Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast

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Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom. Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships. We talk about: • Marriage and intimacy • Sexual communication • Desire differences • Erotic exploration • Guided audio intimacy • Confidence in the bedroom • Reigniting passion after kids • Sex toys, play, and connection • Building emotional safety • Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together. New episodes every week.

  1. 4d ago

    Hot Takes — Our Most Unpopular Opinions About Sex and Relationships

    No frameworks. No research drops. No homework. Just opinions — and our most unpopular ones. In Episode 35, Scott and Brittney bring five genuine hot takes about sex and relationships that go against conventional wisdom, popular advice, and what most people want to hear. Then they defend every single one. Scheduled sex is better than spontaneous sex. Most couples don't need more communication — they need better listening. The word "foreplay" should be retired. A sexless period isn't a crisis but ignoring it is. And the best thing you can do for your sex life has nothing to do with sex. Plus a rapid-fire round of five more takes that are going to make at least one of you spill your coffee. This is the episode you listen to on the way to dinner and spend the whole meal talking about. In this episode: Hot Take #1: Scheduled sex is better than spontaneous sex — full stopHot Take #2: Most couples need better listening, not more communicationHot Take #3: "Foreplay" is a useless and damaging category that should be retiredHot Take #4: A dry spell isn't a crisis — ignoring it isHot Take #5: The best thing you can do for your sex life has nothing to do with sexRapid fire: five more takes in 30 seconds eachScott & Brittney react to each other — and don't always agreeRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

    53 min

  2. Jun 9

    The Three Dimensions of Sex — Which One Are You Actually Craving?

    When couples say they want better sex, they're usually wanting three completely different things — and most of the time they don't realize they're in different conversations. In Episode 34, Scott and Brittney introduce one of the most practically useful frameworks in intimacy: the Three Dimensions of Sex. Partner sex — the intimacy dimension, craving genuine connection with a specific known person. Trance sex — the sensation dimension, craving deep physical immersion and altered states of embodied experience. Role-play sex — the fantasy dimension, craving the freedom to inhabit a scenario or dynamic that everyday relational identity doesn't allow. These aren't variations on the same experience. They're fundamentally different kinds of sexual satisfaction that engage different psychological systems and require different conditions. Knowing which one you primarily value — and which one your partner values — changes everything about how you understand your intimate life. Scott and Brittney walk through all three dimensions in depth, cover every pairing combination and what each one needs to thrive, share their own primary dimensions, and offer a Coelle session recommendation for each one. In this episode: Why "wanting better sex" is often three different conversations happening simultaneouslyThe Partner dimension — what relational aliveness actually feels like and what kills itThe Trance dimension — what deep physical immersion requires and why it gets shortchanged in long-term relationshipsThe Role-Play dimension — why it carries stigma, what it's actually about, and what it unlocksEvery pairing combination — best matches, trickier matches, and how to bridge the gapThe "something's missing" diagnostic — how to identify which dimension is underserved in your relationshipScott & Brittney share their primary dimensionsA Coelle session recommendation for each dimensionRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here:  Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download  Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

    1h 8m

  3. Jun 2

    Attachment Styles — And What They're Doing to Your Sex Life

    Why do you feel anxious after really good sex? Why does your partner pull away right when things get close? Why does a dry spell feel like evidence that the relationship is falling apart — even when you know logically that it isn't? The answer is almost always attachment. In Episode 33, Scott and Brittney complete their personality framework trilogy — Love Languages, Enneagram, and now attachment styles — with the one that goes deepest. Attachment theory doesn't describe a preference. It describes your nervous system's blueprint for closeness, developed in childhood and running automatically in every intimate moment of your adult life. They cover all four attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized — with specific, honest translations for what each one looks like in the bedroom, what it needs from a partner, where it gets in its own way, and which Coelle session is matched to its specific needs. Then they get personal about their own styles and what understanding them changed in their relationship. In this episode: What attachment theory is and why it's more relevant to your sex life than any other frameworkWhy many "libido problems" are actually attachment cycles under stressSecure attachment — what it looks like and why it still requires intentionAnxious attachment — why sex becomes reassurance-seeking and what the aftermath feels likeAvoidant attachment — why the post-sex pull-away isn't rejection, even though it feels exactly like itDisorganized attachment — the push-pull of wanting closeness and fearing it simultaneouslyThe anxious-avoidant pairing — the pursue-withdraw cycle explainedA Coelle session recommendation for each attachment styleScott & Brittney share their styles — and what they wish they'd understood earlierWhat to do with this information without turning it into a diagnosis or an excuseAttachment Style Quiz: https://traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/ (not affiliated in any way) Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here:  Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download  Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

    55 min

  4. May 19

    Your Enneagram Type in Bed — What Each Number Actually Needs

    You know your Enneagram number. But do you know what it's been quietly telling you about what you need in bed? Following the success of last week's Love Languages episode, Scott and Brittney go deeper with the framework that actually explains why you want what you want — not just what you want. The Enneagram goes beyond behavior into motivation, which makes it uniquely revealing when applied to intimacy. In Episode 32, they walk through all nine Enneagram types — what each one needs in intimate relationships, what they bring to a partner, where they get in their own way, what growth looks like for each type, and which Coelle session is built for exactly what they need. Then they share their own types and what they recognized about themselves and each other. If you and your partner have different numbers — this episode explains some things. In this episode: Why the Enneagram works differently than other personality frameworks for understanding intimacyThe key split: which types need emotional connection first, and which can separate sex from loveAll nine types — core drive, what they need in bed, what they bring, their growth edge, and a Coelle session recommendationWhy Type 1s are secretly more adventurous than anyone thinksWhy Type 2s struggle to ask for what they want — and what happens when they doWhy Type 3s fuse sex with self-worth — and how that creates performance pressureWhy Type 9s self-forget in bed — and what a partner can do about itScott & Brittney share their types and what they recognized about each otherThe one question to ask your partner before you go to sleep tonightRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here:  Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download  Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

    1h 9m

  5. May 12

    The 5 Love Languages — But Make It Spicy

    You know your love language. But do you know what it looks like in bed? In Episode 31, Scott and Brittney take Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages — one of the most widely recognized relationship frameworks in the world — and translate each one specifically into what it looks like during intimacy. Not in general. In the bedroom. Because there's a massive gap between knowing your love language and knowing what your partner actually needs sexually. This episode closes that gap. They walk through all five — words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts — with specific, honest translations for each one. Then they share their own love languages and what they look like in their intimate life. This one is practical, a little spicy, and gives you something to talk about with your partner before the episode ends. In this episode: Why knowing your love language is just the starting point — not the answerWords of affirmation: why silence reads as absence, and what verbal intimacy actually sounds likeQuality time: why presence during sex matters more than durationPhysical touch: why HOW you touch matters as much as THAT you touchActs of service: the most underappreciated love language in the sexual contextReceiving gifts: why it has nothing to do with money and everything to do with thoughtfulnessScott & Brittney share their own love languages — and what they look like during intimacyRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here:  Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download  Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

    41 min

  6. May 5

    Would You Rather — The Couples Intimacy Edition

    No research drops. No homework. Just a game — and a surprisingly revealing one. In Episode 30, Scott and Brittney play Would You Rather: Couples Intimacy Edition. Fifteen questions, real-time answers, zero prep — and more than a few moments where one of them surprises the other. Would you rather have amazing sex once a month or good sex three times a week? Would you rather know every fantasy your partner has ever had — or have them know all of yours? Would you rather spend the rest of your relationship never talking about sex — or talking about it so openly it occasionally gets uncomfortable? This one is meant to be listened to together. Pause after each question. Answer out loud. See what comes up. In this episode: 15 Would You Rather questions across four rounds — warm up, spicy, revealing, and the final threeScott & Brittney's live, unscripted answers — including the ones that actually surprised each otherWhy forced-choice questions surface preferences that open-ended ones never doThe one thing to do after the episode endsRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here:  Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download  Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

    49 min

  7. Apr 28

    The Female Orgasm — What Most Men Still Don't Understand

    The orgasm gap is one of the most documented — and least honestly discussed — realities in sexual research. In heterosexual sex, men orgasm 95% of the time. Women? 65%. And that gap isn't a body problem. It's an information and attention problem. In Episode 29, Scott and Brittney tackle the female orgasm head-on — covering the anatomy most couples were never taught, the research on what actually works, and the conversation most heterosexual couples have never had. Scott shares what changed when he actually understood the anatomy. Brittney shares what it felt like before and after those conversations happened. This is the episode for every man who thought he understood this — and every woman who has spent years feeling like her pleasure was optional. In this episode: The orgasm gap by the numbers — and why the lesbian orgasm rate reveals everythingThe full anatomy of the clitoris — why it's nothing like what most people were taughtLess than 10% of women orgasm from penetration alone — what that means for your sex lifeThe four research-identified clitoral stimulation techniques most couples have never triedWhy faking orgasm guarantees the gap continues — and what to do insteadThe specific behaviors most strongly associated with female orgasmThe conversation every couple needs to have — and how to start it tonightRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here:  Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download  Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

    39 min

  8. Apr 21

    The Intimacy Bucket List — 10 Sexual Experiences Every Couple Should Try

    We made our actual Intimacy Bucket List. Then we told you which ones we've done. In Episode 28, Scott and Brittney get personal with 10 sexual experiences every couple should try at least once — and instead of keeping it theoretical, they share exactly where each item lands for them personally. Done it? Haven't gotten there yet? One of them more into it than the other? You're getting the real answers. From outdoor sex and blindfold and temperature play, to restraint, anal play, mirror sex, a nude getaway, and the one experience that should belong only to the two of you — this list is spicy, honest, and built for couples who want to keep their sex life genuinely alive, not just functional. Fair warning: you're going to want to pause this episode and text your partner at least twice. In this episode: Why long-term couples stop exploring — and what novelty actually does to attraction10 bucket list experiences ranging from vulnerable to boldScott & Brittney's honest, specific answers for each one — done it or not, and what the story isHow to share this list with your partner without making it feel like a performance reviewWhy finding the "easiest yes" together is the smartest starting pointRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here:  Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download  Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

    49 min
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Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom. Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships. We talk about: • Marriage and intimacy • Sexual communication • Desire differences • Erotic exploration • Guided audio intimacy • Confidence in the bedroom • Reigniting passion after kids • Sex toys, play, and connection • Building emotional safety • Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together. New episodes every week.

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