Thirty Flirty and Panicking

Kelsey Murphy
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Welcome to Thirty Flirty and Panicking, an empowering podcast for navigating life in your 30s and beyond. With a nod to the beloved rom-com 13 Going on 30, we recognize life doesn’t always look like what we imagined—but it's in the unpredictable that the magic really happens. Together, we’ll embrace the unexpected, silence self-doubt, and help you step into your best self. From personal stories to practical advice, join a supportive community of women who transform challenges into triumphs... because it's never too late to build the life you've dreamed of. We’ve got you—and you’ve got this.

  1. 6d ago

    Stop Panicking & Start Dating with Serena Kerrigan

    What if the best thing you could do for your dating life is shake up the life you’re already living? This week, Kelsey sits down with Serena Kerrigan (aka SFK) — entrepreneur, creator, media personality and author of the new book Let’s F*cking Date — for a candid, hilarious and surprisingly vulnerable conversation about dating, confidence, self-trust and learning to let yourself be surprised. Serena opens up about leaving her job at Refinery29 just before the pandemic, turning virtual blind dates into the series that launched her career, and building the larger-than-life SFK persona that helped her become confident... until she realized she no longer needed the armor. She also shares how throwing out one of her biggest dating “rules” ultimately led her to Felix, her partner of three years, who is six years younger. Together, Kelsey and Serena unpack why being open-minded and ready to be seen isn’t the same thing as settling, how to stop approaching every first date like an audition for marriage, what to do when dating starts to feel hopeless and why the relationship you build with yourself is the most important one of all. Serena shares her 3P Theory for taking the pressure off first dates, the “vacation mentality” that changed the way she approached dating, what she believes matters most in a healthy relationship, why every woman should have money of her own... and the dating rule she wishes she’d broken much sooner. Plus, Serena enters SFK Celeb Love Court to weigh in on exes revisiting old relationships, hard launching on social media and whether you can really find love on reality TV — before a rapid-fire round of F*ck Yes or F*ck No on first-date sex, sharing locations, getting back with an ex, closure, the “right person at the wrong time” and more. If you’ve ever worried you’re running out of time, questioned the dating pool, feared settling or simply needed permission to stop overthinking and start living, this episode is for you. Because Serena’s advice to her younger self might just be the reminder we all need: “Stop f*cking panicking. Everything is gonna work out.” THIS WEEK'S TOOLKIT READ: ⁠Preorder Let’s F*cking Date by Serena Kerrigan⁠ — Serena's debut book, out September 22: letsfuckingdate.com FOLLOW: Serena on Instagram www.instagram.com/serenakerrigan ⁠(@serenakerrigan)⁠ and TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@serenakerrigan ⁠(@serenakerrigan)⁠ TRY: Take Serena’s 3P Theory into your next date: remember it’s either Potential, Practice or Plot. Your only job on date one is to decide whether you want date two. CHALLENGE: Change one thing about your routine this week... a different coffee shop, workout class, grocery store, event, whatever. Not because you have to meet someone there, but because Serena’s challenge is to step outside your comfort zone and give life more opportunities to surprise you.

    Stop Panicking & Start Dating with Serena Kerrigan

  2. Aug 19

    What It Takes to Become a Published Author with Francesca Cocchi

    Have you ever had a dream sitting quietly in the back of your mind...the book you want to write, the side hustle you want to start, the creative idea you swear you’ll get to someday? This week, Kelsey sits down with TODAY lifestyle editor and debut author Francesca Cocchi, whose new rom-com, Have a Great Summer, turned a lifelong dream of writing fiction into a two-book publishing deal. Francesca pulls back the curtain on what it actually takes to become a published author—from finding the idea she couldn’t stop thinking about and writing just a few hundred words at a time after work, to finishing an 80,000-word manuscript, querying literary agents, navigating rejection and ultimately landing a publisher. But this conversation is about so much more than writing a book. Kelsey and Francesca talk about pursuing a big dream while maintaining a demanding full-time career, protecting the relationships and routines that make life feel full, giving yourself grace when the timing isn’t right, and letting go of the pressure to reach every milestone by an arbitrary age. Together, Kelsey and Francesca discuss: -How Francesca turned an idea inspired by her own wedding planning into Have a Great Summer -The small daily writing goal that helped her finish an entire novel while working full-time -Why pursuing a passion doesn’t have to mean putting the rest of your life on hold -How to protect yourself from burnout when your “side hustle” starts becoming a second career -How to get a book published, including what querying a literary agent actually looks like, and what aspiring authors should include in a query letter -The journey from finished manuscript to literary agent to publisher -The surreal moment Francesca learned she wasn’t getting a one-book deal… but a two-book deal -Why celebrating the little milestones along the way matters just as much as celebrating the big win -The pressure women can feel to squeeze career ambition, relationships, family and every other milestone into one “perfect” timeline, and how to overcome that - Francesca’s refreshingly honest perspective on being in her early 30s, loving the life she’s building and allowing herself to decide what comes next on her own timeline -What her supportive marriage has taught her about partnership, and the green flags she thinks are worth looking for -Why friendship is one of the most important love stories in Have a Great Summer -The advice Francesca would give anyone sitting on a dream they haven’t quite been ready to pursue And perhaps the biggest reminder of all: you don’t have to create the “Great American Novel” to create something worthy of putting into the world. Sometimes taking the pressure off, leaning into what you know and allowing yourself to make something simply because you love it is exactly what allows the magic to happen! THIS WEEK’S TOOLKIT: TO READ: Have a Great Summer by Francesca Cocchi: a nostalgic Jersey Shore rom-com about weddings, friendship, first love, coming home and figuring out what you really want https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/shop/have-a-great-summer/ TO TRY: SCRIVENER — the writing software Francesca used to give her creative work its own dedicated space outside of the programs she used for her day job. https://www.literatureandlatte.com/scrivener/overview  TO CONNECT: Connect with Francesca and stay up to date with her work here:  https://www.instagram.com/francescaa_nicolee/?hl=en

    What It Takes to Become a Published Author with Francesca Cocchi

  3. May 27

    Trusting Your Timing with Chika Uwazie

    What happens when life doesn't unfold exactly the way you thought it would? In this "From the Vault" pre-launch episode of Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, Kelsey sits down with writer, speaker, podcast host, and entrepreneur Chika Uwazie for a powerful conversation about timelines, reinvention, healing, grief, relationships, and the unexpected opportunities that can emerge when we're forced to start over. Chika opens up about navigating profound loss, walking away from a relationship she once thought would lead to marriage, rebuilding her life after burnout, and learning to trust her intuition even when it led her away from the path she thought she was supposed to follow. Together, Kelsey and Chika discuss: Why your 30s are a decade of releasing, reclaiming, and rebuilding Letting go of timeline pressure and comparison Healing after heartbreak, loss, and major life transitionsThe importance of trusting your intuition and living in alignment Friendship shifts, boundaries, and protecting your energyWhy growth often requires discomfortThe power of reinvention and beginning againCreating a life that feels aligned — not just impressiveNo matter your age, this conversation is a reminder that you are not behind — and that sometimes the chapters we never planned become the ones that shape us most. This Week's Toolkit: 📖 "Things Fall Apart" by Chinua Achebe: https://www.amazon.com/Things-Fall-Apart-Chinua-Achebe/dp/0385474547 🎙️ The Afropolitan Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@Afropolitan 📱 Follow Chika: instagram.com/chikauwazie 📧 Checkout Chika's TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hyNvJcDY2bo&t=1s Connect with Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking: Instagram: @thirtyflirtypanicking TikTok: @thirtyflirtypanicking YouTube: @thirtyflirtyandpanicking If you enjoyed this episode, please be sure to follow, rate, and review the show—it helps us to grow our community!

    Trusting Your Timing with Chika Uwazie

  4. May 13

    Building Wealth with Haley Sacks AKA "Mrs. Dow Jones"

    This week on Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, Kelsey sits down with financial expert, content creator, and Future Rich Person author Haley Sacks - better known online as Mrs. Dow Jones. Haley grew up surrounded by wealth, but like so many people, she realized no one had ever actually taught her how money worked. That experience eventually inspired her to become one of the internet’s most recognizable voices in financial literacy. In this episode Haley breaks down the mindset shifts and practical tools that help women stop feeling financially behind and start building real wealth. In this conversation, Kelsey and Haley discuss: Why so many women feel shame around moneyHow to stop feeling “behind” financially Negotiating raises and knowing your worthSide hustles, burnout & making more money strategicallyThe accounts you need to open The importance of "action money"Where to allocate your money firstInvesting & financial foundationsHow to make saving sexy for a generation that grew up on Carrie Bradshaw, “little treat” culture & glamorized financial chaosHow to define your own version of a rich lifeWhy it’s never too late to become a “future rich person”Haley also shares why becoming financially secure is less about perfection, and more about just taking action... even sharing how you can take $200 a month and potentially turn it into nearly 1 million in your lifetime without lifting a finger.  If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, intimidated, or embarrassed by money… consider this your toolkit to turn things around. As Haley explains, it's never too late to become a future rich person!  THIS WEEK'S TOOLKIT: Get a copy of Future Rich Person: The New Rules for Building Wealth here: https://www.mrsdowjones.com/book  Follow Haley on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/mrsdowjones Listen to Haley's podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/financial-tea-with-mrs-dow-jones/id1860939850

    Building Wealth with Haley Sacks AKA "Mrs. Dow Jones"

  5. Mar 4

    Using Intuition to Transform Your Future with Laura Day

    In this episode of Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, Kelsey Murphy sits down with renowned intuitive and bestselling author Laura Day to talk about the power of small changes - and how they can radically transform your future. Laura has spent decades helping individuals and companies predict outcomes and navigate change using intuition and practical tools. In her newest book, The Prism: Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future, she breaks down how our early experiences shape the way we move through the world, and how even the smallest shift in behavior can create massive change. In this conversation, Laura shares her own powerful story of overcoming a deeply traumatic childhood and building a life of purpose, connection, and meaning. She explains why big leaps often aren’t the answer, how to set goals that actually move your life forward, and why a single moment can change everything. If you’ve ever felt behind on your timeline, stuck in old patterns, or unsure how to move forward - this episode offers practical tools and a powerful reminder that transformation doesn’t require a dramatic leap. Sometimes it just takes one small change. In this episode you'll learn: What “The Prism”  is and how it shapes your life Why small changes are often more powerful than big leaps Why it's important to focus on only three goals at a time How early childhood experiences influence the way we interact with the world Why revisiting trauma can sometimes keep us stuck instead of helping us heal Practical ways to change patterns and create new habits How to stop feeling “behind” in life, find joy in the present, and redefine your own timeline Why Laura believes “a miracle takes a moment” TODAY'S TOOLKIT: Learn more about Laura's work: lauraday.com Get Laura’s book: The Prism: Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future - https://www.amazon.com/Prism-Seven-Steps-Transform-Future/dp/1954118708Follow Laura on Instagram: @LauraDayIntuit

    Using Intuition to Transform Your Future with Laura Day

  6. Feb 18

    Making Room for Love When Your Life Is Already Full with Celebrity Makeup Artist Ashlee Glazer

    In this episode of Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, Kelsey Murphy sits down with celebrity makeup artist Ashlee Glazer for a deeply honest conversation about ambition, love, identity, and trusting your own timeline. Ashlee spent over a decade building a wildly successful career in the beauty industry — from MAC counters to celebrity clients and national television. But while her professional life was thriving, she quietly wrestled with the question so many women know well: Can you have it all… and when does love fit in? In this episode, Ashlee opens up about dating burnout, the pressure of timelines, and the unexpected choices that reshaped her life — including reconnecting with her seventh-grade boyfriend during the pandemic, moving across the country, stepping away from her career, and navigating the identity shift that comes with motherhood. Together, Kelsey and Ashlee explore: What it really looks like to make room for love How to be intentional when dating Why feeling safe matters more than chemistry Letting go of who you think you should be to allow for what's right for you Navigating change, and the grief that can come with leaving an old version of yourself behind Trusting your own timeline and having faith that it's all going to work out This conversation is for anyone who’s ever felt “behind,” questioned their timeline, or wondered if love, family, and fulfillment will ever fall into place.  Spoiler Alert: They do...  just not always how you expect. This Week's Toolkit: Connect with Ashlee:  Instagram: @ashleeglazer  Ashlee's Beauty Picks: https://shopmy.us/collections/2737310

    Making Room for Love When Your Life Is Already Full with Celebrity Makeup Artist Ashlee Glazer

  7. Jan 14

    Fertility, Explained with Dr. Lucky Sekhon: What to Know, What to Expect, and What Actually Matters

    In this deeply reassuring and informative episode of Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, host Kelsey Murphy sits down with Dr. Lucky Sekhon, double board-certified reproductive endocrinologist, fertility expert, and author of The Lucky Egg, for an honest, grounding conversation about fertility, timelines, and the mental load so many women carry in silence. Together, they unpack what most of us were never taught about reproductive health — from what actually matters in your 20s, 30s, and 40s, to when (and why) it’s helpful to seek support, and how to approach fertility decisions with clarity rather than fear. Dr. Lucky shares both clinical expertise and personal insight from her own IVF journey, offering perspective on common misconceptions, the realities of the biological clock, and why fertility outcomes are never a reflection of worth. Throughout the conversation, one message remains clear: you are not behind, your body is not broken, and knowledge is power — not pressure. This episode is for anyone who has ever felt anxious about “doing life on the right timeline,” overwhelmed by fertility noise online, or unsure what steps — if any — they should be taking right now. What women should actually know about fertility in their 20s, 30s, and 40s When to seek help from a medical professional Why egg count and egg quality are often misunderstood How IVF, egg freezing, and embryo freezing really work The emotional and mental health side of fertility journeys Why fertility challenges are not a personal failure How partners (including men) factor into reproductive health What to focus on now if pregnancy is a future goal Whether motherhood is something you want now, later, or simply hope to understand better, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and a much-needed exhale. THIS WEEK'S TOOLKIT: The Lucky Egg by Dr. Lucky Sekhon:  ⁠https://tinyurl.com/4p5wr3uv⁠  Follow Dr. Lucky: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lucky.sekhon/?hl=en⁠  Tiktok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@drluckyegg?lang=en⁠

    Fertility, Explained with Dr. Lucky Sekhon: What to Know, What to Expect, and What Actually Matters

  8. 12/18/2025

    Age Like a Girl: How Menopause Sparks a Level Up — Not a Loss (with Dr. Mindy Pelz)

    In this episode of Thirty, Flirty, and Panicking, Kelsey Murphy sits down with Dr. Mindy Pelz — bestselling author of Age Like a Girl, and women’s health expert — for an informative, perspective-shifting conversation about aging, hormones, and the female brain. Dr. Pelz has spent decades studying functional medicine, women’s health, and hormonal transitions, and in this episode, she breaks down what’s actually happening in women’s bodies and brains as they move through perimenopause, menopause, and beyond — and why so many of the changes women experience are misunderstood. Rather than viewing aging as decline, Dr. Mindy reframes this chapter as a biologically intelligent redesign. She explains how shifts in hormones and brain chemistry are not random or punitive, but purposeful… designed to reveal a more authentic version of who we are and to help us release what no longer serves us. As she shares in Age Like a Girl, these changes are happening for us, not to us, allowing women to step into greater clarity, confidence, and power as life evolves. In this conversation, Dr. Pelz breaks down: ​How women’s brains change at different stages of life — and why those shifts influence how we think, feel, and show up​What happens to hormones during perimenopause and menopause, and how those changes affect mood, memory, and motivation​The lifestyle changes that can help support women through hormonal transitions​How women of all ages can better understand, support, and advocate for themselves — and one another — through change​How to support someone you love through life’s shifts This episode isn’t about fear or quick fixes. It’s about understanding what’s happening beneath the surface — and giving women language, context, and compassion for experiences they’re often told to quietly endure. Whether you’re feeling foggy, overwhelmed, burned out, or simply sensing that something is shifting, this conversation helps explain why — and offers a powerful reframe of what’s possible on the other side. No matter what season you’re in, this episode invites you to see aging not as something to resist, but as an opportunity to live with more intention, authenticity, and ease. THIS WEEK'S TOOLKIT: Get your copy of Age Like a Girl: https://tinyurl.com/2jyvjjsj  Connect with Dr. Mindy: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.mindypelz Website: https://www.drmindypelz.com

    Age Like a Girl: How Menopause Sparks a Level Up — Not a Loss (with Dr. Mindy Pelz)
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Welcome to Thirty Flirty and Panicking, an empowering podcast for navigating life in your 30s and beyond. With a nod to the beloved rom-com 13 Going on 30, we recognize life doesn’t always look like what we imagined—but it's in the unpredictable that the magic really happens. Together, we’ll embrace the unexpected, silence self-doubt, and help you step into your best self. From personal stories to practical advice, join a supportive community of women who transform challenges into triumphs... because it's never too late to build the life you've dreamed of. We’ve got you—and you’ve got this.

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