The Ecology of Intimacy podcast: Sex, Love, Intimacy & Relationship Coaching for Women and Mothers.

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The ecology of intimacy podcast is a place for you to learn about how you can create a rich and nourishing ecology of intimacy in your life, using the incredible systems of Tantra, Taoism and Somatic-based healing methodologies, so that you can have the kind of relationships you dream of. We’ll explore motherhood, sexuality, pleasure, power, creativity, and what it means to come home to our bodies and express ourselves with grace and authenticity. As a certified somatic Sex, Love, and Relationship coach, with a background in Sexology, my work blends the latest science with the ancient wisdom traditions of Tantra and Taoism as they relate to spiritual and sexual liberation. I’m so excited to have the kinds of conversations that can make you feel deeply seen, understood, and empowered to reclaim and reconnect to your pleasure, your power, your voice, and your nervous system. Let’s dive in... If you want to stay connected to my work you can visit my website at www.vilates.com and sign up to my email list, where you’ll receive all the latest research, updates, and opportunities to work with me.

  1. 5d ago

    The Truth About Desire in Long-Term Relationships: Sex, Intimacy & The Sure Thing with Elana Auerbach

    What happens when the spark fades in a long-term relationship? In this deeply honest conversation, I’m joined by Elana Auerbach, author of The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark, to explore why desire often changes over time, why intimacy doesn’t sustain itself without intention, and how pleasure can become a powerful practice for creating deeper connection. Together we discuss the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, the hidden resentment that can build around sex in long-term relationships, and why taking responsibility for your own pleasure can completely transform the dynamic between partners. We also explore pleasure as a form of personal liberation, nervous system regulation, and even social change.   So whether you're feeling disconnected from your partner, navigating a season of low desire, or simply longing for more aliveness in your relationship, this conversation offers a practical and deeply hopeful roadmap back to connection.   Resources Mentioned: The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark by Elana Auerbach   === GUEST LINKS: FREE GIFT: A guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire! https://guide.surethingexperiment.com/wild-sensual-self Website: https://surethingexperiment.com/  FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/ElanaAuerbachAuthor/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elana.auerbach  ===   VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980    === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    59 min

  2. May 28

    The Body Remembers: Depression, Burnout, Feminine Energy & Somatic Healing with Alisha Kapani

    What if your depression, burnout, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm wasn’t your body betraying you… but your body communicating with you? In this episode, I’m joined by former Chemical Engineer turned Mind-Body Mentor Alisha Kapani to explore the profound connection between emotional suppression, nervous system healing, feminine energy, embodiment, chronic illness, self-worth, and the power of receiving. After experiencing severe depression for five years, Alisha shares how her healing journey completely transformed the way she understood emotions, sensitivity, feminine energy, abundance, and the body’s innate wisdom. Together, we unpack why so many women live disconnected from their bodies, trapped in hyper-independence, survival mode, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and chronic stress, and how healing begins when we soften enough to actually feel. This episode explores: why emotional suppression creates illness the difference between “wallowing” and welcoming emotions why women struggle to receive support the hidden cost of hyper-independence healing shame and worthiness wounds feminine embodiment rituals for everyday life and how reconnecting to your body can radically transform your life. If you’ve been feeling exhausted, emotionally numb, disconnected from yourself, trapped in survival mode, or longing to feel more alive, sensual, safe, and deeply nourished within your own body, this conversation is for you. This episode is an invitation to slow down, soften, and remember that healing isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about learning how to finally listen to the wisdom already living inside you.       === GUEST LINKS: Website: https://www.alishakapani.com/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/alishakapani  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alisha_kapani/  === VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/   •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/   •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB   •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    57 min

  3. May 21

    The Erotic as a Spiritual Path: Tantra, Deep Bliss, & Liberated Sensuality with Luna Agneya

    What if your sexuality was a pathway into deeper aliveness, intimacy, healing, and liberation? In this rich and expansive episode, I’m joined by Tantra educator, Sensualist, and Author Luna Agneya to explore the profound teachings within her book The Liberated Sensualist: The Modern Tantrika’s Guide to Embodied Awakening. Together, we dive into the deeper philosophy of Tantra beyond the clichés and unpack what it truly means to live as an embodied, erotically alive human being in the modern world. This conversation explores liberated sensuality, nervous system healing, and the transformative power of the erotic as a spiritual path. We discuss: Nondual Tantra and embodied awakening The difference between performative sexuality and authentic erotic embodiment Somatic healing and trauma-informed intimacy Female pleasure, arousal, and liberated sexuality Nervous system safety and emotional intimacy Why desire fades in long-term relationships Deep bliss, sensual liberation, and erotic aliveness beyond the bedroom This conversation is an invitation to move beyond shame, performance, and disconnection and into a more liberated, embodied, emotionally honest relationship with yourself, your body, your pleasure, and your capacity for intimacy. If you’ve been longing for a deeper conversation around Tantra, embodiment, sexuality, healing, and the erotic, then this episode is for you.   === GUEST LINKS: Book: https://www.lovethatliberates.com/liberated-sensualist-book Course: https://www.sensualarts.school/  For Leaders/Facilitators: https://www.evolvingeros.com/  Substack: https://lovethatliberates.substack.com/    === VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/  •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/  •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB  •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980  === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    56 min

  4. May 14

    The Erotic as Liberation: Audre Lorde, Patriarchy, Pleasure & The Erotic as a Pathway to Power

    In this deeply personal and politically charged solo episode, I explore the systematic deconstruction of women’s sexuality, sensuality, and erotic power through the lens of feminism, nervous system science, somatic embodiment, and Audre Lorde’s groundbreaking essay Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power. Join me as I unpack the difference between objectification and true erotic embodiment, the long history of patriarchal control over women’s bodies, the medicalisation and pathologising of female sexuality, and why so many women feel disconnected from pleasure, desire, and aliveness. I also explore the wisdom of pre-patriarchal goddess cultures, sacred sexuality traditions, and the profound healing available through trauma-informed somatic work. This episode is an invitation to remember that your body is deeply intelligent. And reclaiming your pleasure, your voice, and your erotic sovereignty may be one of the most radical acts of healing available to us. Topics include: Audre Lorde and the erotic as power Patriarchy and women’s sexuality Nervous system safety and embodiment Sexual shame and objectification Tantra, Taoism, and female pleasure Erotic sovereignty and reclaiming desire Female sexuality beyond performance If this conversation moves something in you, please leave a review and share the episode with someone who may need it too 🩶     === VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    45 min

  5. May 7

    Beyond Orgasm: Rewriting the Story of Female Sexuality with Jane Garnett

    Join me in this deeply expansive episode as I sit down with Therapist, Psychedelic Integration Guide, Filmmaker, and host of the Sex, Psychics & Psychedelics podcast, Jane Garnett, for a conversation that completely reframes sexuality, intimacy, pleasure, and feminine aliveness. Together, we explore the hidden stories women carry about sex, desire, performance, orgasm, relationships, and what it really means to feel alive in your body. This episode is an invitation to unlearn the scripts of patriarchal conditioning, perfectionism, and performative sexuality and return to what feels true. Jane shares powerful reflections on: Why sexuality is not something you “achieve” but something you listen to The pressure many women feel to be endlessly orgasmic, available, and sexually “successful” How intimacy deepens when we release expectations and surrender to sensation Why midlife often becomes a portal into sexual reinvention and truth The importance of permission, rest, softness, and slowing down This conversation is soulful, provocative, liberating, and deeply human. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body, confused by your changing sexuality, or exhausted by the pressure to “get it right,” this episode will feel like a long exhale. Because maybe your sexuality was never meant to fit inside a script. Maybe it was always meant to evolve.   If this episode resonates, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs these conversations too.     === GUEST LINKS: Website: https://www.bananajane.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebananajane  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thebananajane Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/sex-psychics-psychedelics/id1564572945  === VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    49 min

  6. Apr 30

    When Trauma Becomes Identity; Reclaiming Your Body, Your Pleasure, and Your Sense of Self with Ashley Miley

    In this deeply intimate conversation, I’m joined by Sacred Intimacy Coach and Ordained Priestess Ashley Miley to explore what it actually means to come home to your body after trauma, disconnection, and years of learned self-abandonment. We speak about the kind of healing that goes beyond understanding and into embodiment. The kind that asks you to feel what you have spent years avoiding. The kind that invites you back into your own nervous system, your own pleasure, and your own truth. Ashley shares her personal journey through sexual trauma, emotional disconnection, and the long, often solitary process of rebuilding a relationship with her body. Together, we explore the difference between talking about healing and actually living it through sensation, breath, and presence. This episode gently unpacks: • Why talk therapy alone often isn’t enough for deep sexual and relational healing • How trauma lives in the body and why embodiment is the pathway forward • The role of the nervous system in creating safety for intimacy and pleasure • How we unknowingly build identities around trauma, and how to soften those identities • The truth about “coming home to yourself” and why it changes everything • What it means to move from seeking love externally to cultivating inner sacred union • How pleasure becomes a reclamation of power, not performance This is a conversation for the woman who has done the work, read the books, tried to understand herself, and yet still feels a quiet distance from her body, her desire, or her sense of aliveness. You're not broken. There is nothing missing. There is simply a deeper layer of you waiting to be felt.     === GUEST LINKS === •Website: thesacredintimacytemple.com •Join Email List Here: https://thesacredintimacytemple.com/email-list             LINKS ===   •Website: https://www.vilates.com/  •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB  •Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 . . . .   Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    54 min

  7. Apr 1

    There’s Always More: Expanding Pleasure Across a Lifetime, Why Sexuality Doesn’t Decline, It Evolves with Susan Bratton

    There comes a point, often in midlife, where something begins to shift. You might notice it in your body first. A subtle disconnection. Or a sense that intimacy has become something you think about, rather than something you feel inside yourself. And for many women, the question that follows is so deeply personal it’s rarely spoken out loud. “Is something wrong with me?” In this conversation, I’m joined by the Incredible Intimacy expert Susan Bratton, and together we explore what sits underneath that question with honesty, nuance, and care. We talk about the difference between libido, desire, and arousal, not as clinical concepts, but as lived experiences inside the female body. We explore how many women have been shaped by conditioning that prioritised performance over sensation, and how that disconnect can quietly follow us into midlife. This episode opens a different perspective. One where your body is not failing, but responding intelligently. Where desire is not something you’ve lost, but something that you may never have fully met yet. We explore: • Why low libido is often a misunderstanding, not a deficiency • How female arousal actually unfolds in the body • The impact of cultural conditioning on pleasure and intimacy • Why pleasure can deepen and expand over time • How communication becomes a bridge back to intimacy.   Susan reminds us that this chapter of life is not about going backwards, it’s about meeting yourself in a new way, with more awareness, more honesty, and more permission than you’ve ever had before. So much so, that now, in her sixties, she's having the best sex of her life.  So if you’ve felt disconnected, unsure, or even curious about what’s still possible for you in midlife and beyond, then this conversation will light a fire in your belly and let you know, that when it comes to sex and pleasure, there's always more! === GUEST LINKS: Susan Bratton: Website: https://betterlover.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/BetterLover === VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980     === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    1h 2m

  8. Mar 12

    The Burnout Cure We Were Never Taught; How the Intersection of Art & Neuroscience Can Heal Our Nervous Systems with Lexi Reid.

    In today's conversation I speak with Lexi Reed, a Creative Wellness Coach whose work sits at the intersection of neuroscience, creativity, and nervous system regulation.  After years working in a highly successful STEM career, navigating high-pressure scientific environments and experiencing profound burnout during the pandemic, Lexi discovered something unexpectedly powerful and it changed everything for her.  What began as a small act of creativity opened a doorway into something much deeper. A deep shift in the nervous system from fight or flight into rest and repair. A reconnection with sensation, creativity, and the parts of the brain that modern life so often neglects. A realignment with what felt true and had meaning.  In this episode we explore how art, play, and sensory creativity can become a pathway back from burnout, particularly for high-achieving women who have spent years living primarily in their minds. Together we explore: • Why creative expression regulates the nervous system in ways thinking cannot • How sensory practices move us from rumination back into embodiment • The hidden emotional labour many women carry in professional environments • Why burnout often arrives quietly and accumulates over time • How creativity unlocks insight, problem-solving, and emotional clarity Lexi shares beautiful visual exercises she uses with clients, including practices that help women map their energy, recognise what drains them, and reconnect with what genuinely nourishes them. What emerges through our conversation is something both ancient and deeply needed in modern life. Creativity is not frivolous. It is not indulgent. It is one of the ways human beings regulate, process emotion, and return to themselves. For women who have spent years performing competence while quietly depleting their own reserves, this conversation is for you.    === GUEST LINKS:   FREE OFFER: Free 5-Day Creative Reset Challenge: https://subscribepage.io/UbjddV  Website: https://mindartwellness.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandra-j-reid/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lexireidstudio/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MindArtWellness  === VILATES   •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    53 min
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The ecology of intimacy podcast is a place for you to learn about how you can create a rich and nourishing ecology of intimacy in your life, using the incredible systems of Tantra, Taoism and Somatic-based healing methodologies, so that you can have the kind of relationships you dream of. We’ll explore motherhood, sexuality, pleasure, power, creativity, and what it means to come home to our bodies and express ourselves with grace and authenticity. As a certified somatic Sex, Love, and Relationship coach, with a background in Sexology, my work blends the latest science with the ancient wisdom traditions of Tantra and Taoism as they relate to spiritual and sexual liberation. I’m so excited to have the kinds of conversations that can make you feel deeply seen, understood, and empowered to reclaim and reconnect to your pleasure, your power, your voice, and your nervous system. Let’s dive in... If you want to stay connected to my work you can visit my website at www.vilates.com and sign up to my email list, where you’ll receive all the latest research, updates, and opportunities to work with me.

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