Conscious Parenting Your ADHD Child

Stacey Yates Sellar
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Conscious Parenting Your ADHD Child: The Coachcast is your lighthouse in the storm of parenting information, advice and overwhelm. Hosted by Stacey Yates Sellar, a conscious parenting coach, this coachcast delivers real-time, bite-sized coaching sessions with parents navigating the unique challenges of raising ADHD and neurodiverse kiddos. No expert panel marathons. No conflicting advice. Just clear, actionable guidance grounded in science, ancient wisdom, lived experience — and lots of heart. Whether you're facing meltdowns, school struggles, sibling conflicts, or burnout, you'll find real strategies you can apply today. Short. Smart. Sanity-saving. The goal isn’t perfection — it’s connection.

  1. 3d ago

    What the Collapse of the College Degree Means

    The old contract of "work hard, earn the grades, and secure the future" is officially wobbling, and artificial intelligence is only accelerating the crack in the foundation. In this episode, we dive deep into the shifting landscape of higher education and what the "collapse of the college degree" really means for our children. We explore why the traditional path is failing, and why parents of neurodiverse kids are uniquely positioned to navigate this new reality. What You’ll Discover -The Illusion of the Degree: Why artificial intelligence is exposing the cracks in a system that has long rewarded compliance over actual curiosity and critical thinking. -The Kitchen Counter Classroom: How the most important critical thinking skills are actually built during the messy, unremarkable moments of daily life - like breakfast and bedtime - rather than in a classroom. - Embracing AI as a Tool: Why we shouldn't fear AI as a shortcut for lazy thinking, but rather use it as a powerful way to teach our children metacognition and discernment. Looking closely at the current educational landscape, it becomes obvious how much we overcomplicate our role as parents. We spend so much time fighting over homework and screen time, trying to force our children into a mold that is quickly becoming obsolete. Realising that our neurodivergent children who have always struggled with this rigid structure might actually be the best prepared for the future is a profound and validating thought. Ultimately, the goal is shifting from teaching our kids how to memorise information to enabling them to think critically about the information they have. It is about finding that sweet spot between healthy tension and disastrous turmoil, and trusting that the slow, messy process of figuring things out is exactly where the real learning happens. If you need more support and want to join a tribe of other parents who get what you are going through - check out The ND Parenting Lab Support Group at happierbytheminute.com.

  2. Jul 6

    The Gap Between Knowing and Doing

    The gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it in the heat of the moment. In this episode, we explore one of the most frustrating challenges in parenting - especially when raising neurodivergent children: you understand the strategies, you’ve done the reading and the reflection, but when your child escalates, the old reactive patterns still take over. This is a practical, compassionate look at why insight alone isn’t enough and what actually creates lasting change. What You’ll Discover - Why Knowing Isn’t Enough: The neuroscience behind the gap - your nervous system moves faster than your thinking brain under stress, so more insight rarely fixes the problem in real time. - Closing the Practice Gap: How to turn knowledge into automatic responses using “if-then” implementation intentions and deliberate low-stakes rehearsal, just like athletes and first responders. - From Insight to Action: Shifting from therapeutic understanding to behavioural practice, including how to prepare specific scripts before triggers hit so you can respond with intention instead of reaction. What really stood out is the powerful reminder that parenting change isn’t about knowing more - it’s about practising differently. Regulation, repetition, and rehearsal in calm moments are what build new reflexes you can actually access when it matters most. If you need more support and want to join a tribe of other parents who get what you are going through - check out The ND Parenting Lab Support Group at happierbytheminute.com.

  3. Jun 29

    Letter to My Judgmental Parent

    A heartfelt letter to every parent who thinks you're "too soft" with your neurodivergent child. In this episode, I share a letter - a loving, science-backed response to judgmental grandparents and older generations who don’t understand modern, compassionate parenting. It’s a bridge across generations, explaining why regulation comes before punishment and why connection is the real foundation for growth. What You’ll Discover - The Neuroscience of Neurodivergent Behaviour: Why a child’s big feelings, meltdowns, and defiance often come from nervous system overload rather than “bad behaviour,” and how the developing brain actually works. - Regulation Before Correction: Why traditional punishment in the heat of the moment doesn’t teach long-term skills, and what co-regulation, repair, and natural consequences look like instead. - From Judgment to Curiosity: How shifting from criticism to genuine curiosity can strengthen family relationships and support the next generation of parents. This letter beautifully explains that compassionate parenting isn’t permissive - it’s deliberate, informed, and focused on the long game. It’s a compassionate, hopeful message for any parent feeling judged, and a gentle invitation for grandparents and extended family to stay curious rather than critical. If you need more support and want to join a tribe of other parents who get what you are going through - check out The ND Parenting Lab Support Group at happierbytheminute.com.

  4. Jun 8

    The Sex Talk You Are Avoiding

    The conversation every parent dreads - the internet is already having with your kids. In this episode, we tackle one of the most uncomfortable but essential topics for modern parenting: how to talk to your children about sex, bodies, and consent in a world where pornography reaches them long before you do. From the realities of early exposure to practical ways to start the conversation, this is a direct, honest guide for parents who want to stay in the picture. What You’ll Discover - The Reality of Early Exposure: Why the average age kids first see porn is now 11, how it happens, and the damaging messages it teaches about bodies, intimacy, and expectations. - How to Actually Start the Talk: Practical strategies for lowering the bar, naming your own discomfort, using helpful resources, and keeping the conversation ongoing rather than one big awkward moment. - Consent for Neurodivergent Kids: Why consent needs earlier, more concrete teaching for ADHD and autistic children, with real examples of building those skills through everyday moments. Kids are going to learn about sex one way or another - the question is whether it comes from distorted online content or from a trusted adult who can provide context, values, and safety. This episode is a powerful nudge (and toolkit) for parents to step into the conversation before someone else does it for them.

  5. May 18

    Modeling Screen Control

    I think this is something so many of us feel stuck on. Screens, scrolling, and that constant battle of trying to get our kids to switch off when, if we’re honest, we struggle with it ourselves. In this episode, I break down what’s really going on beneath screen time struggles and share the single most powerful shift you can make as a parent. It’s not about stricter rules or more control. It’s about what we model every single day. What You’ll Discover - It’s Not Screens, It’s the Scroll: The real issue is passive, addictive content designed to keep us hooked, not all screen use itself. - Why Modeling Beats Rules Every Time: Kids learn self-regulation by watching us, not by listening to what we tell them to do. - How to Build Awareness Over Control: Honest conversations, shared habits, and small shifts create long-term change. What really stands out here is how much this starts with us. It’s easy to focus on our kids’ behaviour, but when we look honestly, we’re navigating the same pull. The endless scroll, the “just one more minute,” the feeling of time slipping away. And that’s exactly why modeling matters so much. When we show our kids what it looks like to notice that pull, talk about it, and manage it, we’re giving them something far more powerful than any rule. If you need more support and want to join a tribe of other parents who get what you are going through - check out The ND Parenting Lab Support Group at happierbytheminute.com.

  6. Apr 27

    Coaching Parents J & J Through Messy Mealtime Battles

    I had one of those coaching conversations recently that I know so many parents will recognise instantly. The repeating, the arguing, the escalating, and that moment where you hear yourself and think, how did we get here again? In this episode, I share a real-life coaching breakdown with a family navigating daily struggles around listening, transitions, and mealtimes. We unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface and, more importantly, how to interrupt those patterns in a way that actually builds skills instead of stress. What You’ll Discover - The One-Time Rule That Changes Everything: Why repeating instructions fuels escalation, and how moving straight to support builds real skills. - Why Mealtimes Become Power Struggles: How negotiation, persuasion, and pressure create resistance, and what to do instead. - Interrupting the Parent-Child Escalation Loop: Simple ways to recognise when you’re triggered and reset before things spiral. What really stood out to me in this conversation is how much of parenting stress comes from patterns we don’t even realise we’re in. The request, repeat, argue, threaten cycle feels automatic, but once you see it, you can start to change it. And that shift, from trying to control behaviour to actually supporting skill development, changes everything. This isn’t about getting it perfect. It’s about noticing where things are breaking down and trying something different with consistency and compassion. Because when we change how we respond, our kids get the chance to learn something new too. If you need more support and want to join a tribe of other parents who get what you are going through - check out The ND Parenting Lab Support Group at happierbytheminute.com. Conscious Parenting Your ADHD Child is produced by Urban Podcasts.

  7. Apr 20

    Information Isn’t the Problem, Implementation Is

    You’ve read the books, watched the reels, tried the strategies, and yet nothing seems to stick in the moment when things really matter. In this episode, I unpack a powerful idea that completely shifts how we think about change. It’s not about learning more. It’s about what actually helps you show up differently when your child needs you most. What You’ll Discover - The Intention vs Action Gap: Why knowing what to do doesn’t translate into doing it, especially in high-pressure parenting moments. - Why Information Alone Falls Short: Books, courses, and advice can’t rewire your responses without repeated, real-life practice. - What Actually Creates Change: How support, accountability, and safe spaces help parents shift patterns in a way information never can. What really stayed with me from this is how validating it feels. So many parents carry this quiet belief that they should be able to figure it out on their own, that if they just learn a bit more, try a bit harder, they’ll get there. But this conversation flips that completely. It’s not a lack of effort or knowledge. It’s that real change happens through experience, repetition, and support, not isolation. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by conflicting advice, stuck in the same patterns, or frustrated that nothing seems to stick when it matters most, this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air. You don’t need more information. You need the right kind of support around you. If you need more support and want to join a tribe of other parents who get what you are going through - check out The ND Parenting Lab Support Group at happierbytheminute.com.

  8. Apr 13

    Why Is Everything Around School SO Hard

    I’ve been sitting with this question a lot lately, why does everything around school feel so hard for some families? In this episode, I unpack a perspective that might feel uncomfortable at first but deeply validating once it lands. What if the problem isn’t our kids, but the system they’re being asked to fit into? We explore how modern education still reflects an outdated model, and what it means for neurodivergent children who are wired completely differently. This is a conversation about shifting our lens as parents and creating environments where our kids can actually thrive.  What You’ll Discover - It’s Not the Child, It’s the Mismatch: Neurodivergent kids aren’t failing school, the system is failing to meet how they learn and grow.  - Rethinking Success and Pressure: When we shift from performance and grades to well-being and connection, everything changes for our kids.  - The Skills That Actually Matter: Creativity, adaptability, emotional intelligence, and critical thinking are far more relevant than memorisation in today’s world.  Without realising it, we pass down the belief that grades equal worth, that success follows a fixed path, and that struggle in school is something to push through no matter the cost. But when we pause and question those assumptions, we create space for something different, something healthier. This isn’t about removing all challenge or abandoning structure. It’s about understanding the difference between healthy stress that builds resilience and toxic stress that leads to burnout. It’s about listening when our kids tell us something isn’t working and having the courage to respond differently. If you need more support and want to join a tribe of other parents who get what you are going through - check out The ND Parenting Lab Support Group at happierbytheminute.com. Conscious Parenting Your ADHD Child is produced by Urban Podcasts.

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Conscious Parenting Your ADHD Child: The Coachcast is your lighthouse in the storm of parenting information, advice and overwhelm. Hosted by Stacey Yates Sellar, a conscious parenting coach, this coachcast delivers real-time, bite-sized coaching sessions with parents navigating the unique challenges of raising ADHD and neurodiverse kiddos. No expert panel marathons. No conflicting advice. Just clear, actionable guidance grounded in science, ancient wisdom, lived experience — and lots of heart. Whether you're facing meltdowns, school struggles, sibling conflicts, or burnout, you'll find real strategies you can apply today. Short. Smart. Sanity-saving. The goal isn’t perfection — it’s connection.

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