The Affair Recovery Podcast

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If your life has been shattered by infidelity, The Affair Recovery Podcast provides the help you need to get unstuck and move forward. Every episode features our expert therapists, each with decades of experience helping people heal and recover. We cut through the confusion around cheating by answering real listener-submitted questions. We tackle the toughest topics head-on, including betrayal trauma, sex, overcoming shame and anxiety, rebuilding trust in the marriage, setting crucial boundaries, navigating kids, forgiveness, faith and so much more. Whether you have been betrayed or unfaithful, whether you’re fighting for your marriage or just fighting for your life, this podcast provides the wisdom and actionable steps you need. Listen in, subscribe and get your life back. 

  1. 5d ago

    Ep. 023 | How to Forgive When You Can’t Forget

    Whether it's been months or years, carrying the weight of betrayal can feel like something you'll never be able to set down. You'd let it go if you could, but forgiving feels like saying it was okay, or letting them off the hook. In this episode, we sit down to answer listener questions about forgiving what you can't forget, sharing what forgiveness looked like in our own recovery and starting with the piece so many people miss: what forgiveness actually is, and what it isn't. In this episode: What forgiveness isn't: forgetting, reconciling, saying it was okay, or giving up your boundariesWhat forgiveness is: a choice you make for yourself, and why it costs you more to hold on than to let goThe moments and rituals from our own forgiveness journeys that finally moved us from deciding to forgive to feeling it, even without the whole truth or an apology👀 WATCH the Episode 📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

    Ep. 023 | How to Forgive When You Can’t Forget

  2. Aug 31

    Ep. 022 | His Addiction, Her Affair: Healing When Both are Betrayed

    Two years into their marriage, Ryan confessed an addiction. In the painful years that followed, Jessica had affairs of her own. In their words, they “set their marriage on fire.” Twenty years later, they are both therapists helping couples heal from infidelity, and in this episode they tell their own story. In this episode: Ryan and Jessica's full story, from his confession to her affairs to the three disclosures it took for the whole truth to come outWhy Jessica says affairs don't cause affairs, and the difference between a revenge affair and coping with painA listener's question: when you're both betrayed and both unfaithful, how do you heal?👀 WATCH the Episode Jessica and Ryan McDaniel are Licensed Professional Counselors who both graduated from UT Austin with degrees in Psychology before each earning an MA in Counseling at Denver Seminary. Jessica is passionate about walking with those experiencing betrayal trauma, identity and sexual brokenness, pregnancy grief and loss, and postpartum depression; she currently leads groups for Postpartum Support, Perinatal Loss, and Betrayed Wives impacted by infidelity. Ryan has pursued his passion of helping others with sexual addiction, infidelity, depression, anxiety, and trauma. Together they run McDaniel Counseling in Round Rock, Texas, and have been working with Affair Recovery since 2017. Having personally walked through both betrayal and infidelity in their own marriage, they've seen firsthand that hope and healing are possible for anyone willing to work through the pain. Follow Ryan & Jessica: 📸 Instagram: @mcdanielcounseling 🌐 Website: https://www.mcdanielcounseling.com 📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

    Ep. 022 | His Addiction, Her Affair: Healing When Both are Betrayed

  3. Aug 24

    Bonus Ep. | Rebuilding What You Broke: Boundaries & Safety after Infidelity with Jim Ramos

    A promise is not a boundary. Jim Ramos, author of Guardrails and founder of Men in the Arena, joins Jeremy and Rick Reynolds to lay out the practical guardrails that rebuild safety in a marriage, and why saying “you can trust me” changes nothing on its own. In this episode: A guardrail breach begins small and compounds from thereWhat a spouse is asking for when they ask for a boundary, and why it is not an attempt to manage anyoneWhy the charge of legalism misses what is actually at stake in a marriage after a breach👀 WATCH the Episode Jim Ramos is a bestselling author, speaker, and the founder of Men in the Arena, an international ministry focused on equipping Christian Men in the 'Stress Bubble' of life - married, with kids in the home, struggling to lead their families, churches, and communities well. Jim passionately galvanizes men to fight passivity, "get out of the bleachers," and step up "into the arena" of spiritual leadership. He hosts the #1 ranked Spotify podcast for Christian men, the Men in the Arena Podcast, and has written numerous books, including the USA TODAY Bestseller Dialed In: Reaching Your Full Capacity as a Man of God. April 7 was the release of his newest book, Guardrails: Ten Boundaries for an Unbreakable Marriage. In it, Jim outlines 10 time-tested boundaries designed to protect relationships from infidelity—one simple choice at a time. Connect with Jim and Men in the Arena: 📚 Get the Book: tinyurl.com/Guardrails115📸 Instagram: @themeninthearena🌐 Website: meninthearena.org🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theMenintheArena📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

    Bonus Ep. | Rebuilding What You Broke: Boundaries & Safety after Infidelity with Jim Ramos

  4. Aug 17

    Ep. 021 | Triggers After Infidelity: What To Do When They Hit

    A song. A street you have to drive down. A photo your phone decides to resurface. You were fine five minutes ago and now you cannot breathe, and nobody warned you that this is what recovery would feel like. In Episode 21, our team focuses on 24/7 triggers: what they actually are, what to do when therapy or group is not available, and how the unfaithful can support their spouse in navigating these unexpected moments that rob everyday life. In this episode: What a trigger actually is, why it fires before you can think, and why that is your brain trying to protect youWhat to do in the moment, from naming it out loud to anticipating a hard room before you walk into itHow an unfaithful spouse can show up when their spouse is triggered, and the one sentence never to say👀 WATCH the Episode 📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

    Ep. 021 | Triggers After Infidelity: What To Do When They Hit

  5. Aug 3

    Ep. 020 | White-Knuckling vs True Recovery: The Road Map to Healing Sexual Addiction

    What does a true recovery roadmap look like? Does reaching the final destination simply mean stopping the addictive behaviors? In Episode 20, we welcome back Matt Wenger, Clinical Director at the Begin Again Institute, for part two of a conversation on healing sexual addiction. We get practical about the difference between sobriety and recovery, signs that someone is ready to address his/her addiction, how an unfaithful spouse can support a traumatized partner while doing their own healing, and so much more. We believe that no matter how far away it feels you can find real intimacy again. 👀 WATCH the Episode Matt is the Executive Clinical Director of Begin Again Institute, a treatment center that offers 14day  Trauma Based Intensives for Men seeking recovery from porn and sex addiction. Begin Again Institute also offers intensives for Betrayed Partners. He has served more than 1,500 families in that setting since 2019. Matt’s expertise is in men’s addiction, betrayal trauma, childhood trauma, couple’s recovery and the spiritual aspects of recovery. Matt holds a Master’s degree in Couples and Family Counseling and is credentialed as Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS). Matt lives near Boulder, Colorado and enjoys spending time with his family, friends and being in nature.  Connect with Matt: 🌐 Website: beginagaininstitute.com📸 Instagram: @beginagaininstitute💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-wenger-19b883294/ 📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

    Ep. 020 | White-Knuckling vs True Recovery: The Road Map to Healing Sexual Addiction

  6. Jul 27

    Bonus Ep. | Understanding the Impact of Betrayal Trauma with Andrea Rogers

    If you've ever wondered why nobody knew what to do with you after your world fell apart, you're not alone. Board-certified betrayal trauma coach Andrea Rogers shares her own story of discovering a 12-year affair and the difference between real recovery and simply modifying behavior. In this episode: The fallout of Andrea’s discovery and what she learned about betrayal traumaReal recovery versus just modifying behaviorIntimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day, launching August 4th👀 WATCH the Episode  Andrea Rogers is a Board Certified Coach and Certified Partner Coach with APSATS,  known for her empowering voice for betrayed partners. With over 20 years of experience in emotional wellness and empowerment coaching , she is the founder of Fully Alive Coaching and the Intimate Partner Betrayal Alliance, along with the creation of Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day. Connect with Andrea: 🌐 Website: www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com, www.ipbawareness.org 📚 Get the Book: An Ember of Light - https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com/an-ember-of-light 📸 Instagram: @coachandreafac @intimatepartnerbetrayal📱 TikTok: @coachandreafac📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

    Bonus Ep. | Understanding the Impact of Betrayal Trauma with Andrea Rogers

  7. Jul 20

    Ep. 019 | Is My Spouse a Sex Addict? Signs, Hope and What to Do Next with Matt Wenger

    Attempting to make sense of the affair is painfully confusing, especially when there are signs of sexual addiction. In Episode 19, Matt Wenger, Clinical Director at the Begin Again Institute, joins the podcast to explain how sex addiction looks different from other types of infidelity, and to share a message every betrayed spouse needs to hear: this is not your fault. In this episode: What sets sex addiction apart from other types of infidelityWhy abstinence alone doesn't constitute true recoveryWhy your skepticism is protecting you, and why you don't have to settle for anything less than a whole, authentic relationship👀 WATCH the Episode  Matt is the Executive Clinical Director of Begin Again Institute, a treatment center that offers 14day  Trauma Based Intensives for Men seeking recovery from porn and sex addiction. Begin Again Institute also offers intensives for Betrayed Partners. He has served more than 1,500 families in that setting since 2019. Matt’s expertise is in men’s addiction, betrayal trauma, childhood trauma, couple’s recovery and the spiritual aspects of recovery. Matt holds a Master’s degree in Couples and Family Counseling and is credentialed as Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS). Matt lives near Boulder, Colorado and enjoys spending time with his family, friends and being in nature.  Connect with Matt: 🌐 Website: beginagaininstitute.com📸 Instagram: @beginagaininstitute💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-wenger-19b883294/ 📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

    Ep. 019 | Is My Spouse a Sex Addict? Signs, Hope and What to Do Next with Matt Wenger

  8. Jul 6

    Ep. 018 | Part of Me Wants to Stay. Part of Me Wants to Leave. Why?

    If one part of you wants to stay and another wants to leave, you know how exhausting that inner standoff can be. Many people believe that making the decision will finally quiet the pain. In Episode 18, Wayne Baker, LPC, explores why it actually works the other way around, and how getting curious about your own "parts" helps you begin to move forward.  In this episode: Why you feel pulled in opposite directions and “crazy” in the midst of the pain"No bad parts": why even your anger has a good intention, though the behavior may notWhy you work through the feelings to find the clarity, and only then make the decision👀 WATCH the Episode 📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

    Ep. 018 | Part of Me Wants to Stay. Part of Me Wants to Leave. Why?
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If your life has been shattered by infidelity, The Affair Recovery Podcast provides the help you need to get unstuck and move forward. Every episode features our expert therapists, each with decades of experience helping people heal and recover. We cut through the confusion around cheating by answering real listener-submitted questions. We tackle the toughest topics head-on, including betrayal trauma, sex, overcoming shame and anxiety, rebuilding trust in the marriage, setting crucial boundaries, navigating kids, forgiveness, faith and so much more. Whether you have been betrayed or unfaithful, whether you’re fighting for your marriage or just fighting for your life, this podcast provides the wisdom and actionable steps you need. Listen in, subscribe and get your life back. 

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    AffairRecovery.com
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    30
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