Bent Not Broken: Starting Over After Divorce | Post Divorce Life

Deborah Griffiths

Divorce changes everything and starting over is hard — but it doesn’t have to break you. Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce, hosted by Deborah Griffiths, is a powerful divorce recovery podcast that helps you heal, rebuild, and thrive after separation. Deborah is the CEO of Broken to Boldness, author of Torched: Burnt by a Gaslighter, and a respected life transition coach with over 30 years of experience helping thousands reclaim their lives after divorce. Each week, she brings you inspiring guest interviews, practical divorce recovery strategies, and raw conversations about the real challenges of starting over. From healing emotional wounds to navigating co-parenting, from the courage it takes to date after divorce to rebuilding your identity with confidence, this podcast is your guide to living boldly after heartbreak. You’ll also learn tools for gaslighting recovery, financial independence, and celebrating the victories that prove you are stronger than your circumstances. If you’re ready to move forward, create a life you love, and remember that you are bent, not broken, this podcast is for you. Subscribe today to Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce and join Deborah Griffiths on the journey from pain to empowerment.

  1. Starting Over After Trauma: Breaking the Silence & Rebuilding Your True Self

    2d ago ·  Bonus

    Starting Over After Trauma: Breaking the Silence & Rebuilding Your True Self

    What if the silence you have been carrying is the very thing keeping you lost, emotionally stuck, and unable to fully heal, rebuild, and reclaim your life? In this powerful bonus coaching episode of Bent Not Broken, Coach Deborah takes a deeper dive into one of the most emotional themes from her conversation with Barb Rebon — breaking the silence, healing emotional wounds, and learning how to step into your truth after years of hiding pain. So many women spend years silently carrying trauma, shame, emotional abuse, identity struggles, fear, and heartbreak. What once felt like protection can slowly become the very thing that causes life to fall apart internally — leaving you disconnected from yourself, your purpose, and the freedom to live authentically. This episode offers encouragement and practical guidance for women who are starting over, navigating emotional healing, recovering from trauma, or trying to rebuild their lives after years of silence and self-protection. Coach Deborah also reminds listeners that healing does not happen all at once. Rebuilding your life after trauma, emotional abuse, divorce, or years of silence happens one honest step at a time. If you have ever felt emotionally lost, afraid to tell your story, or uncertain how to start over after pain, this episode will encourage you to stop hiding, reclaim your voice, and begin healing with courage and purpose. Key Takeaways Silence is not empty—it’s often filled with unprocessed painYou are not weak for staying silent—you were survivingHealing begins when you feel safe enough to be seen and heardYour story is not something to hide—it’s something to honorYou don’t have to share everything with everyone—start with one safe space This Episode Is For You If: You feel like you’re living a double lifeYou’ve been holding onto trauma, shame, or fearYou struggle to express your true identityYou’re ready to start healing—but don’t know where to beginYou want to feel more aligned, authentic, and free Call to Action If this episode resonated with you: Share it with someone who needs encouragement Subscribe, rate, and review Bent Not Broken Ready to break your silence and step into your next chapter? Book a Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/brokentoboldness7/boldnessblueprint Enjoyed this episode of Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce with Deborah Griffiths? Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so more people searching for life after divorce, divorce recovery, co-parenting, dating after divorce, and healing from gaslighting can discover this empowering podcast. Every review helps others find hope, inspiration, and practical tools for thriving after divorce. Explore more resources: Visit BrokenToBoldness.com for coaching, workshops, and guidance on divorce recovery and life transitions. Follow Deborah Griffiths for daily empowerment and support: Instagram: @BrokenToBoldnessFacebook: Broken to BoldnessLinkedIn: Broken to Boldness Take the Living Bold Assessment Remember: divorce may bend you, but it does not break you. You are stronger than you think, and your bold new chapter starts now. Disclaimer: The commentary and opinions available on this podcast are for informational and entertainment purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal or psychological advice. You should contact an attorney, coach, or therapist in your state to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

    6 min
  2. Lost in Silence: Healing From Trauma, Shame & the Fear of Living Authentically | Barb Rebon

    3d ago

    Lost in Silence: Healing From Trauma, Shame & the Fear of Living Authentically | Barb Rebon

    What happens when the life you built no longer aligns with your truth — when years of silence, emotional pain, trauma, and hiding who you are leave you feeling lost, broken, and disconnected from yourself? In this deeply emotional episode of Bent Not Broken, Coach Deborah sits down with Barb Rebon to share a powerful story of healing, recovery, reclaiming identity, and starting over after a lifetime of silence. For more than 26 years, Barb dedicated her life to education, helping thousands of students and families. But behind her successful career was a painful private struggle shaped by childhood sexual abuse, shame, fear, emotional trauma, faith conflict, and identity suppression. In her upcoming book, The Heartbeat of My Silence, Barb opens up about what happens when your inner world slowly falls apart while trying to survive in silence. This episode explores: Surviving childhood sexual abuse and emotional traumaLiving for decades feeling lost, ashamed, and emotionally disconnectedHow silence and suppression can deeply impact relationships, identity, and purposeWrestling with faith, sexuality, and self-acceptanceThe emotional process of reclaiming your voice and identity later in lifeHow therapy, safe relationships, and storytelling help people heal and rebuildWhy starting over can become the beginning of freedom, healing, and authentic living Barb also shares the life-changing moment that sparked her transformation after watching country artist Shelly Wright publicly come out and tell her story — a moment that helped Barb realize she no longer wanted to live hidden by fear and silence. This conversation is raw, honest, and inspiring for anyone navigating trauma recovery, emotional abuse, identity struggles, life transitions, or the painful journey of rebuilding after years of silence. Key Topics DiscussedThe emotional weight of living in silenceTrauma recovery and long-term emotional healingHow shame and fear keep people emotionally trappedFaith, identity, and reclaiming self-worthThe power of storytelling in healing and recoveryLearning to rebuild your life with authenticity and purposeWhy healing often begins the moment you stop hiding About Barb Rebon Barb Rebon is a lifelong educator with over 26 years of experience impacting students and families. In her debut memoir, The Heartbeat of My Silence, she courageously shares her journey through trauma, faith, identity, and self-acceptance—offering hope and healing to others walking a similar path. Resources & Links The Heartbeat of My Silence (Coming Soon – Target Launch: May, ahead of Pride Month)Available soon on: Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Barb’s upcoming websiteBarb's website: http://www.barbararebonauthor.com/ Enjoyed this episode of Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce with Deborah Griffiths? Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so more people searching for life after divorce, divorce recovery, co-parenting, dating after divorce, and healing from gaslighting can discover this empowering podcast. Every review helps others find hope, inspiration, and practical tools for thriving after divorce. Explore more resources: Visit BrokenToBoldness.com for coaching, workshops, and guidance on divorce recovery and life transitions. Follow Deborah Griffiths for daily empowerment and support: Instagram: @BrokenToBoldnessFacebook: Broken to BoldnessLinkedIn: Broken to Boldness Take the Living Bold Assessment Remember: divorce may bend you, but it does not break you. You are stronger than you think, and your bold new chapter starts now. Disclaimer: The commentary and opinions available on this podcast are for informational and entertainment purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal or psychological advice. You should contact an attorney, coach, or therapist in your state to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

    37 min
  3. Starting Over After Divorce: Helping Your Child Recover From Emotional Stress & Conflict

    May 21 ·  Bonus

    Starting Over After Divorce: Helping Your Child Recover From Emotional Stress & Conflict

    Divorce can leave families feeling lost, emotionally overwhelmed, and unsure how to rebuild when life falls apart. While parents are navigating the pain of starting over after divorce, children are often quietly carrying the emotional weight of conflict, stress, and emotional instability. In this bonus coaching session of Bent Not Broken, Deborah expands on the powerful conversation with Dr. David Marcus about how high-conflict divorce, emotional abuse, and unhealthy co-parenting dynamics impact children long after the marriage ends. This episode focuses on one of the most important tools for helping children heal and recover after divorce: becoming a “soothing presence” for your child. When children are surrounded by arguments, tension, or emotional chaos, they often internalize the conflict. Some emotionally withdraw, some act out, and others feel responsible for fixing the family around them. Deborah explains why emotionally safe parenting becomes critical when a family is trying to rebuild and reclaim stability after divorce. In this episode, you’ll learn: What it means to become a calming, emotionally safe parent during divorce recoveryWhy emotional safety matters more than overexplaining the divorceHow children absorb stress, emotional abuse, and parental conflictWhy regulating your emotions helps your child feel secure and supportedHow consistency, healthy boundaries, and calm communication help children healEncouragement for parents navigating parental alienation, co-parenting struggles, and starting over after divorce Deborah also reminds listeners that while you cannot control the other parent’s behavior, you can control the emotional environment your child experiences with you. Even when a marriage falls apart, one emotionally grounded parent can help a child rebuild trust, resilience, and emotional security. If you are navigating divorce, co-parenting challenges, emotional abuse recovery, or the pain of starting over after divorce, this coaching session offers practical guidance, hope, and encouragement to help both you and your child heal with purpose. Enjoyed this episode of Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce with Deborah Griffiths? Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so more people searching for life after divorce, divorce recovery, co-parenting, dating after divorce, and healing from gaslighting can discover this empowering podcast. Every review helps others find hope, inspiration, and practical tools for thriving after divorce. Explore more resources: Visit BrokenToBoldness.com for coaching, workshops, and guidance on divorce recovery and life transitions. Follow Deborah Griffiths for daily empowerment and support: Instagram: @BrokenToBoldnessFacebook: Broken to Boldness Remember: divorce may bend you, but it does not break you. You are stronger than you think, and your bold new chapter starts now. Disclaimer: The commentary and opinions available on this podcast are for informational and entertainment purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal or psychological advice. You should contact an attorney, coach, or therapist in your state to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

    7 min
  4. How High-Conflict Divorce Hurts Children — And How to Help Them Heal & Feel Safe Again | David Marcus

    May 20

    How High-Conflict Divorce Hurts Children — And How to Help Them Heal & Feel Safe Again | David Marcus

    Divorce does not just affect parents — it deeply impacts children, especially when conflict, emotional abuse, and unhealthy communication continue after the marriage ends. In this episode of Bent Not Broken, Deborah speaks with Dr. David Marcus about how high-conflict divorce affects a child’s emotional wellbeing and what parents can do to help children heal, rebuild trust, and feel emotionally safe again. Dr. Marcus explains how children absorb stress, anxiety, and conflict even when they cannot express it with words. He shares why some children become people-pleasers, emotionally withdraw, or try to mediate between parents just to survive the emotional chaos around them. This episode explores: The emotional impact of high-conflict divorce on childrenWarning signs of emotional stress and parental alienationHow children “borrow your okayness” from emotionally grounded parentsHealthy co-parenting communication and emotional boundariesPractical ways to help children process feelings and recover after divorce Dr. Marcus also shares parenting insights from his upcoming book, Parent Rx: Prescriptive Wisdom, Tips and Strategies for Communication With Your Child. If you are navigating divorce, co-parenting struggles, blended family challenges, or emotional abuse recovery, this episode offers practical tools to help your children heal and reclaim emotional safety after divorce. Learn more at: parentrx.org Enjoyed this episode of Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce with Deborah Griffiths? Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so more people searching for life after divorce, divorce recovery, co-parenting, dating after divorce, and healing from gaslighting can discover this empowering podcast. Every review helps others find hope, inspiration, and practical tools for thriving after divorce. Explore more resources: Visit BrokenToBoldness.com for coaching, workshops, and guidance on divorce recovery and life transitions. Follow Deborah Griffiths for daily empowerment and support: Instagram: @BrokenToBoldnessFacebook: Broken to Boldness Remember: divorce may bend you, but it does not break you. You are stronger than you think, and your bold new chapter starts now. Disclaimer: The commentary and opinions available on this podcast are for informational and entertainment purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal or psychological advice. You should contact an attorney, coach, or therapist in your state to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

    41 min
  5. Lost Yourself in Marriage? 3 Steps to Rebuild Your Life After Divorce

    May 14 ·  Bonus

    Lost Yourself in Marriage? 3 Steps to Rebuild Your Life After Divorce

    After divorce, many women realize something deeper than the end of a relationship has occurred. They’ve lost pieces of themselves along the way. In this Bent Not Broken Bonus Coaching episode, Coach Deborah Griffiths reflects on the conversation with writer Heather Sweeney and explores an experience many women quietly struggle with — losing their identity inside a marriage. For years, many women prioritize supporting their partner’s career, raising children, and maintaining the household. Over time, their own dreams, passions, and voice slowly fade into the background. But recognizing that loss can also be the beginning of something powerful — reclaiming who you truly are. In this coaching episode, Deborah shares practical steps for rebuilding confidence, reconnecting with your passions, and creating a life that reflects your authentic self after divorce or a major life transition. If you’ve ever felt like you lost yourself in a relationship, this episode will remind you that rediscovering your voice is possible. Because life may bend you — but it doesn’t have to break you. In This Bonus Coaching Episode • Why many women lose their identity in long-term relationships • How small compromises can lead to self-abandonment over time • The first step to reconnecting with who you truly are • How taking action rebuilds confidence after divorce • Why healing requires grace, patience, and self-compassion • The power of rediscovering passions that bring you back to life Ready to Take the Next Step? If you’re navigating divorce or a major life transition and want guidance on rebuilding your confidence, identity, and next chapter, Coach Deborah offers one-on-one discovery calls to help you create a clear path forward. Schedule a call here: https://calendly.com/brokentoboldness7/boldnessblueprint Enjoyed this episode of Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce with Deborah Griffiths? Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so more people searching for life after divorce, divorce recovery, co-parenting, dating after divorce, and healing from gaslighting can discover this empowering podcast. Every review helps others find hope, inspiration, and practical tools for thriving after divorce. Explore more resources: Visit BrokenToBoldness.com for coaching, workshops, and guidance on divorce recovery and life transitions. Follow Deborah Griffiths for daily empowerment and support: Instagram: @BrokenToBoldnessFacebook: Broken to Boldness Remember: divorce may bend you, but it does not break you. You are stronger than you think, and your bold new chapter starts now. Disclaimer: The commentary and opinions available on this podcast are for informational and entertainment purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal or psychological advice. You should contact an attorney, coach, or therapist in your state to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

    6 min
  6. How to Rebuild Your Identity After Divorce | From Military Wife to Finding Her Voice with Heather Sweeney

    May 13

    How to Rebuild Your Identity After Divorce | From Military Wife to Finding Her Voice with Heather Sweeney

    What happens when the life you built your identity around suddenly disappears? For many women, especially those who spent years supporting a partner’s career and putting their own dreams on hold, divorce doesn’t just end a marriage—it forces a complete rediscovery of self. In this powerful episode of Bent Not Broken, Coach Deborah Griffiths speaks with writer and memoirist Heather Sweeney, who shares her journey of rebuilding her life after the end of her military marriage. For years, Heather lived the life of a Navy spouse and stay-at-home mother, supporting her husband’s career while raising their children and moving around the world. But when her marriage ended, she found herself facing the daunting challenge of starting over—financially, emotionally, and personally. Heather opens up about the quiet identity loss many military spouses experience, the emotional toll of divorce, and the courage it takes to reclaim your voice after years of self-abandonment. Her memoir Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage tells the story of rediscovering independence, confidence, and purpose after divorce. Heather’s writing has appeared in The New York Times Modern Love, The Washington Post, HuffPost, TODAY, and Newsweek, where she explores topics such as identity, relationships, parenting, and personal reinvention. This conversation is a powerful reminder that life may bend us—but it doesn’t have to break us. In This Episode, We Discuss • The hidden identity loss many military spouses experience • Why divorce often forces women to rediscover who they truly are • The unspoken rules of military spouse culture and resilience • The emotional impact of starting over after a long marriage • Financial independence and rebuilding stability after divorce • Recognizing emotional invalidation and chronic self-abandonment • Co-parenting challenges within military families • Dating again after divorce and learning to trust yourself • The role of journaling, therapy, and community in healing • Why hope and self-trust are essential when rebuilding your life About Heather Sweeney Heather Sweeney is a writer and memoirist whose work has appeared in The New York Times Modern Love, The Washington Post, HuffPost, TODAY, Newsweek, Electric Literature, and Brevity Nonfiction Blog. Her memoir Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage explores identity loss, self-abandonment, and the journey of rebuilding life after divorce. Connect With Heather Website: heatherlsweeney.com Instagram: @heatherlsweeney Book: Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage (available wherever books are sold) Enjoyed this episode of Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce with Deborah Griffiths? Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so more people searching for life after divorce, divorce recovery, co-parenting, dating after divorce, and healing from gaslighting can discover this empowering podcast. Every review helps others find hope, inspiration, and practical tools for thriving after divorce. Explore more resources: Visit BrokenToBoldness.com for coaching, workshops, and guidance on divorce recovery and life transitions. Follow Deborah Griffiths for daily empowerment and support: Instagram: @BrokenToBoldnessFacebook: Broken to Boldness Remember: divorce may bend you, but it does not break you. You are stronger than you think, and your bold new chapter starts now. Disclaimer: The commentary and opinions available on this podcast are for informational and entertainment purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal or psychological advice. You should contact an attorney, coach, or therapist in your state to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

    41 min
  7. Mother’s Day for Single Moms: Reclaiming Joy, Strength, and Self-Worth

    May 10 ·  Bonus

    Mother’s Day for Single Moms: Reclaiming Joy, Strength, and Self-Worth

    Mother’s Day isn’t always flowers, cards, and breakfast in bed—especially for single moms navigating life after divorce, separation, or major life transitions. In this powerful bonus coaching episode of Bent Not Broken, Coach Deborah Griffiths speaks directly to the heart of single mothers who may be feeling unseen, overwhelmed, or emotionally stretched thin on a day that can bring both love and loneliness. If you’ve ever struggled with Mother’s Day as a single mom, this episode is for you. The Truth About Mother’s Day as a Single Mom For many women, Mother’s Day can bring: Feelings of loneliness or isolationDisappointment from unmet expectationsEmotional triggers from divorce or co-parenting challengesThe pressure to “hold it all together” for everyone else This episode creates a safe space to acknowledge the hard emotions while reminding you that your feelings are valid—and you are not alone. How to Reclaim Mother’s Day on Your Terms Instead of waiting for recognition from others, this episode walks you through how to redefine Mother’s Day with intention, self-love, and empowerment. Coach Deborah shares how to shift from: Waiting → Creating your own joyDisappointment → Self-validationExternal validation → Internal empowerment 3 Powerful Coaching Shifts for Single Moms You’ll walk away with simple, actionable tools you can use immediately: 1. Celebrate Yourself Without Apology Learn how to recognize your strength, resilience, and growth as a single mother. 2. Create Your Own Mother’s Day Traditions Discover how to design a day that actually feels good to YOU—whether that’s quiet, joyful, restful, or empowering. 3. Release the Expectation Trap Let go of what others didn’t do and reclaim your power by focusing on what you can give yourself. From Surviving to Rebuilding Being a single mom is not a limitation—it’s a transformation. This episode is a reminder that you are: Stronger than your circumstancesRebuilding your life with intentionCreating a powerful example for your children Your story matters. Your journey matters. And YOU deserve to be celebrated. A Mother’s Day Message You Need to Hear Whether today feels joyful, painful, quiet, or somewhere in between… You are still an incredible mother. You are still worthy of recognition. And you are never alone on this journey. Ready to Take the Next Step? If this episode resonated with you and you’re ready to move from pain to purpose, I invite you to connect with me. Book your discovery call here: https://calendly.com/brokentoboldness7/boldnessblueprint Enjoyed this episode of Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce with Deborah Griffiths? Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so more people searching for life after divorce, divorce recovery, co-parenting, dating after divorce, and healing from gaslighting can discover this empowering podcast. Every review helps others find hope, inspiration, and practical tools for thriving after divorce. Explore more resources: Visit BrokenToBoldness.com for coaching, workshops, and guidance on divorce recovery and life transitions. Follow Deborah Griffiths for daily empowerment and support: Instagram: @BrokenToBoldnessFacebook: Broken to BoldnessLinkedIn: Broken to Boldness Remember: divorce may bend you, but it does not break you. You are stronger than you think, and your bold new chapter starts now. Disclaimer: The commentary and opinions available on this podcast are for informational and entertainment purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal or psychological advice. You should contact an attorney, coach, or therapist in your state to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

    5 min
  8. Bonus Coaching: How to Rebuild Your Life When the Fairytale Ends

    May 7 ·  Bonus

    Bonus Coaching: How to Rebuild Your Life When the Fairytale Ends

    In this Bent Not Broken bonus coaching episode, Coach Deborah Griffiths reflects on the powerful lessons from her conversation with liver transplant survivor Heather Krueger. Many women grow up believing in the fairytale ending — that love will lead to happily ever after. But life transitions like divorce, illness, and unexpected challenges often force us to rewrite that story. Coach Deborah shares three mindset shifts that can help you begin rebuilding your life when everything you expected changes. From letting go of society’s timeline to focusing on small daily steps, this episode is a reminder that healing starts from within. If you’re navigating divorce recovery, personal reinvention, or a major life transition, this episode will remind you that your story isn’t over. You may be bent — but you are never broken. Enjoyed this episode of Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce with Deborah Griffiths? Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so more people searching for life after divorce, divorce recovery, co-parenting, dating after divorce, and healing from gaslighting can discover this empowering podcast. Every review helps others find hope, inspiration, and practical tools for thriving after divorce. Explore more resources: Visit BrokenToBoldness.com for coaching, workshops, and guidance on divorce recovery and life transitions. Follow Deborah Griffiths for daily empowerment and support: Instagram: @BrokenToBoldnessFacebook: Broken to Boldness Remember: divorce may bend you, but it does not break you. You are stronger than you think, and your bold new chapter starts now. Disclaimer: The commentary and opinions available on this podcast are for informational and entertainment purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal or psychological advice. You should contact an attorney, coach, or therapist in your state to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

    5 min

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Divorce changes everything and starting over is hard — but it doesn’t have to break you. Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce, hosted by Deborah Griffiths, is a powerful divorce recovery podcast that helps you heal, rebuild, and thrive after separation. Deborah is the CEO of Broken to Boldness, author of Torched: Burnt by a Gaslighter, and a respected life transition coach with over 30 years of experience helping thousands reclaim their lives after divorce. Each week, she brings you inspiring guest interviews, practical divorce recovery strategies, and raw conversations about the real challenges of starting over. From healing emotional wounds to navigating co-parenting, from the courage it takes to date after divorce to rebuilding your identity with confidence, this podcast is your guide to living boldly after heartbreak. You’ll also learn tools for gaslighting recovery, financial independence, and celebrating the victories that prove you are stronger than your circumstances. If you’re ready to move forward, create a life you love, and remember that you are bent, not broken, this podcast is for you. Subscribe today to Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce and join Deborah Griffiths on the journey from pain to empowerment.

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