The Lesbian Breakup Podcast

Elina Street and Zara Barrie
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  • Society & Culture
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A podcast about lesbian breakups, heartbreak, and the complexities of queer love. Hosted by Zara Barrie, critically acclaimed author and creator of Mascara Lesbian, and Elina Street, Emmy and GLAAD Award–winning writer and director and co-creator of The Lesbian Bar Project, each episode pulls from their real relationships to explore lesbian love addiction, attachment, shared trauma, U-Hauls, and the heartbreaking (and often hilarious) emotional fallout of intense love. Honest, intimate, funny, and raw. Because for lesbians, a breakup is never just a breakup. zarabarrie.substack.com

  1. 5d ago

    What Does It Mean To Date Someone On Your Level?

    Is she the love of your life—or are you just *high*... on the possibility of her? This week on The Lesbian Breakup Podcast, Zara Barrie and Elina Street get into anxious attachment, the unexpected STING of the FLING, and dating after heartbreak without handing your entire f*****g life to someone you met last night at the lesbian bar. ALSO: Elina turns 35 with a pretty pink princess cake, a MAJOR career win, and a newfound appreciation for a lover who can put on the brakes without killing the vibe or judging us lover girls. Meanwhile, Zara asks what dating someone “on your level” ACTUALLY means: emotional compatibility, self-awareness, and a partner who celebrates your ambition instead of quietly resenting it. A psychic is fabulous, darling. But she cannot be your girlfriend’s entire mental health team. Get a licensed shrink, please and thank you. Plus: blocking the ex you secretly want watching your stories, outgrowing emotional vampires, and the much-anticipated update on Elina’s French Kristen Stewart. There are goats, g strings and finally a direct question. (Peep more on the Lesbian Bar Project Substack—new essay from Elina coming soon!). Can you have fun with someone without eventually falling in love? That is our final question. Asking for a friend…AKA US. The Lesbian Breakup Podcast is sponsored by Jaegermeister, supporting queer nightlife and the LGBTQ+ community year-round, from Save the Night at the Lesbian Bar Project to the bars and spaces we call home after dark. 21 and over. Please drink responsibly. Follow us on Instagram: @lesbianbreakuppod @zarabarrie @elinastreet Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

    What Does It Mean To Date Someone On Your Level?

  2. Sep 15

    Beach Clubs, France, A Diva Exit

    Zara + Elina are finally BACK and recording from the South of France, where the rosé is cold and the grief is hot. In this *very* personal episode, Zara opens up about returning to her mother’s favorite place without her, the “unhinged stage of grief,” and why loss can leave you with zero tolerance for small talk. Zara and Elina get into the difference between boundaries and low emotional capacity, why the truth can calm your nervous system even when it hurts, the cruelty of ghosting, and jealousy versus intuition. PLUS: Elina has a South of France lesbian sleepover and must decide whether to tell her, “I think you’re cute.” Come for the heartbreak and stay for the grief privilege, fabulous/chic storm-outs and Mediterranean lore. The Lesbian Breakup Podcast is sponsored by Jägermeister, supporting queer nightlife and LGBTQ+ spaces all year long through Save the Night. For listeners 21+. Please drink responsibly. Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

    Beach Clubs, France, A Diva Exit

  3. Jul 28

    Swimming with Sharks, Sleeping with Exes

    This week, as per usual, The Lesbian Breakup Podcast is reporting from two very different lesbian frontiers: Elina’s finally back in ~Brooklyn~ after undergoing a cinematic reunion with an old lover in Miami, and Zara’s in the crystalline waters of French Polynesia and ~Hawaii~ having a mermaid rebirth (grief is strange, babes). Elina recounts reconnecting with the ex who once moved to Saudi Arabia, accepting a little princess treatment at the World Cup, and realizing that sometimes the most grown-up ending isn’t a breakup—it’s evolving from lovers to friends. Meanwhile, Zara swims with sharks, gets humbled by a boogie board, sheds her hair extensions, and slowly begins to feel joy after years of survival mode. We yap about unavailable lovers, the safety of long-distance fantasy, writing people back into existence, and the strange, beautiful moment when grief finally makes room for laughter. Plus: a very special announcement about our August break and our upcoming reunion in the South of France. Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

    Swimming with Sharks, Sleeping with Exes

  4. Jul 14

    What is The Year of The Fire Horse? With Jessica Oros

    This week, Elina Street and Zara Barrie are joined by BaZi and Feng Shui expert Jessica Oros — former film industry insider turned Chinese metaphysics specialist and founder of Feng Shui for the Soul—for a ~deep dive~ into BaZi, the ancient art of the Four Pillars of Destiny. Jessica breaks down what everyone’s been buzzing about: the Year of the Fire Horse. Spoiler: it’s a year to move fast, trust your gut, and be radically authentic (the fire puts a spotlight on everything, so hiding isn’t an option, darling). We get into: What the Fire Horse year actually means (beyond the memes) *The five elements (wood, fire, earth, metal, water) and what they reveal about your personality, relationships, and career *A month-by-month energy forecast for the rest of 2026 from the gentle goat of July to the spectacular fire monkey of August and the big rat-horse clash coming in December *Why your birth chart is like an onion—and what your partner’s chart can tell you about who they are behind closed doors The ideal episode for us queers to quench our thirsts when it comes to readings, charts, and astrology. Book a session with Jessica at Feng Shui for the Soul and remember to feel it all. https://www.getfengshuiforthesoul.com/ Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

    What is The Year of The Fire Horse? With Jessica Oros

  5. Jul 1

    What Is Intimacy? With Erica Rose

    In this week’s episode, hosts Elina Street and Zara Barrie are joined by Elina’s best friend, the one and only award-winning writer-director Erica Rose. Erica and Elina also co-created the Emmy and GLAAD Media Award-winning docuseries The Lesbian Bar Project. What was supposed to be a breakdown of breakup scenes in lesbian film turns into something way better: a deeply honest, hilarious, and moving conversation about the romance of queer friendship, the difference between passion and true intimacy, rejection sensitivity, love addiction, and why depth and vulnerability are the ultimate superpowers. We break down what true intimacy looks like and why it can be so much *scarier* than lust and passion. We get into the origin story of Elina and Erica’s friendship, which begins, naturally, with a bag of sex toys and a tumble up the stairs. Erica and Zara wind up giving relationship advice to Elina, and this episode quickly becomes the unofficial therapy session of our wildest best-friend dreams. This episode is funny, raw, real, and DEEP. Come feel it all with us. Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

    What Is Intimacy? With Erica Rose

  6. Jun 17

    The Worst Lesbian Breakup Ever: Losing My Best Friend

    This week on The Lesbian Breakup Podcast, Zara and Elina are joined by writer, professor, former podcast co-host, and Zara’s platonic life partner, dayna troisi. What begins with tube-top-gate (it was actually underwear), giant strap-ons, failed threesomes, and lesbian chaos quickly becomes something much deeper: a conversation about friendship, divorce, self-medicating, codependency, chosen family, and the relationships that teach us what love is not supposed to feel like. We talk about the marriages that almost swallowed us whole, the friends who carried us through heartbreak (sometimes literally, in wheelchairs), and why the right relationship should feel more like hanging out with your best friend than escaping from your life. It’s funny. It’s messy. It’s super raw. And it’s one of our most personal episodes yet. Feel it ALL with us. Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

    The Worst Lesbian Breakup Ever: Losing My Best Friend

  7. Jun 2

    The Rainbow Bowtie: A Cautionary Tale

    Happy Pride, darlings. In this Pride Month special, Zara Barrie and Elina Street swap cautionary tales from Prides past, including breakup relapses, ex-girlfriend run-ins, disastrous fashion choices, and questionable rainbow accessories. Along the way, they discuss the emotional chaos of Pride, the unique experience of seeing exes in the wild, why Brooklyn and Manhattan lesbians can sometimes be wildly different species, and whether Los Angeles is actually less judgmental than New York. Plus: Pride survival tips for newly-out lesbians, first-time Pride attendees, queer late bloomers, and anyone wondering how to navigate LGBTQ+ community spaces without losing their phone, their friends, or their mind. Topics include: Pride Month, lesbian culture, LGBTQ+ community, queer nightlife, lesbian breakups, ex-girlfriends, coming out later in life, Brooklyn Pride, NYC Pride, LA Pride, queer friendship, lesbian dating, Pride mistakes, and surviving your first Pride. Because sometimes Pride is liberation. And sometimes it’s relapse sex, heatstroke, and a rainbow bowtie. Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

    The Rainbow Bowtie: A Cautionary Tale

  8. May 19

    Our Top 5 Lesbian Awakenings, Ranked

    Welcome to episode 9 of The Lesbian Breakup Podcast. This week, after emotionally detonating ourselves in last episode’s grief spiral, we decided to offer both you AND ourselves a tiny reprieve. So naturally, we did the only logical thing: rank the formative gay experiences that turned us into lesbians. From Cleopatra to Gia, summer camp intensity to devastating dark friendship betrayals, France to suburban America, Elina and Zara each reveal the top five moments that made us realize, in increasingly dramatic fashion, “Oh. I’m not straight at ALL.” Then, because we are deeply unwell and extremely opinionated list-lovers, we *merge* our lists together into one definitive shared Top 5 Lesbian Awakenings ranking. This episode is funny, nostalgic, slightly heartbreaking, deeply revealing, and painfully earnest in the way only youth can be. A chaotic little trip down memory lane full of yearning, cinematic gay drama, and baby lesbian confusion. Come feel it all with us! Available on ALL platforms. Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

    Our Top 5 Lesbian Awakenings, Ranked
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A podcast about lesbian breakups, heartbreak, and the complexities of queer love. Hosted by Zara Barrie, critically acclaimed author and creator of Mascara Lesbian, and Elina Street, Emmy and GLAAD Award–winning writer and director and co-creator of The Lesbian Bar Project, each episode pulls from their real relationships to explore lesbian love addiction, attachment, shared trauma, U-Hauls, and the heartbreaking (and often hilarious) emotional fallout of intense love. Honest, intimate, funny, and raw. Because for lesbians, a breakup is never just a breakup. zarabarrie.substack.com

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  • Creator
    Elina Street and Zara Barrie
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    16
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Zara Barrie
  • Show Website
    The Lesbian Breakup Podcast

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