What if showing up for yourself isn't selfish — but part of learning to trust yourself again? ----- In this episode of Your Most Beautiful Life, Lori explores what happens when you become someone everyone else can count on, but quietly stop counting on yourself. Maybe you've been looking forward to a quiet evening, a walk, a book, or something you've wanted to do for yourself — and then someone asks for something and “Of course” comes out before you've even considered what you have left to give. Or maybe no one is asking anything of you at all, but you reach for your phone and find yourself scrolling through other women's lives while the things you were excited about remain waiting. Lori explores the ways we can learn to override our own needs, feelings, desires, and limits — not necessarily because anyone is asking us to, but because we've become so accustomed to being responsible, useful, easy to get along with, and capable of handling whatever comes next. She also shares honestly from her own life about the ways she once looked to being wiser, more disciplined, more emotionally mature, or more spiritually grounded to finally make life feel certain and manageable — and what she began to understand when she realized that self-improvement could never guarantee certainty. This episode is an invitation to notice the moments when you pass yourself over, understand what may be underneath that pattern, and begin practicing something different: listening to yourself, allowing your experience to matter, and making choices that honor your actual capacity and desires. Lori also shares a little of her own “beautiful mess” as she prepares for a trip to London and Paris with Shannon to celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary — including the very real challenge of leaving for Europe on Monday while having not yet packed a suitcase. ----- She also explores: ⊹ Why you can be deeply generous and still be abandoning yourself ⊹ How “Of course” can become an automatic response before you've considered what you need ⊹ Why knowing what you should do doesn't always change what happens in the moment ⊹ How protective patterns can develop around responsibility, connection, usefulness, and being easy to get along with ⊹ Why self-criticism can turn a moment that needs understanding into another demand to do better ⊹ What your nervous system may be telling you when rest still feels uncomfortable ⊹ Why having time for yourself and allowing yourself to actually occupy that space are two different experiences ⊹ How self-trust grows through small returns to yourself rather than perfect follow-through ⊹ What it looks like to reconnect with desire without immediately evaluating or justifying it ⊹ How knowing your capacity can help you give willingly, answer honestly, and honor your limits ⊹ Why receiving isn't a trade-off for strength, generosity, or accomplishment ⊹ How the Overflow Framework in Safe to Receive helps you recognize automatic patterns and practice another response ⊹ Why you deserve to reach the end of your day feeling like you belonged in it, too ----- As Mentioned In The Episode: ≫ Join Safe to Receive — Lori's intimate six-week coaching experience for women who are ready to stop living as though everything depends on them: https://shoplorijsmith.com/pages/safe-to-receive ≫ Work with Lori privately: https://lorijsmith.com/product/coaching/ ≫ Follow Lori on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorijsmithcoaching/ ≫ Listen next → EP. 047 — The Life You Couldn't Have Known to Ask For https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-047-the-life-you-couldnt-have-known-to-ask-for/id1813192402?i=1000792002203 ----- A question to take with you: Where in your life have you been asking yourself to wait — and what might change if you let your own feelings, needs, or desires matter before everything else is taken care of? And perhaps even more simply: What would it look like to let yourself belong in your own day?
