode, we're diving into why in-law dynamics are so much more complex than "she's toxic" or "just set boundaries." In conversation we discuss: - How your own family patterns shape how you interpret other people's behavior (and why "intrusive" might just be "interested") - The difference between being responsible TO someone vs. being responsible FOR them - Why the person in the middle needs to stop being conflict-avoidant and actually turn towards their partner - The generous interpretation: acknowledging someone's good intentions while still stating your needs - Why one person gets scapegoated as "the problem" in mother-in-law/daughter-in-law dynamics when they're often just the first to name something - How to build safety in relationships by being interested in the whole person, not just their role in your life Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a psychologist and author of the new book "You, Your Husband and His Mother," available anywhere books are sold. Find her at DrTracyD.com or on Instagram @DrTracyD. If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think! dVIQ1G8FjQPs1KNvp5fz

    48 min
  8. 84: Not Everything is About You: The Bean Soup Theory

    11/18/2025

    84: Not Everything is About You: The Bean Soup Theory

    In this episode, we're tackling the internet phenomenon that's ruining actual discourse: the bean soup theory, aka "what about me-ism." * The viral bean soup recipe that broke the internet—and why people demanding a bean-free bean soup is the perfect metaphor for online discourse right now * How performative advocacy is drowning out actual advocacy  * The self-centered arrogance of assuming every piece of content must be caveated for YOUR specific experience * How left-leaning echo chambers have created a "gotcha culture" where pointing out what someone missed becomes performative activism * Why your anxiety is making you think everything is a mortal threat  * The difference between actually dangerous content and content you simply disagree with * How we've weaponized words like "accountability" and "responsibility" so much that we can't talk about agency anymore * The radical truth: not everything applies to you, and that's okay * Why distraction is a valid coping skill  If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

    51 min
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In a world obsessed with quick fixes, licensed therapists Amanda White and Sam Dalton cut through black-and-white thinking to explore the messy reality of mental health. Drawing from both evidence-based practices and personal struggles, we have candid conversations about perfectionism, burnout, relationships, and cultural trends. No oversimplified advice—just honest dialogue about what healing actually looks like in our complicated human lives. For more information check out therapyforwomencenter.com

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  • Creator
    Nuance Needed
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    92
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2025 Amanda E. White, LPC and Sam Dalton, LCSW
  • Show Website
    Nuance Needed

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